Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[Pias]

Ouch! I'm so sorry you are subject to that! Not nice at all[emoji107]🏻[emoji107]🏻

That's extremely rude !( poor you 🤗[emoji24]

That is just so mean. I have some relatives whose actions have made me really angry so I understand how you feel. It's definitely not funny at all.

She obviously thought it was funny. There are a few rude implications, but take it as a compliment to your good style.

Wow. Just wow. I'm sure she wanted to put this across as a joke, but really, it is just bursting with judgement. I don't have children either and really resent statements by others that imply that because I don't, that must mean my life is meaningless in some way. I mean, really, is there no one else in your life other than HER children who might appreciate your H bags? It's a really awful thing to say on so many levels, but put forth as a joke so you can't really call her on it. I wonder, if you said something along the lines of, "Well, it depends on whether or not they're nice to me!" how she would respond. I bet all of a sudden she'd be serious about how nice her kids are! And then you could say, "Oh, I was just kidding. I mean, you were joking, weren't you? Because when I die, ALL my stuff is going to CHARITY."



Sorry for the rant. Pet peeve of mine!

Thank you so much for your support! I truly appreciate all your comments I thought maybe I was too sensitive over this bad joke and tried not to be bothered by it. But she knew that I have been trying to have a child. Why did she still say something like that? She is a good friend but she sometimes said something quite passive aggressive. I sometimes said nothing to her. Sometimes I said I has a few nieces or I sometimes told her to buy a few Hermes or Chanel purses herself; they won't be a waste since she has 2 daughters herself. Yes, she mention my death a few times. My husband told me to see good things in others and not focus on their shortcomings or verbal words because people sometimes didn't know what they were saying. It is one of many good advices this lovely man gave to me But I am not that good yet; I sometimes need to rant. Thank you so much for allowing me to vent

 

[Madam Bijoux]

One way to deal with people who glare at you in stores or restaurants: glare right back at them and reach into your pocket. They'll think you're about to pull out a weapon.:devil:

 

[chicinthecity777]

One way to deal with people who glare at you in stores or restaurants: glare right back at them and reach into your pocket. They'll think you're about to pull out a weapon.:devil:

I like this idea! Lol I normally would stare back as if my dirty look was my weapon!

 

[scndlslv]

When I was in Neiman's on Saturday, one of the salespeople felt my bag up. It totally irked me but she was being so complementary I thought I may appear petty for asking her not to touch my bag. I've only had this Birkin 6 weeks and I must say people feel entitled to paw my bag and it REALLY bugs me.

 

[Murphy47]

When I was in Neiman's on Saturday, one of the salespeople felt my bag up. It totally irked me but she was being so complementary I thought I may appear petty for asking her not to touch my bag. I've only had this Birkin 6 weeks and I must say people feel entitled to paw my bag and it REALLY bugs me.

These are the same people who feel free to run a pregnant woman's belly.
Some people just have NO couth.

 

[cavluv]

When I was in Neiman's on Saturday, one of the salespeople felt my bag up. It totally irked me but she was being so complementary I thought I may appear petty for asking her not to touch my bag. I've only had this Birkin 6 weeks and I must say people feel entitled to paw my bag and it REALLY bugs me.

Totally!! Same as strangers coming up and touching your belly when you're pregnant...

 

[marbella8]

I like this idea! Lol I normally would stare back as if my dirty look was my weapon!

I do the same thing! I have had a couple people give me strange looks over h bags, strange, like stare and not look nice about it. If people stare and have no facial expression or a pleasant one, it is a complement, but a couple times, after a long stare, I have had to stare back into the person's eyes, and with one of the women I mouthed "can I help you?" because it was such a strange stare.

 

[beautybybacteri]

Totally!! Same as strangers coming up and touching your belly when you're pregnant...

Or when folks want to touch your hair

 

[Murphy47]

Or when folks want to touch your hair

Why do people just want to touch others so much?
I have a serious resting bi$&h face and yet strangers often want to touch me or my stuff.
Just Why?

 

[catsinthebag]

Thank you so much for your support! I truly appreciate all your comments I thought maybe I was too sensitive over this bad joke and tried not to be bothered by it. But she knew that I have been trying to have a child. Why did she still say something like that? She is a good friend but she sometimes said something quite passive aggressive. I sometimes said nothing to her. Sometimes I said I has a few nieces or I sometimes told her to buy a few Hermes or Chanel purses herself; they won't be a waste since she has 2 daughters herself. Yes, she mention my death a few times. My husband told me to see good things in others and not focus on their shortcomings or verbal words because people sometimes didn't know what they were saying. It is one of many good advices this lovely man gave to me But I am not that good yet; I sometimes need to rant. Thank you so much for allowing me to vent

Pias, the fact that she knows you are trying to have a child makes it even worse. Your DH sounds like a wonderful person, but your "friend" does not have your happiness and best interests at heart, IMO. It may be a better use of your emotional capital to put a little distance between you and this person rather than spending time trying to see the good in her. JMHO. Life is too short to spend it with -- or worrying about -- people who are looking forward to your death!

 

[scndlslv]

Why do people just want to touch others so much?
I have a serious resting bi$&h face and yet strangers often want to touch me or my stuff.
Just Why?

LOL me too, which usually deters people from invading my space. But folks are constantly touching my stuff and my hair. Seriously, back UP!

 

[rainnebeauxday]

Pias, the fact that she knows you are trying to have a child makes it even worse. Your DH sounds like a wonderful person, but your "friend" does not have your happiness and best interests at heart, IMO. It may be a better use of your emotional capital to put a little distance between you and this person rather than spending time trying to see the good in her. JMHO. Life is too short to spend it with -- or worrying about -- people who are looking forward to your death!

+1!!! So insensitive and not worth 1 minute of your time.

 

[Mindi B]

Pias, the fact that she knows you are trying to have a child makes it even worse. Your DH sounds like a wonderful person, but your "friend" does not have your happiness and best interests at heart, IMO. It may be a better use of your emotional capital to put a little distance between you and this person rather than spending time trying to see the good in her. JMHO. Life is too short to spend it with -- or worrying about -- people who are looking forward to your death!

+2. Your husband's advice only holds for people who are not actively toxic. For the really poisonous ones, trying to give them the benefit of the doubt only makes you a repeat victim. They will take your kindness for weakness. ITA with cats--This "friend" is not a friend at all, and while you don't need to call her out on her behavior (which would almost certainly do no good), the less involvement you have with her, the better.

 

[rainnebeauxday]

+2. Your husband's advice only holds for people who are not actively toxic. For the really poisonous ones, trying to give them the benefit of the doubt only makes you a repeat victim. They will take your kindness for weakness. ITA with cats--This "friend" is not a friend at all, and while you don't need to call her out on her behavior (which would almost certainly do no good), the less involvement you have with her, the better.

This is amazing advice. I am going to make a point to remember this quote.

 

[marbella8]

+2. Your husband's advice only holds for people who are not actively toxic. For the really poisonous ones, trying to give them the benefit of the doubt only makes you a repeat victim. They will take your kindness for weakness. ITA with cats--This "friend" is not a friend at all, and while you don't need to call her out on her behavior (which would almost certainly do no good), the less involvement you have with her, the better.

I always love reading what you write. "For the really poisonous ones.... They will take your kindness for weakness", so true, and so sad that people are so damaged they can't accept kindness just simply as it is, kindness.

I agree, Pias, don't cut this person off, but keep her at a distance, as her behavior won't stop. This is something internal she has going on, so don't take her comments to heart, it isn't personal to you, but her own personal issues with herself.