Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#136
Sambina said:
Ok Ladies....I was wondering has anybody commented Men or Women NEGATIVELY on your Birkin or any of your Hermès purchases?
I went to lunch today with a male friend I've known for several years, I just got a 42cm Black JPG this past September...I decided to bring with me to lunch today...I beat him to the restaurant so I was already seated...my friend is ALWAYS LATE...oh BTW he's not gay but metrosexual and knows all name brand items...as we eat, drink a few white wine spritzers...my cell rings from my JPG...I reach for it and my friends EYES GET HUGE AS SAUCERS!!!!!!....."HOLY S**T!!!!...ARE YOU INSANE?"...he says to me....IS THAT REAL?....I admit I was a little slow from the wine...so I'm not really understanding what the fuss is about. HUH???....I say...he then says..."YOUR HERMES BAG....LIKE DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH THAT COSTS?"..."WHY DIDN'T YOU BUY A LOUIS VUITTON OR COACH BAG?"...YOU COULD OF BOUGHT 10 BAGS FOR THE PRICE YOU PAID FOR JUST ONE....."I CAN'T BELIVE THAT YOU OF ALL WOMEN WOULD BE THAT DUMB AND SPEND THAT MUCH MONEY ON A POCKET BOOK!!!!!"....I was in such shock by the negativity, I really didn't have a response. I never experienced this...most of the time when I wear either of my Birkins...NOBODY EVEN KNOWS WHAT THEY ARE!!!! (I guess because I live in Brooklyn and don't live in Manhatten).
Has anyone else had this happen?...from friends?...or just random people off the street?....I would love to hear your story!!!!!
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I went back to the original post. I don;t know your friend -whether part of this was intentionally rude/catty (As per your thread title); or he was truly aghast and blurted out something truly tactless.

I've never had this happen. The only close to negative comment (which was actually cute to me) is how aghast some customers (who were strangers) were at H madison when I walked in with my 32 barenia HAC from the rain (HAC has been water proofed by professional and I am very very happy). People actually went up to me to say omg, barenia, RAIN and imply I was negligent, and I laughed and was like, no, no, in about half an hour, 20 minutes, HAC will be as good as new. Some hung around to make sure.

I am careful to never discuss price with anyone (other than dear tpfers who ask because they are considering similar items). I laugh and say things like "you don;t want to know," or "this is the result of the liquidation of ten years of designer clothing for this," "you can get great deals from German/French ebay/favorite consignor/reseller;" " or my girlfriend and I trade stuff all the time and I got rid of a bunch of things I no longer use." "or I often shop in my mother's closet." Or, "I would rather have this than a car, vacation, or 10 other bags." People want to be reassured, especially in this economy, that you are like them. And then I can wear what I want. This is my own solution to diffusing potentially uncomfortable situations and only my opinion.
 
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#137
Baileylab, thank you for your post and for saying it like it is.

Technically speaking, a croc H bag can feed a small country (like Nauru or Tuvalu), it can also feed around 250,000 children in Kenya for one day! I know, I know... nobody wants to hear such things but it is a fact. Why get offended? It's a reality.

baileylab said:
As an H fan, H really charges preposterous amounts. that's reality. we're crazy, but it makes us crazy happy :D and some of our material happiness consists of $10,000+ bags....
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#138
nadiap said:
Technically speaking, a croc H bag can feed a small country (like Nauru or Tuvalu), it can also feed around 250,000 children in Kenya for one day! I know, I know... nobody wants to hear such things but it is a fact. Why get offended? It's a reality.
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I've decided that the net time someone says something to me about feeding children for the amount I pay for my bags, I'm just going to say, "well if I cared, I would have donated my money to charity. But I don't and so I didn't." Wonder what the reaction will be.
 
#139
Moments like this separates the friends from the frenemies. Big smile on your face as you say"you are entitled to your opinion and I am entitled to mine. I am enjoying my bag enormously, thank you!"
 
#140
I am lucky, where I work or even my buddies, we all love pretty things, and H too. It's all above discussing which bags/scarves/shawls to buy or how to wear it. And i can't discuss price with somebody I know will remark negatively. I just said a present fr dearest hubby.. :D
 
#141
Most of my friends I met on tPF so I never get comments from them, just enabling. :tup:

The few comments I have gotten were mostly at my last job. There were a few people who thought I was crazy for buying the real deal when you could buy a fake for $40. One would shove her bag at me and say "feel it, you can't tell the difference." :p I would just smile and let the teasing go in one ear and out the other. Life's too short, I just want to enjoy my pretty bags and scarves.

That's why I love tPF. We can talk about and obsess about things that other people might think is silly but we know that other people here "get it".

:hugs:
 
#142
CB - how about when my male co-workers were joking, the leather feels like my sofa... and it's such a big piece of leather! of cos we are good friends, they were joking, no ill intent. i laugh along.
 
#145
May I remind everyone to

1) stay on topic if this thread is to remain open;
2) do not air personal disagreements not relevant to topic in public, do it via PM;
3) to ignore/put on ignore if you do not like certain post, threads, posters.

Thank you!
 
#146
robee said:
I am lucky, where I work or even my buddies, we all love pretty things, and H too. It's all above discussing which bags/scarves/shawls to buy or how to wear it. And i can't discuss price with somebody I know will remark negatively. I just said a present fr dearest hubby.. :D
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I do similar, I tell everyone it was a gift from mum. I didn't think anyone would know what a birkin was (men to women in my team 10:1) and I brought mine in 1 day cos I was going out after. Kept it hidden under the table. One of the ladies recognised it and when I went out of the office for 5 min, she told EVERYONE how much it cost.

When I came back in everyone was hanging crap on me, I was mortified. When I wear shoes that aren't Blundstones, she will ask what they are and how much. I don't mind people asking (doesn't mean I will tell them, esp price) but she does it when others are around and it makes me feel uncomfortable. People still bring up the birkin thing a year on. I don't get upset, not one bit but I do feel uncomfortable.

I just use the excuse that everything was a gift from my mum. As a result everyone in the office thinks I'm spoilt. But I don't care.
 
#147
kavnadoo - I can be your daughter too... if u love to... your colourful avatar driving me mad dead! hahahahahahahaha

My sister in law is very nice, she cldn't and wldnt buy, but her personal preference, but she will be so supportive and happy about me chasing what I want and things i found. So I am glad. Just as I am typing here, I was on a call some where, chasing my unicorn.. i hope i can find it.. good luck to me.... and of cos my H angel is somewhere now tsk tsk tsk.......

for all info - not that I don't get negative remarks, i am sure i do, but bcos they are not important, i dnt remember it, i love to remember the good things, not that much capacity in my tiny brain, so keep for good things. This works for me :D
 
#148
Hehe... I feel that I need some orange, yellow and blue in my rainbow as well. But I need to be good, naughty me already bought something this year. :s

I'm the same as you, the comments don't bother me. Yes they may for a split second but I get over it so quick cos they are not important.

PS: I promise you can adopt my rainbow when I get sick of it! That's like my mum saying I can have her croc when she's sick of it, lol! :p
 
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