I would have been embarrassed if I was her companion too, I mean she could have just said "nice necklace" and that would have been it, your pearly sounds gorgy though.
Dealing with Others when Wearing Jewelry
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I would have been embarrassed if I was her companion too, I mean she could have just said "nice necklace" and that would have been it, your pearly sounds gorgy though.
Oh yeah. I had a nice teller at the bank compliment me on how "pretty my beads are".
Yes, my 15mm Tahitian Pearl necklace is very pretty.
I didn't care overly much nor did I specify what the 'beads' were. I just thanked her, smiled, and took the deposit book back.
Yes, my 15mm Tahitian Pearl necklace is very pretty.
I didn't care overly much nor did I specify what the 'beads' were. I just thanked her, smiled, and took the deposit book back.
I've posted pictures in the Pearl thread of some of my collection. I have Tahitians as well. I'm from the South & I am amazed at times how some complete stranger can feel it's perfectly okay for them to make an unsolicited comment/opinion of my jewelry, my purses, or anything I have on. I've been asked, over the years, if my diamonds, pearls, certain gemstones, & even some pieces of antique jewelry I'm wearing are real. SMH To me, what's worse than asking if the jewelry is real, is asking me what I paid for it! Like that's ANY of their business! But I get that question often.
My mother says to just smile at them & say "Well, bless your heart". That's Southern-eze for "You're an idiot".
I've posted pictures in the Pearl thread of some of my collection. I have Tahitians as well. I'm from the South & I am amazed at times how some complete stranger can feel it's perfectly okay for them to make an unsolicited comment/opinion of my jewelry, my purses, or anything I have on. I've been asked, over the years, if my diamonds, pearls, certain gemstones, & even some pieces of antique jewelry I'm wearing are real. SMH To me, what's worse than asking if the jewelry is real, is asking me what I paid for it! Like that's ANY of their business! But I get that question often.
My mother says to just smile at them & say "Well, bless your heart". That's Southern-eze for "You're an idiot".
Oh so true! I haven't been asked that much because most people assume that my jewellery has been bought for me, but I do get the occasional comment like "those must have been expensive" mostly about my pearls. I normally say I don't know as they were a family heirloom, but its still so rude to comment on the price. It would be like asking someone how much they earn... not so good.
Haha sounds like your mums just like mine.
The best come back I've ever heard came from a life long friend when we were having lunch one day at a 5 star restaurant. His wife & I met him there after our respective meetings. This gentleman & his wife are very much in love with each other, very devoted to each other & have been for over 30 yrs. They have both done very well for themselves in their respective careers & their children are grown, independent & on their own. She & I had just come from a meeting for a charity fundraiser we were co-hosting at the time so we didn't show up for lunch in jeans & a t-shirt. I was wearing my Tahitians & she was wearing an incredibly stunning diamond & sapphire necklace & earring suite her husband had given her for their 30th anniversary.
When the hostess seated us, she commented on how lovely we looked & how beautiful our jewelry was, especially my friend's. When the waitress came to take our order, she, too commented on how stunning my friend's necklace was. Long story short....3 women at the table next to us were listening & one of the ladies decided to comment as well. She commented on how beautiful the necklace was & asked where she got it. My friends simply said "Thank you. It was a gift" since these women were total strangers. The woman continued by saying "Wonder what you have to do the get a necklace like that as a gift." Now, her husband, who was sitting there the whole time listening to the comments, didn't miss a beat & looked that woman straight in the face & said "You just have to be able to give a man the most memorable night of his life! You should try it sometime!" Those women were stunned & didn't know what to say. I almost spit out my ice tea! The looks on their faces were priceless!!
Personally I have both real and non-real jewelry in my collection (CZ, diamond, pearl, fine, fashion etc). I am a petite person so I tend to wear smaller delicate items which are real, but you probably can't tell unless you really stare and look closely. I don't think I get any particular "that is fake" comments... a lot of other coworkers and friends my age have expensive tastes too and have quite a few nice items! Maybe it's different among the boomer generation or maybe jealousy from older women to younger, working professionals?
I also think that by wearing smaller items, it has a tendency to appear more real than costume-y?
I also think that by wearing smaller items, it has a tendency to appear more real than costume-y?
Oh. My. God.
It would seem that comments like that, and the ones others have mentioned in this thread, imply that the wearer of the jewelry does not deserve jewelry as beautiful as that. Very sad. All women deserve beautiful jewelry. On the few occasions when I've been asked by a stranger whether something I'm wearing is "real" I always look a bit confused as I glance between the asker and my jewelry, then finally say "Why, I don't know!...What do you mean: real?"
I mainly wear jade, especially carved pieces (necklace, bangles). People know that I'm wearing a real stone but they don't know what it is. Many people ask what it is so I then go into explaining about jadeite and nephrite. It's an educational experience, I guess. In general people seem to know from the looks of the jewel that it's expensive
He was very annoyed at the audacity of the woman's comment. He said it in a very sarcastic tone. Needless to say, she turned around & we didn't hear a peep out of her or her friends. It was all I could do not to laugh at their expressions!
Well he clearly had a very good reason to be, what a tactless comment. I would have been so mortified if I was her or her friends.
Oh. My. God.
On the few occasions when I've been asked by a stranger whether something I'm wearing is "real" I always look a bit confused as I glance between the asker and my jewelry, then finally say "Why, I don't know!...What do you mean: real?"
Yes, BPS, it is a shame that women have to make such catty, inappropriate comments. If someone asks me questions about my jewelry, such as what kind of stone, I will generally explain what it is. I get asked questions about my NA jewelry but it more in the lines of how old is the piece or if I know the type of turquoise. It's the comments about the validity & expense of a piece that annoy me. I think it usually comes from a place of envy. I just think women should be able to wear what ever they want that they feel good about & enjoy. I have friends that wear very little jewelry, some real, some fake. And I have friends that wear a lot of jewelry, some real, some fake. It all looks good on them & I tell them so. There's no need in making comments that would make another woman feel bad about her jewelry, purse, or anything else.
Very well stated. I think the off comments take the fun out of wearing jewelry. No matter your age. Or when people size up your jewelry. You know "the look" as in "how much did she spend?" or "how much is this woman really worth?" Certain types of men do it especially blatantly (can you say "loser politician" or "Hollywood bottom-feeder").
But you know the great thing about NA jewelry are the questions you get, and the appreciative comments. I don't have a great collection, just a few things I've picked up at jumble sales and on ebay over the years, but the comments are always fun and the compliments genuine.
