@blydia, thank you for opening this discussion, thanks to all the other ones for their input. I have been reading this discussion over the past few days and it gave me a lot to think about. There are several offers I passed on ever since. I will see later if I will regret that. But after getting into H at the beginning of 2015 I acquired about 100 scarves of all sizes. And I do like them all. But since my work attire is "hospital" and my life is "bicycle" there are not too many occasions to dress up besides conferences. But I don't care, I have beater scarves for cycling, wear the not so graily ones for grocery shopping. They bring me joy, I overhauled me wardrobe and appearance, I dress better since I got into H. And I do not miss the money spent (but oh yes, I got desensitized considering the prices!). Not needing a car makes life and finances easier. I am done hunting grails, the current season does not tempt me, last season I only got an "Index palmarum".
Do I need these scarves? No! But this is the definition on luxury: Do not need, but gives me a smile.
My problem is I read tpf and look at some reseller sites after work to unwind, looking at beauty makes me feel calm (love museums as well), and here a lot of eye candy is provided.
So far so good.
But every now and then I see a nice design at a CW I like at a good price. I like scarves that are not pristine, those get worn much more than the grails. And then I start pondering: should I spend money on this piece? Is it worth it? Do I need it? Will it make my heart sing? Will it get worn? (I bought "Les Normands" purely to have it, see recent post at SOTD) Then I start to add the item on a list or "like" it, make price offers. And then I feel relieved if they get declined

. I passed on getting a "Merveilles de vapeur" on VC because scrutinizing the photos it seemed to have many color runs from washing. I hate unpacking a preloved scarf that is in much worse condition than advertised. Thanks to this forum I got rather good at restoring them, but dye transfer

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I am by far not as excited as the first few times I unboxed one. "Chasing the dragon" somebody named it.
I agree so much with the statement "You pay with time": This scarf is for the weekend I worked without a break!
But it is not only the time spent at work earning the money, it is the time spent thinking about what to get, whether to get something or not. Emotional and thought energy that could be used so much better.
Feeling relieved after deciding not to get something was an eye opener for me.
My colleagues at work are bragging about all the things they abstain from during lent: no caffeine, no sweets, no alcohol... Maybe I should try "No reseller sites, not buying any more H"
More time for reading, journaling, learning for a new hobby...
So, thanks again for all the input!