Scarves Scarfaholics Anonymous - shopping and mental health

Do you feel in control of your scarf consumption or do you struggle a bit?

  • I am fully in control, for me this is simply a pleasurable hobby

    Votes: 62 34.3%
  • I only rarely feel like I may be buying (or think about buying) more than I want to

    Votes: 49 27.1%
  • I have a problem :D

    Votes: 70 38.7%

  • Total voters
    181

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Thank you so much @blydia and others for being so honest with your emotional journeys. I recently spent a wee bit too much last September with end of summer sales, so I corralled my friends into a month long shopping ban. We called it OOO for "Opt Out October', only allowed food purchases, necessities or the odd gift. I'm actually repeating it this month Fiscally Frugal Feb (Paris trip in Jan, 'nuff said). We share a google document and journal about our feelings daily and while it was ridiculously difficult at the beginning, I've learned so much about the motivations behind my spending habits. We also tracked literally everything we paid for in an app and categorized it. It also made me realize 'gosh there are a lot of things I could be spending money on, aside from scarves/bags/clothes, and a lot of things I could be doing with my TIME as well".

The price desensitization is scary too, I remember flipping through Vogue in high school thinking 'who would ever spend $400 on a shirt?!" Now it's like, 'ok $400, I can afford that, could be worse" :huh:

I too like @Daosabao have felt discontented in some ways after discovering Hermes, to the point where my partner commented how much time I spend browsing, planning and thinking about it. I guess it's the allure, exclusivity and certainly FOMO. We're human after all and taking a step back to analyze and recognize it is a great first step.

I saved for most of my life but it wasn't until I saw a lot of people around me get sick and pass early that I realized we can't take it with us. Yes buy what makes you happy, but also do it in a way that doesn't bring you sadness or despair or guilt. I still struggle with the last part sometimes but it's good to know other people feel similarly :smile:
Wow - I just want to hug you after reading this post. :hugs:
 
I adore this thread and really love how passionate everyone has been about the topic, and that so many people are contributing here! I finally would like to weigh in. I hope that it is okay that I share about my experience with H as a whole. I am addicted to H, and not just scarves. I love my H family. My stores have always been like families because I've shopped with the two smallest boutiques in the whole country. I love visiting and chatting with the staff about things that aren't related to H. My daughter was still in my belly when I first started shopping at my home store, so they've watched her get bigger and bigger. I enjoy the treatment I receive in my local store, where they will transfer things in for me with no problem and, most recently, secured a mini Roulis that I saw in person during my travels for me within a couple of hours. I love Hermes, from the craftsmanship to the variety of things they sell to the "hard-to-get" nature of many different pieces. I'm in a place in life where I'm attempting to acquire less clothing and shoes, so my attention has turned to scarves. I have 10 CSGMs, 11 silks (mostly 90 silks and washes but some smaller format cashmere/silk blends), 12 twillies, and 3 stoles. I do not wear a scarf every single day but I appreciate them almost everyday. I love them and, surprisingly, don't truly dislike anything that I have in my collection at this point. I do wear my newer pieces more than my older ones, like I don't pull out my gray men's C'est la Fete CSGM or my two bandana shawls often, but I still appreciate everything I have and enjoy rotating through. For me, what keeps me coming back for more is the draw to my next bag offer/purchase. I have FOMO about bags that I really want coming in and not being offered to me, so I visit often, which means that I purchase often. I would love to slow down, and have just a bit recently while waiting on this season's scarves, but need to figure out a pace/balance that is right for me.
 
Thank you so much @blydia and others for being so honest with your emotional journeys. I recently spent a wee bit too much last September with end of summer sales, so I corralled my friends into a month long shopping ban. We called it OOO for "Opt Out October', only allowed food purchases, necessities or the odd gift. I'm actually repeating it this month Fiscally Frugal Feb (Paris trip in Jan, 'nuff said). We share a google document and journal about our feelings daily and while it was ridiculously difficult at the beginning, I've learned so much about the motivations behind my spending habits. We also tracked literally everything we paid for in an app and categorized it. It also made me realize 'gosh there are a lot of things I could be spending money on, aside from scarves/bags/clothes, and a lot of things I could be doing with my TIME as well".

The price desensitization is scary too, I remember flipping through Vogue in high school thinking 'who would ever spend $400 on a shirt?!" Now it's like, 'ok $400, I can afford that, could be worse" :huh:

I too like @Daosabao have felt discontented in some ways after discovering Hermes, to the point where my partner commented how much time I spend browsing, planning and thinking about it. I guess it's the allure, exclusivity and certainly FOMO. We're human after all and taking a step back to analyze and recognize it is a great first step.

I saved for most of my life but it wasn't until I saw a lot of people around me get sick and pass early that I realized we can't take it with us. Yes buy what makes you happy, but also do it in a way that doesn't bring you sadness or despair or guilt. I still struggle with the last part sometimes but it's good to know other people feel similarly :smile:
This is beautifully put. I so wish that I could find a group of friends to do that with!! I have only one friend who loves H like I do, but my closest friends in the world really don't know much about this side of me. I wonder if my partner would do that with me, but it wouldn't be the same. I do agree about not taking it with us. I just want to have enough for my daughter (and future children) to have money for college and a little bit on top of that.
 
Thank you so much @blydia and others for being so honest with your emotional journeys. I recently spent a wee bit too much last September with end of summer sales, so I corralled my friends into a month long shopping ban. We called it OOO for "Opt Out October', only allowed food purchases, necessities or the odd gift. I'm actually repeating it this month Fiscally Frugal Feb (Paris trip in Jan, 'nuff said). We share a google document and journal about our feelings daily and while it was ridiculously difficult at the beginning, I've learned so much about the motivations behind my spending habits. We also tracked literally everything we paid for in an app and categorized it. It also made me realize 'gosh there are a lot of things I could be spending money on, aside from scarves/bags/clothes, and a lot of things I could be doing with my TIME as well".
The price desensitization is scary too, I remember flipping through Vogue in high school thinking 'who would ever spend $400 on a shirt?!" Now it's like, 'ok $400, I can afford that, could be worse" :huh:

I too like @Daosabao have felt discontented in some ways after discovering Hermes, to the point where my partner commented how much time I spend browsing, planning and thinking about it. I guess it's the allure, exclusivity and certainly FOMO. We're human after all and taking a step back to analyze and recognize it is a great first step.

I saved for most of my life but it wasn't until I saw a lot of people around me get sick and pass early that I realized we can't take it with us. Yes buy what makes you happy, but also do it in a way that doesn't bring you sadness or despair or guilt. I still struggle with the last part sometimes but it's good to know other people feel similarly :smile:
Lovely, profound post.
 
I adore this thread and really love how passionate everyone has been about the topic, and that so many people are contributing here! I finally would like to weigh in. I hope that it is okay that I share about my experience with H as a whole. I am addicted to H, and not just scarves. I love my H family. My stores have always been like families because I've shopped with the two smallest boutiques in the whole country. I love visiting and chatting with the staff about things that aren't related to H. My daughter was still in my belly when I first started shopping at my home store, so they've watched her get bigger and bigger. I enjoy the treatment I receive in my local store, where they will transfer things in for me with no problem and, most recently, secured a mini Roulis that I saw in person during my travels for me within a couple of hours. I love Hermes, from the craftsmanship to the variety of things they sell to the "hard-to-get" nature of many different pieces. I'm in a place in life where I'm attempting to acquire less clothing and shoes, so my attention has turned to scarves. I have 10 CSGMs, 11 silks (mostly 90 silks and washes but some smaller format cashmere/silk blends), 12 twillies, and 3 stoles. I do not wear a scarf every single day but I appreciate them almost everyday. I love them and, surprisingly, don't truly dislike anything that I have in my collection at this point. I do wear my newer pieces more than my older ones, like I don't pull out my gray men's C'est la Fete CSGM or my two bandana shawls often, but I still appreciate everything I have and enjoy rotating through. For me, what keeps me coming back for more is the draw to my next bag offer/purchase. I have FOMO about bags that I really want coming in and not being offered to me, so I visit often, which means that I purchase often. I would love to slow down, and have just a bit recently while waiting on this season's scarves, but need to figure out a pace/balance that is right for me.
That's real honesty about the FOMO bag offers. I have only been in the position of being offered a bag once in a while but it does make a person feel really special. Kinda like: "the hell with the bag, I don't care what the bag is, I just want to feel special by getting offered it." It's like being Queen for a day. That's the thing about addictive behaviors, they're always fleeting, always about "chasing the dragon," so to speak. And it's about feeling special by looking good, too -- a big hook for me.
Since I retired, I got a couple of bags in Paris that I'm happy with. Can't really use anymore, it's pointless to go beyond the four I have. What makes me feel special nowadays is challenging reading projects such as working through The Red Wheel by Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, a 3 part fictionalized examination of the fall of Imperial Russia and the subsequent Russian Revolution. (I'm about to start the last book in the series). I also appreciate having the time and interest to taking on more challenging sewing projects such pattern drafting and alteration. (I need time to think about what I'm doing). Another bag wouldn't help with that! I'm still getting scarves, not altogether sure whether I'll have opportunities to wear them. However, my point is that being multi-dimensional helps offset the FOMO associated with H stuff.
 
I’ve been reading and nodding my head so much here fellow scarf-o-haulics :yes:
Thanks @blydia for broaching this tender subject... it’s timely for me.
Not too long ago DH broached the subject of my “scarf addiction”... his exact words. I admit to a healthy interest bordering on obsession. :giggle:

Last year I may’ve went off the rails a bit... :panic:
In our chat I unapologetically explained that my research, acquiring etc. of vintage & other H scarves has been a rewarding hobby. I enjoy all aspects of collecting/wearing, but realized this past Fall that I’m quickly reaching a saturation point. I poured through the curating & storage threads to arrive at a easier to see & wear method than a leaning (often falling) tower of boxes. I’m currently trying reeeally hard to edit my swollen collex. I need to implement the 1 in 1 out strategy several of you have mentioned.


Wait- faulty scarves?! What did I miss?!! :eek:


I was thinking before I heard the H makeup news that it’d be brilliant for them to launch a line of smudge-proof lipstick that coordinates with released scarves... if they don’t have that in their offering, they’re really missing a needed market.


You call them “oddballs”... I’ve dubbed mine “divine orphans” :coolio:
I think your 2 scarf combos are so fresh, appealing & utterly brilliant! :smartass:


Agree on all counts :girlsigh:

Aww- thank you turfnsurf! I remember your posts in the curation thread. And been there too, at pretty much the same point. I think it is part of the "journey". One in one out is not a bad way to go, really! (It's just trying to make sure that I actually DO the out part that is sometimes a problem!) :lol:

I love this! I don't think I am able to put this effort into tracking, but I really love to see how you've done it and also what you gravitate towards!

This is the lo-fi version. Putting it on paper takes much less time (for me) than photographing and photo editing. Yesterday I backtracked in to 2017 to see what the number were as well (similar but there was a scarf explosion in 2018).

Great thoughts about allocating funds. "It's all money that could have gone somewhere else." I'm pondering all this.

Yes- that's a double edged sword. It's $$ that COULD have gone somewhere else, but has to be balanced with you can't take it with you. When you were younger, it might have been easier/quicker to take a more black and white approach in general to things, but as you get (much) older, and get chronic health problems, special diets, 20 years running your own business plus another job and can't get away often because it puts you too far behind, etc etc...the list goes on and on...what constitutes good use of spare cash for me at least has taken on a different perspective.
 
This is beautifully put. I so wish that I could find a group of friends to do that with!! I have only one friend who loves H like I do, but my closest friends in the world really don't know much about this side of me. I wonder if my partner would do that with me, but it wouldn't be the same. I do agree about not taking it with us. I just want to have enough for my daughter (and future children) to have money for college and a little bit on top of that.

Anytime you want to partake, DM me and we'll do it together! :smile:
 
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I love hearing about your journey. Thank you for sharing! I do wish you could find a way to appreciate your scarves dressing casually though! I only dress casually. I wear jeans just about everyday, and I still love to wear my scarves with just a long sleeved, plain grey shirt! I do this often and it makes me happy. I do understand about not having the time to coordinate a scarf, but some of the neutrals, perhaps, would be easier to pick up. I was in school for 8 months last year and I also did not wear my scarves as much as I do now, but I wish I had found the chance to!
Its not so much the casual clothing but the extreme exhaustion of working full time, classes at night, and tossing on whatever. I start work at 6, so I get up at 5, and I am so exhausted I am lucky I put on matching socks. Choosing a scarf is beyond my cognitive abilities at this time. Choosing is made more difficult because I have so many scarves. And I just can't do neutrals. My clothing is mostly black and dark jewel tones, which allowed me to pick bright and colorful scarves.
So great to see you back here! Such an interesting journey you describe. Thank you.
I also enjoy "the long game that requires patience and persistence" although I seem to be nearing the finish line, as there are very few grails left on my list. And I balance that with the frenzy for the new season (I am learning to enjoy a little bit of that rush, without going overboard). I also enjoy real life meetups with other scarfies. There is something satisfying emotionally about that.
Hi @momasaurus! My life changes are the reason I am no contributing to the SOTD thread. And it probably also helps my wallet since I don't see a design I missed and need to hunt down.
 
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Wow - I just want to hug you after reading this post. :hugs:
Virtual hugs all around!!! :heart:

That's real honesty about the FOMO bag offers. I have only been in the position of being offered a bag once in a while but it does make a person feel really special. Kinda like: "the hell with the bag, I don't care what the bag is, I just want to feel special by getting offered it." It's like being Queen for a day. That's the thing about addictive behaviors, they're always fleeting, always about "chasing the dragon," so to speak. And it's about feeling special by looking good, too -- a big hook for me.
Since I retired, I got a couple of bags in Paris that I'm happy with. Can't really use anymore, it's pointless to go beyond the four I have. What makes me feel special nowadays is challenging reading projects such as working through The Red Wheel by Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, a 3 part fictionalized examination of the fall of Imperial Russia and the subsequent Russian Revolution. (I'm about to start the last book in the series). I also appreciate having the time and interest to taking on more challenging sewing projects such pattern drafting and alteration. (I need time to think about what I'm doing). Another bag wouldn't help with that! I'm still getting scarves, not altogether sure whether I'll have opportunities to wear them. However, my point is that being multi-dimensional helps offset the FOMO associated with H stuff.

Thank you for this great analysis! The challenge of obtaining a bag is such an allure, and we get wrapped up in it (I'm certainly no exception), almost like being granted one is an affirmation of our self worth. The multi-dimensional aspect you mention is a beautiful reminder of how we can try to keep ourselves grounded.
 
haha yes I can tell we share a passion. as I said earlier in the thread, the thought of opportunity costs is what keeps my wanting in check currently. the fact that there aren’t enough days in a week or month to give all my scarf babes the love they deserve and adding more would make that problem worse...
that and all the reports of faulty scarves all while they keep hiking prices...
Thank you for this thread, dear Blydia. I hope, I am not being too honest in posting this ...
I'm one of the H addicts. So far. My friend had to exchange her les artisans - it had small runs and the hems looked somehow like they were rolled maybe too fast and somehow, well, without love. Personally I find the new technique less convincing. Where the scarves are folded or tied, I find the colour does not seem saturated to me. Somehow I don't feel as happy and satisfied after the purchases as before. To be honest, I am not fond of having to check the scarves and shawls every time at a house like H to get a flawless one. I have to admit, I find it somehow embarrasing too, standing in the boutique inspecting the scarves ... and than at home to sew on/fix the dropping big labels myself. My DH said, it might be useful to think a while before I buy, if the products will make me really happy or if I find myself more seduced by the nice service and the atmosphere, like in a kind of "shopping frenzy". Shopping in this league he wanted to see an all around happy wife.
 
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Aww- thank you turfnsurf! I remember your posts in the curation thread. And been there too, at pretty much the same point. I think it is part of the "journey". One in one out is not a bad way to go, really! (It's just trying to make sure that I actually DO the out part that is sometimes a problem!) :lol:

Yes- that's a double edged sword. It's $$ that COULD have gone somewhere else, but has to be balanced with you can't take it with you. When you were younger, it might have been easier/quicker to take a more black and white approach in general to things, but as you get (much) older, and get chronic health problems, special diets, 20 years running your own business plus another job and can't get away often because it puts you too far behind, etc etc...the list goes on and on...what constitutes good use of spare cash for me at least has taken on a different perspective.
I understand that double-edged sword. And seeking perspective. Sometimes that's a moving target for me!
 
Its not so much the casual clothing but the extreme exhaustion of working full time, classes at night, and tossing on whatever. I start work at 6, so I get up at 5, and I am so exhausted I am lucky I put on matching socks. Choosing a scarf is beyond my cognitive abilities at this time. Choosing is made more difficult because I have so many scarves. And I just can't do neutrals. My clothing is mostly black and dark jewel tones, which allowed me to pick bright and colorful scarves.
Hi @momasaurus! My life changes are the reason I am no contributing to the SOTD thread. And it probably also helps my wallet since I don't see a design I missed and need to hunt down.
I hear you. I like the eye candy on SoTD, but try to resist the temptations of wanting one (of whatever it is) for myself. Enjoying other people's gardens.
 
Thank you so much @blydia and others for being so honest with your emotional journeys. I recently spent a wee bit too much last September with end of summer sales, so I corralled my friends into a month long shopping ban. We called it OOO for "Opt Out October', only allowed food purchases, necessities or the odd gift. I'm actually repeating it this month Fiscally Frugal Feb (Paris trip in Jan, 'nuff said). We share a google document and journal about our feelings daily and while it was ridiculously difficult at the beginning, I've learned so much about the motivations behind my spending habits. We also tracked literally everything we paid for in an app and categorized it. It also made me realize 'gosh there are a lot of things I could be spending money on, aside from scarves/bags/clothes, and a lot of things I could be doing with my TIME as well".

The price desensitization is scary too, I remember flipping through Vogue in high school thinking 'who would ever spend $400 on a shirt?!" Now it's like, 'ok $400, I can afford that, could be worse" :huh:

I too like @Daosabao have felt discontented in some ways after discovering Hermes, to the point where my partner commented how much time I spend browsing, planning and thinking about it. I guess it's the allure, exclusivity and certainly FOMO. We're human after all and taking a step back to analyze and recognize it is a great first step.

I saved for most of my life but it wasn't until I saw a lot of people around me get sick and pass early that I realized we can't take it with us. Yes buy what makes you happy, but also do it in a way that doesn't bring you sadness or despair or guilt. I still struggle with the last part sometimes but it's good to know other people feel similarly :smile:
excellent post!
So great to see you back here! Such an interesting journey you describe. Thank you.
I also enjoy "the long game that requires patience and persistence" although I seem to be nearing the finish line, as there are very few grails left on my list. And I balance that with the frenzy for the new season (I am learning to enjoy a little bit of that rush, without going overboard). I also enjoy real life meetups with other scarfies. There is something satisfying emotionally about that.
Thats a great idea towards finding a balance!

I adore this thread and really love how passionate everyone has been about the topic, and that so many people are contributing here! I finally would like to weigh in. I hope that it is okay that I share about my experience with H as a whole. I am addicted to H, and not just scarves. I love my H family. My stores have always been like families because I've shopped with the two smallest boutiques in the whole country. I love visiting and chatting with the staff about things that aren't related to H. My daughter was still in my belly when I first started shopping at my home store, so they've watched her get bigger and bigger. I enjoy the treatment I receive in my local store, where they will transfer things in for me with no problem and, most recently, secured a mini Roulis that I saw in person during my travels for me within a couple of hours. I love Hermes, from the craftsmanship to the variety of things they sell to the "hard-to-get" nature of many different pieces. I'm in a place in life where I'm attempting to acquire less clothing and shoes, so my attention has turned to scarves. I have 10 CSGMs, 11 silks (mostly 90 silks and washes but some smaller format cashmere/silk blends), 12 twillies, and 3 stoles. I do not wear a scarf every single day but I appreciate them almost everyday. I love them and, surprisingly, don't truly dislike anything that I have in my collection at this point. I do wear my newer pieces more than my older ones, like I don't pull out my gray men's C'est la Fete CSGM or my two bandana shawls often, but I still appreciate everything I have and enjoy rotating through. For me, what keeps me coming back for more is the draw to my next bag offer/purchase. I have FOMO about bags that I really want coming in and not being offered to me, so I visit often, which means that I purchase often. I would love to slow down, and have just a bit recently while waiting on this season's scarves, but need to figure out a pace/balance that is right for me.
I can definitely understand the FOMO
Thank you for this thread, dear Blydia. I hope, I am not being too honest in posting this ...
I'm one of the H addicts. So far. My friend had to exchange her les artisans - it had small runs and the hems looked somehow like they were rolled maybe too fast and somehow, well, without love. Personally I find the new technique less convincing. Where the scarves are folded or tied, I find the colour does not seem saturated to me. Somehow I don't feel as happy and satisfied after the purchases as before. To be honest, I am not fond of having to check the scarves and shawls every time at a house like H to get a flawless one. I have to admit, I find it somehow embarrasing too, standing in the boutique inspecting the scarves ... and than at home to sew on/fix the dropping big labels myself. My DH said, it might be useful to think a while before I buy, if the products will make me really happy or if I find myself more seduced by the nice service and the atmosphere, like in a kind of "shopping frenzy". Shopping in this league he wanted to see an all around happy wife.
I agree with this, I own 2 scarves that were released 9 years ago, the saturation from that release to my recent silks are very different. At least to me.
 
@blydia, thank you for opening this discussion, thanks to all the other ones for their input. I have been reading this discussion over the past few days and it gave me a lot to think about. There are several offers I passed on ever since. I will see later if I will regret that. But after getting into H at the beginning of 2015 I acquired about 100 scarves of all sizes. And I do like them all. But since my work attire is "hospital" and my life is "bicycle" there are not too many occasions to dress up besides conferences. But I don't care, I have beater scarves for cycling, wear the not so graily ones for grocery shopping. They bring me joy, I overhauled me wardrobe and appearance, I dress better since I got into H. And I do not miss the money spent (but oh yes, I got desensitized considering the prices!). Not needing a car makes life and finances easier. I am done hunting grails, the current season does not tempt me, last season I only got an "Index palmarum".
Do I need these scarves? No! But this is the definition on luxury: Do not need, but gives me a smile.

My problem is I read tpf and look at some reseller sites after work to unwind, looking at beauty makes me feel calm (love museums as well), and here a lot of eye candy is provided.
So far so good.
But every now and then I see a nice design at a CW I like at a good price. I like scarves that are not pristine, those get worn much more than the grails. And then I start pondering: should I spend money on this piece? Is it worth it? Do I need it? Will it make my heart sing? Will it get worn? (I bought "Les Normands" purely to have it, see recent post at SOTD) Then I start to add the item on a list or "like" it, make price offers. And then I feel relieved if they get declined :shocked:. I passed on getting a "Merveilles de vapeur" on VC because scrutinizing the photos it seemed to have many color runs from washing. I hate unpacking a preloved scarf that is in much worse condition than advertised. Thanks to this forum I got rather good at restoring them, but dye transfer :tdown:.
I am by far not as excited as the first few times I unboxed one. "Chasing the dragon" somebody named it.

I agree so much with the statement "You pay with time": This scarf is for the weekend I worked without a break!
But it is not only the time spent at work earning the money, it is the time spent thinking about what to get, whether to get something or not. Emotional and thought energy that could be used so much better.
Feeling relieved after deciding not to get something was an eye opener for me.

My colleagues at work are bragging about all the things they abstain from during lent: no caffeine, no sweets, no alcohol... Maybe I should try "No reseller sites, not buying any more H"
More time for reading, journaling, learning for a new hobby...

So, thanks again for all the input!
 
@blydia, thank you for opening this discussion, thanks to all the other ones for their input. I have been reading this discussion over the past few days and it gave me a lot to think about. There are several offers I passed on ever since. I will see later if I will regret that. But after getting into H at the beginning of 2015 I acquired about 100 scarves of all sizes. And I do like them all. But since my work attire is "hospital" and my life is "bicycle" there are not too many occasions to dress up besides conferences. But I don't care, I have beater scarves for cycling, wear the not so graily ones for grocery shopping. They bring me joy, I overhauled me wardrobe and appearance, I dress better since I got into H. And I do not miss the money spent (but oh yes, I got desensitized considering the prices!). Not needing a car makes life and finances easier. I am done hunting grails, the current season does not tempt me, last season I only got an "Index palmarum".
Do I need these scarves? No! But this is the definition on luxury: Do not need, but gives me a smile.

My problem is I read tpf and look at some reseller sites after work to unwind, looking at beauty makes me feel calm (love museums as well), and here a lot of eye candy is provided.
So far so good.
But every now and then I see a nice design at a CW I like at a good price. I like scarves that are not pristine, those get worn much more than the grails. And then I start pondering: should I spend money on this piece? Is it worth it? Do I need it? Will it make my heart sing? Will it get worn? (I bought "Les Normands" purely to have it, see recent post at SOTD) Then I start to add the item on a list or "like" it, make price offers. And then I feel relieved if they get declined :shocked:. I passed on getting a "Merveilles de vapeur" on VC because scrutinizing the photos it seemed to have many color runs from washing. I hate unpacking a preloved scarf that is in much worse condition than advertised. Thanks to this forum I got rather good at restoring them, but dye transfer :tdown:.
I am by far not as excited as the first few times I unboxed one. "Chasing the dragon" somebody named it.

I agree so much with the statement "You pay with time": This scarf is for the weekend I worked without a break!
But it is not only the time spent at work earning the money, it is the time spent thinking about what to get, whether to get something or not. Emotional and thought energy that could be used so much better.
Feeling relieved after deciding not to get something was an eye opener for me.

My colleagues at work are bragging about all the things they abstain from during lent: no caffeine, no sweets, no alcohol... Maybe I should try "No reseller sites, not buying any more H"
More time for reading, journaling, learning for a new hobby...

So, thanks again for all the input!
“Giving up H for Lent”....hmmmm, that’s quite a good idea: a nice concise meaningful break.
 
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