Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#796
Madam Bijoux said:
Those who say cruel things about a person loudly enough for the person to hear the comments are insecure self-hating individuals who feel inferior inside and need to make themselves feel superior and important.
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Exactly! No time for negative and mean people. Life is full of problems and unexpected tragedies that people do not bring on themselves. I cannot comprehend the haters out there. Appearances can be very deceiving and it just goes back to one will never truly know what another is going through unless they walk a mile in their shoes. No time for hate or judgement. Women should honor one another. Great post.
 
#797
el94 said:
I hope no one minds me bumping this thread, but I have a story to share. It's not about me personally, but someone I know through school. I'm still a university student, so it makes sense I'm surrounded by a large amount of people that are on tight budgets and obviously cannot justify the price for a designer piece (be it shoes, handbags, etc). Hermes is probably at the top of the list of luxuriously-priced goods, but at the same time, it definitely doesn't have the same recognition as a brand like LV or Chanel.

We also have a Facebook group were you can post anonymous comments citing funny things you've seen around campus, send messages to admirers you'd be to shy to approach in real life, etc. But obviously, with anonymity, it's not always going to be unicorns and rainbows.

There is a girl who I often seen around campus that is always carrying a Birkin (I've seen a red and a black on her so far). I'm guessing other people have noticed too, because even for the students of "upper class" backgrounds from well-off families, a Birkin is not something that is gifted the same way an LV or even a Chanel bag would be. A while ago there was a comment posted on the Facebook group saying "To the girl who's always carrying a birkin, we all know it's yours Mom's, no need to feel all high and mighty" (this wasn't the exact wording, but the message had roughly the same meaning).

I thought it was kind of uncalled for, because every time I've seen her, she seems like a genuinely nice person, always smiling, carefree, doesn't take herself too seriously type of girl, but also someone who definitely dresses well and appreciates fashion. Obviously, I don't know her, but even so, I thought it was pretty mean-spirited to call her our on a school-wide Facebook page like that.

The comments underneath it were all along the lines of "oh I googled birkin, who's crazy enough to spend $15k on a bag?? How stupid", all being pretty harsh and critical.

It's situations like these that make me uncomfortable bringing out any sort of designer goods, for fear of being called out as superficial and snobby. And some of these people criticizing her are people who have no trouble spending thousands on tech without blinking an eye, or taking exotic vacations in luxury hotels! I just don't get it :nogood::shrugs:
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This is just sad and it really disheartens me to read a post like this. Good for this girl if she has two Birkins. I hope she has 50. And who cares if they were handed down from her mother. Maybe her mother is dead. No one knows her situation. But it comes back to haters are going to hate.

You're a good person to recognize that she seems like a sweet girl. The bags we carry do not define us as people. What does define us is the way that we treat others. I love nice things and I'm going to use them. Period. I'm also going to treat people with the kindness and respect that I always have.

Please use the beautiful items that you have. If people want to make comments, let them. In situations like these, it's their insecurities. As hurtful as these comments may be it just comes back to an inner unhappiness on the part of the person making the terrible comments. Take care!
 
#798
bluebichonfrise said:
This is just sad and it really disheartens me to read a post like this. Good for this girl if she has two Birkins. I hope she has 50. And who cares if they were handed down from her mother. Maybe her mother is dead. No one knows her situation. But it comes back to haters are going to hate.

You're a good person to recognize that she seems like a sweet girl. The bags we carry do not define us as people. What does define us is the way that we treat others. I love nice things and I'm going to use them. Period. I'm also going to treat people with the kindness and respect that I always have.

Please use the beautiful items that you have. If people want to make comments, let them. In situations like these, it's their insecurities. As hurtful as these comments may be it just comes back to an inner unhappiness on the part of the person making the terrible comments. Take care!
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Good post, bluebichonfrise! I couldn't have said it better. :heart:
 
#799
ChLoay said:
My frens always make negative and sometimes quite nasty comments about others with high-end luxury handbags. That's why I only wear my H bags when out with DH or alone and never opt to carry one when out with frens.
I feel so alone n can only relate this joy reading TPF! But frankly, it's never the same sharing this H joy with someone IRL! So, apart from my H wish list, will be a list of H frens, hopefully soon!
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Girl this made me sad :(
Friends should be the people you share this with, not hide! If we lived near each other we could hang out and talk bags all day !
Do you ever think, what if you ran into them somewhere wearing a designer item?
But I know how you feel...my boyfriend buys me nice things and when I see anyone from my dads side of them family (including my dad) its like I have to hide everything...they even notice if i have my nails done! They are just so against spending money even if you have it.
Anyways I feel you girly
sending my love
 
#800
rosenrot43 said:
perlerare,
I sooo understand your reaction: voiceless with a try to stay polite and smile.
This was 15y ago, how would you react these days, 15y older?
Thanks in advance for your answer,
rr43
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I know this isn't hermes but...my "wealthy" sassy italian aunt came into town and all our family got together for dinner. I wore my fur coat, and at the end of the night she just looked at me as if i was a peasant and asked...is this even real?
..i said, ya its rabbit...
and she just stared at my coat and said mm hmm..

and that ladies made me feel really good about myself!...not
 
#802
Suggested answer for those who ask, "Is this real?" or any similarly rude question. Reply, "Why do you ask?" with an expression of genuine interest on your face. And allow them to explain their motivation. If they can. And Miss Manners had a suggestion for those who offer intrusive comments like, "I would NEVER spend so much money on a bag." She suggested replying with a remark like, "It's really nice of you to take such an interest in my choices." If you say it with sincerity, it works on several levels.
And both of these are clearly superior to my reply of choice: "Go pound sand." :p
 
#803
Mindi B said:
Suggested answer for those who ask, "Is this real?" or any similarly rude question. Reply, "Why do you ask?" with an expression of genuine interest on your face. And allow them to explain their motivation. If they can. And Miss Manners had a suggestion for those who offer intrusive comments like, "I would NEVER spend so much money on a bag." She suggested replying with a remark like, "It's really nice of you to take such an interest in my choices." If you say it with sincerity, it works on several levels.
And both of these are clearly superior to my reply of choice: "Go pound sand." :p
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Fortunately, I have never been asked, "Is that real?" If I ever am, I'll try to remember the "Why do you ask?" response -- it's much more polite than the answer I have in my head, which is too look at the person very seriously and answer, "No. It's just a figment of your imagination."
 
#805
Oh my goodness I can't imagine how annoying it must be to get such reactions over things that I love and spent so much money on! Thankfully I've never gotten such a reaction from someone but then again I don't own an Hermes bag, just a clic clac bracelet and a pair of oran sandals. I get a lot of compliments on them.
 
#808
Julide said:
Congrats on your first H bag!:flowers:I would be happy for any friend who got something they wanted regardless of my own situation. Hopefully your friend will be the same.:flowers:
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Thanks so much Julide!! :smile1:

VigeeLeBrun said:
Maybe she is just a "social" friend? True friends are not jealous, nor do they make snide remarks.
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Correct, I mentioned she was a new found friend but we have become very close because we facilitate a young ladies group at church so we kind of have to have a bond. But my friends from forever ago are all excited for me and were more involved in my Birkin hunt than I was :laugh:

xiangxiang0731 said:
Well said! I wouldn't call these people my "friends" at all. I have some friends who are not into luxury handbags but they never say anything negative towards me or my bags. They are just happy for me. They are true friends!
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So true and as I suspected my dearest and oldest friends were nothing but happy for me. My BFF actually said I know you paid a pretty penny for that but you deserve it. And my other dearest friend was even calling her stylist all the way out in LA to hunt down the right Birkin for me:laugh:
 
#810
Mindi B said:
Suggested answer for those who ask, "Is this real?" or any similarly rude question. Reply, "Why do you ask?" with an expression of genuine interest on your face. And allow them to explain their motivation. If they can. And Miss Manners had a suggestion for those who offer intrusive comments like, "I would NEVER spend so much money on a bag." She suggested replying with a remark like, "It's really nice of you to take such an interest in my choices." If you say it with sincerity, it works on several levels.
And both of these are clearly superior to my reply of choice: "Go pound sand." :p
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Have never been asked if anything that I wear is "real" but let me remember your words of wisdom if the situation occurs. Mindi, I swear that I would probably blush and be embarrassed ~ rude behavior affects me that way. Now, at least, I have a quick response! Thanks.
 
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