Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#1,171
Mindi B said:
Some people who make such remarks are just having a bad day. Some are motivated by jealousy. Some are mentally ill, aggressive, and potentially dangerous. As tempting as it is to retort with a perfect "bon mot," since you can never know with which category you are dealing, silence is safest. At the end of the day, what some random stranger thinks or feels about your appearance and belongings is completely irrelevant. (It took me half a lifetime to figure that out, but it is empowering!) And as poet George Herbert said, "Living well is the best revenge."
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This is it exactly. Life is too short and there are far more important things to think about, than letting this type of person get into your head. I know it can be hard to shrug off, but the good news is that you get older, it becomes easier!
 
#1,172
GimmieHermes said:
During a casual get together A friend of a friend said she used to want a Birkin but now she doesn't because it seems like everyone and their mother is carrying one after she gave my Birkin a few stares. She continues with how usually she only sees tacky people carry Birkins, no style at all. Then she said she doesn't need a Birkin to show that she is rich because true rich people don't even carry Birkins.



She knows I can hear everything cause I'm standing only a foot away. Ugh.. I've never seen jealousy rear such an ugly head
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That woman sounds like a jealous mess. Don't pay it any mind. She obviously losing sleep over your Birkin. Very sad woman.
 
#1,173
Cityfashionista said:
That woman sounds like a jealous mess. Don't pay it any mind. She obviously losing sleep over your Birkin. Very sad woman.
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My sentiments exactly! Her jealousy is obvious to you, all of us and the people she was speaking to. I have no doubt they came to the same conclusion and consider her quite pathetic.

So enjoy your Birkin and wear it happily!
 
#1,174
GimmieHermes said:
During a casual get together A friend of a friend said she used to want a Birkin but now she doesn't because it seems like everyone and their mother is carrying one after she gave my Birkin a few stares. She continues with how usually she only sees tacky people carry Birkins, no style at all. Then she said she doesn't need a Birkin to show that she is rich because true rich people don't even carry Birkins.



She knows I can hear everything cause I'm standing only a foot away. Ugh.. I've never seen jealousy rear such an ugly head
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I feel sorry for her as she is clearly suffering from a case of Benvy (Birkin envy). I hope she felt better after trying to bag shame you.

It's beyond crass to make statements like that in private, let alone publicly. Clearly she knows as much about fashion as she does about being tactful.
 
#1,175
As I was reading through this thread my mouth dropped further and further down to the extent that I now think I need a jaw refix to put it back in place [emoji12][emoji12].. I am not naive and I know some people can be catty even crass and mean but this is taking it to another level altogether.. Trying to deliberately bag shame someone... Wow where is the humanity in that? Are people filled with so much of venom and jealousy that instead of complimenting someone on something nice they own they actually lash out because they don't have it? You would think they would have enough problems in their lives to keep them busy but I guess these people who must live amazingly sad and unhappy lives to try hurting others must think it would actually make them feel better to bring someone's else down rather than find happiness in someone else's happiness! I have nothing but pity for these people... And they deserve nothing but silence and no response from me because they are not worth my attention!
 
#1,176
eternallove4bag said:
As I was reading through this thread my mouth dropped further and further down to the extent that I now think I need a jaw refix to put it back in place [emoji12][emoji12].. I am not naive and I know some people can be catty even crass and mean but this is taking it to another level altogether.. Trying to deliberately bag shame someone... Wow where is the humanity in that? Are people filled with so much of venom and jealousy that instead of complimenting someone on something nice they own they actually lash out because they don't have it? You would think they would have enough problems in their lives to keep them busy but I guess these people who must live amazingly sad and unhappy lives to try hurting others must think it would actually make them feel better to bring someone's else down rather than find happiness in someone else's happiness! I have nothing but pity for these people... And they deserve nothing but silence and no response from me because they are not worth my attention!
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Well said!
 
#1,177
eternallove4bag said:
As I was reading through this thread my mouth dropped further and further down to the extent that I now think I need a jaw refix to put it back in place [emoji12][emoji12].. I am not naive and I know some people can be catty even crass and mean but this is taking it to another level altogether.. Trying to deliberately bag shame someone... Wow where is the humanity in that? Are people filled with so much of venom and jealousy that instead of complimenting someone on something nice they own they actually lash out because they don't have it? You would think they would have enough problems in their lives to keep them busy but I guess these people who must live amazingly sad and unhappy lives to try hurting others must think it would actually make them feel better to bring someone's else down rather than find happiness in someone else's happiness! I have nothing but pity for these people... And they deserve nothing but silence and no response from me because they are not worth my attention!
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Totally agree... I don't care for any "unkind" ppl and these "rude" comments to me just like dust in the air.... But I made sure I have sunglasses on so these won't hurt my eyes.:laugh:
 
#1,183
I couldn't be bothered responding to a snarky remark. Either walk away or change the subject. No sense stooping to their level and risking a continuation of the unpleasant situation.
 
#1,184
Madam Bijoux said:
The ultimate reply to unkind ppl: "Well then, it's fortunate that I have it and you don't."
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I do generally find silence is best, but once, years ago, when a lovely acquaintance actually told me that I looked terrible in what I was wearing, I did reply, "Well, then I'm really lucky that I don't care what you think!" He was totally discombobulated. It was hugely satisfying.
 
#1,185
Unfortunately, people as a whole don't seem to have many manners any more.
With an average household income of 53k in this country, it's not much of a surprise to get looks and snide comments from those who view a bag that represents 10% of their yearly income on the arm of someone they see as "privileged" no matter the circumstances of the purchase.
 
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