Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[Love Of My Life]

Unfortunately, there are people like this in the world.. that little green envy

monster is on their shoulder.. I say enjoy, wear it well and don't be bothered

by this..

 

[crazyforhermes]

Another "plane" story ... I travel over the world with a Sherpa backpack and one day , on the plane back home , I noticed a couple looking at it many times .

Shortly before landing , the lady came to me and said it was the most beautiful and well made backpack she had ever seen and may she ask where it came from....
So , I answered it was Hermès and that unfortunately I thought it wasn't made anymore .She looked so disappointed that I gave her the address of a second hand shop where I had seen one not too long before !

 

[lilpicotin]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. I'm a newbie here and already I find this forum incredible. Wish I discovered TPF sooner as I probably could have saved myself many headaches. My DH and I try to keep a low profile in social situations. We appreciate beautiful things and always try to bring as little attention to ourselves. I'm so glad to find ladies on this forum with similar interests. Thank you!

Did any of you watch the movie "Julie and Julia"? There's a scene where the protagonist is complaining about her friends, and her husband say, "Men like their friends." As I read this thread, I kept thinking that many women have a lot of "fake" friends because we think we should be nice to everyone and maintain friendships... but real friends don't judge you by your bags or lifestyle.

And there will always be mean, bratty people in the world - just remember that the problem is THEIRS, not yours!

 

[India]

I'm an old lady and I'm just stunned at the loss of civility these days! Airliners diverted because of unruly passengers! "Friends" who appear to feel it's okay to say incredibly rude things! Do we have an entire generation of people who have been brought up without any "filters"? Grrrr.... I'm going to go crawl back under my afghan and go read a good book...

 

[kelly girl]

sambina, the fact that you shared your friend is ALWAYS LATE speaks volumes to me. it sounds as though he is rude across the board. i once ran into an acquaintance and her daughter when shopping. they were so busy eyeing my birkin, as we were speaking neither made eye contact with me. then one made a snide remark about my husband's business being so successful. i wanted to say something catty but just let it go. also i couldn't think of a response fast enough.

 

[Luciana12]

Perhaps I'm fortunate as I've never experienced a rude, etc. interaction due to my H belongings. On rare occasions, I've noticed a stare or two; on rarer occasions, a compliment...but never anything out of line...and I've always lived in very large US cities!!

 

[lovely64]

I have never had any of my friends say anything negative about my things. Then again, I don´t have that many real friends anyway

If a "friend" of mine said something negative I wouldn´t automatically assume that it was because they were broke/ugly/stupid/ill/unemployed etc. like someone else posted. I would first take a glance at myself and make sure that I wasn´t the one coming off as self-centered, arrogant or narrow minded. Just sayin And I am probably guilty of coming off exactly that way at times

 

[Mindi B]

I have never had any of my friends say anything negative about my things. Then again, I don´t have that many real friends anyway

If a "friend" of mine said something negative I wouldn´t automatically assume that it was because they were broke/ugly/stupid/ill/unemployed etc. like someone else posted. I would first take a glance at myself and make sure that I wasn´t the one coming off as self-centered, arrogant or narrow minded. Just sayin And I am probably guilty of coming off exactly that way at times

Well-said, Lovely! In the case of the OP, it sounds pretty clear that the problem was with the "friend," not with her or her Birkin. . . but I think it definitely behooves us to at least consider how we present ourselves (whether with or without an H accessory!). Automatically assuming that any negative comment directed at us must be undeserved and a function of the other person's "issues" is inherently arrogant. How refreshing to hear someone say she is willing to examine her own behavior too! Great post!

 

[lovely64]

^^^
Thank you, I guess I´m not as arrogant as I thought

 

[WingNut]

Did any of you watch the movie "Julie and Julia"? There's a scene where the protagonist is complaining about her friends, and her husband say, "Men like their friends." As I read this thread, I kept thinking that many women have a lot of "fake" friends because we think we should be nice to everyone and maintain friendships... but real friends don't judge you by your bags or lifestyle.

And there will always be mean, bratty people in the world - just remember that the problem is THEIRS, not yours!

Well that explains why I don't have a ton of friends (just a select few damn good ones!).

Some of these stories really sadden me. There have been many threads before about jealousy and comments we can be subject to due to our choices. Under no circumstances should we allow other people's "issues" to diminish our enjoyment of our successs.

 

[WingNut]

I have never had any of my friends say anything negative about my things. Then again, I don´t have that many real friends anyway

If a "friend" of mine said something negative I wouldn´t automatically assume that it was because they were broke/ugly/stupid/ill/unemployed etc. like someone else posted. I would first take a glance at myself and make sure that I wasn´t the one coming off as self-centered, arrogant or narrow minded. Just sayin And I am probably guilty of coming off exactly that way at times

That statement right there just proves you are anything BUT self-centered, arrogant, or narrow minded. Just stay the way you are.

 

[HermesFSH]

Well-said, Lovely! In the case of the OP, it sounds pretty clear that the problem was with the "friend," not with her or her Birkin. . . but I think it definitely behooves us to at least consider how we present ourselves (whether with or without an H accessory!). Automatically assuming that any negative comment directed at us must be undeserved and a function of the other person's "issues" is inherently arrogant. How refreshing to hear someone say she is willing to examine her own behavior too! Great post!

I agree. The OP's situation seem to be because of the "friend", however it is dangerous to assume perceived negativity is only due to jealousy without looking at ourselves first.

Most of the people I know are "poor" by which I mean they live in poor quality housing (in areas where mice in houses is normal), have low incomes and shop in cheap stores/charity shops. It's life. They are still great people and there is a mutual respect between us despite my means being greater than theirs. I do not assume negativity from them is jealousy at all. In fact, the jealousy comes from those who are well off (i.e the parents at my kids schools who are far far wealthier than me!). It's as if they feel I don't "deserve" nice things when I know the value of the money used to pay for it unlike them!

I think the way you wear something, as well as what the thing is (Hermes or whatever) can attract negativity that is NOT due to jealousy/some life inadequacy. Some people with designer clothes/bags are very shallow in their behaviour and act as though their "stuff" makes them better than others. (In fact I had a long discussion with my SA about it - seriously!). It is only materialism, it's not important in the general scheme of things although we take pleasure in it. I do not let my H rule my life, I use it knowing it is just a bag. Without it, my life is still good.

Yes, there are jealous people out there but I am also glad others look at their own behaviour too!

 

[Charm]

double post

 

[Vintage Leather]

my friends EYES GET HUGE AS SAUCERS!!!!!!....."HOLY S**T!!!!...ARE YOU INSANE?"...he says to me....IS THAT REAL?....I admit I was a little slow from the wine...so I'm not really understanding what the fuss is about. HUH???....I say...he then says..."YOUR HERMES BAG....LIKE DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH THAT COSTS?"..."WHY DIDN'T YOU BUY A LOUIS VUITTON OR COACH BAG?"...YOU COULD OF BOUGHT 10 BAGS FOR THE PRICE YOU PAID FOR JUST ONE....."I CAN'T BELIVE THAT YOU OF ALL WOMEN WOULD BE THAT DUMB AND SPEND THAT MUCH MONEY ON A POCKET BOOK!!!!!"

A possible response, "HOLY S**T! Are you insane? With the amount you waste on Louis Vuitton or Coach, I could have bought 10 Hermes bags! Men are such idiots when it comes to money."

I've never had anyone comment on my H bags - for me, it's a mix of a having a taste for the vintage, and most people around me not realizing who and what H is.
However, I have heard a lot of snarky comments on some of my vintage Chanels and Fendi bags.

My response is usually a variation of what I posted before, or:
"Oh my god, I'm so embarrassed for you, for having said that out loud."

The best defense is a good offense.

 

[Charm]

"i had a humerous situation once in selfridges two SA's working for joseph saw me pass by and stared and stared at my bag!! i went back past after 10 mins and they were staring again in the end one said - i like your jacket - but they were both just gawping at the bag! it was as if they had never seen a birkin before![/QUOTE]"

Maybe they hadn't seen a Birkin before in reality as after all they aren't a common sight in the UK, I would take their interest and admiration as a compliment!