LamborghiniGirl said:
I usually say to those that I am not too close to that I got extremely lucky. To my friends and people that are very sweet, I just refer them to my SA
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Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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I usually say to those that I am not too close to that I got extremely lucky. To my friends and people that are very sweet, I just refer them to my SA
.I completely agree with you.It's a shame when we have to censor ourselves (or our style) around the people who should love and accept us unconditionally. My family and friends constantly ask/make comments about the price of my bags, shoes, jewelry, etc.. I learned early on that (most) people will stop asking me questions that I decline to answer. However, there will always be those few who insist on making us feel badly about our lives/choices/purchases/what have you.
Case in point: I was not fortunate enough to be born into an affluent family, quite the contrary actually. However, I was fortunate to meet, fall in love with, and eventually marry a wonderful man who is able to and enjoys lavishing me with gifts; namely bags from Chanel, Dior, LV and, of course, Hermes. When I started wearing the bags, one of my best and oldest friends, began making obnoxious comments... "Is that another new bag?", "How much did that cost?", and the like. For the sake of our friendship and for the sake of our other mutual friends, I ignored her comments and/or changed the subject from then on. To make a long and unpleasant story short, one day we finally met for coffee to discuss our deteriorating friendship. What began as rude comments about bags, eventually turned into her revealing her true feelings about who she thought I was as a person. The words "judgmental", "conceited", and much worse were used to describe me and, as a result, the friendship is over.
On a more positive note, I have only ever received compliments from strangers when I'm wearing Hermes or any other luxury item. My favorite shopping experiences while with my husband are when fellow shoppers have given their unsolicited opinions on which scarf or bag suits me best (usually when I prefer one and my husband prefers another). Luckily, every time that has happened, the helpful woman chose my pick.
Thank you for sharing your story with me. I am truly sorry that you lost what was once a treasured and valued relationship. Sadly, not all friendships are meant to last forever and one can outgrow the friendship especially when too many feelings of competition and insecurity and judgmental behaviors begin to overshadow the rest of the friendship. AS women, it is so important to be supportive to each other and celebrate the good things in one another's lives rather than allow jealousy or competitiveness to take over. I love hearing how thoughtful your DH is and that he shares the same passion for H and other luxuries as you do! Best wishes to you and hoping some H fairy dust finds it's way to you for the holidays!!
I think you are on the right track when you downplay it and just respond, "I just got lucky... right place at the right time." Recommend to them that they go back often and check on availability of CDC etc... This is pretty much what I do as well, but my close friends get a personal intro to my SA.
I usually do my best to ignore snippy little questions, but when that's impossible to do, I tell them the story of how I procured my first Birkin.
My DH and I stopped by the store in Las Vegas and struck up a conversation with the SA. (We do not live there, but visit a few times a year.) I told him I was looking for a 35 Birkin and I was told they had nothing. However, we started chatting about our shared love of all things H and over an hour later, he gladly took my information and even helped me pick out the exact combination of leather and hardware. Because I was so specific, and because of the length of their "list", he said I might have to wait a few years before I received my bag. But almost a year to day of that visit, he called to say he had my bag and shipped it out immediately. It was my (and my DH's) very first Hermes purchase. So, you are welcome to tell your friends this story as your own.
Or just tell them the truth, that you are a connoisseur of H and have developed a friendship with the SAs in your store.
Also, if the SAs in your store are anything like the SAs in my local store, then they can surely tell the difference between those who are H-devoted and the merely Birkin-obsessed. You are clearly H-devoted, and therefore, are rewarded accordingly.
Thank you for sharing your story with me. I am truly sorry that you lost what was once a treasured and valued relationship. Sadly, not all friendships are meant to last forever and one can outgrow the friendship especially when too many feelings of competition and insecurity and judgmental behaviors begin to overshadow the rest of the friendship. AS women, it is so important to be supportive to each other and celebrate the good things in one another's lives rather than allow jealousy or competitiveness to take over. I love hearing how thoughtful your DH is and that he shares the same passion for H and other luxuries as you do! Best wishes to you and hoping some H fairy dust finds it's way to you for the holidays!!
Thank you for the kind words, luckylove. Best wishes to you and your family as for the holidays as well! :santawave:
And I second your hopes for H fairy dust. Here's hoping that everyone who has had to endure any rudeness regarding their H purchases gets a little extra H fairy dust coming their way for the holidays!
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I only have two pieces of hermes, a clic h and a twilly that I saved all my babysitting money for! Im very young but worked SO hard for these pieces...Anyways today I was wearing my blue electrique clic h when some girl was like "ewww that bracelet is so ugly! what does the 'h' stand for? hideous?" her posse snickered. Granted this girl knows very well about designers as well...I just stood there wanting to cry or scream at her...she was so loud and obnoxious..I don't understand why people are so mean!:cry:
I only have two pieces of hermes, a clic h and a twilly that I saved all my babysitting money for! Im very young but worked SO hard for these pieces...Anyways today I was wearing my blue electrique clic h when some girl was like "ewww that bracelet is so ugly! what does the 'h' stand for? hideous?" her posse snickered. Granted this girl knows very well about designers as well...I just stood there wanting to cry or scream at her...she was so loud and obnoxious..I don't understand why people are so mean!:cry:
Geez. WTF. Please swing by SF - I will happily drool over your bracelet. Blue electric is my favorite H color!!!
You know, I've found that when someone is secure and happy with themselves they find no need to put down the traits or acquisitions of others. It is simply irrelevant. Now as human beings, it's challenging to maintain constant security in the face of the general difficulty of life, so we all periodically act out (at least I'm prone to many imperfections
), but if this person feels like calling you out on your bracelet and making a scene of it, my first reaction is "get a life." It's wonderful that you have these two H things and have worked so hard to get them. Everyone has to start somewhere. Additionally that you have a passion for Hermes and are genuinely excited to see it out in the world. I hope you never lose that, because the only "hideous" thing in this scenario is that girl's personality.
That sucks!
I've bought a couple of H bags for my gf and she's gotten one or two questions about how to get them. The best way to avoid those is to just outsource the answer. She'll just say "My bf got it for me. Who knows who he had to sleep with. lol!"
Or some variation of that. Basically, she just took herself out of the equation.
Chanelgirl, I don't know how old you are but I'm betting you're a young teen. I'm also betting that one reason you bought these Hermes items was in hopes of being accepted by a particular crowd at your school, and unfortunately, that back-fired and instead you were hurt once again by them. Girls that age can be mean, mean, mean. It's usually because they themselves are quite insecure and the way they feel more secure is to be mean to others. It ain't pretty and it hurts like the devil!
So...what to do. First of all, I don't think school is an appropriate place to wear ANY high value designer item or piece of jewelry. There is a reason many private school don't allow this - it nearly always causes problems, either envy or outright theft. Second, quit worrying about being liked by those girls and find some friends with whom you have something in common and enjoy them. They may not be the envied "in-crowd" but they will be true friends.
A year ago, I went back to my 50th high school reunion - had not been to any of the previous ones. I live a long way from where I grew up and my parents moved from there within a year of my graduation. You know what? NOTHING had changed!!! They were all still exactly the same, even if they were approaching 70! Kind of sad, huh? I'm glad I went but those girls who frequently hurt and excluded me when I was 13 still excluded me - with a bit more finesse, but still somewhat excluded. But what I discovered was that I had moved on and made a life for myself elsewhere and they were still stuck in a small KS town and hadn't progressed much beyond their teens.
They did all tell me that I looked even better than I did in high school (and that I was attractive then), and they were bowled over by my Hermes shawl - they'd never seen one and had no idea what it was.
So, forget those mean girls! Find some new friends who ARE friends, and remember that what you wear or own will never get you true friends. People are friends because they like YOU, not your Hermes!
So...what to do. First of all, I don't think school is an appropriate place to wear ANY high value designer item or piece of jewelry. There is a reason many private school don't allow this - it nearly always causes problems, either envy or outright theft. Second, quit worrying about being liked by those girls and find some friends with whom you have something in common and enjoy them. They may not be the envied "in-crowd" but they will be true friends.
A year ago, I went back to my 50th high school reunion - had not been to any of the previous ones. I live a long way from where I grew up and my parents moved from there within a year of my graduation. You know what? NOTHING had changed!!! They were all still exactly the same, even if they were approaching 70! Kind of sad, huh? I'm glad I went but those girls who frequently hurt and excluded me when I was 13 still excluded me - with a bit more finesse, but still somewhat excluded. But what I discovered was that I had moved on and made a life for myself elsewhere and they were still stuck in a small KS town and hadn't progressed much beyond their teens.
They did all tell me that I looked even better than I did in high school (and that I was attractive then), and they were bowled over by my Hermes shawl - they'd never seen one and had no idea what it was.
So, forget those mean girls! Find some new friends who ARE friends, and remember that what you wear or own will never get you true friends. People are friends because they like YOU, not your Hermes!
India, your story relates with a lot of us, i have had very very similar experiences to you.
Ladies and members of a young age - if you're not careful, trying to be one of the 'in-crowd' will rob you of the good times you could have been having - and at school/college ...... less is most definately more.
Ladies and members of a young age - if you're not careful, trying to be one of the 'in-crowd' will rob you of the good times you could have been having - and at school/college ...... less is most definately more.
I'm 16 and I just always have loved nice things and quality pieces. I had seen my sister's, best friend's mom had one about 2 years ago! I had wanted one ever since...the thing is, I barely know these people and have NO desire to be friends with them...they are so rude to everyone. I know it's typical girl stuff but its SO pointless...since then I've no longer worn my nice jewelry...I have extremely generous family that has given me such nice things and its bothersome that you can't just be yourself. I only own 2 pairs of jeans and usually wear skirts or dresses or leggings with tunics..that's not accepted but wearing your pajamas is? Everyone feels the need to judge based of their own insecurities! In a way I'm glad most people in my town don't recognize my things but the people that do are ALWAYS rude!
I was miserable in middle and high school, taunted constantly. just make it through and you never have to see them again! Sometimes it feels never ending with the hurtful comments about nice pieces, but just remember their is an underlying reason they take pleasure in hurting you. And then I just feel sorry for people like that. Hugs!!
Many of us have been through this stage in life and trust me when I tell you, though these are difficult waters to navigate, this stage does not last forever. There is a world beyond high school where you will continue to grow and achieve and expand your horizons. As you do so, you will gain even more in your self confidence and the opinions and judgements of others will have less impact on you through out the coming years. You will also discover a group of friends along the way who don't need to tear you down and who support your achievements and goals. You seem like such a sweet girl and you worked hard to attain the goal of being able to afford your H goodies... Go out and wear them proudly and to hell with the snippy jealous comments from these other girls. Continue to be true to yourself. Best wishes to you, dear chanelgirl!
My Dear Chanelgirl...It really will never stop, like India says. They just do it with more finesse. As long as they perceive you as any kind of a threat, it will not stop. The most important thing for you to do is to know yourself and value yourself. You wll never get their approval...its not worth your time to even try.I only have two pieces of hermes, a clic h and a twilly that I saved all my babysitting money for! Im very young but worked SO hard for these pieces...Anyways today I was wearing my blue electrique clic h when some girl was like "ewww that bracelet is so ugly! what does the 'h' stand for? hideous?" her posse snickered. Granted this girl knows very well about designers as well...I just stood there wanting to cry or scream at her...she was so loud and obnoxious..I don't understand why people are so mean!:cry:
I guess my catty story is when a very good looking, very high maintenance young lady asked me about my Hermes bags and other items. She grabbed my bag saying...Who buys them for you? Husbands?... Boyfriends?...How?. When I replied I buy them for myself, she asked me "Do you know how much these things are?....then...abruptly walked away. I just stood there in stunned disbelief then I recovered and chuckled.
It makes a great story over lunch...
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Sometimes you can get a compliment with a semi-mean comment attached Several years ago i was visiting my mom in FL and since she had no internet, we stopped at a Starbucks so I could check my email. I was carrying my orange Kelly and set it on top of the table as we were having our coffee. A total stranger came up to me, complimented the bag and color and asked it was "real" and then stated that she watched Real Housewives of NYC and learned the price of a Birkin from the show and would never pay that herself and thought it was stupid to do so. I smiled, said my bag wasn't a Birkin and then said "have a nice day." What can you do?