Maintaining an H relationship

[papertiger]

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[awx]

hi i have a bit of a silly question for yall

today i was working with a new SA and at the end of our appt, he really pressed me with a cheeky wink if there was "aaaaaanything, anything at all" that i was looking for or wanting. so i finally said my dream would be a b25 in the future and he said "whoa let's not get ahead of ourselves!" in a joking way and we all laughed. My DH, bless his heart lol, accompanied me and he added in, "she's been on a bag hunt!!" I definitely cringed a bit and thought I felt the SA's light-hearted mood shift a little, but hopefully i'm overthinking things.

While i absolutely would love a qb, i'm not here to just buy things just for a bag - but worried now that DH gave the wrong impression. Just wanted to ask what everyone thought - am i just overthinking? D:

Thank you!!

 

[LKNN]

hi i have a bit of a silly question for yall

today i was working with a new SA and at the end of our appt, he really pressed me with a cheeky wink if there was "aaaaaanything, anything at all" that i was looking for or wanting. so i finally said my dream would be a b25 in the future and he said "whoa let's not get ahead of ourselves!" in a joking way and we all laughed. My DH, bless his heart lol, accompanied me and he added in, "she's been on a bag hunt!!" I definitely cringed a bit and thought I felt the SA's light-hearted mood shift a little, but hopefully i'm overthinking things.

While i absolutely would love a qb, i'm not here to just buy things just for a bag - but worried now that DH gave the wrong impression. Just wanted to ask what everyone thought - am i just overthinking? D:

Thank you!!

Yes-- I think you're overthinking the interaction... to the point where you may inadvertently be throwing poor DH under the bus for his cute/ candid comment. If you're really there to shop, and see a qb as an added bonus-- that will be obvious to your SA as you shop more with them. No need to worry. Nonetheless, i would also not hesitate to express your desire for a qb at some point in the near future.

 

[mauihappyplace]

hi i have a bit of a silly question for yall

today i was working with a new SA and at the end of our appt, he really pressed me with a cheeky wink if there was "aaaaaanything, anything at all" that i was looking for or wanting. so i finally said my dream would be a b25 in the future and he said "whoa let's not get ahead of ourselves!" in a joking way and we all laughed. My DH, bless his heart lol, accompanied me and he added in, "she's been on a bag hunt!!" I definitely cringed a bit and thought I felt the SA's light-hearted mood shift a little, but hopefully i'm overthinking things.

While i absolutely would love a qb, i'm not here to just buy things just for a bag - but worried now that DH gave the wrong impression. Just wanted to ask what everyone thought - am i just overthinking? D:

Thank you!!

He asked you a question and you responded with a reasonable answer. Your husband made a lighthearted comment. Normal interaction. Don’t overthink it

 

[awx]

@LKNN @mauihappyplace thank you for your insights!! def comforting since i'm a chronic overthinker lol thank you for shifting my perspective!!

 

[Fertmd101]

hi i have a bit of a silly question for yall

today i was working with a new SA and at the end of our appt, he really pressed me with a cheeky wink if there was "aaaaaanything, anything at all" that i was looking for or wanting. so i finally said my dream would be a b25 in the future and he said "whoa let's not get ahead of ourselves!" in a joking way and we all laughed. My DH, bless his heart lol, accompanied me and he added in, "she's been on a bag hunt!!" I definitely cringed a bit and thought I felt the SA's light-hearted mood shift a little, but hopefully i'm overthinking things.

While i absolutely would love a qb, i'm not here to just buy things just for a bag - but worried now that DH gave the wrong impression. Just wanted to ask what everyone thought - am i just overthinking? D:

Thank you!!

Omg! My husband did the same exact thing and I was mortified as both my husband and my SA poked fun at me, but I don’t think it effected anything. I totally get how you feel haha

Ultimately, if you have a quota bag on your wishlist then your SA knows you really want it at some point. As long as you/your DH don’t come off as mean, demanding, etc. I think that’s all that matters.

 

[mauihappyplace]

He asked you a question and you responded with a reasonable answer. Your husband made a lighthearted comment. Normal interaction. Don’t overthink it

Don’t feel bad…
One of my friends asked my SA why I wasn’t being offered another SO… my SA and I have a good relationship and she knows my friend a little bc she comes with me to some of my appts. She is not an H client… it was awkward for a few minutes but we all moved along ( I think that was last year) and I would really like another SO. I have been offered several QB since that awkward pause… some I have accepted some I have rejected. I guess she knows I would like another SO

 

[awx]

So glad I’m not the only one haha thank you everyone!!

 

[aa_]

Also charge sends are work for your home store without much reward as the sending store gets credit for the sale which helps them earn bonuses and more budget for bag orders. Most H employees I’ve encountered don’t like to talk about the “back of house” stuff and will just say whatever the client expects or whatever is polite customer service (ie in the US they say “buying other things isn’t required for a birkin offer” “oh yes we can definitely put you on a list for that” and they won’t talk about commission structures or how best to buy, we’ve seen this a lot with SAs saying it’s not a problem to shop online or that they don’t mind when you shop at a different store while on vacation, when we know for a fact it should be avoided and the SAs are just giving the answer that’s good for the company even though it’s bad for the customer). Maybe I’m biased but I feel there is more honest info from this forum than from putting the SM on the spot with a question they don’t want to answer. IMO she is trying to answer this question for you subtly by not replying to you immediately and hoping you will take the hint. I highly suspect that if you ask them bluntly if they are ok with you making charge sends from other stores all the time, their answer will be along the lines of “what? Oh yes of course that’s fine! I mean sometimes it takes a little more effort…and we are always worried that the item won’t come through…and sometimes we have to call the other store 3 or 4 times to get them to ship it and it can take weeks…but yes, of course we can do a charge send, it’s part of the job!” which any thinking person should translate into “no, dear, please don’t”

So insightful. Thanks for sharing

 

[thepeanutgal]

I have an odd question. My mom has been reserving stuff under my name but she buys under her profile.

Don’t ask why because it doesn’t make sense to me.

Will my associate at my home store see? I don’t want for her to think I’m cheating on her when I’m not!

 

[acrowcounted]

I have an odd question. My mom has been reserving stuff under my name but she buys under her profile.

Don’t ask why because it doesn’t make sense to me.

Will my associate at my home store see? I don’t want for her to think I’m cheating on her when I’m not!

Yes your SA will see these as “orders” under your account until your mom buys them. SA will def think you are working with someone else (and will likely be confused as to why there are no actual purchases under another SA). It will perpetually look like you are waiting for the other SA to get back to you. It’s weird that your mom‘s SA is even okay with this but definitely have your mother stop.

 

[thepeanutgal]

Yes your SA will see these as “orders” under your account until your mom buys them. SA will def think you are working with someone else (and will likely be confused as to why there are no actual purchases under another SA). It will perpetually look like you are waiting for the other SA to get back to you. It’s weird that your mom‘s SA is even okay with this but definitely have your mother stop.

First time around it’s because she didn’t have her own profile. I understood that but she promptly created one and got friendly with her SA. Her SA for some reason always remember my name (probably because my mom’s name is foreign) and put hold labels with my name on it.

I didn’t know this was happening until today!

 

[880]

First time around it’s because she didn’t have her own profile. I understood that but she promptly created one and got friendly with her SA. Her SA for some reason always remember my name (probably because my mom’s name is foreign) and put hold labels with my name on it.

I didn’t know this was happening until today!

Perhaps, as a courtesy, you might let your own SA know this was happening

 

[glena0710]

Has anyone here experienced flexibility towards the rule that an SO counts as a quota bag?
I had made several large purchases last year (around 3-4x) up to receiving my SO offer last year. (I didn’t receive a bag for the rest of that year.)
My SO arrived recently, so I’ve already met my 2 bag yearly quota. But I’ve requested several high-priced pieces from the upcoming RTW collection that will easily exceed my normal spending for a quota bag. In my experience I’ve only received offers shortly after large purchases, which makes me wary of spending so much if my SA might “forget” about it until the next year.
I’m not sure if there is any leniency for this rule and I might have luck in requesting for one - a seasonal color I’ve wanted for a long time has finally returned, and I’d love to get it before it becomes hard to find.

 

[acrowcounted]

Has anyone here experienced flexibility towards the rule that an SO counts as a quota bag?
I had made several large purchases last year (around 3-4x) up to receiving my SO offer last year. (I didn’t receive a bag for the rest of that year.)
My SO arrived recently, so I’ve already met my 2 bag yearly quota. But I’ve requested several high-priced pieces from the upcoming RTW collection that will easily exceed my normal spending for a quota bag. In my experience I’ve only received offers shortly after large purchases, which makes me wary of spending so much if my SA might “forget” about it until the next year.
I’m not sure if there is any leniency for this rule and I might have luck in requesting for one - a seasonal color I’ve wanted for a long time has finally returned, and I’d love to get it before it becomes hard to find.

Nope, receipt and payment of a SO is counted in the system as any other quota bag and they won’t make exceptions just because it became your second for the year. Your question in their ears will be “I know i already got two quota bags this year but I think I deserve a third so can we get an exception?” Hopefully your SA will reward your spend with other coveted items this year (whatever those might be to you: non quota mini bags, coveted shoes, Pegasus rodeos, etc) and get you your next bag early next year. (Though it should be noted that many folks are prespending 3-5x per quota bag these days so your circumstances might just be the norm anyway.)

 

[Buildingprofile]

Yes your SA will see these as “orders” under your account until your mom buys them. SA will def think you are working with someone else (and will likely be confused as to why there are no actual purchases under another SA). It will perpetually look like you are waiting for the other SA to get back to you. It’s weird that your mom‘s SA is even okay with this but definitely have your mother stop.

What’s the difference between “reserving” and being put on my SA’s wishlist for certain items? Is it just how different boutiques do things?

For example, I’ve apparently been reserved a non-popular non-qb at a non-local boutique I visited while on the road, and my local SA was able to see the reservation (she was not happy about it…, but what can I do; I certainly wasn’t going to turn down an offer, even one in the future)

But in so many boutiques, don’t they just keep saying that they have no idea what stock is coming next? How was that store I visited able (and willing) to reserve that bag for me months in advance of its arrival?

Thanks for any insights!