Dealing with Others when Wearing Jewelry

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#196
Thingofbeauty said:
Agreed. There's nothing wrong with admiring and in many ways it's a great compliment to the owner. But there's no need for personal comments or judgment.
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My husband & I just got back from dinner & since the restaurant was very crowded, we sat at the bar to eat. There was a couple sitting next to us & the woman, who looked to be in her early 50's, was very stylishly dressed & wearing an absolutely stunning diamond dome ring on her right hand. I said, "Pardon me, but I just wanted to say that your ring is stunning!" That was all I said. She just smiled & said "Oh, thank you" but her husband's face just lit up with a huge grin & said he had bought it for her for their 30th wedding anniversary. My husband even said it was beautiful. Her husband was so proud.

I don't think there's anything wrong with complimenting someone on their style, accessories, or jewelry. In fact, I appreciate it when someone compliments me on something I'm wearing. But I do draw the line a questions about cost, where it came from, ect.
 
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cdtracing said:
My husband & I just got back from dinner & since the restaurant was very crowded, we sat at the bar to eat. There was a couple sitting next to us & the woman, who looked to be in her early 50's, was very stylishly dressed & wearing an absolutely stunning diamond dome ring on her right hand. I said, "Pardon me, but I just wanted to say that your ring is stunning!" That was all I said. She just smiled & said "Oh, thank you" but her husband's face just lit up with a huge grin & said he had bought it for her for their 30th wedding anniversary. My husband even said it was beautiful. Her husband was so proud.

I don't think there's anything wrong with complimenting someone on their style, accessories, or jewelry. In fact, I appreciate it when someone compliments me on something I'm wearing. But I do draw the line a questions about cost, where it came from, ect.
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I could just imagine the scene. Most men like to know what they've gifted their loved ones has been admired.

And I agree. Questions about cost etc take the attention from complimentary to uncomfortable.
 
#198
i*bella said:
There's this girl who rides the same train home as I do every day after work. I constantly catch her staring at my e-ring, my clothes, shoes, bags, what magazine I'm reading that day, etc. Super annoying. Last night I was standing there minding my own business on the train waiting for my stop and I notice her staring at my ring again, so I stare at her until we made eye contact and I just kept staring at her. Uncomfortable? Yeah, so stop eyeballing my sh*t.

Thing is, my ring isn't even that big. It's just bigger than hers :roflmfao:
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Love it! :roflmfao:
 
#199
I just discovered this thread and it is very funny to read the stories .....I often compliment people on something they are wearing but never more than I love your ring, your bag, your hair, your coat or whatever.
 
#200
Since I wear gold, people always ask me how much my pieces cost. Someone recently said when they saw my new purchase (at the time) "Gold is expensive, with that kind of money you could have invested in something more important." I was thinking to myself, I just paid all my bills so therefore I can buy what I want. Mind your business girl.

The people in my building aren't very fashionable, which is okay but I feel like they judge me for dressing up all the time LOL. Plus I am the youngest woman in the building..awkward.
 
#201
Bambieee said:
Since I wear gold, people always ask me how much my pieces cost. Someone recently said when they saw my new purchase (at the time) "Gold is expensive, with that kind of money you could have invested in something more important." I was thinking to myself, I just paid all my bills so therefore I can buy what I want. Mind your business girl.

The people in my building aren't very fashionable, which is okay but I feel like they judge me for dressing up all the time LOL. Plus I am the youngest woman in the building..awkward.
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I completely understand what you mean! I'm first generation Indian Canadian and in my culture we wear a lot of jewelry especially gold. So i never saw owning and wearing fine jewellery as a big deal since i was always around family members etc who wore it. Once i started working i started wearing some gold jewelry that my mother had passed down to me and i got the questions and remarks at work etc. The weird thing is the jewellery was by no means blingy or showy or anything either.
 
#203
tarana6 said:
I completely understand what you mean! I'm first generation Indian Canadian and in my culture we wear a lot of jewelry especially gold. So i never saw owning and wearing fine jewellery as a big deal since i was always around family members etc who wore it. Once i started working i started wearing some gold jewelry that my mother had passed down to me and i got the questions and remarks at work etc. The weird thing is the jewellery was by no means blingy or showy or anything either.
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Lol I am a first generation person myself (Caribbean-American) so I get it. Wearing gold jewelry to us is like nothing really...all the women wear it heck even children wear gold necklaces and earrings lol. It wasn't until I moved into a new place that I noticed that people don't wear it so I def get stares sometimes esp since it's yg. The most I will see is someone in maybe a silver ring or something. It's def different seeing bare hands, ears, and necks haha.
 
#204
Love seeing that some of you feel my pain when people ask about pricing! I am an 18 y/o guy and love fashion and jewelry. I have a yg love bracelet that I purchased with money I made from working all summer, my first semester of college just ended and I was always asked about my bracelet.

So many people say "Is that a Kylie Jenner bracelet?" It makes me want to scream!!

I just say "No, it is a cartier bracelet, she happens to own some but she doesn't make them." and then people make ridiculous guesses on how much it cost and I usually just laugh and change the subject.

One time I was laying in bed with my gf at the time, who comes from a less privileged up bringing who asked if it was real and I said yes, she then told me how she looked it up and that it cost $7000 and how that was crazy etc. I felt bad talking subset money around her so I just pretended I didn't know and my mother had given it to me. But, Long story short, we are not together anymore, main reason being she didn't appreciate anything(my nice things, or the nice things I did for her all the time)

I wish I could just enjoy my pieces without so many questions.
 
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ALMcR3ynolds said:
Love seeing that some of you feel my pain when people ask about pricing! I am an 18 y/o guy and love fashion and jewelry. I have a yg love bracelet that I purchased with money I made from working all summer, my first semester of college just ended and I was always asked about my bracelet.

So many people say "Is that a Kylie Jenner bracelet?" It makes me want to scream!!

I just say "No, it is a cartier bracelet, she happens to own some but she doesn't make them." and then people make ridiculous guesses on how much it cost and I usually just laugh and change the subject.

One time I was laying in bed with my gf at the time, who comes from a less privileged up bringing who asked if it was real and I said yes, she then told me how she looked it up and that it cost $7000 and how that was crazy etc. I felt bad talking subset money around her so I just pretended I didn't know and my mother had given it to me. But, Long story short, we are not together anymore, main reason being she didn't appreciate anything(my nice things, or the nice things I did for her all the time)

I wish I could just enjoy my pieces without so many questions.
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LMAO at Kylie Jenner bracelet, I guess that is just the person the younger generation sees most often these days. I think it's cool that you like jewelry I can't even get my boyfriend to wear a watch haha. A nice gold bracelet on a guy looks great ( http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2015/01/24/24FF816800000578-0-image-m-14_1422094801888.jpg). I hope you find someone that appreciates your style and you as a person much more. Best wishes.
 
#206
ALMcR3ynolds said:
Love seeing that some of you feel my pain when people ask about pricing! I am an 18 y/o guy and love fashion and jewelry. I have a yg love bracelet that I purchased with money I made from working all summer, my first semester of college just ended and I was always asked about my bracelet.

So many people say "Is that a Kylie Jenner bracelet?" It makes me want to scream!!

I just say "No, it is a cartier bracelet, she happens to own some but she doesn't make them." and then people make ridiculous guesses on how much it cost and I usually just laugh and change the subject.

One time I was laying in bed with my gf at the time, who comes from a less privileged up bringing who asked if it was real and I said yes, she then told me how she looked it up and that it cost $7000 and how that was crazy etc. I felt bad talking subset money around her so I just pretended I didn't know and my mother had given it to me. But, Long story short, we are not together anymore, main reason being she didn't appreciate anything(my nice things, or the nice things I did for her all the time)

I wish I could just enjoy my pieces without so many questions.
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Having it called a Kylie Jenner bracelet would drive me insane!
 
#207
I think it's a big difference between if someone genuinely likes the style, or if it is used as a social measurement.

I volunteered at the D'Knight's school last year, helping out in the computer lab. One of his classmates always came up to me, and she always wanted to see what necklace and earrings I was wearing, and she wanted to know all about them.
I don't know how much she learned about computers by the end of the school year, but she is the only 9 yr old I knew who could tell the difference between Old Mine, European and Brilliant cuts.

She liked jewelry, and she never saw her mother wear anything other than a wedding set. So I was the adult she knew who would be willing to talk to her about pieces, let her hold them and look at them through a loupe.

I was invited to the class end of the year party. The girl came up to me and thanked me, and told me:
"When I'm older, I'm going to have diamonds just like yours.
But mine will be bigger"
 
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#208
Vintage Leather said:
I think it's a big difference between if someone genuinely likes the style, or if it is used as a social measurement.

I volunteered at the D'Knight's school last year, helping out in the computer lab. One of his classmates always came up to me, and she always wanted to see what necklace and earrings I was wearing, and she wanted to know all about them.
I don't know how much she learned about computers by the end of the school year, but she is the only 9 yr old I knew who could tell the difference between Old Mine, European and Brilliant cuts.

She liked jewelry, and she never saw her mother wear anything other than a wedding set. So I was the adult she knew who would be willing to talk to her about pieces, let her hold them and look at them through a loupe.

I was invited to the class end of the year party. The girl came up to me and thanked me, and told me:
"When I'm older, I'm going to have diamonds just like yours.
But mine will be bigger"
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Lol!

I do think intent is a huge factor. I'm not going to begrudge anyone who's fascinated by jewelry.
 
#209
Bambieee said:
LMAO at Kylie Jenner bracelet, I guess that is just the person the younger generation sees most often these days. I think it's cool that you like jewelry I can't even get my boyfriend to wear a watch haha. A nice gold bracelet on a guy looks great ( http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2015/01/24/24FF816800000578-0-image-m-14_1422094801888.jpg). I hope you find someone that appreciates your style and you as a person much more. Best wishes.
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haha! And thank you! Oh, and try to convince him to wear a simple leather bracelet to start with lol!
 
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