Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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I know it's not very PC, and probably obnoxious, but my response (true or not) would be to say "I agree, thank goodness this was less than a week's salary for me." SEE YA.[/QUOTE]

I once made a comment along the lines of "I work in [my profession], I can afford it". The witches retorted that I probably just "cheated" and stole everything that I have, and that they should steal from me. Lovely, lovely people. Silence is now my best policy.
 
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dhfwu said:
I know it's not very PC, and probably obnoxious, but my response (true or not) would be to say "I agree, thank goodness this was less than a week's salary for me." SEE YA.
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I once made a comment along the lines of "I work in [my profession], I can afford it". The witches retorted that I probably just "cheated" and stole everything that I have, and that they should steal from me. Lovely, lovely people. Silence is now my best policy.[/QUOTE]

Am truly stunned that people can be so obnoxious. :thinkin:
 
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Some people who make such remarks are just having a bad day. Some are motivated by jealousy. Some are mentally ill, aggressive, and potentially dangerous. As tempting as it is to retort with a perfect "bon mot," since you can never know with which category you are dealing, silence is safest. At the end of the day, what some random stranger thinks or feels about your appearance and belongings is completely irrelevant. (It took me half a lifetime to figure that out, but it is empowering!) And as poet George Herbert said, "Living well is the best revenge."
 
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AnaTeresa said:
If the tone had been different, I might have considered it, but it was definitely mocking. :sad:



At any rate, thank you for your kind words, all of you - I'm not going to let one boorish comment stop me from wearing things that make me feel pretty!
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I think it is a sad testament to how casual the workplace dress has become. I'm guilty of this, too. I am a librarian and I wear jeans almost every day. If I wear a skirt and heels, people at work ask why I'm dressed up

I think these clowns simply don't know what to make of a woman who looks so pulled together and polished. They can't conceptualize anyone wearing anything that thought out and crisp unless it was a uniform. So they feel the need to joke about what they don't understand. Because they're stupid boors.
 
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Madam Bijoux said:
There is something very subtle & at the same time very pointed that you can do in a situation like this:

1. Hold your hand against your face with the hand facing the person who made the remark.
2. Keeping your hand against your face, turn down all your fingers except the middle one.

The ignorant person will get the hint.
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Madam- you are hilarious! Thanks for brightening up this morning that I have a sore throat! I love "subtle"!!!!!!

I can't believe how rude people are. People should be reminded of the old adage "silence is a virtue".
 
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Mindi B said:
Some people who make such remarks are just having a bad day. Some are motivated by jealousy. Some are mentally ill, aggressive, and potentially dangerous. As tempting as it is to retort with a perfect "bon mot," since you can never know with which category you are dealing, silence is safest. At the end of the day, what some random stranger thinks or feels about your appearance and belongings is completely irrelevant. (It took me half a lifetime to figure that out, but it is empowering!) And as poet George Herbert said, "Living well is the best revenge."
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Well said, well said. We often forget what's most important is what we think of ourselves, not strangers or even acquaintances.

As for AnaTeresa, I remember I would get comments from older men I worked with all the time when I worked at the big firms, and sometimes I think it is their weird way of giving compliments (at least that's how I looked at it so I wouldn't get annoyed :))!
 
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Madam Bijoux said:
There is something very subtle & at the same time very pointed that you can do in a situation like this:

1. Hold your hand against your face with the hand facing the person who made the remark.
2. Keeping your hand against your face, turn down all your fingers except the middle one.

The ignorant person will get the hint.
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I read your post to DH while demonstrating my interpretation of the gesture (couldn't decide if the hand went on the near cheek or far cheek. Discovered it is much more difficult to do with non-dominant hand). He was blown away by the power and dominance and disdainful dismissing the gesture communicates, even without the folded fingers. You have taught us all something.
 
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Mindi B said:
Some people who make such remarks are just having a bad day. Some are motivated by jealousy. Some are mentally ill, aggressive, and potentially dangerous. As tempting as it is to retort with a perfect "bon mot," since you can never know with which category you are dealing, silence is safest. At the end of the day, what some random stranger thinks or feels about your appearance and belongings is completely irrelevant. (It took me half a lifetime to figure that out, but it is empowering!) And as poet George Herbert said, "Living well is the best revenge."
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Mindi, great words of wisdom ~ thank you for sharing! :hugs:
 
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Madam Bijoux said:
There is something very subtle & at the same time very pointed that you can do in a situation like this:



1. Hold your hand against your face with the hand facing the person who made the remark.

2. Keeping your hand against your face, turn down all your fingers except the middle one.



The ignorant person will get the hint.
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QuelleFromage said:
This is my FAVORITE move with terrible people!!







I know it's not very PC, and probably obnoxious, but my response (true or not) would be to say "I agree, thank goodness this was less than a week's salary for me." SEE YA.
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You two ladies are hilarious and made my day!!!

I just went to get my coffee of the day and guess who is also here?? I've never even seen these ladies before yesterday. Let's see if they say anything again...
 
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VigeeLeBrun said:
Kyokei, am not surprised that this happened in NYC, when I left my weekly home neighborhood on the UES it was like entering an alternate universe and I worked a half block away from Union Station which is mid-town. Made the commute every day and found that some people can be downright mean. I don't hate NYC ~ it is simply what I mentioned in an earlier post, some of the things that I have seen and heard are not even repeatable.

Thankfully, I no longer work in NYC but my heart goes out to you. I would ignore these people and if I was a customer and an ignorant statement was made about me by a worker, I would ask to speak with the manager and make sure that never happened again. I would definitely stick up for myself in this type of situation. :heart:



Madam B, gotta LOVE you. Elegantly stated and point made. :hugs:
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Thank you very much. I got out out for a while and moved back for what I thought was only temporary but had been longer than anticipated.

I too find it really depends on the neighborhood...

Strangely enough I get a lot more negative statements from staff. Usually at places I am a regular.

This particular place has a tricky situation in regards to speaking with management.
 
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Mindi B said:
Some people who make such remarks are just having a bad day. Some are motivated by jealousy. Some are mentally ill, aggressive, and potentially dangerous. As tempting as it is to retort with a perfect "bon mot," since you can never know with which category you are dealing, silence is safest. At the end of the day, what some random stranger thinks or feels about your appearance and belongings is completely irrelevant. (It took me half a lifetime to figure that out, but it is empowering!) And as poet George Herbert said, "Living well is the best revenge."
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Absolute perfection. Completely agree!
 
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Not making direct eye contact with strangers is helpful, sometimes especially when carrying a B/K. Have never been on the receiving end of a negative comment and I know that it would provoke me but not enough for me to lose my wall of silence.

^ Mindi, that was a great post.
 
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During a casual get together A friend of a friend said she used to want a Birkin but now she doesn't because it seems like everyone and their mother is carrying one after she gave my Birkin a few stares. She continues with how usually she only sees tacky people carry Birkins, no style at all. Then she said she doesn't need a Birkin to show that she is rich because true rich people don't even carry Birkins.

She knows I can hear everything cause I'm standing only a foot away. Ugh.. I've never seen jealousy rear such an ugly head
 
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