Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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Sambina, my take on this is a little different. I don't think that your friend's comments about your Birkin were hurtful or rude, actually I find them quite honest and refreshing! He obviously feels comfortable enough with you to express what he really thinks. What's wrong with that? He just verbally expressed what 99% of people would think had they known the price of a Birkin. I have a couple of very dear friends (who would do anything for me and vice versa) and they used to question my Hermes purchases (scarves, enamel bracelets, belts, etc. - I don't own any H bags at this time). I just smile and admit my "little addiction". Do I need a $400 silk scarf? No, not really. I'm sure I can find a decent silk scarf for less than $50. Does one need a $10,000 handbag (even if the quality is superb)? No, one can find a high quality leather handbag for much less. Back in 2001 I bought a beautiful brown suede handbag in Florence from a local craftsman for 350 euros - I use it all the time and it still looks great 9 years later.
Perhaps some of our friends and relatives harbour resentment towards our H goods because on a personal level they don't understand the value - they don't feel the same passion and excitement about H and think that we "overpaid". The best strategy is to clear the air once and for all. I'm not talking about making excuses, I'm taking about communicating to those close to you that for whatever reason you like Hermes, it brings joy to your life and you see value in it. This is what I did and it worked out really well.
I would also like to comment about a few people mentioning how others are "jealous". Jealousy is a very common human emotion and we all experience it from time to time. Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work, they travel to exotic destinations and spend tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on spas, Hermes and other designer goods. How can they truly relate to others on this forum who have to work 12 hours a day, pay their bills, budget and look after their families? I know a few women myself who are given tens of thousands of dollars by their Dad or husband (or trust) to shop or travel and then they complain how others feel "jealous". Well, if everything was taken away from them and they had to work and make their own money most of them would be living in a one-bedroom apartment in a suburb and shopping at Walmart!
Perhaps some of our friends and relatives harbour resentment towards our H goods because on a personal level they don't understand the value - they don't feel the same passion and excitement about H and think that we "overpaid". The best strategy is to clear the air once and for all. I'm not talking about making excuses, I'm taking about communicating to those close to you that for whatever reason you like Hermes, it brings joy to your life and you see value in it. This is what I did and it worked out really well.
I would also like to comment about a few people mentioning how others are "jealous". Jealousy is a very common human emotion and we all experience it from time to time. Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work, they travel to exotic destinations and spend tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on spas, Hermes and other designer goods. How can they truly relate to others on this forum who have to work 12 hours a day, pay their bills, budget and look after their families? I know a few women myself who are given tens of thousands of dollars by their Dad or husband (or trust) to shop or travel and then they complain how others feel "jealous". Well, if everything was taken away from them and they had to work and make their own money most of them would be living in a one-bedroom apartment in a suburb and shopping at Walmart!
some of your remarks i agree with but id like to comment on the below statement!! if a lady doesnt work any longer it can also be due to her having had a fantastic business and done well from it and retired! you can retire early if you earn enough and want to!! im sure women like this if they lost what they have can probably make it again as they obviously had some get up and go to start with , so maybe not the best thing to tar all women with one brush! everyone is unique and all situations are unique and have to be judged as such....... and even if you have a trust or wealthy husband that does not mean you cant relate to others - i agree some may not be able to but not all women can be lumped together with such a drastic sweeping statement! money comes from all scources - and just because you have a birkin doesnt mean you are wealthy - yet that same person can be on the receiving end of comments like the op received - people should learn to be happy for one another surely??? even if i didnt like a friends expensive new car if it made her happy then id be very happy for her........and it wasnt a complaint that others are jealous sometimes its just a fact!plus, many women who dont work do charity work!
"I would also like to comment about a few people mentioning how others are "jealous". Jealousy is a very common human emotion and we all experience it from time to time. Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work, they travel to exotic destinations and spend tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on spas, Hermes and other designer goods. How can they truly relate to others on this forum who have to work 12 hours a day, pay their bills, budget and look after their families? I know a few women myself who are given tens of thousands of dollars by their Dad or husband (or trust) to shop or travel and then they complain how others feel "jealous". Well, if everything was taken away from them and they had to work and make their own money most of them would be living in a one-bedroom apartment in a suburb and shopping at Walmart! "
"I would also like to comment about a few people mentioning how others are "jealous". Jealousy is a very common human emotion and we all experience it from time to time. Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work, they travel to exotic destinations and spend tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on spas, Hermes and other designer goods. How can they truly relate to others on this forum who have to work 12 hours a day, pay their bills, budget and look after their families? I know a few women myself who are given tens of thousands of dollars by their Dad or husband (or trust) to shop or travel and then they complain how others feel "jealous". Well, if everything was taken away from them and they had to work and make their own money most of them would be living in a one-bedroom apartment in a suburb and shopping at Walmart! "
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some of your remarks i agree with but id like to comment on the below statement!! if a lady doesnt work any longer it can also be due to her having had a fantastic business and done well from it and retired! you can retire early if you earn enough and want to!! im sure women like this if they lost what they have can probably make it again as they obviously had some get up and go to start with , so maybe not the best thing to tar all women with one brush! everyone is unique and all situations are unique and have to be judged as such....... and even if you have a trust or wealthy husband that does not mean you cant relate to others - i agree some may not be able to but not all women can be lumped together with such a drastic sweeping statement! money comes from all scources - and just because you have a birkin doesnt mean you are wealthy - yet that same person can be on the receiving end of comments like the op received -
"I would also like to comment about a few people mentioning how others are "jealous". Jealousy is a very common human emotion and we all experience it from time to time. Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work, they travel to exotic destinations and spend tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on spas, Hermes and other designer goods. How can they truly relate to others on this forum who have to work 12 hours a day, pay their bills, budget and look after their families? I know a few women myself who are given tens of thousands of dollars by their Dad or husband (or trust) to shop or travel and then they complain how others feel "jealous". Well, if everything was taken away from them and they had to work and make their own money most of them would be living in a one-bedroom apartment in a suburb and shopping at Walmart! "[/QUOTE]
Hunny, all it takes is a brain...no more, no less.
"I would also like to comment about a few people mentioning how others are "jealous". Jealousy is a very common human emotion and we all experience it from time to time. Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work, they travel to exotic destinations and spend tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on spas, Hermes and other designer goods. How can they truly relate to others on this forum who have to work 12 hours a day, pay their bills, budget and look after their families? I know a few women myself who are given tens of thousands of dollars by their Dad or husband (or trust) to shop or travel and then they complain how others feel "jealous". Well, if everything was taken away from them and they had to work and make their own money most of them would be living in a one-bedroom apartment in a suburb and shopping at Walmart! "[/QUOTE]
Hunny, all it takes is a brain...no more, no less.
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Wooooooooooooo I am really saddened that you read the comments this way, I did'nt please dont be so angry
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I have to disagree, respectfully, with this part of your post. I am one of the people that mentioned the word "jealous" in reference to the OP's friend making the comments about her spending $ on the bag. While I agree that we all need to be aware of how we present ourselves - I would expect someone who parades around showing off how much money they spend to be met with some resentment- I can only base my answer on my own experience. My money was not handed to me, and I most certainly did not marry rich. I made my own money by working and studying my a$$ off, am quite frugal in other ways, and was careful to spend where I felt it was worth it. Ergo, you cannot assume most of us, nor the OP, are coming from the position you describe above. Walmart might very well be the reason we CAN afford H
."How can they truly relate to others on this forum who have to work 12 hours a day, pay their bills, budget and look after their families?" you ask? By doing exactly the same thing to be able to afford what we want.
Hermeschicuk, I think you misunderstood what I meant. I'll quote myself: "Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work..." Obviously if someone worked hard, became successful and retired early - whole different story.
I didn't mean to offend anyone, I was just pointing out that if material things are given to someone, that person doesn't know what it's like if you have to work for everything yourself.
By the way, I love your blog and visit all the time!
I didn't mean to offend anyone, I was just pointing out that if material things are given to someone, that person doesn't know what it's like if you have to work for everything yourself.
By the way, I love your blog and visit all the time!
this is more like a debate forum not a hermes forum today!!!! all we need now is william hague LOL!
thankyou! glad you like the blog
not offended!! but we dont know the op's situation - so hard to generalise i think or i would hope that we all did our best to help and give empathy to the op's position -
not offended!! but we dont know the op's situation - so hard to generalise i think or i would hope that we all did our best to help and give empathy to the op's position -
Hermeschicuk, I think you misunderstood what I meant. I'll quote myself: "Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work..." Obviously if someone worked hard, became successful and retired early - whole different story.
I didn't mean to offend anyone, I was just pointing out that if material things are given to someone, that person doesn't know what it's like if you have to work for everything yourself.
By the way, I love your blog and visit all the time!
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