Maintaining an H relationship

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Please focus on the title of this thread rather than each other, TY

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PaperbagPrincessD said:
I think some people said it was ok to ask on email if that is our normal method of communication. Not sure if it was this thread of another.
I kind of just asked her for any suggestions on what I can do to be considered for getting the bags I want. I have a list of bags/colors that I want in my mind already.
Well since she knows I want one now I’ll leave the ball in her court to offer me one when she can.
I’m not really in a rush anyway. I have barely worn the ones I currently have. I just wanted her to know that I’m interested I guess.
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You're fine. When you go in to pick up the earrings, I would just casually mention "so I just wanted to confirm that you got my email about the Kelly bag..."
 
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DDCHA said:
Hi! I’ve made Hermes purchases in Europe and US and all as wondering if the computer systems are linked so stores in Europe know what was purchased in US and vice verse? Just curious thanks!!
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They can only see what purchases are made within the country. They don't have a global system yet. If I purchase something from a store in another city or online then they can see.
 
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PaperbagPrincessD said:
Ok. So for sure that won’t come off as too aggressive or me being annoying?
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I mean, I guess it's all in the delivery but no, I wouldn't think so. I always cage my requests with "I know it might take awhile but I thought I'd let you know that my dream bag is X, just in case one happens to come along..."
 
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acrowcounted said:
I mean, I guess it's all in the delivery but no, I wouldn't think so. I always cage my requests with "I know it might take awhile but I thought I'd let you know that my dream bag is X, just in case one happens to come along..."
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At what point in your relationship (time frame, $ spent) do you think it's okay to bring this up? There are no rules which makes it difficult. I'm just getting into Hermes myself, finding out what I like/love.
 
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PaperbagPrincessD said:
I think some people said it was ok to ask on email if that is our normal method of communication. Not sure if it was this thread of another.
I kind of just asked her for any suggestions on what I can do to be considered for getting the bags I want. I have a list of bags/colors that I want in my mind already.
Well since she knows I want one now I’ll leave the ball in her court to offer me one when she can.
I’m not really in a rush anyway. I have barely worn the ones I currently have. I just wanted her to know that I’m interested I guess.
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so why do you want a bag now if you don't carry what own? I don't understand... you're being aggressive in my opinion and it's only been a few weeks since you were here asking if buying a few things you don't want would get you a b/k.

I guess you're only interested in feedback that reinforces what you want to hear.
 
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MSO13 said:
so why do you want a bag now if you don't carry what own? I don't understand... you're being aggressive in my opinion and it's only been a few weeks since you were here asking if buying a few things you don't want would get you a b/k.

I guess you're only interested in feedback that reinforces what you want to hear.
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I know that it can take a few months or even over a year to get a bag which is why I wanted to let my SA know sooner than later. Other members on here said that SAs aren’t mind readers and it doesn’t hurt to let them know (as many on here have done so early on their relationships). I didn’t think that by mentioning it I would get one right away or anytime soon. I just wanted to put it out there and hopefully be able to get one this year.
My message that started this conversation was to ask what to make of her not responding to that specific email. As I’ve stated, some people on this site told me that it’s okay to ask on email if that is our primary method of communicating. So I did that. Which is why I posted to ask what could have went wrong.
 
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PaperbagPrincessD said:
I think some people said it was ok to ask on email if that is our normal method of communication. Not sure if it was this thread of another.
I kind of just asked her for any suggestions on what I can do to be considered for getting the bags I want. I have a list of bags/colors that I want in my mind already.
Well since she knows I want one now I’ll leave the ball in her court to offer me one when she can.
I’m not really in a rush anyway. I have barely worn the ones I currently have. I just wanted her to know that I’m interested I guess.
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there's really no 'one way' of doing it for h. It depends on a lot of things, like your SA, your delivery of requests, your purchase history, and your store. My personal experience (and I have worked with the same SA and the same store for years) is that I email her to inquire about non B/K stuff, she'll respond quickly, and I'll go into the store to pick them up. I don't always have B/K/C on my mind, so no, I don't always ask for it. When I do have a target bag, I would ask her about it casually in person (no matter how good she is with emailing back, I agree with other posters here that says that it's not a subject you want to discuss in an email, especially peppered with "what do i need to do?"). This is my approach for years, and it has always worked and I get what I want every semester.

Late last December, my SA asked me to email her my wishlist for the following year, so I did. But that was the very first time I sent anything B/K/C related in an email, and it was at the invitation of my SA. I gave her my list and a few weeks later one item showed up. Prior to this, it was very much a casual convo without the consistent "where's my B / K"?
 
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Can anyone recommend a good SA at the Hermes South Coast Plaza in CA? My one and only experience with Hermes was when I went there this month to buy a bastia coin purse. I had called the day earlier and the SA said she would hold it for me for the following day. She unfortunately was off the next day, but she told me to ask for it under her box. I thought that was very nice of her as I thought they couldn't hold items for more than a day. The next day, I met another nice SA who helped me retrieve it and rang it up giving the original SA the sale. The second SA showed me things but wasn't pushy about it, which I appreciated. When I go back in the future, who is the SA I go to? The one who held the coin purse for me over the phone or the SA who helped me in the store that day? Sorry if this is confusing.
 
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closetlux said:
Can anyone recommend a good SA at the Hermes South Coast Plaza in CA? My one and only experience with Hermes was when I went there this month to buy a bastia coin purse. I had called the day earlier and the SA said she would hold it for me for the following day. She unfortunately was off the next day, but she told me to ask for it under her box. I thought that was very nice of her as I thought they couldn't hold items for more than a day. The next day, I met another nice SA who helped me retrieve it and rang it up giving the original SA the sale. The second SA showed me things but wasn't pushy about it, which I appreciated. When I go back in the future, who is the SA I go to? The one who held the coin purse for me over the phone or the SA who helped me in the store that day? Sorry if this is confusing.
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Whichever one you think you had the best connection with!
 
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kathydep said:
Yep, at this point, there are no strings attached from anyone of them from your 1st trip so you are free to choose! Hope you pick the best one because after the 2nd trip, they will remember you and it will be awkward to change at that point. Good luck!
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The SA on the phone has been with Hermes for 7 years and the one I met in the store has been with Hermes for 4 years. My DH got a good vibe from the SA we met in the store. I'm in no hurry for a B/K. I'm going to take my time to learn and enjoy all things Hermes.
 
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PaperbagPrincessD said:
I know that it can take a few months or even over a year to get a bag which is why I wanted to let my SA know sooner than later. Other members on here said that SAs aren’t mind readers and it doesn’t hurt to let them know (as many on here have done so early on their relationships). I didn’t think that by mentioning it I would get one right away or anytime soon. I just wanted to put it out there and hopefully be able to get one this year.
My message that started this conversation was to ask what to make of her not responding to that specific email. As I’ve stated, some people on this site told me that it’s okay to ask on email if that is our primary method of communicating. So I did that. Which is why I posted to ask what could have went wrong.
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I think we've hammered this topic to death.
 
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