Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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Mindi B said:
Thank you, marbella. It is sad, and my awareness of it comes from hard experience--but it is a valuable, if unpleasant, lesson.
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Yes, I have to say, unfortunately I have had 2 experiences with these kinds of people recently, and it is hard to believe that educated, older women can still be like this. I am personally floored. I have always had the same friends since university and grad school, and since moving to OC from LA, been forced to make new friends, and was surprised to run across middle-aged, professional women with such issues.

Anyhow, back-to-topic, I think most people's stares are compliemts:smile1: for me, I wear my Kellys with my kids, very casual, tennis shoes, etc., and I think some stares are more like "is she really carrying an Hermes." Also, I have some vintage Kellys, so I know some of it is also that a lot of people here in OC carry the newer bags, in the Clemence or Togo and bright colors, and mostly Birkins, so the vintage bags and especially box are not as common. Actually, I walked into H the other day with my vintage-Box 28 Kelly, and one of the saleswomen came up to me and was admiring it, asking me how I found it, etc., as she really wanted a vintage-box Kelly:smile1:
 
#1,114
My boss has been consistently bullying me at work by dumping all sorts of tasks not under my purview on me and each time I tried applying leave, she would download even more work on me till I could not take leave. When I manage to take overseas leave, she would continue to call me asking me to work from my hotel.

The other day she told me if I ever decide to commit suicide, please pass her my Birkin, Kelly, Lindy first before I proceed!!!! [emoji35][emoji35][emoji35]
 
#1,115
Pias said:
Thank you so much for your support! I truly appreciate all your comments:smile1: I thought maybe I was too sensitive over this bad joke and tried not to be bothered by it. But she knew that I have been trying to have a child. Why did she still say something like that? She is a good friend but she sometimes said something quite passive aggressive. I sometimes said nothing to her. Sometimes I said I has a few nieces or I sometimes told her to buy a few Hermes or Chanel purses herself; they won't be a waste since she has 2 daughters herself. Yes, she mention my death a few times. My husband told me to see good things in others and not focus on their shortcomings or verbal words because people sometimes didn't know what they were saying. It is one of many good advices this lovely man gave to me :smile1::smile1:But I am not that good yet; I sometimes need to rant. Thank you so much for allowing me to vent :)
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As someone who can be rude or mean without realizing it, I think you should just tell your friend that she hurts you with her comments. Telling face to face may be uncomfortable, but it could be easier for both of you through text message (not social media, that leaves a trace). something in the line of "I know you don't mean to hurt me, but it's really painful when you mention me dying w/o kids. Not angry at you, but I'd appreciate if you'd avoid that kind of comment, even as a joke."
You'd give her a chance to know + apologize.

(I notice she mentions her daughters as possible heirs, not herself. She plans on you staying longer than her ;) )
 
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namie said:
My boss has been consistently bullying me at work by dumping all sorts of tasks not under my purview on me and each time I tried applying leave, she would download even more work on me till I could not take leave. When I manage to take overseas leave, she would continue to call me asking me to work from my hotel.

The other day she told me if I ever decide to commit suicide, please pass her my Birkin, Kelly, Lindy first before I proceed!!!! [emoji35][emoji35][emoji35]
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:shocked::shocked::shocked: is there someone you can report her to or tell her if she doesn't change her behaviour you would change the job? It's not healthy to work in such environment :nogood:
 
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Pias said:
Thank you so much for your support! I truly appreciate all your comments:smile1: I thought maybe I was too sensitive over this bad joke and tried not to be bothered by it. But she knew that I have been trying to have a child. Why did she still say something like that? She is a good friend but she sometimes said something quite passive aggressive. I sometimes said nothing to her. Sometimes I said I has a few nieces or I sometimes told her to buy a few Hermes or Chanel purses herself; they won't be a waste since she has 2 daughters herself. Yes, she mention my death a few times. My husband told me to see good things in others and not focus on their shortcomings or verbal words because people sometimes didn't know what they were saying. It is one of many good advices this lovely man gave to me :smile1::smile1:But I am not that good yet; I sometimes need to rant. Thank you so much for allowing me to vent :)
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It'd be a truly bad joke, if you didn't had kids, but wasn't planning on having them. It's heartless and cruel when she knows you were trying. Don't give such people the benefit of the doubt. They do not deserve it or your kindness.
 
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namie said:
My boss has been consistently bullying me at work by dumping all sorts of tasks not under my purview on me and each time I tried applying leave, she would download even more work on me till I could not take leave. When I manage to take overseas leave, she would continue to call me asking me to work from my hotel.

The other day she told me if I ever decide to commit suicide, please pass her my Birkin, Kelly, Lindy first before I proceed!!!! [emoji35][emoji35][emoji35]
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Shocking and unprofessional, my heart goes out to you.
 
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Pias said:
One of my friends has kept saying that since I have no children if I die can her daughters have my Hermes bags? And she giggled. I was not sure how to think or respond this. Did she wish for me to die quickly so she can have my Hermes collection? I'm sure she was joking, but I didn't think it is funny at all.
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Not sure giggling makes her comment any better, some people have no idea what there words sound like to others.
 
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I was wearing an H scarf yesterday to work (sheath dress, blazer, heels, etc. - I'm an attorney) and as I walked by two men in the lobby of my building, one said to the other "She looks like a flight attendant."

I know it's minor compared to some of the other posts on this thread, but it really left me irked. I'm pretty sure scarves are not restricted to flight attendants, thanks.
 
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AnaTeresa said:
I was wearing an H scarf yesterday to work (sheath dress, blazer, heels, etc. - I'm an attorney) and as I walked by two men in the lobby of my building, one said to the other "She looks like a flight attendant."

I know it's minor compared to some of the other posts on this thread, but it really left me irked. I'm pretty sure scarves are not restricted to flight attendants, thanks.
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The man is a moron! Keep wearing your H scarves, what does he know?! I am sure you looked absolutely lovely.
 
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AnaTeresa said:
I was wearing an H scarf yesterday to work (sheath dress, blazer, heels, etc. - I'm an attorney) and as I walked by two men in the lobby of my building, one said to the other "She looks like a flight attendant."

I know it's minor compared to some of the other posts on this thread, but it really left me irked. I'm pretty sure scarves are not restricted to flight attendants, thanks.
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It's not the scarf. It's the heels and scarf.
Obviously older men as flight attendants no longer dress that way on most airlines.
As flight attendants were considered glamourous in my day I would have taken it as a compliment but that's just me.
 
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