What do you think about paying for your own E Ring??

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#151
I choose B as well. If anything, contributing to part of the cost of the e-ring would be a great compromise ;) My reasoning is I wouldn't want a smaller ring and I wouldn't want an upgrade later. I would want to wear the ring my DF proposed to me and slipped on my finger for the rest of my life.
 
#152
I would choose A. This is about him buying you an engagement ring, and even though it would not be the one you want, you could always upgrade later. But, I think that he needs to pay for it.
I was married once before, and when my ex-husband (now friend!) proposed, it was a simple 1/3 carat solitaire. And it felt right. We did upgrade later, he bought me a 1/2 carat diamond, and I bought the platinum setting. When we parted ways, I gave him the stone back and I kept the setting.
Here is what my SO and I are planning on doing, if it provides any insight: last year, we were at Cartier, and he mentioned how cool it would be to have LOVE bracelets instead of wedding rings. I thought the idea was so awesome.
Our six year anniversary is this August, so we talked about the LOVE bracelet idea, and we are going to give each other bracelets as engagement gifts. This works out really well for us, because he will be able to buy one for me, without using credit (which I think in this day and age of credit cards is wonderful), and because we have always split everything down the middle, this will be an even exchange and we both get something for the engagement that we really want!

I hope that helps!
 
#153
I'd happily do B... but SO isn't too keen on it!

But if we had spent more on our ring.... my dad would probably think we're being irresponsible for spending so much at this point in time... so he promised an upgrade later on... and I absolutely love this ring!! So I'm all good :p
 
#155
I guess I don't see how paying for part/whole of the e-ring is different than buying the upgrade later on - once we're married, my own money (combined income of mine and my husband's) will be going towards that ring. So I don't really differentiate.

arnott - I think most people who mentioned "upgrade" are referring to a brand new ring . . .
 
#158
I go with answer "B" ;) it's not like the old days when women didn't go out to work as much as they do now, and they were just basically sitting at home waiting for a husband.....I think now days if you earn your own money, why shouldn't the e-ring be a joint decision? I would sooner have the ring I really want than be disappointed with a "surprise" - yes its sentimental and romantic for a guy to get down on one knee and propose with a ring that he's chosen, but at the end of the day YOU are wearing the ring and YOU have to be happy. I have a couple of friends that were "surprised" and a few years on, the ring is a running joke between them and their spouse LOL.

Arnott, I'm in the process of upgrading my e-ring and with the original ring will either get the stone set in a pendant - or if I can get a good price, will sell it.
 
#163
^^ that Tiffany ring is a gorgeous choice!!!

Hehe I'm also upgrading my wedding band as well :smile1: as my original band is just a plain band (no diamonds or detail) so I won't miss it.....we didn't have a church wedding so it wasn't like the ring was blessed or anything........my original plain band will be replaced with an eternity band rather than an actual wedding band.........I plan to wear my new "E" ring on my wedding finger and my new eternity band on my right hand.

Yes, I think if you want to wear your new 'upgraded' ring with your old wedding ring, then you would have to get it reset possibly? Or could the Tiffany ring be made in YG?
 
#164
Option "b". It's actually what we were going to do but instead ended up our own version of "a".

We both went into this knowing upgrades are not an option for the engagement or wedding ring. we got a better diamond and went above intended budget. I told him I would make up the difference and he considered it. But in the end he wanted the engagement ring to be fully from him. Instead, I'm buying our wedding rings.

We aren't super traditional and the bf knows me enough to know that if I'm going to be wearing a piece of jewelry for the rest of my life I would want to have some say. Same with the wedding bands, even though my bf will be happy with whatever I pick I want him to put in his opinion because he will be wearing it.
 
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