Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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I hate that. I always say that because I work in software I value intellectual property especially highly and can't imagine any circumstance under which I'd carry a fake. It's especially bad as I have relatives who proudly seek out the "Canal Street" bags.a "friends" wife told me "idk why anyone would buy real bags, fakes are just the same" said in a very condescending tone, like I was an idiot, upon seeing my bag
Bought my mom a Victoria II tote for her 50th. When my aunt saw she said to my mom that I am an "Idiot" and that "people without brains by stupid stuff like this." Her comments kinda ruined the bag for my mom and now it just sits in her closet...
i bet if it was gifted to her she would feel differently... hope ur mom gets over that drama soon...Bought my mom a Victoria II tote for her 50th. When my aunt saw she said to my mom that I am an "Idiot" and that "people without brains by stupid stuff like this." Her comments kinda ruined the bag for my mom and now it just sits in her closet...
Very good thought...
There is also one more important aspect:
People who make negative bag-related comments are not initiating the dialog, they in fact are responding to a communicative signal already given (unadvertedly or deliberately) by the bag wearer.
The whole point of owning/showing those bags is their exclusivity, huge value and status symbol nature. Nobody would buy a Birkin to wear on a desert island. It is the reactions of other people that make the H. bags so desirable. They make the owner come across as well off, successful, dominant, lucky etc.
Therefore we must realise that by wearing such a hugely expensive bag, unthinkable to have for most people, a person is in fact giving out a loud non-verbal massage.
Humans are very tuned-in to non-verbal communications, and wearing a bag is actually a form of a non-verbal statement.
Whether the bag-wearer wanted to make such a statement or not, does not matter, the statement is still given out : "I am holier than thou, I am rich, I am cool, I can splash £10K on a bag to carry my umbrella in, you poor guys must envy me, you will never be so lucky as I am", bla-bla-bla.
Many people react to such non-verbal statements by disgust, and respond to it by some negative (or implied-negative) comments.
This is nothing to do with jealosy, envy, etc. Many people believe that having so much "extra" disposable money makes a person able to do something worthwhile: help a school, or pay for someone's life saving surgery... They believe (rightly or wrongly) that it is selfish and unreasonable to spend all this powerful money on a bag.
Those people see that the person shows off their wealth/status/demands attention - so they give that person this attention, in the negative form.
If our wealth is nobody's business, why do we show it off. If we choose to demonstrate that we can spend on such a bag, it is a statement that we are happy to proclaim in public. Therefore it is only fair if people respond to this non-verbal proclamations by stares (non-verbal disapproval) or verbal comments.
If one looks at the comments from this point of view, these comments cease to be offensive, but become a conversation which can be ignored or respected.
Of course, a true friend would never make a negative comment about a bag. But by the same token, a true friend would not turn up to a meeting with a friend who does not approve extremely expensive bags, with a Birkin.
I couldn't care less whether or not others notice ,like or recognise my H bags.
I use them purely for the joy I get from the aesthetic and craftsmanship , and the admittedly sensuous pleasure from the feel of them .
I'm not a into colour and Birkins, I like under the radar or vintage bags .
For my desert island give me a Toile Garden Party , practical and fun.
When friends remarked my BBK circa 1967 looked like a briefcase and asked if it was from John Lewis [ UK bog-standard Everyman store ] I was very happy
You must be one helluva chic callcenter lady! You can call me anytime and talk about Hermes... Just don't talk to me about upgrading my internet data or land line... I am already at the max'ed out limit over here
Dear L.Voitton.Freak, may I have a few minutes of your time. We wanted to introduce or new wounderfull Kelly, mad in france, handstitched, funny popping colors. If you are interested, please press 1. If you want to speak to an operator, please press 2. If you allready hang up and headed to the Hermès store, please press 3.
No land lines, no internet datas, no insurances. Deal!
Hahhaaa Madam Bijoux, you mad me laugh so hard! I couldn't imagine how to do it, but then my daughter and I fugured it out.... It was fun and I am going to copy that from you if I may?
I get the 'is that a cat?' comment about my dog all the time tooYes today carrying my Bleu Glacier birkin two women passed me stared at me head to toe and one said to the other 'obviously a fake.' Didnt bother me as whatever they need to do to make themselves feel better. I also suspect its because im one of the rare Londoners who has colored bags (not just black and etain) so they dont realise they even come in so many shades. However the comments on my dog (also jealousy i suspect) KILL MEE!! They hurt my soul!
Yes, I know what you are going through... I've been hearing that for over 19 years now. The especial funny persons make then a miouw sound. argggggg....
millivanilli ~ so sorry about the rude/nasty/bully incident during your train ride, which commonly seen on campus...I guess this young man just doesn't get enough of these at home and has take it out anywhere he goes... I cannot imagine what kind of person this 18 year old growing up to be...what a sad soul that he started hating his life at such young age.
I thought I was the only one... A neighbor un-intentionally asked me if I was walking my "cats"... I know it was dark at night but still...
Dear tonkamama, thank you so much for your kind words! Yes, it is sad, that such a young person is allready sooo--- don't know how to explain it.. full of bitterness?
So she just went all the way to proove that she has neither manner nor taste? That's a long way for such an obvious thing. She could have saved the calories she wasted and invest them into going out to a bookstore and have a peak into a "manners and etiquette book". Allways use your ressources carefully, please thell her that from me
I couldn't care less whether or not others notice ,like or recognise my H bags.
I use them purely for the joy I get from the aesthetic and craftsmanship , and the admittedly sensuous pleasure from the feel of them .
I'm not a into colour and Birkins, I like under the radar or vintage bags .
For my desert island give me a Toile Garden Party , practical and fun.
When friends remarked my BBK circa 1967 looked like a briefcase and asked if it was from John Lewis [ UK bog-standard Everyman store ] I was very happy
Well said. Using bags just because we enjoy it... What a concept to people
