Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[Cityfashionista]

Thank you!!!

I completely know what you mean - after working endless hours and spending time with my two little ones, I don't have a lot of time to catalog people's purchases - or feel angry with them if they have nice things. I often don't have time to catalog my own purchases (!) and I frequently find things that I've bought and forgotten about.

AND, I actually like it when my friends are happy....

I'm much more cautious with this person now. It actually caused a considerable bump in our relationship road.

City, you're the best.

hun. You're awesome.

I'm the same way with buying things & forgetting about it. I love it. Its like I get presents from the universe ever so often.

I've had to face those hard truths about many of my relationships as well. In my case I realize that it isn't that my former friends have changed its that I've changed. i'm very different than the person my old friends or even my family members knew.

Although I still see myself s a down to earth person there are many things I was used to that are no longer a part of my world. It's still a part of theirs. I get that in part because my economic situation has changed it has affected my world. The more obvious changes are my fashion, my address etc. but
However there are other changes that really make my life different fro the people I grew up with. I don't worry about gunshots in my neighborhood or I don't have rats as roommates. That is no longer my reality but for many of the folks I grew up with it is still theirs.

I can understand that & appreciate it but I will never apologize for the things I have earned & the items I covet. I used to especially with family members but many of them really took advantage & nearly ruined my life. My husband has taught me to say no & to not feel guilty as much. Folks know my whole story know I've worked hard for everything I have. When I first enrolled in college everyone I knew openly laughed at my efforts & said I'd never graduate. I was a teen mom after all. 3 masters later & working on my P.Hd the laughter has stopped.

When I met my husband he made 35k a year. Whatever we have now we made together.He's the only person I will answer to about what i spend.
Folks who really know me also know that I'm of the belief that even if I never worked a day in my life & if everything was handed to me as long as I'm not hurting anyone or stealing to get my items its no ones business what I do with my money.

Bottom line this world would be a much nicer place if we could all live & let live IMO.

 

[Midge S]

hun. You're awesome.

I'm the same way with buying things & forgetting about it. I love it. Its like I get presents from the universe ever so often.

I've had to face those hard truths about many of my relationships as well. In my case I realize that it isn't that my former friends have changed its that I've changed. i'm very different than the person my old friends or even my family members knew.

Although I still see myself s a down to earth person there are many things I was used to that are no longer a part of my world. It's still a part of theirs. I get that in part because my economic situation has changed it has affected my world. The more obvious changes are my fashion, my address etc. but
However there are other changes that really make my life different fro the people I grew up with. I don't worry about gunshots in my neighborhood or I don't have rats as roommates. That is no longer my reality but for many of the folks I grew up with it is still theirs.

I can understand that & appreciate it but I will never apologize for the things I have earned & the items I covet. I used to especially with family members but many of them really took advantage & nearly ruined my life. My husband has taught me to say no & to not feel guilty as much. Folks know my whole story know I've worked hard for everything I have. When I first enrolled in college everyone I knew openly laughed at my efforts & said I'd never graduate. I was a teen mom after all. 3 masters later & working on my P.Hd the laughter has stopped.

When I met my husband he made 35k a year. Whatever we have now we made together.He's the only person I will answer to about what i spend.
Folks who really know me also know that I'm of the belief that even if I never worked a day in my life & if everything was handed to me as long as I'm not hurting anyone or stealing to get my items its no ones business what I do with my money.

Bottom line this world would be a much nicer place if we could all live & let live IMO.

I'm really, really good at giving people the hairy eyeball so I don't usually have much of a problem (not that I'm carrying Birkins - yet! ) but I also just don't get the snippy comments.

Stranger - whatever. I mean really a lot of people just stink, but people you know being snide... confuses me.

I'll admit that I get jealous of some of the things I see people have but it runs more to the "boy, I wish I had that, it would look good on me." not to the "I wish I had that and that skank was dead for daring to be able to afford it."

 

[Cityfashionista]

I'm really, really good at giving people the hairy eyeball so I don't usually have much of a problem (not that I'm carrying Birkins - yet! ) but I also just don't get the snippy comments.

Stranger - whatever. I mean really a lot of people just stink, but people you know being snide... confuses me.

I'll admit that I get jealous of some of the things I see people have but it runs more to the "boy, I wish I had that, it would look good on me." not to the "I wish I had that and that skank was dead for daring to be able to afford it."

@ hairy eyeball.

I get what you are saying. We are human & sometimes getting jealous over what other have. It happens.

However we live in a society & you need to control those emotions & put things into perspective.

There's no need to get all caught up in what others have & what you don't have.

I have a lot by many folks standards. However there's always someone out there who has more. I'm ok with that.

If I see something I really want I'm fortunate enough to be able to get it most of the time but I'm super greedy so I know I'll never have everything I want.

So I just get the things I want the most & the other items I admire from a far.

 

[Babi]

A couple of perfect comebacks to that one would be:

"Then it's fortunate that I have them and you don't"
or the old tried-and-true
"If you need to ask you can't afford it."

One that comes to mind is when a friend commented "Such a fancy man bag!" re: my Sac a Depeche that I was wearing with a suit when meeting for a movie after work. I replied back something like "Not as fancy as the one fancy sock I'm wearing, the one with the fancy hole at the heel. Leave me alone, it's laundry day".

The old "That reminds me, I've got something for you" approach is also a crowd-pleaser where the comment is more catty, especially when I reach into said bag and pull out the bird (by which mean my middle finger) for the commentator.

I find that humour is the best way to kill the topic, without giving me the headache of having to come up with responses that might legitimise what is being said, or prolong the topic.

Thanks to both of you :urock:
Humour, irony are always the best answers.
I believe that the right timing is all, in these cases. Now, I just have to put to use the good idea!

 

[Gixxer]

hun. You're awesome.

I'm the same way with buying things & forgetting about it. I love it. Its like I get presents from the universe ever so often.

I've had to face those hard truths about many of my relationships as well. In my case I realize that it isn't that my former friends have changed its that I've changed. i'm very different than the person my old friends or even my family members knew.

Although I still see myself s a down to earth person there are many things I was used to that are no longer a part of my world. It's still a part of theirs. I get that in part because my economic situation has changed it has affected my world. The more obvious changes are my fashion, my address etc. but
However there are other changes that really make my life different fro the people I grew up with. I don't worry about gunshots in my neighborhood or I don't have rats as roommates. That is no longer my reality but for many of the folks I grew up with it is still theirs.

I can understand that & appreciate it but I will never apologize for the things I have earned & the items I covet. I used to especially with family members but many of them really took advantage & nearly ruined my life. My husband has taught me to say no & to not feel guilty as much. Folks know my whole story know I've worked hard for everything I have. When I first enrolled in college everyone I knew openly laughed at my efforts & said I'd never graduate. I was a teen mom after all. 3 masters later & working on my P.Hd the laughter has stopped.

When I met my husband he made 35k a year. Whatever we have now we made together.He's the only person I will answer to about what i spend.
Folks who really know me also know that I'm of the belief that even if I never worked a day in my life & if everything was handed to me as long as I'm not hurting anyone or stealing to get my items its no ones business what I do with my money.

Bottom line this world would be a much nicer place if we could all live & let live IMO.

Very very very cool These are my favourite stories ever. You should be walking around with a happy face instead of a sour face with all you have achieved (which I think you can based on some of those great action shots you have!). Enjoy in good health every frivolous thing you want, I think you totally deserve it and hope no one diminishes that. (I want a Masters more than a B, I take my hat off to anyone that's achieved that. 3 times no less. I will be happy with once! One day.)

 

[Cityfashionista]

Very very very cool These are my favourite stories ever. You should be walking around with a happy face instead of a sour face with all you have achieved (which I think you can based on some of those great action shots you have!). Enjoy in good health every frivolous thing you want, I think you totally deserve it and hope no one diminishes that. (I want a Masters more than a B, I take my hat off to anyone that's achieved that. 3 times no less. I will be happy with once! One day.)

Babe. We all have our stories. I love hearing other people's stories as well.

Best of luck to you in everything you do.

 

[Deathspike]

hun. You're awesome.

I'm the same way with buying things & forgetting about it. I love it. Its like I get presents from the universe ever so often.

I've had to face those hard truths about many of my relationships as well. In my case I realize that it isn't that my former friends have changed its that I've changed. i'm very different than the person my old friends or even my family members knew.

Although I still see myself s a down to earth person there are many things I was used to that are no longer a part of my world. It's still a part of theirs. I get that in part because my economic situation has changed it has affected my world. The more obvious changes are my fashion, my address etc. but
However there are other changes that really make my life different fro the people I grew up with. I don't worry about gunshots in my neighborhood or I don't have rats as roommates. That is no longer my reality but for many of the folks I grew up with it is still theirs.

I can understand that & appreciate it but I will never apologize for the things I have earned & the items I covet. I used to especially with family members but many of them really took advantage & nearly ruined my life. My husband has taught me to say no & to not feel guilty as much. Folks know my whole story know I've worked hard for everything I have. When I first enrolled in college everyone I knew openly laughed at my efforts & said I'd never graduate. I was a teen mom after all. 3 masters later & working on my P.Hd the laughter has stopped.

When I met my husband he made 35k a year. Whatever we have now we made together.He's the only person I will answer to about what i spend.
Folks who really know me also know that I'm of the belief that even if I never worked a day in my life & if everything was handed to me as long as I'm not hurting anyone or stealing to get my items its no ones business what I do with my money.

Bottom line this world would be a much nicer place if we could all live & let live IMO.

That is a very good story! I'm glad everything turned out well for you in the end. I enjoy reading things like this!

 

[Cityfashionista]

That is a very good story! I'm glad everything turned out well for you in the end. I enjoy reading things like this!

 

[WingNut]

Ladies.
Its kind of you to say how awesome I may be but I'm hated by many. Sometimes its jealously but other times its my strong personality that tends to grate on people. I'm a live & let live type of person & as long as I'm not hurting anyone with my love of material items or whatever else I'm doing I don't really care what anyone thinks. I tend to not notice the hateful looks that i get from folks because if I did it may affect my mood on certain days. My husband however notices it & is a bit of a guard dog about it. I'm currently training him to play nice

We've been together 15 yrs though so the training only works but so much.

As much as the outside world may hate on us for our perceived wealth I also think in my experience some fashionistas take themselves too seriously.

My girl yorkie loves dog toys. She gets truly crazed whenever she gets a new one. She'll start shaking like she has mental problems because she so excited whenever she thinks anyone will come anywhere near it. Most of the time you aren't even thinking about it while its all shes thinking about.

I say this to say that as much as we are into fashion there are many who also really could care less. I'm not saying that there isn't hate & jealously when you supposedly look good & have a lot of high end material items, however at the same time when you are hyper sensitive to something you tend to notice it more. I think many of us on tpf have hardcore love for our labels. More than the average person & as a result we may carry ourselves like we are better than. I'm not judging that because like I said before I keep stink face expression on my face 99.9% of the time because I don't want to be approached. That combined with the labels often gives people the impression that I'm a stuck up bit*h. Most days that works for me tbh. I take the good with the bad. People judge & jump to unfair conclusions. It happens just as much the other way. I've had fashionistas SA & other people who appear to be well off come to me & make snide comments about people who are perceived to not be wealthy. They judge the way I look & the stuff I have & assume that I would be ok with looking down on others because they don't have a lot of material items. When they find out I'm not that way they tend not to like me either. I love my fashionistas & although I was a label junkie when I joined tpf I have no problem admitting you lovely ladies have elevated my fashion game & for that I'm truly thankful. However for as many nice ladies that I have encountered on tpf there are also the elitist snobs who engage in such juvenile practices as engaging in clicks & looking down on others which I personally find a bit mean spirited & troublesome especially when you may very well be better off than the ones you are judging & excluding. I'm not saying folks should be ashamed of what they have. Be proud of it. Lord knows I am but at the same time I think its sad to judge others or anyone else on their material items or lack of materials items.

Sorry for the ramble but I hope I made sense. I think you all are fabulous. Stay fabulous but IMO at the end of the day this stuff is just stuff. There are more important things in life.

You sound like you've got a great attitude about this!

 

[Cityfashionista]

You sound like you've got a great attitude about this!

I try.

 

[ilovecoffee]

I do have a brief story to share that I thought was going to end Birkin badly, but as it turned out, it couldn't have been sweeter.

I basically had to carry my Birkin on my lap on the Christmas flight from Atlanta to Philadelphia, as the plane was crammed to the gills. They'd also moved my seat, which ended up right across from the flight attendant's jump seat.

I thought I saw her eyeing the B. bag once or twice, but as we were making our final approach into Philly, she leaned over and asked, "Can I ask you something? I've been admiring your beautiful bag. Is it a real one?" I laughed and assured her that it was, indeed.

She got very excited and said, "oh, I don't think I've ever been close to a REAL one before." She was very dear and so happy to admire the bag and said, "oh, this is my dream to own a real Hermes Birkin." She then showed me her LV agenda and pulled out a picture of the next Chanel she hoped to buy. I found myself a real handbag lover, wished her well, and gave her the address for the purse forum! She wrote it all down, and I hope she's joined and will get her new Chanel soon and then the Birkin of her dreams.

Sometimes, you do run across a lovely person who recognizes the bag and is excited to see it and happy that you own one.

I know this is an old post. I just came across reading this. What a sweet story.

 

[julietta_jolie]

Love it! Talk about putting you in your place... Sounds like my own family...

Thanks! I'm glad someone can relate

 

[Elina0408]

That's the main thing: you/me have changed and the others haven't realised it yet!! The difficult is to make them understand but of course I want to give them the opportunity to realise it for themselves! After all if you say that you are a different person they will perceive it badly in most of the cases ! Anyway, lately I am just amazed how, even close family, can't understand me and what I want for my life and for my family/kids!!
You have a great life attitude, I love it!!

hun. You're awesome.

I'm the same way with buying things & forgetting about it. I love it. Its like I get presents from the universe ever so often.

I've had to face those hard truths about many of my relationships as well. In my case I realize that it isn't that my former friends have changed its that I've changed. i'm very different than the person my old friends or even my family members knew.

Although I still see myself s a down to earth person there are many things I was used to that are no longer a part of my world. It's still a part of theirs. I get that in part because my economic situation has changed it has affected my world. The more obvious changes are my fashion, my address etc. but
However there are other changes that really make my life different fro the people I grew up with. I don't worry about gunshots in my neighborhood or I don't have rats as roommates. That is no longer my reality but for many of the folks I grew up with it is still theirs.

I can understand that & appreciate it but I will never apologize for the things I have earned & the items I covet. I used to especially with family members but many of them really took advantage & nearly ruined my life. My husband has taught me to say no & to not feel guilty as much. Folks know my whole story know I've worked hard for everything I have. When I first enrolled in college everyone I knew openly laughed at my efforts & said I'd never graduate. I was a teen mom after all. 3 masters later & working on my P.Hd the laughter has stopped.

When I met my husband he made 35k a year. Whatever we have now we made together.He's the only person I will answer to about what i spend.
Folks who really know me also know that I'm of the belief that even if I never worked a day in my life & if everything was handed to me as long as I'm not hurting anyone or stealing to get my items its no ones business what I do with my money.

Bottom line this world would be a much nicer place if we could all live & let live IMO.

 

[chanelgirl2099]

I occasionally lurk on this site and when I came across this post I had to comment.

First of all, if anyone has seen the movie Hanna, I seem to remember a brief part where Hermes bags were discussed and were a great investment opportunity as sometimes they can be sold for more than what you originally paid for them. So I would just say they are a good investment-Hermes bags don't lose their value as much as other designers.

Secondly, I own an Hermes 25 cm Kelly. No snide remarks but I always get stared at while I wear it.

I did want to say that in regards to the original post from Sambina, sometimes we don't even know how our friends secretly harbor resentment against us. I bought my friend of 10 years a nice LV knowing how much she wanted one but couldn't afford it. Because it was expensive I made a comment how this would have to count as more than 1 present from me because it was a big gift. She acted all happy and thrilled but later she implied that I thought I was better than her buying a gift like that and my saying that it would count as a lot of presents (maybe she meant her presents to me didn't count in her mind?). Needless to say, I was very hurt and disappointed and we are not friends anymore. I decided from that point to never buy expensive nice gifts for my friends because apparently even when you think they are your friends, they aren't. So now I spend all that money on myself instead. Win-win situation.

 

[LeahLVoes]

Wow some crazy stories... I am very happy about the fact that non of my friends even from school are still my friends, yeah thing have changed but I am still the same just carrying cooler bags...

My friends can't understand why I pay so much for bags, furniture and stuff but they don't judge and I love them for it!
I think it all comes down to your attitude I know where I come from and where I am now but I am still the same... When I walk down the street, I smile...