To borrow or not to borrow...to lend or not to lend...

Do you borrow? Do you lend?

  • No, never

  • Yes, always

  • Depends on the bag

  • Depends on the person

  • Depends on the bag AND the person

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#121
GhstDreamer said:
No I wouldn't even if my co-worker is my best friend and would tell her no. I've been burned before by lending out my stuff to people - either they break it or they refuse to return it to me even after hunting them down. This wasn't a handbag but when I doing my grad studies, I lent out a rare expensive book to my then best friend because she wanted to use it for research. After she refused to give it back to me and told me, she's keeping it because it was in her possession. We parted ways after that incident. I am still unable to track down another copy of that book. So never again - I don't trust anybody besides my sisters and mother to lend anything out that I want back in the same condition or to even get it back!
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Wow ... what an unbelievable story ... I know the law says possession is 99 percent of ownership, but what a classless thing to do!

Even if I knew I'd get my bag back, I wouldn't loan one out. I've given bags away, once I'm sure I am done using them and can honestly tell myself I don't care what happens to them next ... I take good care of my stuff and know I'd be upset of I loaned something out and it got damaged or lost, even unintentionally. I think it's perfectly fine to say you don't loan out your bags, and point them to a site that rents bags out! HTH!
 
#123
I think that it was very forward of your co-worker to ask that! And I also would've said no... I don't generally lend my belongings out because I honestly have had too many horrible experiences in the past. I definitely would not be lending out one of my favorite bags that cost a bundle! I agree that you might want to go to lunch and talk to her about it (in a friendly, casual manner) so that you can move forward, not have her feelings hurt, and maybe become great shopping buddies! :drinkup:
 
#124
good for you!! I guess she dosent understand that she practically asked you to take your child to their high school reunion and pretend it was hers! You responded nicely, and if she looked hurt it was at no fault of your own.
 
#125
No, I wouldn't lend it to a co-worker ... and I find it quite rude for her to put you in that position. I wish I could trust people to take care of my bags like I do but in real life, some people have no respect for their own things so why would they have respect for mine? In order to maintain your work relationship, I would never lend out anything, expensive or not, to a co-worker.
 
#126
Me and my co-worker joked about exchange her shoes to my handbag all the time, but nothing serious... I would never borrow or lend any of my personal clothes or accessories to my co-workers, just too weird.:weird:
 
#127
I'm feeling better knowing I wasn't rude. I mean I paid top dollars for these bags and I would really be hurt if anything happen to them. Fortunately she understood but seriously at that time I felt like soooo awkward especially she know that I have quite a few of designer bags. I, my self, would never wanna borrow anything designer/expensive from anyone I know even if it's my own sister.
 
#129
i had to deal with a similar situation with a co-worker. instead of a bag it was my car...seriously she wanted to borrow my car to go out and about on lunch...wtf? and if you got into an accident how was that gonna work out? mind you she asked me multiple times after i said i wouldn't let her. i would feel the same way about my bags...i carry LAMB mostly and even if the bags didn't cost me thousands of dollars i'm still super protective of my stuff. i see people out and about with there bags all chillin on the grass or other dirty "non handbag friendly" spots and i think "i would NEVER do that"...but other non handbag ocd people don't feel that way and i wouldn't risk someone else damaging my stuff...i mean my mom or best friend...okay...but a coworker? nope. i bet you felt as akward as i did about the car thing...it's like "gee thanks for making me feel so uncomfortable"...lordy..i would never ask someone to let me borrow their high end purse...that's what avelle.com is for : ) (even though i've never used it.)
 
#132
I would have been completely caught off guard and would have stumbled and fumbled around to find an awkward way to say "No". It wouldn't have been easy...or pretty.
 
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#133
No way. It is awkward, and I'd personally be offended by their asking. I'd say, "No, I don't lend my valuable stuff to people except my boyfriend, but we have a "special" relationship."
 
#135
Wow GhstDreamer that's incredible!

My answer would be no. The only person I would ever lend to is my sister and even then sometimes she doesn't want to use something in case something happens, but she is the only one I trust.
 
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