What do you think about paying for your own E Ring??

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#121
I say B.

No one has to know who paid for it and techincally, as I think most married couples will share their money once legally married, it won't really matter who paid for it.

What makes it special to me is having the man put his own touch on the ring if he's not already picking it out. I don't think I'd be happy if we bought the ring together and I knew exactly what was coming. I'd rather him know the style and what I was going for and take it from there.

Upgrades seem nice too but I think I'd prefer to just have the same ring forever.
 
#123
in a marriage i believe money should be shared, so if he wants to spend your joint funds ;) on the ring you want, why not?. Do you have joint account yet or are you considering opening one, if so maybe do it before he buys the ring and tell him its his decision, then i'tll feel more like he picked and paid for it.
 
#124
Why is it different from any other piece of stylish jewelry you own, if you bought it for yourself?
What is the point of the ring? A pledge from him to show you and the world that he wants to marry you and that he's willing to sacrifice (his time helping to choose it and his money to the extent that he can afford it) for you?
Or is it just one more thing along the lines of a new handbag or a stylish dress that you bought to treat yourself, that he's going along with?
I don't think option B should even be an option. JMHO
 
#125
I'm planning on asking my future hubby to split the rings (both of them) with me. Most men's rings are below $1,000 and the woman's ring is almost always more expensive.

Personally, I have a $12k Tiffany ring picked out and I would be more than happy to help foot the bill for a ring i'll love forever, rather than some other ring i wear because it was purchased for me.....
 
#127
I'd go with B, since I don't like dinky jewelry that is just run of the mill. I'd go and buy my own zirconia before I'd wear some basic looking chip. I wouldn't want my fiance to waste money on something I don't like and don't want to wear, especially if he didn't have a lot of money to spend to begin with. I'd rather just get the zirconia for now, and then later I could always get a different ring if I felt like it. IMO, jewelry is a poor investment, even a small chip can be a lot of money, and I'd rather not be unloading it in a couple years for an upgrade b/c you always lose so much money doing that. I wouldn't get a real e ring unless I was really sure about it and planning to keep it for a long time.

But then, I really prefer costume jewelry anyway b/c you don't have a lot of money in any one piece. You don't feel you have to wear it to "get your money's worth" or feel as bad if you lose it or damage it. You can buy something on a whim and take a chance.
 
#128
Jahpson said:
A.

there is always room for an upgrade.
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+10000.;)
I couldn't agree more.
Let him propose with a ring he can afford now, I bet he has some pride, so don't take it away from him. Later on if your marriage and your finances go better you will upgrade.

My hubby proposed with his grandmother's ring (round cut 0.50 ct diamond) and I accepted, and last summer (7 years later) we upgraded to a TW of 4.25ct.:graucho:
http://forum.purseblog.com/the-jewelry-box/my-new-princessy-dream-ring-482469.html
 
#130
Well, it depends. My friend bought herself the engagement ring she wanted because her future husband couldn't save enough money to get her a nice ring. Their marriage didn't last, but she still has the ring she wanted and wears it on her right hand.

Personally, I wouldn't buy myself an engagement ring. I really want my man to be The Man in the relationship. Plus, he might resent you for taking control of a situation that is really supposed to be his responsibility.

But only you and your boyfriend know what is right for your relationship.

Good luck!:p
 
#132
A. It's just stuff. There is alot of pressure on rings in the states i feel. My BF can afford a big rock but it's not common here where i live. I don't think i like the look of diamonds bigger than 1,5c but that's just my taste.

To me the meaning gets lost a bit if i would pay a part of my ring. It's about the thought. But only you can decide what makes you happy
 
#133
A. Because if I am allowed to pay for part of it, I may buy something extreemly big. So its best I not have too much a say in it.

On a lighter note, I've asked others, and they (in mid to late 20's) agreed to accept a "small chip"
 
#134
As much as I would have liked a bigger E-ring, there's no way I would have insulted my fiance and offered to buy myself something bigger. He would definitely have taken it as "Peasant; you can't afford me!" I can upgrade after a few more years, and it wasn't worth his pride to have a bigger rock.
 
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