Scarves Scarfaholics Anonymous - shopping and mental health

[blydia]

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've stealthily made a disappearance off all social media (...again) after seeing all those scarfspiration pictures fuelled my buying in unhealthy ways (and also I really don't like facebook).

I'm also experiencing some changing life circumstances, I'm expecting a baby girl this summer (my first). So I decided to go through my scarf collection and cull a bit, since I was feeling overwhelmed by it, felt like i didn't give everything enough love and I had the weirdest phenomenon that looking at some colorways made me nauseous crazy, huh? smells wasn't bad for me but some colors lol

anyways. I went through my a bit over 30 scarves without judging when I bought them, and to my chagrin, many of the ones I let go were more recent purchases. So here's the hall of fame of the ones left behind, some of which are probably surprising, some aren't. Some of the main reasons were they don't make my heart sing, I don't feel like "i can't wait to wear it again" or they literally make me nauseous (flowers of SA, chemins de corail especially). Others I could only wear one way (Acte III) or they somehow worked on me but not with my wardrobe (artisanes). Many were too high in contrast for my soft autumn coloring and felt separate from me. Many are CSGMs - I seem to have a strong preference to wearing 90s and CSGM take a lot of wear to bring down cost per wear, but are also showing wear more quickly.

With the abysmal hit rate I've had with my recent purchases I'm really staying on ban island at the moment and fortunately, this season's collection is making it easy because there is nothing I remotely like (yay!).

obviously it's kinda wasteful to be buying and then reselling so quickly but my net final cost per wear for many of these is sub 10$ which to me is a luxury I am willing to splurge on (and is learning money I guess). I'm hopeful that I can bring down my avg cost per wear with the rest of my collection which i cherish even more after this most recent cull.
Please don't judge

 

[Foxy trini]

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've stealthily made a disappearance off all social media (...again) after seeing all those scarfspiration pictures fuelled my buying in unhealthy ways (and also I really don't like facebook).

I'm also experiencing some changing life circumstances, I'm expecting a baby girl this summer (my first). So I decided to go through my scarf collection and cull a bit, since I was feeling overwhelmed by it, felt like i didn't give everything enough love and I had the weirdest phenomenon that looking at some colorways made me nauseous crazy, huh? smells wasn't bad for me but some colors lol

anyways. I went through my a bit over 30 scarves without judging when I bought them, and to my chagrin, many of the ones I let go were more recent purchases. So here's the hall of fame of the ones left behind, some of which are probably surprising, some aren't. Some of the main reasons were they don't make my heart sing, I don't feel like "i can't wait to wear it again" or they literally make me nauseous (flowers of SA, chemins de corail especially). Others I could only wear one way (Acte III) or they somehow worked on me but not with my wardrobe (artisanes). Many were too high in contrast for my soft autumn coloring and felt separate from me. Many are CSGMs - I seem to have a strong preference to wearing 90s and CSGM take a lot of wear to bring down cost per wear, but are also showing wear more quickly.

With the abysmal hit rate I've had with my recent purchases I'm really staying on ban island at the moment and fortunately, this season's collection is making it easy because there is nothing I remotely like (yay!).

obviously it's kinda wasteful to be buying and then reselling so quickly but my net final cost per wear for many of these is sub 10$ which to me is a luxury I am willing to splurge on (and is learning money I guess). I'm hopeful that I can bring down my avg cost per wear with the rest of my collection which i cherish even more after this most recent cull.
Please don't judge


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OMG!! HUGE CONGRATS to you on your expected baby and moving from tying scarves to tying swaddles. What a huge bright spot in these days of grim news cycles. Your culling and honesty with yourself are so refreshing. I am pretty shocked at some of what is leaving/has left but you know your tastes and collection best. I too need to do some culling and this is super inspiring.

 

[Langsam]

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've stealthily made a disappearance off all social media (...again) after seeing all those scarfspiration pictures fuelled my buying in unhealthy ways (and also I really don't like facebook).

I'm also experiencing some changing life circumstances, I'm expecting a baby girl this summer (my first). So I decided to go through my scarf collection and cull a bit, since I was feeling overwhelmed by it, felt like i didn't give everything enough love and I had the weirdest phenomenon that looking at some colorways made me nauseous crazy, huh? smells wasn't bad for me but some colors lol

anyways. I went through my a bit over 30 scarves without judging when I bought them, and to my chagrin, many of the ones I let go were more recent purchases. So here's the hall of fame of the ones left behind, some of which are probably surprising, some aren't. Some of the main reasons were they don't make my heart sing, I don't feel like "i can't wait to wear it again" or they literally make me nauseous (flowers of SA, chemins de corail especially). Others I could only wear one way (Acte III) or they somehow worked on me but not with my wardrobe (artisanes). Many were too high in contrast for my soft autumn coloring and felt separate from me. Many are CSGMs - I seem to have a strong preference to wearing 90s and CSGM take a lot of wear to bring down cost per wear, but are also showing wear more quickly.

With the abysmal hit rate I've had with my recent purchases I'm really staying on ban island at the moment and fortunately, this season's collection is making it easy because there is nothing I remotely like (yay!).

obviously it's kinda wasteful to be buying and then reselling so quickly but my net final cost per wear for many of these is sub 10$ which to me is a luxury I am willing to splurge on (and is learning money I guess). I'm hopeful that I can bring down my avg cost per wear with the rest of my collection which i cherish even more after this most recent cull.
Please don't judge


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Congratulations on your expectancy, how exciting! I too am in awe of your candidness and willingness to take action to hone your collection to "only that which makes your heart sing". Would love to see your favorites that made the cut, sometime. You have such a beautiful scarf collection and wardrobe, and outstanding style in how you put it all together.

 

[paula24jen]

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've stealthily made a disappearance off all social media (...again) after seeing all those scarfspiration pictures fuelled my buying in unhealthy ways (and also I really don't like facebook).

I'm also experiencing some changing life circumstances, I'm expecting a baby girl this summer (my first). So I decided to go through my scarf collection and cull a bit, since I was feeling overwhelmed by it, felt like i didn't give everything enough love and I had the weirdest phenomenon that looking at some colorways made me nauseous crazy, huh? smells wasn't bad for me but some colors lol

anyways. I went through my a bit over 30 scarves without judging when I bought them, and to my chagrin, many of the ones I let go were more recent purchases. So here's the hall of fame of the ones left behind, some of which are probably surprising, some aren't. Some of the main reasons were they don't make my heart sing, I don't feel like "i can't wait to wear it again" or they literally make me nauseous (flowers of SA, chemins de corail especially). Others I could only wear one way (Acte III) or they somehow worked on me but not with my wardrobe (artisanes). Many were too high in contrast for my soft autumn coloring and felt separate from me. Many are CSGMs - I seem to have a strong preference to wearing 90s and CSGM take a lot of wear to bring down cost per wear, but are also showing wear more quickly.

With the abysmal hit rate I've had with my recent purchases I'm really staying on ban island at the moment and fortunately, this season's collection is making it easy because there is nothing I remotely like (yay!).

obviously it's kinda wasteful to be buying and then reselling so quickly but my net final cost per wear for many of these is sub 10$ which to me is a luxury I am willing to splurge on (and is learning money I guess). I'm hopeful that I can bring down my avg cost per wear with the rest of my collection which i cherish even more after this most recent cull.
Please don't judge


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Firstly congratulations on your impending motherhood, such an exciting time for you! It's best to be honest with yourself about what works for you, and the scarves that didn't make the cut for you will surely make someone else's heart sing though...

 

[QueenieQ]

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've stealthily made a disappearance off all social media (...again) after seeing all those scarfspiration pictures fuelled my buying in unhealthy ways (and also I really don't like facebook).

I'm also experiencing some changing life circumstances, I'm expecting a baby girl this summer (my first). So I decided to go through my scarf collection and cull a bit, since I was feeling overwhelmed by it, felt like i didn't give everything enough love and I had the weirdest phenomenon that looking at some colorways made me nauseous crazy, huh? smells wasn't bad for me but some colors lol

anyways. I went through my a bit over 30 scarves without judging when I bought them, and to my chagrin, many of the ones I let go were more recent purchases. So here's the hall of fame of the ones left behind, some of which are probably surprising, some aren't. Some of the main reasons were they don't make my heart sing, I don't feel like "i can't wait to wear it again" or they literally make me nauseous (flowers of SA, chemins de corail especially). Others I could only wear one way (Acte III) or they somehow worked on me but not with my wardrobe (artisanes). Many were too high in contrast for my soft autumn coloring and felt separate from me. Many are CSGMs - I seem to have a strong preference to wearing 90s and CSGM take a lot of wear to bring down cost per wear, but are also showing wear more quickly.

With the abysmal hit rate I've had with my recent purchases I'm really staying on ban island at the moment and fortunately, this season's collection is making it easy because there is nothing I remotely like (yay!).

obviously it's kinda wasteful to be buying and then reselling so quickly but my net final cost per wear for many of these is sub 10$ which to me is a luxury I am willing to splurge on (and is learning money I guess). I'm hopeful that I can bring down my avg cost per wear with the rest of my collection which i cherish even more after this most recent cull.
Please don't judge


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So happy for you and your family! I always enjoy your fashion thoughts. I understand that social media could sometimes be overwhelming, I do hope that you will post again on IG from time to time.

 

[Bova123]

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've stealthily made a disappearance off all social media (...again) after seeing all those scarfspiration pictures fuelled my buying in unhealthy ways (and also I really don't like facebook).

I'm also experiencing some changing life circumstances, I'm expecting a baby girl this summer (my first). So I decided to go through my scarf collection and cull a bit, since I was feeling overwhelmed by it, felt like i didn't give everything enough love and I had the weirdest phenomenon that looking at some colorways made me nauseous crazy, huh? smells wasn't bad for me but some colors lol

anyways. I went through my a bit over 30 scarves without judging when I bought them, and to my chagrin, many of the ones I let go were more recent purchases. So here's the hall of fame of the ones left behind, some of which are probably surprising, some aren't. Some of the main reasons were they don't make my heart sing, I don't feel like "i can't wait to wear it again" or they literally make me nauseous (flowers of SA, chemins de corail especially). Others I could only wear one way (Acte III) or they somehow worked on me but not with my wardrobe (artisanes). Many were too high in contrast for my soft autumn coloring and felt separate from me. Many are CSGMs - I seem to have a strong preference to wearing 90s and CSGM take a lot of wear to bring down cost per wear, but are also showing wear more quickly.

With the abysmal hit rate I've had with my recent purchases I'm really staying on ban island at the moment and fortunately, this season's collection is making it easy because there is nothing I remotely like (yay!).

obviously it's kinda wasteful to be buying and then reselling so quickly but my net final cost per wear for many of these is sub 10$ which to me is a luxury I am willing to splurge on (and is learning money I guess). I'm hopeful that I can bring down my avg cost per wear with the rest of my collection which i cherish even more after this most recent cull.
Please don't judge


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Congratulations on your exciting news @blydia! I have always admired your style and your honesty! You will make an amazing mom!!

 

[Pirula]

Congratulations and blessings on your little girl @blydia! So exciting...

 

[dublineuse]

Congratulations on your news I am delighted for you!!
I love reading you and seeing your pictures, as always, you are a true inspiration !!
Can you tell us what's left in your collection now?

 

[blydia]

thank you all so much! It was a long journey here and we are over the moon to finally be expecting a little addition to our family

on popular request, here's my current collection, screen shotted from stylebook. You can see the Kawa Ora CSGM and Plumes CSGM are still in there because they sit in trial separation, may still change my mind on those.

 

[Nomad]

thank you all so much! It was a long journey here and we are over the moon to finally be expecting a little addition to our family

on popular request, here's my current collection, screen shotted from stylebook. You can see the Kawa Ora CSGM and Plumes CSGM are still in there because they sit in trial separation, may still change my mind on those.

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Awesome collection with many envy worthy patterns! Congratulations on both the fine tuned collection and the new addition!

 

[Pirula]

thank you all so much! It was a long journey here and we are over the moon to finally be expecting a little addition to our family

on popular request, here's my current collection, screen shotted from stylebook. You can see the Kawa Ora CSGM and Plumes CSGM are still in there because they sit in trial separation, may still change my mind on those.

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Wonderful. I’m glad you’re keeping Cosmographia. It’s was your pictures on Instagram (miss you) that made me fall in love with it and we are now twins! Also twins on the Plumes csgm and how you could even think of parting with it....

 

[blydia]

Wonderful. I’m glad you’re keeping Cosmographia. It’s was your pictures on Instagram (miss you) that made me fall in love with it and we are now twins! Also twins on the Plumes csgm and how you could even think of parting with it....

I would never get rid of cosmo! so glad to be your twin
yeah I don't know why plumes and I haven't clicked. Maybe i need to wait for summer and see whether I reach for it with my summer wardrobe/tan more. It is kind of a summery design, same for kawa actually. hence why they're in trial separation

 

[Langsam]

thank you all so much! It was a long journey here and we are over the moon to finally be expecting a little addition to our family

on popular request, here's my current collection, screen shotted from stylebook. You can see the Kawa Ora CSGM and Plumes CSGM are still in there because they sit in trial separation, may still change my mind on those.

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What a beautiful, cohesive yet varied collection! Just marvelous.

 

[ichimatsu]

Huge congrats on the wonderful baby news!
Really miss your pics on IG, although I get that social media can be nauseating from time to time.

 

[turfnsurf]

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've stealthily made a disappearance off all social media (...again) after seeing all those scarfspiration pictures fuelled my buying in unhealthy ways (and also I really don't like facebook).

I'm also experiencing some changing life circumstances, I'm expecting a baby girl this summer (my first). So I decided to go through my scarf collection and cull a bit, since I was feeling overwhelmed by it, felt like i didn't give everything enough love and I had the weirdest phenomenon that looking at some colorways made me nauseous crazy, huh? smells wasn't bad for me but some colors lol

anyways. I went through my a bit over 30 scarves without judging when I bought them, and to my chagrin, many of the ones I let go were more recent purchases. So here's the hall of fame of the ones left behind, some of which are probably surprising, some aren't. Some of the main reasons were they don't make my heart sing, I don't feel like "i can't wait to wear it again" or they literally make me nauseous (flowers of SA, chemins de corail especially). Others I could only wear one way (Acte III) or they somehow worked on me but not with my wardrobe (artisanes). Many were too high in contrast for my soft autumn coloring and felt separate from me. Many are CSGMs - I seem to have a strong preference to wearing 90s and CSGM take a lot of wear to bring down cost per wear, but are also showing wear more quickly.

With the abysmal hit rate I've had with my recent purchases I'm really staying on ban island at the moment and fortunately, this season's collection is making it easy because there is nothing I remotely like (yay!).

obviously it's kinda wasteful to be buying and then reselling so quickly but my net final cost per wear for many of these is sub 10$ which to me is a luxury I am willing to splurge on (and is learning money I guess). I'm hopeful that I can bring down my avg cost per wear with the rest of my collection which i cherish even more after this most recent cull.
Please don't judge


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WONDERFUL news!!
Congratulations on your happy event

Sounds like you’re in an excellent head space and have approached your cull thoughtfully. What a gift to confidently apply specific standards in perfecting your wardrobe... having clarity such as knowing you look best in lower contrast will serve you well.

I admire your strength to part with the less-than-perfects; I have good intentions then waffle when it comes down to saying goodbye.

Hoping you pop in to TPF from time to time (especially with a few baby pix). I know your CSGMs are on trial, but at least one should stay (I vote Plumes); you can wrap baby in it for some amazing family pics.