Maintaining an H relationship

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If your local store has not had the items in stock that you wish to buy, why should your SA be annoyed if you bought items from elsewhere. You have got to see this with a sense of perspective.
I understand that you’re not a fan of the way H requires many of us around the world to shop in order to be invited to purchase some of their more elusive items, and that you are located in the UK where these things might work a bit differently. However, this is the Maintaining a SA Relationship thread and to continue to provide “advice” that flies in the face of these “facts” simply because they don’t fit your world view is frustrating and potentially harmful to the folks you are advising. Yes, it shouldn’t matter if someone bought something online but the fact remains that it often does matter so to flippantly negate the concern is unhelpful, imo.
 
Hi! I was wondering if people share their online purchases/scores with their SA? Lately H.com has had a good amount of items in stock and I've purchased so many things online since the pandemic began... Fuzzy/teddy Orans, Chypre sandals, Calvi holder etc. My local boutique has been empty for a long time and whenever they receive anything it's gone in a flash! I wasn't sure if my SA would be annoyed if I told her I snagged all this H stuff online lol.

A good, seasoned SA wouldn't mind, though it will certainly slow you down from being offered a quota bag at that boutique since a good chunk of your spending has been done online and didn't go toward that SA/location. It kind of go hand in hand, each boutique is in competition with others. Top performing/selling boutiques simply get way more shipments on hard to find and popular items. If you don't make it known to the SA/SM that you're a loyal customer at their boutique, whenever a quota bag comes through they'll just prioritize it to the VIP or long time clients before they get to your wishlist. With that said, I wouldn't choose a SA who get easily offended or making weird faces just because I make random purchases on H.com. My SA has encouraged me to get the Picotin 18 I want if I can snatch one online, because the boutique hasn't gotten any bright/pastel colors for several months and she didn't want me to keep waiting. I also don't buy items that are easily accessible online, I'd just stop by the boutique to ask the SA to order them for me since they do have access to H.com inventory too.
 
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Hi! I was wondering if people share their online purchases/scores with their SA? Lately H.com has had a good amount of items in stock and I've purchased so many things online since the pandemic began... Fuzzy/teddy Orans, Chypre sandals, Calvi holder etc. My local boutique has been empty for a long time and whenever they receive anything it's gone in a flash! I wasn't sure if my SA would be annoyed if I told her I snagged all this H stuff online lol.

Honestly I think this kind of depends on the SA. I usually go through my SA first to see if it can be ordered through them. If not, I will order online, and this is usually full blessing from my SA who encourages me to snag it online if it’s available.
 
I was in the Beverly Hills store 3 weeks ago with my SA and he didn't have anything. He said he would "flag" a bunch of things (jewelry, bags, SLGs, RTW) for me and would let me know when they got a shipment. I haven't heard a peep. Is it normal to go this long without a shipment of anything? Should I reach out? Thanks!
That's very normal. Some things take months!
 
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How do your SAs respond/ react to returns or exchanges? Having buyer’s remorse currently over an impulse purchase but my relationship is relatively new and I don’t want to jeopardize it. I don’t want QBs in the future but I would really like a Constance (or a few!
I assume you would like the response to be, “ of course do the return, its fine.” I can say, though, that if I am unsure about an item, I discuss it with my SA, and 9 times out of ten, he dissuades me from purchase. He would rather I go home empty handed. That is because, in these days of scarce stock, he would rather sell it to someone who loves it.

I personally don’t buy something unless I’m sure I love it and won’t return. It’s not out of fear of my SAs reaction, but how I approach shopping in general. If you do decide to return, it’s helpful to course it through your SA and boutique so that they have the opportunity to re sell the item.

Buyers remorse is the most nebulous reason for return bc it’s not based on a specific tangible issue. An SA is a professional and has seen all sorts of behavior, including returns. I guess I would turn the question around to ask, why are you so worried that a single return would characterize or adversely affect your relationship. If there is barely anything to your purchase history, perhaps it will, at least until you generate more commerce. I would advise not making a habit of returns if you wish to establish a purchase history that will lead to multiple Constance bags. This is solely my own opinion, and YMMV.

note: I did change my mind on H deco tableware because I waited for months and months and nothing materialized. In the meantime, DH and I fell in love with different plates; discussed with my SA; and it was fine. No deposit; no purchase though.

I've had personal experiences before that things were "ordered" for me but literally did not arrive until almost a year later, sometimes in excess of that amount

I’ve been there. I prefer to ask my SA for something, and then try to forget about it, especially re home goods. That way, when it arrives, it’s a nice surprise.

Hi! I was wondering if people share their online purchases/scores with their SA? Lately H.com has had a good amount of items in stock and I've purchased so many things online since the pandemic began... Fuzzy/teddy Orans, Chypre sandals, Calvi holder etc. My local boutique has been empty for a long time and whenever they receive anything it's gone in a flash! I wasn't sure if my SA would be annoyed if I told her I snagged all this H stuff online lol.
The pandemic created different shopping habits, but for shoes and calvis, have you asked your SA for them? My SA is happy to source small things for me, even if it has to be a charge send. If your purchase history with your SA is substantial, perhaps a few pieces here and there will not matter, but if your boutique is relatively empty, I’m sure your SA would appreciate the opportunity to sell to you.

All of my comments above presuppose you wish to create sufficient purchase history for a bag. If that’s not the case, it may not matter if a client returns or purchases on line.

ETA: my strong feelings about returns in general color my response. Others may have different viewpoints.
 
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A good, seasoned SA wouldn't mind, though it will certainly slow you down from being offered a quota bag at that boutique since a good chunk of your spending has been done online and didn't go toward that SA/location. It kind of go hand in hand, each boutique is in competition with others. Top performing/selling boutiques simply get way more shipments on hard to find and popular items. If you don't make it known to the SA/SM that you're a loyal customer at their boutique, whenever a quota bag comes through they'll just prioritize it to the VIP or long time clients before they get to your wishlist. With that said, I wouldn't choose a SA who get easily offended or making weird faces just because I make random purchases on H.com. My SA has encouraged me to get the Picotin 18 I want if I can snatch one online, because the boutique hasn't gotten any bright/pastel colors for several months and she didn't want me to keep waiting. I also don't buy items that are easily accessible online, I'd just stop by the boutique to ask the SA to order them for me since they do have access to H.com inventory too.
Thank you! This is helpful. I genuinely love H items and don't always shop to meet an amount for a quota bag. But at the same time, it's been a long time (2-3 years) since I've been offered a quota bag. I have asked my SA at my boutique before ordering items online, but every item I've asked for she's told me its sold out and she can't order it. :(
 
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Thank you! This is helpful. I genuinely love H items and don't always shop to meet an amount for a quota bag. But at the same time, it's been a long time (2-3 years) since I've been offered a quota bag. I have asked my SA at my boutique before ordering items online, but every item I've asked for she's told me its sold out and she can't order it. :sad:
I don't think you should feel bad for placing online orders though, shipments have been spotty for many H boutiques but just be aware that when clients are not purchasing through the SA then it stalls the pre-spend to a quota bag offer. Of course not everybody buying H items is after a quota bag, sometimes we just want that specific scarf or a pair of Chypre that are becoming super hard to track down :lol: I love to collect rings and wear size 46 in H, unfortunately that size only pop up occasionally online and rarely in the US boutiques. My SA is aware of me buying fine jewelry pieces online or from other boutiques when I travel abroad, since she can't really get a hold of that size - either sold out online before she can get to it or none of the US boutiques have it for her to do charge send so she's totally cool with it. I'd still suggest checking with the SA first to see if she can source the items for you, if not, just go ahead with the online purchases. If she has problem with you purchasing items online (that she can't source) then it may be a sign to switch.
 
I wasn't sure if my SA would be annoyed if I told her I snagged all this H stuff online lol.

Yes, it shouldn’t matter if someone bought something online but the fact remains that it often does matter


@Chrismin narrated a situation where her SA spoke to her candidly about the effect of multiple on- line purchases here:
post 3383, p 226

 
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In purchasing items online when you have an SA, my suggestion is, if you feel comfortable enough to talk to them (and I hope that you do), ask them. I'll inquire about items in general and my SA will let me know if any of them should be ordered online. If there's something I've asked for that pops up online about which I've either previously inquired or really want and don't want to risk not getting, I'll say something to the extent of "I saw X online; would you rather me order it from you (or wait if I'd already asked) or should I order from the website?"

Asking them (at least until being told they'd prefer you not to order online) is the only way to know for your purchases, your wish list, your store, your store's SA, and your store's manager. Ordering a 7k watch online when you want a mauve sylvestre B25 is going to be received a lot differently than ordering a previous year's twilly that magically turned up on the website when the bulk of your purchases are fine jewelry and just want a neutral Bolide. It's a scale and the only way to really know is to ask. If you're an overthinker, it can be a bit awkward, but it's a better alternative than losing your standing with your SA or missing out on something you truly want. If you feel too uncomfortable to ask still, I think you have your answer.
 
Thank you! This is helpful. I genuinely love H items and don't always shop to meet an amount for a quota bag. But at the same time, it's been a long time (2-3 years) since I've been offered a quota bag. I have asked my SA at my boutique before ordering items online, but every item I've asked for she's told me its sold out and she can't order it. :sad:
My personal opinion is thus...
A sales associates role is to SELL, If she doesn't have the goods that you desire then how could she sell them to you?
I think it would be wrong of her in those circumstances to become unhappy with you for buying them online...Its not as if you brought them from another boutique?
She didn't offer to order them into store from the website so again I don't understand why this should affect her 'relationship' with you which after all is based on you being the client and her selling you goods that you want.
 
My personal opinion is thus...
A sales associates role is to SELL, If she doesn't have the goods that you desire then how could she sell them to you?
I think it would be wrong of her in those circumstances to become unhappy with you for buying them online...Its not as if you brought them from another boutique?
She didn't offer to order them into store from the website so again I don't understand why this should affect her 'relationship' with you which after all is based on you being the client and her selling you goods that you want.
I think nobody gets hurt if the customer is cool about not getting quota bag offer in a reasonably time period. The frustration comes only when the customer wants a quota bag but there is nothing to buy from this SA to reach this goal.
 
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