Dealing with Others when Wearing Jewelry

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#151
LVoeletters said:
I've already been warned to expect the worst whenever it comes time for engagement. What a buzz kill lol.
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Well...you would be marrying him, not his family. It's a shame that some families want to profit off the success of one of their members. My sister in law has the same problem. My brother was very successful before he passed away & his wife is successful in her own right. Her family, brother in particular, is always trying to get her to give him money & when she refuses, makes uncalled for comments about what she spends her money on. She doesn't have a problem helping out her mother who is a widow, also, & lives modestly & doesn't ask for anything. But her brother is a whole different animal....he actually thinks he & his family are entitled to have their lifestyle improved just because my brother & her had a successful & profitable life. Some people...SMH!
 
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#152
This thread is eye-opening! I have one "friend" in particular who is semi-obsessed with all my jewelry, both genuine semi expensive and costume. She inspects every piece of jewelry I wear and comments on it. Price/real or costume because I wear both, often together. It really creeps me out so I don't spend much time with her. In fact I've become wary of anyone who is overly concerned or interested in my jewelry. They always end up having some kind of dark personality disorder.
When I do see her I make sure to wear the same exact jewelry every time. Mostly my sterling silver "boring" stuff. I love it for myself but she's clearly unimpressed with it. Lol!
 
#153
slowlikehoney said:
This thread is eye-opening! I have one "friend" in particular who is semi-obsessed with all my jewelry, both genuine semi expensive and costume. She inspects every piece of jewelry I wear and comments on it. Price/real or costume because I wear both, often together. It really creeps me out so I don't spend much time with her. In fact I've become wary of anyone who is overly concerned or interested in my jewelry. They always end up having some kind of dark personality disorder.
When I do see her I make sure to wear the same exact jewelry every time. Mostly my sterling silver "boring" stuff. I love it for myself but she's clearly unimpressed with it. Lol!
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I know how you feel. I'm not comfortable with someone who is inordinately obsessed with anything I have, jewelry or otherwise. Creeps me out, too.
 
#154
cdtracing said:
I know how you feel. I'm not comfortable with someone who is inordinately obsessed with anything I have, jewelry or otherwise. Creeps me out, too.
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You're right. She is like that about other stuff I have, too (bags and clothes) but the jewelry thing is the worst. And the funny thing is that she makes more than I do. Much more. She could buy everything I have and more.
 
#156
shopoholica said:
One of my "friends" (who I don't talk to anymore lol) unscrewed my LOVE bracelet and put it on her own wrist without asking. I was literally in shock (I'm also a pushover in real life so shame on me). She also asked to borrow a bunch of expensive Tiffany jewelry, which I refused with "Sorry, they are my mom's and she wouldn't be OK with letting me lend them out." She borrowed my Dior Tribal earrings and never gave them back...

Another girl basically assumed that I was a brat because I liked nice jewelry, and would interrupt me every time someone talked to me and she would answer people's inquiries of my jewelry FOR me. Again, I don't talk to her anymore...I can't with people. And if you guys knew me in real life, you'd know that I don't really wear anything too flashy. Everything I wear is for myself, and I usually hide my jewelry under my clothes.
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#157
apey_grapey said:
I'd just say "No, they're not real" or let people go thinking they're costume. As long as I know what I have, who cares what anyone else thinks?

I remember reading about this woman whose husband gave her gigantic diamond stud earrings (well over 5 carats each) and she said most people think they're fake and she just lets them think that. People bother her less and she worries about the earrings less.
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After dealing with lot of catty annoying comments like "you are a princess" "why do you even work" bla bla bla ...I got smarter on giving out info. I wear a .97 yellow diamond tiffany pendant and if it someone I think is going to hate..I tell them it's a citrine and if I know it's someone who is going to appreciate..I give them the right info.
 
#158
LVoeletters said:
They both have expressed quite candidly that they are unhappy with their partners. And my partner says his mother felt entitled to a lavish lifestyle and she never got over it.

My partner is the most successful in his family. Everyone is waiting to profit from that.

However he answers them quite smartly Whenever he gets comments from them saying he needs to 'watch out' for my taste, he responds, "not at all, she's bought herself everything you've admired. And everything she has increases in value every year I don't know how she does it!"

I should also add that while he is the most successful out of his family, I'm studying to do the same thing, he's just already done with the studying part and I have a ways to go. But everyone forgets that part lol. [emoji52]
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Hmmm funnily enough though I sense that none of their discontentment is your fault lol. Wanting to profit of someone else success is so petty.

Good on your partner though for sticking up for you! Seems like a keeper.
 
#160
slowlikehoney said:
This thread is eye-opening! I have one "friend" in particular who is semi-obsessed with all my jewelry, both genuine semi expensive and costume. She inspects every piece of jewelry I wear and comments on it. Price/real or costume because I wear both, often together. It really creeps me out so I don't spend much time with her. In fact I've become wary of anyone who is overly concerned or interested in my jewelry. They always end up having some kind of dark personality disorder.
When I do see her I make sure to wear the same exact jewelry every time. Mostly my sterling silver "boring" stuff. I love it for myself but she's clearly unimpressed with it. Lol!
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It's funny but I had a friend who behaved similarly. I've always loved costume jewelry ever since I was a little kid, but at one point in my life I said o.k. lady you're middle-aged, you need to start dressing like an adult. So I started wearing better jewelry. Not real high end stuff mind you, but slightly better stuff. Like CZ earrings instead of rhinestone ones, cultured pearls instead of plastic. One friend noticed and started commenting, frequently and not in a flattering way. It kinda creeped me out. Like your friend she made it a point to inspect every piece of jewelry I wore. And as you did with your friend I made sure I wore the same jewelry whenever we went out, the "boring" stuff. I hate to seem shallow but if I was out and about and wearing cool jewelry, if I spotted her I would actually try to avoid her. Felt so bad doing that. Geez.


In contrast, there was my mom. When she noticed I was wearing better jewelry she complimented me on the change. Then she went out and bought me two pair of killer pearl earrings. That's a great mom! :D
 
#161
Rami00 said:
After dealing with lot of catty annoying comments like "you are a princess" "why do you even work" bla bla bla ...I got smarter on giving out info. I wear a .97 yellow diamond tiffany pendant and if it someone I think is going to hate..I tell them it's a citrine and if I know it's someone who is going to appreciate..I give them the right info.
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"why do you even work"

Clearly they haven't come across the conundrum of the holy grail, since each time you get that new piece you always end up looking out for the next one. :p
 
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#162
BigPurseSue said:
It's funny but I had a friend who behaved similarly. I've always loved costume jewelry ever since I was a little kid, but at one point in my life I said o.k. lady you're middle-aged, you need to start dressing like an adult. So I started wearing better jewelry. Not real high end stuff mind you, but slightly better stuff. Like CZ earrings instead of rhinestone ones, cultured pearls instead of plastic. One friend noticed and started commenting, frequently and not in a flattering way. It kinda creeped me out. Like your friend she made it a point to inspect every piece of jewelry I wore. And as you did with your friend I made sure I wore the same jewelry whenever we went out, the "boring" stuff. I hate to seem shallow but if I was out and about and wearing cool jewelry, if I spotted her I would actually try to avoid her. Felt so bad doing that. Geez.


In contrast, there was my mom. When she noticed I was wearing better jewelry she complimented me on the change. Then she went out and bought me two pair of killer pearl earrings. That's a great mom! :D
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Oh wow! That is so funny! I did the same thing when I turned 40, started buying myself better quality jewelry! We must be separated at birth! My family has always been very into jewelry so I've received a lot of stuff over the years that is nice quality. Nothing outrageous, but nice, so I already had a fair amount but just didn't wear it a lot. I wore my cheap costume stuff. Maybe I was afraid I'd lose it or break it or something.

I wonder what kind of syndrome our friends have. Why are they so weird about other people's jewelry? Why don't they buy themselves some nice stuff? It's just weird.
 
#163
cdtracing said:
Well...you would be marrying him, not his family. It's a shame that some families want to profit off the success of one of their members. My sister in law has the same problem. My brother was very successful before he passed away & his wife is successful in her own right. Her family, brother in particular, is always trying to get her to give him money & when she refuses, makes uncalled for comments about what she spends her money on. She doesn't have a problem helping out her mother who is a widow, also, & lives modestly & doesn't ask for anything. But her brother is a whole different animal....he actually thinks he & his family are entitled to have their lifestyle improved just because my brother & her had a successful & profitable life. Some people...SMH!
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I'm so sorry about the loss of your brother. If my partner had a sister I would have sworn that we were referring to the same brother. The stories I could divulge. It drives me crazy and definitely makes me wary for the future.
 
#164
Trekkie said:
Hmmm funnily enough though I sense that none of their discontentment is your fault lol. Wanting to profit of someone else success is so petty.



Good on your partner though for sticking up for you! Seems like a keeper.
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Funny enough right! I just try to keep my distance. I am dreading when they see our place and how I furnished it for the first time next month. ........... [emoji55]
 
#165
LVoeletters said:
I'm so sorry about the loss of your brother. If my partner had a sister I would have sworn that we were referring to the same brother. The stories I could divulge. It drives me crazy and definitely makes me wary for the future.
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Thank you. He passed away from colon cancer in 2013.

Yes, I could tell you some stories about her brother & his wife. They're a piece of work. And they don't have a problem bringing up their "financial difficulties" in front of anybody. They stopped saying anything in front of me when they asked her to buy them a new car right after my brother passed. I was shocked at first but when she told them they were crazy & they started making comments about how she wouldn't miss the money because of my brother's insurance money, I went through the roof! I cursed them up one side & down the other & threw them out of her house! They had the audacity to say what they said in front of my mother! My sister in law just stood back & let me have at it. She said after they left that she was tired of dealing with them & was glad I threw them out. My mother, while not particularly pleased with the language I used, said it needed to be done. My sister n law rarely speaks to her brother now & not at all with his wife. They will usually speak at Christmas & that's about it. They just a bunch of mooches. They have even tried to get their mother to give them money by taking out a mortgage on her home. My sister n law put a stop to that. She now has her mother's power of attorney so they would have to go through her. I think the only person in her family that she has anything to do with is a nephew & his wife. They don't have much to do with his parents either. Apparently, they have been asked for money as well.
 
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