i'd go for A too, maybe when he is successful he will be able to afford more than you ever dream
What do you think about paying for your own E Ring??
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I would hope that the person I was marrying would be okay with B, since I don't really think it's a big deal. Then again, I also just asked the bf if it was okay if I didn't want an e-ring when he proposes, which he was cool about, so maybe we just don't care too much about things like that 
I would go with A. I am old fashion and I would let the man pick out what he can afford. I think way back when, the man would just pick out the e-ring and propose to the woman. The woman would not even know none of this was happening until that moment. I think that is the best way. And like may people have said, down the line you can both pick out a upgrade later on.
Hmmm, you know I'd have to say that I would want the guy to save and show that he's ready for marriage and the financial committment that starting a life together entails. So I don't think I would have married my DH unless he was able to get a nice ring that went with his salary. If he made less it would be the same thing. I just wouldn't want to marry someone whose finances were a mess - - that is the biggest problem is so many marriages! But for younger people its different. Besides a smaller ring shows where you came from --- not where you are going.
i agree with this about other things except an engagement ring... i guess i am very traditional in a sense in that i see that as an emblem of what the man promises you he is going to bring into the marriage... i think a typical guy would find great pride in this, and his ego would be hurt if he felt like you did not think what he can offer was good enough.
but like niseixteinsh said, if your BF was fine with this, then ultimately that is the only opinion that matters!
You should only choose option B if :
1. your bf doesn't mind it (my fiancee said it's a pride thing that he buys me the ring of my dream regardless how many months of salary he has to spend )
2. you feel comfortable about the idea AND don't mind your friends and familes to think otherwise
In my culture, usually it's the guy's parents or the groom himself pay for the engagement ring. It's a big NO NO for the bride to pay for it.
1. your bf doesn't mind it (my fiancee said it's a pride thing that he buys me the ring of my dream regardless how many months of salary he has to spend )
2. you feel comfortable about the idea AND don't mind your friends and familes to think otherwise
In my culture, usually it's the guy's parents or the groom himself pay for the engagement ring. It's a big NO NO for the bride to pay for it.
I haven't discussed it yet. He knows I like nice things, hell I have $12k worth of Cartier bracelets on right now. I know, he can't afford it. I am fine with anything to be honest. I would really love a 1+ carat nice stone... but I really just want a ring to show my commitment.
I thought of this topic because I have heard people mention it before. I would have no problem paying or helping to pay for the E-Ring and our wedding rings. Since, once we are married whats mine is yours is the mentality.
I also know hes the right one for me... so we will wait and see.
I thought of this topic because I have heard people mention it before. I would have no problem paying or helping to pay for the E-Ring and our wedding rings. Since, once we are married whats mine is yours is the mentality.
I also know hes the right one for me... so we will wait and see.
I have to agree. I see nothing wrong with option B and don't think bad of anyone that decides to help their SO pay for the ring, but I don't think I'd be comfortable doing it myself. I would love to marry my boyfriend one day, but him purchasing the ring himself shows his commitment to me, taking the time to save his paychecks and not purchase the ring on credit shows me that he's committed to making a life together with me without his financial burdens in the way right now. To say he is bad with money in an understatement. He's not really in debt (only about $200 or 300) but he's horrible at saving his money. He makes a good amount of money each month and when I asked him how much he put away in savings, he told me $75. $75 a month is nothing! Granted, we're students, but he's been working full time lately since he's done with classes for the semester, and he can afford to put $75 x 4 away, twice a month, not just once a month. If he can become committed enough to save his money and put it away for our future and a ring he knows I will love, then I will know that we are finally ready to move forward. However, I would much rather purchase my ring from a pawn shop or an estate sale than pay retail somewhere. I'd rather get more bang for my buck, and when I get my e-ring, I don't want to upgrade later. I want to wear that ring for the rest of my life with him. I might change my mind later in life, but I at least when we get engaged, I'd rather wait a little bit longer for him to purchase the type of style and size that I want than to get something I won't love. I figure 1 ring vs buying 1 ring now and 2 or 3 later in life is overall cheaper
VuittonsLover - Just some things to think about since no one else mentioned them.....
1) As an option, depending on how important e-ring is to you, you can always sell your Cartier Loves to pay for ring and your boyfriend will not have to add to his present debt.
2) Think a lot about how much e-ring means to you and why you want a particular size. After 18 years of marriage, I've gone through very short periods when I wanted a 2 carat stone (mine is about 1.21) and then realized after seeing them that they wouldn't make me any happier than I already am. So is it about size or something else cause your feelings might change a lot in time.
I'm sure that you can always upgrade later. I could too but now I'm into watches! So I would much rather keep my e-ring the way it is and have a new Rolex! Good luck with your decision!
1) As an option, depending on how important e-ring is to you, you can always sell your Cartier Loves to pay for ring and your boyfriend will not have to add to his present debt.
2) Think a lot about how much e-ring means to you and why you want a particular size. After 18 years of marriage, I've gone through very short periods when I wanted a 2 carat stone (mine is about 1.21) and then realized after seeing them that they wouldn't make me any happier than I already am. So is it about size or something else cause your feelings might change a lot in time.
I'm sure that you can always upgrade later. I could too but now I'm into watches! So I would much rather keep my e-ring the way it is and have a new Rolex! Good luck with your decision!
I haven't discussed it yet. He knows I like nice things, hell I have $12k worth of Cartier bracelets on right now. I know, he can't afford it. I am fine with anything to be honest. I would really love a 1+ carat nice stone... but I really just want a ring to show my commitment.
I thought of this topic because I have heard people mention it before. I would have no problem paying or helping to pay for the E-Ring and our wedding rings. Since, once we are married whats mine is yours is the mentality.
I also know hes the right one for me... so we will wait and see.
Well, since you have '12k worth of Cartier bracelets on right now' and you know he can't afford it, perhaps you should buy your own ring. Basically you have your '1+ carat nice stone' on your wrist right now.
By the way, in my opinion, your '12k' statement was tacky and rather tasteless. It's one thing show off beautiful pieces but it's quite another to brag. There's more to life than your '12k worth of Cartier bracelets'.
I don't think she was bragging at all. I understood the statement to mean that she likes high-end things and appreciates them. You could just as easily say that almost everyone here is bragging about their magnificent jewels and bags especially when they post pictures. And I don't think they're bragging at all - just "sharing" . That is what makes this forum fun, entertaining and interesting. I also learn a lot. But as I mentioned shortly before PoshPepper, that is a strong option to sell Loves to pay for e-ring.