Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#123
Sambina, my take on this is a little different. I don't think that your friend's comments about your Birkin were hurtful or rude, actually I find them quite honest and refreshing! He obviously feels comfortable enough with you to express what he really thinks. What's wrong with that?
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What's wrong with it is that he upset her and made her feel uncomfortable. Not to mention the fact that it was rude. Just because I am comfortable with someone doesn't mean I have free reign to say rude things to them.

He just verbally expressed what 99% of people would think had they known the price of a Birkin. I have a couple of very dear friends (who would do anything for me and vice versa) and they used to question my Hermes purchases (scarves, enamel bracelets, belts, etc. - I don't own any H bags at this time). I just smile and admit my "little addiction". Do I need a $400 silk scarf? No, not really. I'm sure I can find a decent silk scarf for less than $50. Does one need a $10,000 handbag (even if the quality is superb)? No, one can find a high quality leather handbag for much less.
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99%? Really? And that makes it okay to say something like that to someone? Hmmm I have to disagree. And to be honest there is a tinge of judgment in your post IMO. Who said anything about "needing" to buy these bags? We buy them because we like them. End of story.

Perhaps some of our friends and relatives harbour resentment towards our H goods because on a personal level they don't understand the value - they don't feel the same passion and excitement about H and think that we "overpaid". The best strategy is to clear the air once and for all. I'm not talking about making excuses, I'm taking about communicating to those close to you that for whatever reason you like Hermes, it brings joy to your life and you see value in it. This is what I did and it worked out really well.
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Besides telling someone how wonderful H is, I don't really feel the need to explain myself to people who complain about my bags. And even so, they probably wouldn't stop complaining even if I did.

I would also like to comment about a few people mentioning how others are "jealous". Jealousy is a very common human emotion and we all experience it from time to time. Some of the women here are very fortunate to be born in wealthy families and/or to marry a wealthy man. They don't work, they travel to exotic destinations and spend tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on spas, Hermes and other designer goods. How can they truly relate to others on this forum who have to work 12 hours a day, pay their bills, budget and look after their families? I know a few women myself who are given tens of thousands of dollars by their Dad or husband (or trust) to shop or travel and then they complain how others feel "jealous". Well, if everything was taken away from them and they had to work and make their own money most of them would be living in a one-bedroom apartment in a suburb and shopping at Walmart!
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I don't understand the relevance of this part.

I think everyone realizes that jealousy is not always at the core of a person's statements. But sometimes, based on the content, you CAN tell if it is jealousy or not.
 
#124
Sambina said:
Oh my....ok let's see if I can clear some things up.

I've worked since 13 (of course off the books & part-time). My family is working middle class, so no trust funds. In 2005 I was left a brownstone in brooklyn by my great aunt who had died from breast cancer. I don't work because I suffer severly from FIBROMYALGIA, I was diagnosed in 2007...if I could work I would....I've never been married, I don't have any children, and I don't get men to buy me things....I APPRECIATE EVERYTHING I BUY CHEAP or EXPENSIVE BECAUSE I BUSTED MY HUMP working HARD for it. I've always had a good job MAKING EXCELLENT MONEY (started waitressing, bartending then eventually General Manager) and when I was in my early 20's I saved money buying cheap clothes...I shopped at rainbow and mandees, allowing me to spend more money on shoes and bags....I don't wear valentino, chloe, st john, alexander mc queen, gucci, or stella mc cartney....although I would love to. I buy true religions, citizens, 7's, AG's Jeans, and I own 1 pair of ROLANDO LOUBOUTINS.


Ladies I started the thread wondering if anyone has had a not so positive respone...and if they did to simply share their story...it wasn't meant to cause a problem.
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I think we all had some experience of negativity (however big or small) throughout our time of owning/enjoying H. For some tpfers here, it may even have been a lifetime enjoying H!

In your own experience, reading your first post and just this post (sorry, I skipped everything in between), your own explanation brings light to where the issue was ~ your friend is not used to you with luxury goods. How he expressed that sentiment, only you can understand as you're his friend. If I have a friend like this, it would become EX-friend in an instance.
 
#125
I have had comments from a long-time friend when she saw me with my Birkin and Cartier watch ... " Oh gosh you are single... you should not be spending so much $ on these expensive bags and watches ... you should save and know how to take care of yourself!"

I felt sad, Just because she's married, she can wear diamond watches and expensive bags and I can't??? ... I just smiled and didn't say anything ... there was no need to explain myself :)

I do save... and I take care of myself, that's why I buy what I love :smile1:

Btw, lilyhermes, love your story with the air stewardess, I have similar experience with younger friends too.
 
#126
Sambina said:
Oh my....ok let's see if I can clear some things up.

I've worked since 13 (of course off the books & part-time). My family is working middle class, so no trust funds. In 2005 I was left a brownstone in brooklyn by my great aunt who had died from breast cancer. I don't work because I suffer severly from FIBROMYALGIA, I was diagnosed in 2007...if I could work I would....I've never been married, I don't have any children, and I don't get men to buy me things....I APPRECIATE EVERYTHING I BUY CHEAP or EXPENSIVE BECAUSE I BUSTED MY HUMP working HARD for it. I've always had a good job MAKING EXCELLENT MONEY (started waitressing, bartending then eventually General Manager) and when I was in my early 20's I saved money buying cheap clothes...I shopped at rainbow and mandees, allowing me to spend more money on shoes and bags....I don't wear valentino, chloe, st john, alexander mc queen, gucci, or stella mc cartney....although I would love to. I buy true religions, citizens, 7's, AG's Jeans, and I own 1 pair of ROLANDO LOUBOUTINS.


Ladies I started the thread wondering if anyone has had a not so positive respone...and if they did to simply share their story...it wasn't meant to cause a problem.
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Your beautiful
:heart::hugs:
 
#127
IceEarl said:
I have had comments from a long-time friend when she saw me with my Birkin and Cartier watch ... " Oh gosh you are single... you should not be spending so much $ on these expensive bags and watches ... you should save and know how to take care of yourself!"

I felt sad, Just because she's married, she can wear diamond watches and expensive bags and I can't??? ... I just smiled and didn't say anything ... there was no need to explain myself :)

I do save... and I take care of myself, that's why I buy what I love :smile1:

Btw, lilyhermes, love your story with the air stewardess, I have similar experience with younger friends too.
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Awwwwwww don't feel sad you just have not met your Prince Charming yet,You have got to kiss a lot of frogs first;)

( and think of all of the dirty socks you have not had to wash;))
 

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#131
IceEarl said:
I have had comments from a long-time friend when she saw me with my Birkin and Cartier watch ... " Oh gosh you are single... you should not be spending so much $ on these expensive bags and watches ... you should save and know how to take care of yourself!"

I felt sad, Just because she's married, she can wear diamond watches and expensive bags and I can't??? ... I just smiled and didn't say anything ... there was no need to explain myself :)
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You're a good one. I don't know if I would have let that slide without saying something REALLY snide. smh :smile1:
 
#132
years ago, i used to work with a french guy who knew what my bags were and told someone else in our work area. it wasnt an issue for him but the girl he told what my bags were said one day, "do you realize that the price of your bag can feed a small country?"...i just ignored her and focused on my work...she was one co-worker i didnt care what she'd say or do, so it didnt affect me....
 
#133
pazt said:
years ago, i used to work with a french guy who knew what my bags were and told someone else in our work area. it wasnt an issue for him but the girl he told what my bags were said one day, "do you realize that the price of your bag can feed a small country?"...i just ignored her and focused on my work...she was one co-worker i didnt care what she'd say or do, so it didnt affect me....
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:wtf:

pazt, you're a saint. i don't know if i would've actually done something in that situation, but i would've been internally steaming all day long after that! :p

sambina... i totally think things can get lost in translation, just because we're typing on the internet and a lot of context and cues get lost. but you come across as a very sweet and sincere person, and i agree with cbtg818, you get to treat yourself to WHATEVER you want!! :heart:
 
#134
As an H fan, H really charges preposterous amounts. that's reality. we're crazy, but it makes us crazy happy :D and some of our material happiness consists of $10,000+ bags....

i had an aunt ask about my H stuff because she noticed me wearing an H bangle and a kelly pendant. She says i'm into H now. I also asked her to buy me an Hermes Supercatalog. I was telling her about H and when I mentioned the price of my Lindy her eyes just widened but said nothing. I stopped at telling her about the price of my kelly.....and my future birkin purchase hehe.

I wasn't offended because everybody in the family knows i'm nuts about bags.
 
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