Dealing with Others when Wearing Jewelry

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#106
I've copped a few dirty looks over my ring set from strangers.
It makes me extremely uncomfortable when people are flat out staring at me and don't even try to be discreet.

I personally LOVE looking at other women's engagement rings simply because it's interesting to see everyone's different style and taste. I don't usually wear a lot of jewellery so e-rings are my vice! :p
But I would never straight up gawk at them because I know how uncomfy it feels.

Once I had a sales woman ask me if my rings were real.
Maybe I over-reacted but I was truly offended by the question. At the time I was thinking "how dare she question the authenticity of something that signifies the love & unity between my husband and I".

I've had a lot of strangers admire my rings and compliment me with a genuine smile too so it's not all bad :)
 
#107
I hardly wear any of my jewelry to work now as I was always getting "OMG, is that TIFFANY???! (etc.) with a look of shock and unhappiness. One collaegue actually said "you must love yourself alot to have bought something like that" to which I replied "darling, if I don't love myself who will?"

:rolleyes:
 
#108
Lizgizmo said:
I hardly wear any of my jewelry to work now as I was always getting "OMG, is that TIFFANY???! (etc.) with a look of shock and unhappiness. One collaegue actually said "you must love yourself alot to have bought something like that" to which I replied "darling, if I don't love myself who will?"

:rolleyes:
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Ooooh - good one. I like it. :)
 
#109
Lizgizmo said:
I hardly wear any of my jewelry to work now as I was always getting "OMG, is that TIFFANY???! (etc.) with a look of shock and unhappiness. One collaegue actually said "you must love yourself alot to have bought something like that" to which I replied "darling, if I don't love myself who will?"

:rolleyes:
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What a b*tchy thing to say to someone. How unattractive it is to spew vitriol like that at someone because they're wearing a nice piece of jewelry.
 
#112
I don't mind people asking questions about my jewellery or staring, that's what I wear it for, & I've never found it rude to ask how much it cost because I often want to ask the question myself (although have had to learn people think it's rude so refrain from it these days!!)

What I hate though, is when people are asking the question so they can judge you for spending so much on jewellery or whatever. I ask how much things cost because I want to know if I can afford something like it myself, I don't judge other people on how much they spend, and I don't think they should judge me.
 
#113
Hi everyone

I've read quite a few threads on here about peoples reactions to your jewellery, be it a big diamond ring or a specific brand of jewellery. However I'm wondering for all the younger members here if you've ever had specific reactions to your jewellery based on your age?

One of the common ones for me is people assuming that my jewellery is cheap just because I'm young, I don't know if this is because of the area I'm in or just because of my age. I often have people assume that my opal necklace is moonstone, or that my pearls are costume jewellery... has anyone else had a similar experience?
 
#114
I'm sure people assume that my partner has purchased my items for me if they don't know me. I know the women in his family aren't happy with my jewelry and items.

I've had a couple of classless sales associates make comments about my love bracelet asking if it's real or if someone bought it for me. It's followed by a "I need to marry rich" comment. Which I find even more tasteless and classless. Otherwise I don't think people really notice my jewelry. I don't have an engagement ring. I moved to a very low key state this summer so I'm sure now no one will notice my jewelry. However I buy my jewelry for myself and it always makes me smile.
 
#115
LVoeletters said:
I'm sure people assume that my partner has purchased my items for me if they don't know me. I know the women in his family aren't happy with my jewelry and items.

I've had a couple of classless sales associates make comments about my love bracelet asking if it's real or if someone bought it for me. It's followed by a "I need to marry rich" comment. Which I find even more tasteless and classless. Otherwise I don't think people really notice my jewelry. I don't have an engagement ring. I moved to a very low key state this summer so I'm sure now no one will notice my jewelry. However I buy my jewelry for myself and it always makes me smile.
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Oh, any reason in particular they aren't happy? Jealous maybe? :graucho:

I hate getting the "is it real" question. I had one friend ask me if my pearls were real then look horrified and say I shouldn't wear them because someone will steal them, which of course no one did haha.

Yeah I get the "better marry rich" one a bit, especially since I've always had expensive taste. You can bet that if I've picked something out saying its pretty its probably got a big price tag attached (I blame my mum and nan for giving me expensive taste). If I ever go into a jewellery shop with mum and someone makes that comment she always says "better study hard" instead, which makes me laugh.
 
#116
I feel conscious when people say i have lots of money when they see a new ring on my finger. Come on people, we are in canada. If you have a decent job here you can buy anything. Its a matter of preference. Some spends on bags and others prefers jewelry. Whats weird is that my ring then was just a simple solitaire i got off kijiji. It doesnt mean im a millionaire lol
 
#117
Mcandy said:
I feel conscious when people say i have lots of money when they see a new ring on my finger. Come on people, we are in canada. If you have a decent job here you can buy anything. Its a matter of preference. Some spends on bags and others prefers jewelry. Whats weird is that my ring then was just a simple solitaire i got off kijiji. It doesnt mean im a millionaire lol
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Maybe it's because lots of young people spend money frivolously rather than buying something lasting like a piece of jewelry.
 
#118
You better marry rich? Oh the comments I'd have for that. You probably saw my comment in the LV thread the other day, about a childhood acquaintance telling me that I married a "rich old guy" and that's why I have all the "stuff I have." Ok, wench. It can't possibly be the 3 jobs I worked simultaneously in the past while in school, the businesses I owned/own, and the job I have now, the job my husband has, the the multiple jobs he worked simultaneously in the past while in school? No, I just married a rich old guy who buys me sh!t.
 
#119
I'm far from young & I have people ask me from time to time if some of my jewelry is real. I usually just say "Well, what do you think?" I could care less what other people's opinions are of my jewelry or me in general. Life's too short to worry about petty crap. I have designer bags & unbranded bags; my jewelry is generally unbranded because I buy what I like. I have all kinds of pearls, gemstones, & diamonds. I don't live an extravagant lifestyle but I do tend to spend my money on quality. I was wearing some of my South Sea pearls one evening to dinner & had a woman comment to me about how pretty my costume pearls were. I asked her what made her think they were costume & she said real pearls aren't that large. (Mine are 11-12 mm, not gargantuan) I told her they were White South Sea Pearls & she said she had never heard of such. My response at that point was to tell her Google was her friend & she should Google South Sea Pearls from Australia. She was somewhat taken aback. I will say that her companion looked a little embarrassed by her comments about my jewelry.

People will be tacky & make comments about things that are really none of their business. Normally, I just ignore them. I would never question someone about the genuineness or authenticity of the jewelry they wear. What one person chooses to wear is different from someone else. If it makes you smile & you enjoy wearing something, why not just enjoy it! I will comment sometimes on someone else's jewelry but it's just to say that it's pretty or looks good on them.
 
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#120
Trekkie said:
Oh, any reason in particular they aren't happy? Jealous maybe? :graucho:

I hate getting the "is it real" question. I had one friend ask me if my pearls were real then look horrified and say I shouldn't wear them because someone will steal them, which of course no one did haha.

Yeah I get the "better marry rich" one a bit, especially since I've always had expensive taste. You can bet that if I've picked something out saying its pretty its probably got a big price tag attached (I blame my mum and nan for giving me expensive taste). If I ever go into a jewellery shop with mum and someone makes that comment she always says "better study hard" instead, which makes me laugh.
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Love your mum! Lol
 
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