Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#811
The advantage to these IMO, Vigee, is that they are irreproachable in and of themselves. Totally innocent replies. But the first demands that the rude person either 'fess up or shut up (or make up something in a hurry, but it puts 'em on the spot); the second can be taken as wildly sarcastic, but there is no PROOF that it was intended that way. Thus my insistence that the facial expression and tone must be sincere and guileless. Also, in the very unlikely event that the speaker didn't understand the inappropriateness of his/her query, they have the opportunity to save face. Unlike if you respond with "Go pound sand," which has the advantage of brevity and directness, but can't really be spun as anything but what it is. :D
The humorous responses suggested are less enigmatic, but also terrific.
 
#813
Mindi B said:
The advantage to these IMO, Vigee, is that they are irreproachable in and of themselves. Totally innocent replies. But the first demands that the rude person either 'fess up or shut up (or make up something in a hurry, but it puts 'em on the spot); the second can be taken as wildly sarcastic, but there is no PROOF that it was intended that way. Thus my insistence that the facial expression and tone must be sincere and guileless. Also, in the very unlikely event that the speaker didn't understand the inappropriateness of his/her query, they have the opportunity to save face. Unlike if you respond with "Go pound sand," which has the advantage of brevity and directness, but can't really be spun as anything but what it is. :D
The humorous responses suggested are less enigmatic, but also terrific.
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:laugh::laugh: Very good! I have never been asked this kind of questions but I will prepare the answers just in case!
 
#814
[QU OTE=Madam Bijoux;26564148]I've often been asked if my things are real. I always give the person a big grin and say "Everything On me is real."[/QUOTE]

Lol! Totally admire your bravado!
 
#815
Hi guys I would like to share my story with you , I had a very close friend to the point that I even offered her and her then partner to stay at my place when she couldn't afford for hotel .She seems to be a good friend we never had fight or disagreement ,she borrowed me money because she said she was going through some hardship so has to return to melbourne ,then I never heard from her anymore. One day she turned up to my work and told me that her new partner had won a millions dollars so she paid me back.Our relation was back to normal one night she came to my house for dinner and saw my hermes shopping bags and said you went shopping again?why buying hermes its very old bla bla blah... she loves LV so when we go shopping we always drop by LV where I bought a LV scarf and again said why do you buy a scarf so expensive when you can buy a bag with that same money I never said anything back to her but just didn't feel good inside. One day another a friend of us told me that she told him that the night where me , her and our friend book an apartment room at a hotel to party I brought 2 of my hermes bag along (cos we stay for 3 nights )she told him she didnt thing they are genuine.I feel very sad because I'm not the kind of person that cares what other thing of me but coming from a close friend that talk behind my back , I don't feel the need to justify wether its real or not to my other friend but she knows the kimd of person I am , and it's not like we never went shopping together or she saw my orange hermes shopping bags full of boxes inside.
 
#816
I have to remark that the fact that your friend sought you out years after borrowing money to pay you back sort of dwarfs everything else, IMO. But that's me. If her gossiping hurts you, you can certainly start by asking her to stop. If she won't, you need not continue the friendship. She sounds rather peripatetic anyhow, and may not be in your life on a regular basis.
 
#817
pandabearxo said:
I ran into an old work friend today and was wearing my Kelly,
(She's never seen me use any nice handbags as the place we used to work at had security guards who handled and stored our bags quite rough)
When she spotted my bag her eyes widened and her first comment was "did your boyfriend buy that for you?"
I thought that was kind of a strange comment but took it lightly and just said "oh if only he was that nice to me!"
Second comment from her: "did your mum buy it for you? /is it your mum's bag?"
At this point I was pretty sure she was insinuating there was no way I could afford my bag and was pretty miffed.... I just replied "no, I saved up and finally took the plunge"

I know I'm not in a high paying job but I love handbags and would just rather spend money on bags than other things!
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Dear Pandabearxo

i admire you for being able to save up and purchase something, one thing, you really want and not get tempted by other things among the way. I hope your 'friend' from work realizes what a great accomplishment that is and that it says a lot about your will power and character. I actually think it makes your bag even more special that you had to sacrifice for it etc...

as i have gotten older and able to afford many more things because of more success at work, it has become much harder to have this experience actually. and even my own mother says: i think you should buy things that don't have labels etc

when the label is not what we love about hermes, but the craftsmanship and beauty!
 
#818
Some, or rather, all of these stories leave me amazed, and not in a good way. Whatever happened to politeness or just not commenting on another person's appearance? Personally, I only want someone's opinion when I ask for it.

Mindi, I am sticking to your remarks if I am EVER questioned about my H bags.
 
#819
VigeeLeBrun said:
Some, or rather, all of these stories leave me amazed, and not in a good way. Whatever happened to politeness or just not commenting on another person's appearance? Personally, I only want someone's opinion when I ask for it.

Mindi, I am sticking to your remarks if I am EVER questioned about my H bags.
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Vigee, I agree with you. I was raised by a very British mother, who taught us never to "pass personal remarks." As you can see, it has stuck with me.
 
#820
lulilu said:
Vigee, I agree with you. I was raised by a very British mother, who taught us never to "pass personal remarks." As you can see, it has stuck with me.
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I'm with you ladies! I just cannot believe the things that some people say. It's shocking. I was also taught the same by my mother and I thank my lucky stars for that! Take care!
 
#821
lulilu said:
Vigee, I agree with you. I was raised by a very British mother, who taught us never to "pass personal remarks." As you can see, it has stuck with me.
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Absolutely.
I am not British but I have raised my kids in the same way.

Plus: If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything.
 
#824
My response to any unwanted attention or questioning is also, "Oh, why do you ask?" or "Why do you want to know?" Perfection in deflection!
I've taught my children to deal politely but firmly with rude people. Good manners make life easier.
Also, my mother taught me not to comment on people's appearances, but the world has changed, and who doesn't enjoy a compliment about their hair, clothes or accessories--no harm or embarrassment when given with charm and affection!
 
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