I wish you would have contronted them my dear, it would have put them in their place. There is no excuse for rude behavior.
Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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I wish you would have contronted them my dear, it would have put them in their place. There is no excuse for rude behavior.
on one hand, i would have loved to have seen their faces if you responded with some snippy response that it was real!
but the more mature thing to do was ignore it like you did. when people are being critical of you or your style, they take pleasure in seeing that it affects you, that it gets a rise out of you. i frequently hear SA's in department stores talking about me as i walk by, about my hair, my boots, my bags, etc, all rude things, and just to add insult, whenever i see them, i go out of my way to smile and look happy. just so they know they have had zero affect on me! so i can definitely relate to the feeling hurt part, i just try to hide it 
And what place may that be? There is no point to resort to the same bad behaviour like them, is there? Then you are no different from them.
To radio_shrink, I agree though that you could have said something politely and firmly that that kind of language and behaviour was not acceptable, in Madarin! That will be enough to give them a lesson. And just move on from there. It was very highly of you to not have said anything!
Oh no! You should have definitely responded, just to let them know you knew exactly what they were saying.
I would have walked past them and said something in Mandarin like, "Good afternoon ladies, beautiful weather outside, isn't it?" That would have left them embarrassed and speechless!
Wow that is sad and rude! My bf and I have had similar instances, (I am asian, but don't look completely like it, while bf is not) where people did not expect that le bf would understand mandarin, and start discussing about us! It's hard in those circumstances to know what to do, usually we just look at them and that will bring them back to awareness that we might be listening and understanding! Sometimes we just want to say something to let them know that we understand but then hold back and move on.
on one hand, i would have loved to have seen their faces if you responded with some snippy response that it was real!
I hope you never shop with them!
Radio & LG,
It's admirable you both take/took the high road in situations like that.
It's deplorable that people can say such horrible things about people they don't even know & judge them on their material possessions & appearance.
Some of us have it hard enough, with issues we deal with daily to have to be unfairly judged by people like that. Something is obviously lacking in their life. I pity them.
It's admirable you both take/took the high road in situations like that.
It's deplorable that people can say such horrible things about people they don't even know & judge them on their material possessions & appearance.
Some of us have it hard enough, with issues we deal with daily to have to be unfairly judged by people like that. Something is obviously lacking in their life. I pity them.
This is so true. I marvel at this all of the time and frequently bring it up to DH. It's really sad that people judge others period. What's worse is that these people who are mean and judge so unfairly have no idea of the heavy burdens that some may be carrying, like serious illness for example. If they knew, I often wonder if they would care anyway.
Exactly, nothing one can do but pity them.
And yes, as hard as it may be, the high road is the best road, imo.
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A friend of mine had a similar experience. She is black, from Tunisia, and was shopping in Vietnam. Two women were speaking loudly about her in Vietnamese, saying that her "feet were as big as boats" and that she was "too tall for any man to love."
After a few minutes my friend went over to them and said in fluent Vietnamese that the weather looked like rain, and they answered her in Vietnamese without blinking, as though they didn't even realize she must have heard and understood what they said!
Sorry you had to hear those insults, but good for you for not responding in kind.
Yes, I like this response too as it still allows you to move through this situation with class and dignity while sending a subtle message. We are here sometimes to be one another's teachers. A gentle reminder to them on carrying oneself better never hurt.
Those who say cruel things about a person loudly enough for the person to hear the comments are insecure self-hating individuals who feel inferior inside and need to make themselves feel superior and important.
I hope no one minds me bumping this thread, but I have a story to share. It's not about me personally, but someone I know through school. I'm still a university student, so it makes sense I'm surrounded by a large amount of people that are on tight budgets and obviously cannot justify the price for a designer piece (be it shoes, handbags, etc). Hermes is probably at the top of the list of luxuriously-priced goods, but at the same time, it definitely doesn't have the same recognition as a brand like LV or Chanel.
We also have a Facebook group were you can post anonymous comments citing funny things you've seen around campus, send messages to admirers you'd be to shy to approach in real life, etc. But obviously, with anonymity, it's not always going to be unicorns and rainbows.
There is a girl who I often seen around campus that is always carrying a Birkin (I've seen a red and a black on her so far). I'm guessing other people have noticed too, because even for the students of "upper class" backgrounds from well-off families, a Birkin is not something that is gifted the same way an LV or even a Chanel bag would be. A while ago there was a comment posted on the Facebook group saying "To the girl who's always carrying a birkin, we all know it's yours Mom's, no need to feel all high and mighty" (this wasn't the exact wording, but the message had roughly the same meaning).
I thought it was kind of uncalled for, because every time I've seen her, she seems like a genuinely nice person, always smiling, carefree, doesn't take herself too seriously type of girl, but also someone who definitely dresses well and appreciates fashion. Obviously, I don't know her, but even so, I thought it was pretty mean-spirited to call her our on a school-wide Facebook page like that.
The comments underneath it were all along the lines of "oh I googled birkin, who's crazy enough to spend $15k on a bag?? How stupid", all being pretty harsh and critical.
It's situations like these that make me uncomfortable bringing out any sort of designer goods, for fear of being called out as superficial and snobby. And some of these people criticizing her are people who have no trouble spending thousands on tech without blinking an eye, or taking exotic vacations in luxury hotels! I just don't get it
We also have a Facebook group were you can post anonymous comments citing funny things you've seen around campus, send messages to admirers you'd be to shy to approach in real life, etc. But obviously, with anonymity, it's not always going to be unicorns and rainbows.
There is a girl who I often seen around campus that is always carrying a Birkin (I've seen a red and a black on her so far). I'm guessing other people have noticed too, because even for the students of "upper class" backgrounds from well-off families, a Birkin is not something that is gifted the same way an LV or even a Chanel bag would be. A while ago there was a comment posted on the Facebook group saying "To the girl who's always carrying a birkin, we all know it's yours Mom's, no need to feel all high and mighty" (this wasn't the exact wording, but the message had roughly the same meaning).
I thought it was kind of uncalled for, because every time I've seen her, she seems like a genuinely nice person, always smiling, carefree, doesn't take herself too seriously type of girl, but also someone who definitely dresses well and appreciates fashion. Obviously, I don't know her, but even so, I thought it was pretty mean-spirited to call her our on a school-wide Facebook page like that.
The comments underneath it were all along the lines of "oh I googled birkin, who's crazy enough to spend $15k on a bag?? How stupid", all being pretty harsh and critical.
It's situations like these that make me uncomfortable bringing out any sort of designer goods, for fear of being called out as superficial and snobby. And some of these people criticizing her are people who have no trouble spending thousands on tech without blinking an eye, or taking exotic vacations in luxury hotels! I just don't get it
I hope no one minds me bumping this thread, but I have a story to share. It's not about me personally, but someone I know through school. I'm still a university student, so it makes sense I'm surrounded by a large amount of people that are on tight budgets and obviously cannot justify the price for a designer piece (be it shoes, handbags, etc). Hermes is probably at the top of the list of luxuriously-priced goods, but at the same time, it definitely doesn't have the same recognition as a brand like LV or Chanel.
We also have a Facebook group were you can post anonymous comments citing funny things you've seen around campus, send messages to admirers you'd be to shy to approach in real life, etc. But obviously, with anonymity, it's not always going to be unicorns and rainbows.
There is a girl who I often seen around campus that is always carrying a Birkin (I've seen a red and a black on her so far). I'm guessing other people have noticed too, because even for the students of "upper class" backgrounds from well-off families, a Birkin is not something that is gifted the same way an LV or even a Chanel bag would be. A while ago there was a comment posted on the Facebook group saying "To the girl who's always carrying a birkin, we all know it's yours Mom's, no need to feel all high and mighty" (this wasn't the exact wording, but the message had roughly the same meaning).
I thought it was kind of uncalled for, because every time I've seen her, she seems like a genuinely nice person, always smiling, carefree, doesn't take herself too seriously type of girl, but also someone who definitely dresses well and appreciates fashion. Obviously, I don't know her, but even so, I thought it was pretty mean-spirited to call her our on a school-wide Facebook page like that.
The comments underneath it were all along the lines of "oh I googled birkin, who's crazy enough to spend $15k on a bag?? How stupid", all being pretty harsh and critical.
It's situations like these that make me uncomfortable bringing out any sort of designer goods, for fear of being called out as superficial and snobby. And some of these people criticizing her are people who have no trouble spending thousands on tech without blinking an eye, or taking exotic vacations in luxury hotels! I just don't get it
Honestly, who cares? Thats the attitude you should have when it comes to what other people think about you. Whether you've worked extremely hard for your luxury goods or they were gifted to you, you still deserve to use and enjoy them in peace. If other people want to talk crap about that, its because they are jealous. You shouldn't stop yourself from enjoying your things or anything else in life to appease someones insecurities.