To borrow or not to borrow...to lend or not to lend...

Do you borrow? Do you lend?

  • No, never

  • Yes, always

  • Depends on the bag

  • Depends on the person

  • Depends on the bag AND the person

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#46
notblushing said:
I have no need to borrow bags, but I WOULDN'T HESITATE to lend one of mine to a friend.
I never understand WHY this is such a big deal to other people. I'd let a friend use my CAR, or even my HOUSE if she needed to. We're talking about a HANDBAG, which really doesn't mean squat in life's big picture.
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Yes, it's just a bag, but my average handbag costs $1400 and that's a lot of money if the friend trashes or loses the bag.
 
#48
Only close family. IMO bag is even more private than a car. COmpard to house it's much easier to damage beyond repair. Also, it's much mor affordable to get by onself, so I have no Idea why someone would have to borrow one.
 
#49
Hmm...no one ever asks me, anyway. I live with over 50 women...you'd think I'd get asked. I think people are pretty much afraid to touch my stuff, since I own the most stuff, hands-down, of anyone here. :X

I should add...bags, for me, are a pretty personal thing. Plus I, myself, seem to spill stuff (a water bottle leaked in a Dooney the other day). Pen marks, etc. They are such a personal space for me...seems almost as bad as somone borrowing underwear.

Ok, not that bad...ha. :>
 
#50
H.Elisabeth said:
Hmm...no one ever asks me, anyway. I live with over 50 women...you'd think I'd get asked. I think people are pretty much afraid to touch my stuff, since I own the most stuff, hands-down, of anyone here. :X

I should add...bags, for me, are a pretty personal thing. Plus I, myself, seem to spill stuff (a water bottle leaked in a Dooney the other day). Pen marks, etc. They are such a personal space for me...seems almost as bad as somone borrowing underwear.

Ok, not that bad...ha. :>
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CLOSE, though! Very well put.
 
#51
doreenjoy said:
Yes, it's just a bag, but my average handbag costs $1400 and that's a lot of money if the friend trashes or loses the bag.
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To each her own. My car cost far more than $1400, and I would let my friend borrow my car if she needed to. I have invited friends to stay in my house while I was away, and my home not only cost more than my handbag and my car combined, but it is also more personal to me; and all three of these things are insured.
Friendships however, are NOT insured. A quality friendship is enduring and hard to come by, and I'm not sure if I could put a price on one; but if my best friend lost or ruined a handbag I'd lent her, it would be the end of the handbag, NOT the friendship.
I would HATE to think that someone I trusted and thought was a close friend would turn on me if I accidentally destroyed something she owned that cost her $1400. It would really hurt to know that I was worth LESS.
 
#54
I lent a bag once to a close friend and when I got it back it was as if she wrestled with it. I learned my lesson. I don't let anyone borrow my bags anymore, nor do I borrow anyone else's.
 
#55
My house and car are insured; my bags are not. And there is a big difference between "accidental" damage and people who are careless and/or destructive. I've learned the hard way not to loan things that are important to me to careless friends. I hate reading the posts in this thread about people who loaned bags and never got them back. To me that shows that the "friends" who borrowed are the ones who don't care about the friendship.
 
#56
notblushing said:
To each her own. My car cost far more than $1400, and I would let my friend borrow my car if she needed to. I have invited friends to stay in my house while I was away, and my home not only cost more than my handbag and my car combined, but it is also more personal to me; and all three of these things are insured.
Friendships however, are NOT insured. A quality friendship is enduring and hard to come by, and I'm not sure if I could put a price on one; but if my best friend lost or ruined a handbag I'd lent her, it would be the end of the handbag, NOT the friendship.
I would HATE to think that someone I trusted and thought was a close friend would turn on me if I accidentally destroyed something she owned that cost her $1400. It would really hurt to know that I was worth LESS.
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I can't imagine ruining someone's very expensive possession and not offering to replace it. For that matter, I can't imagine ruining any possession and not offering to replace it.
 
#59
No Cute said:
Depends the friend and the bag. I would borrow an "event" bag from some friends, a clutch or evening bag. But I don't think I'd borrow an every day bag, too much risk of damage. Same with lending: I'd lend a clutch for an event but not an every day bag.
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ITA. Only event bags, never an everyday bag. My friends know how particular I am about my bag babies!! :p
 
#60
foul temptress said:
I would lend a bag with the same thought in mind as lending money -
don't expect to ever see it again.
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Probably a very wise philosophy!

I can't imagine approaching someone I know asking to borrow one of their bags. If someone asked me if they could borrow a bag of mine I'd be horrified!

Like was mentioned earlier, my bags are also very personal for me. To use someone else's or to have someone use a bag of mine would leave me feeling incredibly uncomfortable.

In the event that someone did ask me (which I can't ever imagine happening), I'd feel very comfortable saying no.
 
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