Dealing with Others when Wearing Jewelry

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Thank you. He passed away from colon cancer in 2013.

Yes, I could tell you some stories about her brother & his wife. They're a piece of work. And they don't have a problem bringing up their "financial difficulties" in front of anybody. They stopped saying anything in front of me when they asked her to buy them a new car right after my brother passed. I was shocked at first but when she told them they were crazy & they started making comments about how she wouldn't miss the money because of my brother's insurance money, I went through the roof! I cursed them up one side & down the other & threw them out of her house! They had the audacity to say what they said in front of my mother! My sister in law just stood back & let me have at it. She said after they left that she was tired of dealing with them & was glad I threw them out. My mother, while not particularly pleased with the language I used, said it needed to be done. My sister n law rarely speaks to her brother now & not at all with his wife. They will usually speak at Christmas & that's about it. They just a bunch of mooches. They have even tried to get their mother to give them money by taking out a mortgage on her home. My sister n law put a stop to that. She now has her mother's power of attorney so they would have to go through her. I think the only person in her family that she has anything to do with is a nephew & his wife. They don't have much to do with his parents either. Apparently, they have been asked for money as well.

My deepest condolences to you about your brother.

Money destroys families, unfortunately. My father always says that if he wants to make my brother and I hate each otger, he would leave one more money, that it is as easy as that. It is funny when you hear it in theory but no so funny when you read the effects of it...
 
My deepest condolences to you about your brother.

Money destroys families, unfortunately. My father always says that if he wants to make my brother and I hate each otger, he would leave one more money, that it is as easy as that. It is funny when you hear it in theory but no so funny when you read the effects of it...

Thank you.
Yes, it is a shame but you have to deal with it the best you can.

Back on topic now. Sorry, Mistikat for hijacking the thread.
 
I think I'm just sort of in shock that people I know well could be so bold with their questions and that strangers would ask before even saying hello or anything else...
mostly people just say that they like what Im wearing....the ones that get too personal get a smart/mildly sarcastic reply from me..........actually, now that I think about it, its mostly men that notice and make remarks about how much something costs!
 
I also think its human nature to admire things we like on other people.....to a point......when people get too personal and/or sarcastic , then it is jealousy or a peronality trait that I dont care for....
 
Hmmm. Surprisingly nobody really comments when I wear jewelry. I get more comments when I'm not wearing any at all. I had one guy who was like 'So you don't wear makeup and I never see you wearing jewelry. What's going on there?' I had no idea how to reply to that.
 
My coworkers are always eyeing my jewellery (most of it is Tiffany and either branded Tiffany or design is nice enough for them to know it must be Tiffany) although i personally don't think its too flashy at all. They never ask the price though but because I'm shy the attention makes me a bit uncomfortable but usually i just say thanks and continue with whatever we were talking about before.
 
Someone asked me just awhile back how much was the new bracelet I was wearing. It was a gold rosary bracelet just 14 karat. When I told her how much she asked me how come Im not worried that I might lost it and why do I have to wear it at work?i told her life is too short. Why would I spend lots of money over something that would just stay in my jewelry box? It doesnt make sense for me...
 
For me this has always been a fun subject-my projects turned out to be just gemstones on display, not fine jewelry but mostly rare stones not seen in most stores-usually in shows & even in quality not as good as I show. Ive had people follow me in stores asking what Im wearing, are they religious items, real stones, or what are they? This is my fun, wearing items that are verified very rare, or just not seen in shops. Most of the stones Ive bought are not top quality, but the idea that one can see a pendent with 25cts. of tsavorite garnet in one setting is pretty neat. I always get double takes when I wear my alexandrite pendent, over 24.5cts of natural alex, good color change from green to a purply/red color, including 9cts of alex catseye stones. This piece always get the 'looks' from sellers in the jewelry shows. This all started from me asking questions about buying real alexandrite stones @ 10yrs ago, I was told if u can find it, u cant afford it!, I said give me some time & we will see what develops. In the last 9 yrs, Ive done pretty well with the finished item & verified authentic. If people are sincere about asking me questions about what we wear, il answer as many questions as I can, always up front my answers-stevie...Im posting a few of the pieces that are watched pretty closely, tsavorite garnet, columbian emerald, alexandrite, & turkish diaspore, also a color change stone...
 

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I luvvv jewellery so Im always one of those admiring and pointing out to ladies who wears it. I need to work in a jewellery store not a cafe!!
Oh God yes! I've always said I should have been a jeweller -but then I'd probably keep all my stock!

I am always complimenting others on their jewellery and I get complimented in return. I don't know if it's the state of the economy but I find women aren't wearing jewellery as much these days.

Where I work I was the only one who was into jewellery so I sometimes felt uncomfortable receiving compliments and answering questions about my pieces and not being able to reciprocate as much. But there's a lovely lady that started and she's just as terrible as I am so that's been a very nice change.We're always threatening to steal each other's stuff.

The only really negative comments I get about my jewellery are from my sister, who thinks it's a waste of money. Ironically, whenever she has an event she raids my stuff and doesn't think they're a waste then.

That being said, her daughters are 3 and 5 and jewellery mad. When they each turned 3 I gifted each girl a birthstone earring from my collection - one diamond and one sapphire. When they visit they drape themselves in their favourite pieces and walk about and play in them all day. I'm happy to see they share that same passion and that my jewellery will have a happy home. :yahoo:
 
It just amazes me what people say and comment on these days, but then again I guess I'm not that surprised.

I was at the car wash the other day and this lady was literally gawking at me up and down and I was getting so uncomfortable. Then when I left to go outside she came out and said I love your bag, is that the 10g bag everyone talks about then right after she said I love your jewelry too. I politely said thank you hoping that was going to be the end of it.

Of course, she went on to the big question, what does your husband do? I paused for a second and I said to her, YOU SURE YOU DON'T WANT TO KNOW WHAT I DO???!!! Hahahaha. That shut her up!! :p
 
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