Gross, was he with a group of friends and is this something that he does often? I mean going to strip clubs???? You should start telling him you are going to male stip clubs too......I mean maybe you can admire the view there since he seems to like his lap dances way better that how he is treating you. I am sure there are other things he does not tell you. If you are OK with this you are telling him he can do it anytime and what will be next? I would dump him. One word respect and he is not showing it.
Tell me I'm crazy, but WOULD YOU GET MAD IF..
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End of trust, for ever.... So a whore can rub up NAKED against him and since he "didn't touch her" it's ok?!?! No, no, no. No way. Those clothes have to be burned...with him in them. Would he like it if a male whore rub up against you naked if you didn't touch him???
Divorce papers would be next.
Divorce papers would be next.
I admit, I am pretty insecure with myself. If I were to find out this took place with my man...I would first kick his ass and ask questions later. (lol).
No, but on a seriously note---This will bug me VERY much and I wouldn't be able to get over it.
To me, even though he didn't touch her, he SAW her and he HAD to get somewhat aroused by it and then I would think that he would be fantasizing about that thing when we have sex......ok maybe I am just a little crazy.
It just wouldn't be easy to swallow for me.
No, but on a seriously note---This will bug me VERY much and I wouldn't be able to get over it.
To me, even though he didn't touch her, he SAW her and he HAD to get somewhat aroused by it and then I would think that he would be fantasizing about that thing when we have sex......ok maybe I am just a little crazy.
It just wouldn't be easy to swallow for me.
As long as he didnt touch her and stuff I guess i wouldnt get all up on my DH's face about it....
now if there's touching THEN all hell would break loose.
now if there's touching THEN all hell would break loose.
since when do the girls at strip clubs do fully naked lap dances???
something is WRONG here.... is it possible that more than that happened and he's trying to come up with an in between explaination to ease his guilt?
i wouldn't walk out right after he completed his sentence but it's making me rethink about the relationship and situation and guy.
Did he pay for it? did he touch her? why did he even do it? I have a tonne of qns....
i don't know how ur relationship has been but if there are other issues and nagging things at the back of your head and if you this is not acceptable to you then i would say leave him.
This is very questionable.... and i'm liberal. i don't have a problem with a guy going to a strip club, hell, i'll go along too. but this is very very shady....
something is WRONG here.... is it possible that more than that happened and he's trying to come up with an in between explaination to ease his guilt?
i wouldn't walk out right after he completed his sentence but it's making me rethink about the relationship and situation and guy.
Did he pay for it? did he touch her? why did he even do it? I have a tonne of qns....
i don't know how ur relationship has been but if there are other issues and nagging things at the back of your head and if you this is not acceptable to you then i would say leave him.
This is very questionable.... and i'm liberal. i don't have a problem with a guy going to a strip club, hell, i'll go along too. but this is very very shady....
Yeah I'd definitely be mad but thinking about it now, I don't think he WOULD do that.
I have a lot of insecurities as well even though he assures me all the time that I'm beautiful and he doesn't want anyone else. Sad but true. But I'd still be annoyed if that happened, touching or no touching.
ETA: I agree with bubbleliciousis, where would this be allowed? I didn't think fully nude lap dances were allowed anywhere nowadays.
I have a lot of insecurities as well even though he assures me all the time that I'm beautiful and he doesn't want anyone else. Sad but true. But I'd still be annoyed if that happened, touching or no touching.
ETA: I agree with bubbleliciousis, where would this be allowed? I didn't think fully nude lap dances were allowed anywhere nowadays.
Mine wouldn't even want one, so luckily not something I need to worry about. As far as how I feel about it - I wouldn't even be with someone who wanted one. The same for clothed lap dances, strippers, porn...
My not-so-abbreviated opinions are further laid out in a really long stripper thread somewhere in this forum from a while back.
I'm totally on the same page as you.
Fortunately, my DF and I have the same viewpoints on these things.
If his friend paid for it, got him to do it as a dare, or if he did along with everyone else, that's fine. But if he were the only one out of his group or went to a stripclub by himself, I would not be alright with it.
I'm generally cool about these kinds of things, but when it's NOT for pure fun and entertainment, that disturbs me.
I'm generally cool about these kinds of things, but when it's NOT for pure fun and entertainment, that disturbs me.
I really don't know what I'd do/say if I were in this situation, but my first reaction is this is just gross and tacky and he should have better judgement.
Prepare for a totally hypocritical response, because I would be PISSED. Logically, though, it depends on the situation. I'd be bothered by it and a little insecure no matter what, but I wouldn't blame him if his friends bought it for him behind his back or something. Of course, if he walked in by himself and said, "One nekkid stripper, please," he'd be kicked to the curb.
And hehe, "NO TOUCHING!"
And hehe, "NO TOUCHING!"