Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[rainnebeauxday]

Unfortunately, people as a whole don't seem to have many manners any more.
With an average household income of 53k in this country, it's not much of a surprise to get looks and snide comments from those who view a bag that represents 10% of their yearly income on the arm of someone they see as "privileged" no matter the circumstances of the purchase.

I understand your point, but money doesn't buy manners. No matter what my income has been in life, I have always admired Hermes and high fashion in general. I am generous with my compliments and even as a pre-teen (I was working and making decent money by the time I was 13) I would not have considered making a rude comment to someone who was carrying a B or K (or Chanel etc.). I think that good manners in general have definitely plunged in the last few years, people are desensitized and feel free to comment in ways that should not be socially acceptable.

People will always have a mental judgment (one person's trash is another's treasure), but it is tact that helps them to decide if they should express their opinion or bite their tongue.

I think that expensive handbags are a volatile topic (seriously) for many people, they can understand spending 10k on a diamond, but not on a handbag, and these comments come from a place of insecurity. We are taught that a diamond is worth it, but a handbag...? To each their own, but in the case of acquisitions, unless it is causing grief I am a big believer in saying nothing if you cannot find something nice to say. Some people missed that lesson and it has nothing to do with income.

ETA TLDR: People will feel or think a myriad of things, but it is up to them to have the proper manners to know what should be said out loud. Kind manners are a result of empathy and practice, not income.

 

[Murphy47]

I agree completely. As stated in the first line of my post. People as a whole just don't seem to have manners anymore.

 

[Rami00]

I understand your point, but money doesn't buy manners. No matter what my income has been in life, I have always admired Hermes and high fashion in general. I am generous with my compliments and even as a pre-teen (I was working and making decent money by the time I was 13) I would not have considered making a rude comment to someone who was carrying a B or K (or Chanel etc.). I think that good manners in general have definitely plunged in the last few years, people are desensitized and feel free to comment in ways that should not be socially acceptable.

People will always have a mental judgment (one person's trash is another's treasure), but it is tact that helps them to decide if they should express their opinion or bite their tongue.

I think that expensive handbags are a volatile topic (seriously) for many people, they can understand spending 10k on a diamond, but not on a handbag, and these comments come from a place of insecurity. We are taught that a diamond is worth it, but a handbag...? To each their own, but in the case of acquisitions, unless it is causing grief I am a big believer in saying nothing if you cannot find something nice to say. Some people missed that lesson and it has nothing to do with income.

ETA TLDR: People will feel or think a myriad of things, but it is up to them to have the proper manners to know what should be said out loud. Kind manners are a result of empathy and practice, not income.

+1 well said.

 

[meowmix318]

I understand your point, but money doesn't buy manners. No matter what my income has been in life, I have always admired Hermes and high fashion in general. I am generous with my compliments and even as a pre-teen (I was working and making decent money by the time I was 13) I would not have considered making a rude comment to someone who was carrying a B or K (or Chanel etc.). I think that good manners in general have definitely plunged in the last few years, people are desensitized and feel free to comment in ways that should not be socially acceptable.

People will always have a mental judgment (one person's trash is another's treasure), but it is tact that helps them to decide if they should express their opinion or bite their tongue.

I think that expensive handbags are a volatile topic (seriously) for many people, they can understand spending 10k on a diamond, but not on a handbag, and these comments come from a place of insecurity. We are taught that a diamond is worth it, but a handbag...? To each their own, but in the case of acquisitions, unless it is causing grief I am a big believer in saying nothing if you cannot find something nice to say. Some people missed that lesson and it has nothing to do with income.

ETA TLDR: People will feel or think a myriad of things, but it is up to them to have the proper manners to know what should be said out loud. Kind manners are a result of empathy and practice, not income.

Sad that our society is now like this. Also this generation is different than years and years ago. Chivalry truly is dead as they say.

 

[Rami00]

As I was reading through this thread my mouth dropped further and further down to the extent that I now think I need a jaw refix to put it back in place [emoji12][emoji12].. I am not naive and I know some people can be catty even crass and mean but this is taking it to another level altogether.. Trying to deliberately bag shame someone... Wow where is the humanity in that? Are people filled with so much of venom and jealousy that instead of complimenting someone on something nice they own they actually lash out because they don't have it? You would think they would have enough problems in their lives to keep them busy but I guess these people who must live amazingly sad and unhappy lives to try hurting others must think it would actually make them feel better to bring someone's else down rather than find happiness in someone else's happiness! I have nothing but pity for these people... And they deserve nothing but silence and no response from me because they are not worth my attention!

I totally agree with you. It's like how do you make time to go outta your way to freakin hate.

Totally agree... I don't care for any "unkind" ppl and these "rude" comments to me just like dust in the air.... But I made sure I have sunglasses on so these won't hurt my eyes.

You are hilarious tonkamama. I had my fair share of rude remarks/comments about my handbags and I used to take it to my heart but from last year or so...I have those sunnies on. I just couldn't care less. So liberating

 

[rainnebeauxday]

I agree completely. As stated in the first line of my post. People as a whole just don't seem to have manners anymore.

+1 well said.

Sad that our society is now like this. Also this generation is different than years and years ago. Chivalry truly is dead as they say.

 

[xincinsin]

While my boss isn't given to truly catty remarks, she does get equally horrified by both ends of the scale in my wardrobe: the $10 Tshirts from the discount store and the $400 H scarves. She is firmly ensconced in mid-price fashion and thinks it's very worthwhile to buy $100 dresses that fall apart after one season. I've learnt to take her agitated remarks with a truckload of salt and, if I don't feel up to shocking her, will pretend that I don't recall what I paid. Easiest way out although it may not work forever: a division of the company where I work handles product endorsement and those who are featured sometimes get to wear H for photo shoots. If boss really took note of the value of the items, she may have a melt-down...

 

[Mindi B]

I wonder if the general decrease in tact relates to the increasing power of social media. Many people clearly get perverse enjoyment from being able to say dreadful things with semi-anonymity on-line, just as most of us would admit we are not always as polite when ensconced in our cars as we would be if we were pedestrians. The perception of being shielded, whether by steel or by cyber-space, erodes personal accountability and thereby lowers standards of interpersonal behavior.
In any case, it is a very disturbing trend.

 

[luckylove]

I wonder if the general decrease in tact relates to the increasing power of social media. Many people clearly get perverse enjoyment from being able to say dreadful things with semi-anonymity on-line, just as most of us would admit we are not always as polite when ensconced in our cars as we would be if we were pedestrians. The perception of being shielded, whether by steel or by cyber-space, erodes personal accountability and thereby lowers standards of interpersonal behavior.
In any case, it is a very disturbing trend.

Yes, Mindi... I do believe that social media, not only erodes personal accountability, but also empathy for others and an appreciation for how our words and actions may impact another.....

 

[marbella8]

I wonder if the general decrease in tact relates to the increasing power of social media. Many people clearly get perverse enjoyment from being able to say dreadful things with semi-anonymity on-line, just as most of us would admit we are not always as polite when ensconced in our cars as we would be if we were pedestrians. The perception of being shielded, whether by steel or by cyber-space, erodes personal accountability and thereby lowers standards of interpersonal behavior.
In any case, it is a very disturbing trend.

Couldn't agree more.

 

[carabelli888]

During a casual get together A friend of a friend said she used to want a Birkin but now she doesn't because it seems like everyone and their mother is carrying one after she gave my Birkin a few stares. She continues with how usually she only sees tacky people carry Birkins, no style at all. Then she said she doesn't need a Birkin to show that she is rich because true rich people don't even carry Birkins.

She knows I can hear everything cause I'm standing only a foot away. Ugh.. I've never seen jealousy rear such an ugly head

Even if she thinks that, a real classy woman would never say things like that out in the open with you nearby. People can think things in your head but everything in your head does not need to come out of your mouth.

 

[blueberryjam]

I do generally find silence is best, but once, years ago, when a lovely acquaintance actually told me that I looked terrible in what I was wearing, I did reply, "Well, then I'm really lucky that I don't care what you think!" He was totally discombobulated. It was hugely satisfying.

Learnt a new word today. Thanks, Mindi!

 

[rainnebeauxday]

I wonder if the general decrease in tact relates to the increasing power of social media. Many people clearly get perverse enjoyment from being able to say dreadful things with semi-anonymity on-line, just as most of us would admit we are not always as polite when ensconced in our cars as we would be if we were pedestrians. The perception of being shielded, whether by steel or by cyber-space, erodes personal accountability and thereby lowers standards of interpersonal behavior.
In any case, it is a very disturbing trend.

I very much agree ^

 

[HoneyLocks]

Well, more strange than rude:
I was in a shopping for a new necklace and told the SA I would like something with bright cheerful colors, just like my shawl (The orange-pink-green-blue Sieste au Paradis http://france.hermes.com/la-maison-...-soie-140cm-sieste-au-paradis-blan-95627.html).
She took a look at it and said: "Is this some kind of desigual rip off? (Is desigual known out of Europe?)

At first I was , but then I just said "no"
As soon as I got out of the door I burst out laughing :lolots:

 

[luckylove]

Well, more strange than rude:
I was in a shopping for a new necklace and told the SA I would like something with bright cheerful colors, just like my shawl (The orange-pink-green-blue Sieste au Paradis http://france.hermes.com/la-maison-...-soie-140cm-sieste-au-paradis-blan-95627.html).
She took a look at it and said: "Is this some kind of desigual rip off? (Is desigual known out of Europe?)

At first I was , but then I just said "no"
As soon as I got out of the door I burst out laughing :lolots:

That is rather horrifying to me...
I don't know which is worse...the SA not knowing her Product or the insult assuming you were wearing a fake.

You seem to have handled the odd comment well, though!