Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[romea.]

I wonder if the general decrease in tact relates to the increasing power of social media. Many people clearly get perverse enjoyment from being able to say dreadful things with semi-anonymity on-line, just as most of us would admit we are not always as polite when ensconced in our cars as we would be if we were pedestrians. The perception of being shielded, whether by steel or by cyber-space, erodes personal accountability and thereby lowers standards of interpersonal behavior.
In any case, it is a very disturbing trend.

excellent observation but (unfortunately) not at all a new phenomenon. humans have not suddenly evolved into monsters, we have always been this way. we can look back on a long list of atrocities and 50 shades of bullying. we partook in witch hunts during the inquisition, readily ratted out those we deemed undesirable during the holocaust and, equipped with more powerful technology and in unprecedented numbers, we are now destroying the planet as we know it - and every living creature on it (after we pressed the life out of them).

this message was typed by an ape with a scarf around her neck harvested from 300 boiled silkworms - but, hey!, those were just worms!!
:greengrin:

 

[papertiger]

One of my friends has kept saying that since I have no children if I die can her daughters have my Hermes bags? And she giggled. I was not sure how to think or respond this. Did she wish for me to die quickly so she can have my Hermes collection? I'm sure she was joking, but I didn't think it is funny at all.

I have a old friend who says similar things - she thinks she's being hilarious. Makes me wonder if it's a double bluff or if someone can be that insensitive . I always say something to let her know she's crossed the line. This is someone I actually give lots of stuff to and happily play with her kids.

I know she has a quick and silly tongue so I should be used to it. If I say 'my family', as in something like 'I'm going away with my family' she'll say 'but you don't have a family'. Things like that are hard to forget.

It'd be a truly bad joke, if you didn't had kids, but wasn't planning on having them. It's heartless and cruel when she knows you were trying. Don't give such people the benefit of the doubt. They do not deserve it or your kindness.

I agree, but on the other hand sometimes people say things and wished they hadn't.

I think it's best to let frends know about these types of remarks though (if they're worth keeping). Even if it's a letter days later.

My boss has been consistently bullying me at work by dumping all sorts of tasks not under my purview on me and each time I tried applying leave, she would download even more work on me till I could not take leave. When I manage to take overseas leave, she would continue to call me asking me to work from my hotel.

The other day she told me if I ever decide to commit suicide, please pass her my Birkin, Kelly, Lindy first before I proceed!!!! [emoji35][emoji35][emoji35]

namie this is sooooo serious.

Since there is an HR dept there may well be a policy on ethical treatment in the work place if not addressing harassing/bullying directly. I really think you may want to take advice on this situation, you may also find you're not the only one this is happening to.

I was wearing an H scarf yesterday to work (sheath dress, blazer, heels, etc. - I'm an attorney) and as I walked by two men in the lobby of my building, one said to the other "She looks like a flight attendant."

I know it's minor compared to some of the other posts on this thread, but it really left me irked. I'm pretty sure scarves are not restricted to flight attendants, thanks.

Not minor at all when you think of what's behind it, demeaning to all concerned on so many levels, they sound threatened my dear. Take it as a compliment, and a signal that as a professional woman you are looking fierce (in a good way)! Their problem.

 

[Mindi B]

excellent observation but (unfortunately) not at all a new phenomenon. humans have not suddenly evolved into monsters, we have always been this way. we can look back on a long list of atrocities and 50 shades of bullying. we partook in witch hunts during the inquisition, readily ratted out those we deemed undesirable during the holocaust and, equipped with more powerful technology and in unprecedented numbers, we are now destroying the planet as we know it - and every living creature on it (after we pressed the life out of them).

this message was typed by an ape with a scarf around her neck harvested from 300 boiled silkworms - but, hey!, those were just worms!!
:greengrin:

If anyone wants me, I am under my bed.

ETA: Of course it is true, humans have been monstrous always--I just think the rise of the anonymous Internet has enabled those who would be too afraid to be monstrous IRL to indulge those tendencies freely.

 

[romea.]

If anyone wants me, I am under my bed.

ETA: Of course it is true, humans have been monstrous always--I just think the rise of the anonymous Internet has enabled those who would be too afraid to be monstrous IRL to indulge those tendencies freely.

yap, and then there's that...
very true.

 

[Fab41]

today a coworker "found" my Kelly.. took it to take a picture in her office (paparazzi!!), showed it to another coworker who only seems to buy LV neverfulls... neverfull lady later tells me,that coworker is crazy, if she didn't tell me your bag was worth x thousands, I would've thought it was just any other $35 bag... uh..i just said..."sure" ..( I don't have $35 dollar bags.. maybe $1.50 (grocery bag hehe) but nothing about $35)..

 

[Evia]

Such people will remember you and your lovely Hermes long after you've forgotten them, don't let it spoil your day

 

[VigeeLeBrun]

today a coworker "found" my Kelly.. took it to take a picture in her office (paparazzi!!), showed it to another coworker who only seems to buy LV neverfulls... neverfull lady later tells me,that coworker is crazy, if she didn't tell me your bag was worth x thousands, I would've thought it was just any other $35 bag... uh..i just said..."sure" ..( I don't have $35 dollar bags.. maybe $1.50 (grocery bag hehe) but nothing about $35)..

Fact of life, some people are just rude.

 

[Sky love]

today a coworker "found" my Kelly.. took it to take a picture in her office (paparazzi!!), showed it to another coworker who only seems to buy LV neverfulls... neverfull lady later tells me,that coworker is crazy, if she didn't tell me your bag was worth x thousands, I would've thought it was just any other $35 bag... uh..i just said..."sure" ..( I don't have $35 dollar bags.. maybe $1.50 (grocery bag hehe) but nothing about $35)..

Our bags are loved, pampered, brought all over the world to see lovely places, given Spas...a whole forum dedicated to them; I mean, for a dust bag, we could devote a whole thread on it, for a sling or a twilly, countless hours to just locating the right ones.
Photographed without permission, 35 dollars? BAGS HAVE FEELINGS TOO!

 

[Mindi B]

The nerve of TAKING YOUR BAG anywhere, for any reason!

 

[millivanilli]

Since carrying my B I realize a lot of mean comments and behaviour against me.

 

[millivanilli]

Thank you so much for your support! I truly appreciate all your comments I thought maybe I was too sensitive over this bad joke and tried not to be bothered by it. But she knew that I have been trying to have a child. Why did she still say something like that? She is a good friend but she sometimes said something quite passive aggressive. I sometimes said nothing to her. Sometimes I said I has a few nieces or I sometimes told her to buy a few Hermes or Chanel purses herself; they won't be a waste since she has 2 daughters herself. Yes, she mention my death a few times. My husband told me to see good things in others and not focus on their shortcomings or verbal words because people sometimes didn't know what they were saying. It is one of many good advices this lovely man gave to me But I am not that good yet; I sometimes need to rant. Thank you so much for allowing me to vent

I have a daughter (so I know the mommy meanness very well) and all I can say is, that this comment is - for sure- the meanest comment I EVER, EVER, EVER heard. Cut her out of your live. Really I am totally upset - and that doesn't happen very often.

 

[millivanilli]

I find that some particular men with their own unsolved life issues are often having serious harsh comments about well dressed women in the professional field.

I did not aware such harsh comment would attacking a tiny dog...until I personally encountered a man called out in front of his young kids that my 3lbs chihuahua out in the cold weather wearing a harness dress that she looks like a "circus dog"! Omg, I was spechless and feel deeply feel sorry for his kids and SO.

I had the same experience as anatheresa yesterday. I wore my 90 cm l'abre du vent scarf and gloves (it was cold at 5 o'clock in the morning and I HATE public transport but had to go by train yesterday) and my B. A young man (he was soemthing around 18 years old) sitting with his (female) colleagues in the train made really rude comments about me, like " uhhhh look she probably works in a callcenter...." "hopefully she won't infect me" (I had to clear my throat) " I betcha she thinks she is.... [couldn't hear that as I turned my head]" All the women (who very clearly in her midfourties and fifties) laughed, it was cruel.

And tonkamama: having a small dog by myself I had to bear so many nasty comments. The most common one is " ohhh look a CAT!". people are sometimes the worst. I understand that Chiuahua have to wear coats.

 

[millivanilli]

She took a look at it and said: "Is this some kind of desigual rip off?

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! I felt of my chair.

 

[L.Vuitton.Freak]

I had the same experience as anatheresa yesterday. I wore my 90 cm l'abre du vent scarf and gloves (it was cold at 5 o'clock in the morning and I HATE public transport but had to go by train yesterday) and my B. A young man (he was soemthing around 18 years old) sitting with his (female) colleagues in the train made really rude comments about me, like " uhhhh look she probably works in a callcenter...." "hopefully she won't infect me" (I had to clear my throat) " I betcha she thinks she is.... [couldn't hear that as I turned my head]" All the women (who very clearly in her midfourties and fifties) laughed, it was cruel.

And tonkamama: having a small dog by myself I had to bear so many nasty comments. The most common one is " ohhh look a CAT!". people are sometimes the worst. I understand that Chiuahua have to wear coats.

You must be one helluva chic callcenter lady! You can call me anytime and talk about Hermes... Just don't talk to me about upgrading my internet data or land line... I am already at the max'ed out limit over here

 

[Fab41]

Fact of life, some people are just rude.

bitter much? i was thinking.. not like i was the one who showed her my purse and told her the price..the other lady was was so gaga over my purse and made me tell her..anywayyyyy...