I'm going to have to tuck your witty advice in my back pocket. It's so true!
I always think of great comebacks after the rude person has walked away. I think their rudeness catches me off guard
Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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I'm going to have to tuck your witty advice in my back pocket. It's so true!
I always think of great comebacks after the rude person has walked away. I think their rudeness catches me off guard
I'm in Canada where H is not very well known, and in Ottawa (our capital city) where fashion is unimportant to pretty much everyone. One day one of the girls at work came in with a scarf her sister bought for her at the Hermes store in Paris - I think it was Le Cheval Mexican. Anyway, she told the girls in her department what it had cost her sister, and they thought it was crazy that someone would spend that much on a scarf (in this town, it's impossible to conceive of anything more expensive than a Coach purse). All day I had girls from her department commenting to me on how crazy it was to spend that much on a scarf - despite the fact that I was wearing one of my H scarves that day. I thought it was hilarious that they could be so critical of something which they clearly didn't know much about. People are quick to critize and I'm sorry it made you feel badly - but hopefully your Hermes made you feel better again.
So true! I personally don't care for expensive cars but I would never critizise a person for spending 100k on a car. To each his/her own.
I learned a LONG time ago to NEVER tell anyone how much anything costs - even if they're rude enough to ask, I'm very vague and never give a number. I also always tried to dress at a level at work that was pretty much what others did. One persons perceived affluence can cause envy to rear it's ugly head. When one becomes a big boss, there is more leeway. Until one reaches that status, leave the "big guns" at home.
Love this, will use it.
Why do people always assume my black togo 35 is fake? I'm starting to take it personally.
YES! Feelings hurt... I would never go fake. I think that people think it's too much to spend. But, duh, it's a forever bag. *I do live in the Midwest.
I was fortunate to grow up in an affluent family. Both parents worked in medicine during it's Golden Age when talented physicians still earned a nice living. From them, I learned the value of a good education, hard work and the importance of giving back in society. We all share a passion for travel, for writing, and for getting involved in philanthropic causes. My husband and I continue the tradition of working hard while remembering to give back. Strangely enough, though my parents have led quite a nice lifestyle, they are oddly judgmental in the ways we choose to spend our hard earned money. When my father first saw my leather rivale bracelet, he commented "isn't that kind of expensive?" I don't dare bring any of my H bags around them as I have grown tired of the unwarranted comments. I think it is so important in life to remember that our "things" don't determine who we are and it would be lovely if those around us would stop judging us based on what we choose to wear or carry. The measure of a human being is in part determined by how we behave, how we love and how we give back to others. Just my two cents....
I completely agree with you.
It's a shame when we have to censor ourselves (or our style) around the people who should love and accept us unconditionally. My family and friends constantly ask/make comments about the price of my bags, shoes, jewelry, etc.. I learned early on that (most) people will stop asking me questions that I decline to answer. However, there will always be those few who insist on making us feel badly about our lives/choices/purchases/what have you. Case in point: I was not fortunate enough to be born into an affluent family, quite the contrary actually. However, I was fortunate to meet, fall in love with, and eventually marry a wonderful man who is able to and enjoys lavishing me with gifts; namely bags from Chanel, Dior, LV and, of course, Hermes. When I started wearing the bags, one of my best and oldest friends, began making obnoxious comments... "Is that another new bag?", "How much did that cost?", and the like. For the sake of our friendship and for the sake of our other mutual friends, I ignored her comments and/or changed the subject from then on. To make a long and unpleasant story short, one day we finally met for coffee to discuss our deteriorating friendship. What began as rude comments about bags, eventually turned into her revealing her true feelings about who she thought I was as a person. The words "judgmental", "conceited", and much worse were used to describe me and, as a result, the friendship is over.
On a more positive note, I have only ever received compliments from strangers when I'm wearing Hermes or any other luxury item. My favorite shopping experiences while with my husband are when fellow shoppers have given their unsolicited opinions on which scarf or bag suits me best (usually when I prefer one and my husband prefers another). Luckily, every time that has happened, the helpful woman chose my pick.
thank you for your wisdom.i suppose i have a somewhat rude/inappropriate comment example, but i would love to know how you all respond when people ask this.
it normally happens with people i already know (acquaintances, light friends). they ask how i managed to get a B or how i was offered a CDC, as when they go in, they are told there is nothing, etc etc. and 'how much do you spend to be offered this stuff?!'. i feel like with complete strangers, it is easy to be tight lipped and evade the questions. but when i am with people i actually know, it is harder since i am somewhat obligated to answer (at a dinner table, or at drinks). or, 'can you put in a good word for me since you clearly shop there so often?'. they are little snippy questions and i never know what to say!
advice?
it normally happens with people i already know (acquaintances, light friends). they ask how i managed to get a B or how i was offered a CDC, as when they go in, they are told there is nothing, etc etc. and 'how much do you spend to be offered this stuff?!'. i feel like with complete strangers, it is easy to be tight lipped and evade the questions. but when i am with people i actually know, it is harder since i am somewhat obligated to answer (at a dinner table, or at drinks). or, 'can you put in a good word for me since you clearly shop there so often?'. they are little snippy questions and i never know what to say!
advice?
LamborghiniGirl said:
Would you feel comfortable telling them a friend of your family works for Hermes, so you are able to bypass some of the buying requisite to get a B or CDC? Tell them you are uncomfortable asking for favors because the SA helps you as a favor to your great aunt, or something along those lines.