Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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Flight attendants are better educated and more sophisticated than the person who made that remark could ever hope to be.
I find that some particular men with their own unsolved life issues are often having serious harsh comments about well dressed women in the professional field.
I did not aware such harsh comment would attacking a tiny dog...until I personally encountered a man called out in front of his young kids that my 3lbs chihuahua out in the cold weather wearing a harness dress that she looks like a "circus dog"! Omg, I was spechless and feel deeply feel sorry for his kids and SO.
If the tone had been different, I might have considered it, but it was definitely mocking.
At any rate, thank you for your kind words, all of you - I'm not going to let one boorish comment stop me from wearing things that make me feel pretty!
Humans remain childish all their lives, sadly. Many "adults" are just taller versions of the playground bullies they undoubtedly were in grade school. I am in complete agreement with you, AnaT, and you said it so well: "I'm not going to let one boorish comment stop me from wearing things that make me feel pretty!" We all need to start doing what works for us, whether it's what we wear, what we weigh, or what we do, and (as long as we aren't impinging on anyone else's rights), ignore the opinions of others.
And as Murphy quite correctly observed, flight attendants in the neck-scarf days were considered the height of chic and glamour! Those scarves were emblems of a professional, pulled-together, attention-to-the-details look, and IMO, still are.
And as Murphy quite correctly observed, flight attendants in the neck-scarf days were considered the height of chic and glamour! Those scarves were emblems of a professional, pulled-together, attention-to-the-details look, and IMO, still are.
If the tone had been different, I might have considered it, but it was definitely mocking.
At any rate, thank you for your kind words, all of you - I'm not going to let one boorish comment stop me from wearing things that make me feel pretty!
I am sure he was just being snide because 1. He's an a$$ and 2. You're way out of his league.
So many men are just stuck a preschool attitude.
As someone who can be rude or mean without realizing it, I think you should just tell your friend that she hurts you with her comments. Telling face to face may be uncomfortable, but it could be easier for both of you through text message (not social media, that leaves a trace). something in the line of "I know you don't mean to hurt me, but it's really painful when you mention me dying w/o kids. Not angry at you, but I'd appreciate if you'd avoid that kind of comment, even as a joke."
You'd give her a chance to know + apologize.
(I notice she mentions her daughters as possible heirs, not herself. She plans on you staying longer than her)
Thank you, Melora, for your advice
. Yes, I did talk to her at the end of last year. She also mentioned that I sometimes said something hurtful to her as well. It was a great talk. We apparently hurt each other verbally without intentions. We both apologized to each other and promise to be careful not to snap at each other again. My grandma just turns 92 and she is still healthy. I'm planning to live for a really long long time like my nana
Thank you, Marbella, Catsinthebag and Mindi BI agree with you. Keeping distance is the best way to deal. I used to snapped at friends when they said something annoying to me, but I'm now try to bite my tongue and cool down. Although I had a good talk with her, I've felt that I should only talk and see her less often. The more we talk, the more conflicts I feel has built up again even after that good talk. Like you said, Catsinthebag, I should spend my emotional capital on my family and not so much on nuisance other people cause.
I'm curious as to how he said this. Did this man yell it toward you and your dog? As in "Your dog looks like a circus dog!" and laugh? Only because my mom dresses her Chi's up and has called them circus dogs (they can do tricks), and in no way is it meant as a derogatory term coming from her. Could this man have thought your dog was cute like a circus pup? I have no idea, as I don't know his tone, I just don't want you to be unnecessarily offended or upset
Your dogs are absolutely adorable. (I'm going to attach a picture for you, it is of my Chi and one of my mom's playing dress-up )I have only had strange tension coming from some friends when they ask me how much my H items cost (I have learned to reply that "I don't remember"), and then when they feel the need to tell me what else I could have bought with that money (instead of H). I have had more compliments on my H items than snide remarks, thank goodness!
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If the tone had been different, I might have considered it, but it was definitely mocking.
At any rate, thank you for your kind words, all of you - I'm not going to let one boorish comment stop me from wearing things that make me feel pretty!
AnaTeresa, I totally understand. When I was practicing before DSs were born, I dressed the exact same way. That's when I got into the scarves, perfect with all my sheath dresses....all these years later, I still prefer dresses. You are absolutely right - and you KNOW you look fabulous!!!