good question, i'd imagine that would involve a lot more discussion! sell the ring & split the $? buy the other person's share out? depends on who wants the ring, i guess.
What do you think about paying for your own E Ring??
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good question, i'd imagine that would involve a lot more discussion! sell the ring & split the $? buy the other person's share out? depends on who wants the ring, i guess.
Mine is definitely this
b. get the ring you want.. and help pay for it?
I don't mind at all to help him pay for my biggy ring
, I don't know why I'm not ashame at all 
I 'm quite a biggy ring type chic
Anyway , NO ONE know this if you don't tell that you also pay for it.
I'm picky about ring because this will stay on my finger almost forever until we will decide to upgrade the e-ring.
b. get the ring you want.. and help pay for it?
I don't mind at all to help him pay for my biggy ring
, I don't know why I'm not ashame at all I 'm quite a biggy ring type chic
Anyway , NO ONE know this if you don't tell that you also pay for it.
I'm picky about ring because this will stay on my finger almost forever until we will decide to upgrade the e-ring.
Definitely B! It's no one's business except yours! If someone aks 'did he pay for this' (which I am sure no one will), you can just answer that you choose a beautiful ring together.
You have to wear your ring and it's fine if you help paying the ring or just pay the ring entirely. It's not a big deal; we can worry about matters that really needs our attention.
You have to wear your ring and it's fine if you help paying the ring or just pay the ring entirely. It's not a big deal; we can worry about matters that really needs our attention.
funny...I would say the opposite. I would think it'd be more common for a 20s or 30s girl to be idealistic about the ring. I'd think that a woman in her 30s/40s/50s would focus more on the relationship & not care about the ring. it's probably more likely that a 30s/40s/50s woman would not be talking about her first marriage (as is the case with me).
however, I do agree that it could be an age thing that younger women would be more open to the idea of helping to pay for their ring rather than being so traditional.
I am engaged and my fiance bought me what he could afford. HE feels bad its not the ring of my dreams. I will probally buy my next e ring ring and he will pay me back as I have more CC's . lol. He has bought me so many other things, I could have had the rock already. I just never really cared before about an e ring as I was not in a rush to be engaged or married as he is. He propsed with the ring I wear now, I wouldnt be upset if he proposed with no ring. In fact I joked with him and told him to propose with a Chanel bag. LOL. I see nothing wrong with option B, but A is ok too, even if its a simple band or not a traditional e ring. We have been living together for almost 4 years. I feel like an old married woman anyway.
Yes, as long as it's PRE-marital - keep records.i can't believe how much discussion this topic has gotten. thank you for all the feedback.
I think we needed a topic like this. for people thinking about doing this....
We did have a long talk last night... and he says he is not a good communicator. I told him that I may not be working right now, but I have no debt, money in the bank.. and such. So I think he understands where I was coming from more.. he thought I was sitting around doing nothing all day.. when I am always working and striving for things. My own career/company/business. I have been working on it so I feel more comfortable about that.
Glad, that his debt doesn't become my debt either. You are allowed to keep money in your own account...? and its yours no matter what??
--Gladys
A.
Only because with his income vs. my income, I could not afford to chip in. Also, if he asked me to pay the balance of my ring I'd worry about him providing in the future. Before someone yells at me, I am offering to buy our wedding bands and get him an engagment ring!
Only because with his income vs. my income, I could not afford to chip in. Also, if he asked me to pay the balance of my ring I'd worry about him providing in the future. Before someone yells at me, I am offering to buy our wedding bands and get him an engagment ring!
I went with A.
I did have my heart set on Mark Morrell's Petite Sunburst and I did thought about chipping in but at the end I decided to keep that to myself because DH had spent most of his savings renovating our dream house. So instead, we went ring shopping together and picked out something more affordable that we both love
I did have my heart set on Mark Morrell's Petite Sunburst and I did thought about chipping in but at the end I decided to keep that to myself because DH had spent most of his savings renovating our dream house. So instead, we went ring shopping together and picked out something more affordable that we both love
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I have to say congradulations on finding the man of your dreams!
Anything past this is just icing on the cake.
Do what makes you happy!If a woman pays for a ring PRIOR to marriage it is HER PRE-MARITAL property. Why would a man have ANY rights to that ring?
That's absurd.
if he paid half then its every right his as it is hers. don't youthink?
that was the basis of my question if couples go half on the ring.