Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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Thank u CobaltBlu...I was really caught off guard by my friends reaction at lunch today, it actually made me wonder...Hmmmm...could he possibly be right though?....Can a single woman carrying a Hermès bag be a deterrant for single men...I mean I do watch that VH1 show Tough Love...am I coming off as High Maintainence?..just another thought
This woman obviously did not know whom she was dealing with!I'm sorry that the person you thought was a dear friend attacked you on your choice, which is no one's business but your own. It's for you to decide how to spend your money and what you want to enjoy, and it can diminish the pleasure when you're attacked for your choice, but don't let it, and some how, I know you won't. I don't know what I would have said to him, but I might have "accidentally" spilled one of those wine spritzers in his lap!
I have an old friend who doesn't really judge what I buy, but she can't understand Hermes and never will, regardless of the fact that she buys designer handbags by the dozens and throws them out after a year, as they rarely hold up, and then she buys yet another one.
When she first spotted my RG Birkin, she couldn't wait to find out what I'd paid for it. I didn't want to tell her and was somewhat offended that she kept pressing me for the price. But, press she did, and then she started guessing. "Well, was it over $3,000?" No comment from me. "Was it over $5,000?" Still, no comment. "Oh my God, was it over $7,500?" Again, no response from me. Finally, "Well, I guess you're not going to tell me." Me: "Yes, El*^#, you know that I don't like to discuss money." She shut up.
But, a couple of weeks later, I ran into one of her friends (in H of all places), whom I barely know. She greeted me and then blurted out, "so, I hear you just bought another one of those $10,000 handbags!"
Needless to say, I don't have quite the same feelings towards my friend as I once did.
Don't let anyone diminish your enjoyment over owning something of such wonderful quality and carry your bags for your own pleasure and let the nay sayers be damned. Just try to ignore them.
I have an old friend who doesn't really judge what I buy, but she can't understand Hermes and never will, regardless of the fact that she buys designer handbags by the dozens and throws them out after a year, as they rarely hold up, and then she buys yet another one.
When she first spotted my RG Birkin, she couldn't wait to find out what I'd paid for it. I didn't want to tell her and was somewhat offended that she kept pressing me for the price. But, press she did, and then she started guessing. "Well, was it over $3,000?" No comment from me. "Was it over $5,000?" Still, no comment. "Oh my God, was it over $7,500?" Again, no response from me. Finally, "Well, I guess you're not going to tell me." Me: "Yes, El*^#, you know that I don't like to discuss money." She shut up.
But, a couple of weeks later, I ran into one of her friends (in H of all places), whom I barely know. She greeted me and then blurted out, "so, I hear you just bought another one of those $10,000 handbags!"
Needless to say, I don't have quite the same feelings towards my friend as I once did.
Don't let anyone diminish your enjoyment over owning something of such wonderful quality and carry your bags for your own pleasure and let the nay sayers be damned. Just try to ignore them.
You have to be yourself. 
Any man who would make a judgement about your "maintenance" based on your bag is not worth having. There are plenty of women on this board who have lovely bags and lovely supportive men in their lives. And its perfectly acceptable to be high maintenance if you are the one doing the one maintaining!
Dont let this "friend" of yours undermine your confidence in yourself and who you are!
Any man who would make a judgement about your "maintenance" based on your bag is not worth having. There are plenty of women on this board who have lovely bags and lovely supportive men in their lives. And its perfectly acceptable to be high maintenance if you are the one doing the one maintaining!
Dont let this "friend" of yours undermine your confidence in yourself and who you are!
If a man is deterred from approaching you because you "appear high maintenance" he wasn't a secure enough man for you anyway. Real men are not intimidated by women who have nice things.
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I wouldn't worry about it, Sambina, as most men don't have a clue and wouldn't recognize a Birkin if you hit them over the head with it! And, if they're so shallow as to judge you by the type of handbag you carry, you don't want anything to do with them anyway.
I'd kind of like to hit your rude friend over the head with mine, though, but I'd really hate to get his Metro Sexual hair gel all over it!
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OMG...LH...Your new avatar. I am enchanted...
Back to topic.....Sambina, I am sorry this happened. It seems rather cruel of your friend to say these things to you.
Awww, thanks, Cobalt. Avatar Lily sends you a big purr and a hug and some fish breath too.
I think I would of said to him " Hey my money, my life, my choice and please do not try to devalue me it wont work. I value your friendship but your " Out of order" so lets change the subject.
Ie you take control back from him in a nice way, he would probarly love to have one himself.
Ie you take control back from him in a nice way, he would probarly love to have one himself.
Ouch Hchicuk dont be to judgmental, I have met the most beautiful people who are very intelligent with great personality's that are broke. and some may regard as not being physically attractive. and some maybe a little overweight. but still beautiful
Just walk past them and don't give it another thought its no big deal
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LMAO...HONEY I WOULDN'T TAKE THE RISK RUINING ANY BIRKIN BY HITTING IT OVER HIS HEAD!!!!....LMAOOOOO....although "ACCIDENTLY" spilling the spritzer on him would of been his "JUST DESSERT"...I think the economy has affected peoples class & decorum in a way. I went to a baby shower and gave the mom to be a tiffany necklace, as well as a gift for the baby...I was confronted by the BABY'S FATHER (another "friend" of mine) ON NEW YEARS EVE ON HOW MUCH I PAID FOR THE NECKLACE.....THE BALLS!!!!
I do have a brief story to share that I thought was going to end Birkin badly, but as it turned out, it couldn't have been sweeter.
I basically had to carry my Birkin on my lap on the Christmas flight from Atlanta to Philadelphia, as the plane was crammed to the gills. They'd also moved my seat, which ended up right across from the flight attendant's jump seat.
I thought I saw her eyeing the B. bag once or twice, but as we were making our final approach into Philly, she leaned over and asked, "Can I ask you something? I've been admiring your beautiful bag. Is it a real one?" I laughed and assured her that it was, indeed.
She got very excited and said, "oh, I don't think I've ever been close to a REAL one before." She was very dear and so happy to admire the bag and said, "oh, this is my dream to own a real Hermes Birkin." She then showed me her LV agenda and pulled out a picture of the next Chanel she hoped to buy. I found myself a real handbag lover, wished her well, and gave her the address for the purse forum! She wrote it all down, and I hope she's joined and will get her new Chanel soon and then the Birkin of her dreams.
Sometimes, you do run across a lovely person who recognizes the bag and is excited to see it and happy that you own one.
I basically had to carry my Birkin on my lap on the Christmas flight from Atlanta to Philadelphia, as the plane was crammed to the gills. They'd also moved my seat, which ended up right across from the flight attendant's jump seat.
I thought I saw her eyeing the B. bag once or twice, but as we were making our final approach into Philly, she leaned over and asked, "Can I ask you something? I've been admiring your beautiful bag. Is it a real one?" I laughed and assured her that it was, indeed.
She got very excited and said, "oh, I don't think I've ever been close to a REAL one before." She was very dear and so happy to admire the bag and said, "oh, this is my dream to own a real Hermes Birkin." She then showed me her LV agenda and pulled out a picture of the next Chanel she hoped to buy. I found myself a real handbag lover, wished her well, and gave her the address for the purse forum! She wrote it all down, and I hope she's joined and will get her new Chanel soon and then the Birkin of her dreams.
Sometimes, you do run across a lovely person who recognizes the bag and is excited to see it and happy that you own one.
Well, in addition to your great taste in handbags, you're also a very smart woman, Sambina.
And if he ever opens his mouth again about your bags, order a big glass of RED wine and then . . . oooops, so sorry!
my response wasnt just based on looks/money (i mentioned job/relationship etc) the problem lies deep within the person who knows what triggers the feelings of jealousy and the lack of control of that jealousy in allowing it to pour out - what im meaning is her friend must have some issue/s that troubles him and that he cant deal with - so to make himself feel better (to alleviate the jealousy) he said negative things to make himself feel better - think we should feel sorry for people who have jealousy that they cant control........
he must have problems in his life to make him this way........if i was the op id ignore it and find less pre-judiced friends ... i spent 3 years in a competitive part of the beauty industry meeting others who were top models/miss worlds /socialites/royalty/incredibly wealthy etc etc but because im happy with my life i can say i was never jealous , so if the friend is truly happy he would be happy for the op.............
he must have problems in his life to make him this way........if i was the op id ignore it and find less pre-judiced friends ... i spent 3 years in a competitive part of the beauty industry meeting others who were top models/miss worlds /socialites/royalty/incredibly wealthy etc etc but because im happy with my life i can say i was never jealous , so if the friend is truly happy he would be happy for the op.............
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