Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[Cityfashionista]

I've been a label junkie for years. I say this to say in my experience when you like a lot of high end labels its been my experience that people tend to "label " you as being a certain way.

People who don't know me have given me looks of disapproval for years. I'm used to it. I get labelled as being stuck up based on the way I look & the labels I wear. I also keep permanent "stink face" on to prevent strangers from talking to me on the train.

Once people get to know me they realize although I love fashion it doesn't define me. I really don't take myself or the labels I wear all that seriously. Bottom line its just stuff. Albeit very nice stuff but just stuff.

I've have the means to buy nice things which I'm grateful for however I've also been on the other side & I know unforeseen circumstances can bring me there again so I try not to attach my self worth to my material possessions.

That being said I do sometimes get the digs from people I know. I get called names like "Hollywood" or Runway model by some folks which are digs. I also get accused of never eating. However my husband knows that I tend to not put a ton of thought into what I wear. I take less than 10 minutes to get dressed most days & will fight a subway rat for a velvet cupcake.

I often let these friendly digs go thinking its really their problem & not mine however when folks go too far they know I have no problem putting folks in their place.

Opinions are fine but I will not allow myself to be made to feel bad regarding my choices as long as I'm not hurting anyone.

I used to be the type of person that would really let folks take advantage however getting older has taught me that life is too short to surround yourself with negative people. If someone is being overly catty with me with no valid reasons I let them know about it & we either fix it or the relationship gets terminated.

 

[Keekeee]

I've been a label junkie for years. I say this to say in my experience when you like a lot of high end labels its been my experience that people tend to "label " you as being a certain way.

People who don't know me have given me looks of disapproval for years. I'm used to it. I get labelled as being stuck up based on the way I look & the labels I wear. I also keep permanent "stink face" on to prevent strangers from talking to me on the train.

Once people get to know me they realize although I love fashion it doesn't define me. I really don't take myself or the labels I wear all that seriously. Bottom line its just stuff. Albeit very nice stuff but just stuff.

I've have the means to buy nice things which I'm grateful for however I've also been on the other side & I know unforeseen circumstances can bring me there again so I try not to attach my self worth to my material possessions.

That being said I do sometimes get the digs from people I know. I get called names like "Hollywood" or Runway model by some folks which are digs. I also get accused of never eating. However my husband knows that I tend to not put a ton of thought into what I wear. I take less than 10 minutes to get dressed most days & will fight a subway rat for a velvet cupcake.

I often let these friendly digs go thinking its really their problem & not mine however when folks go too far they know I have no problem putting folks in their place.

Opinions are fine but I will not allow myself to be made to feel bad regarding my choices as long as I'm not hurting anyone.

I used to be the type of person that would really let folks take advantage however getting older has taught me that life is too short to surround yourself with negative people. If someone is being overly catty with me with no valid reasons I let them know about it & we either fix it or the relationship gets terminated.

Well said

 

[minismurf04]

i've been a label junkie for years. I say this to say in my experience when you like a lot of high end labels its been my experience that people tend to "label " you as being a certain way.

People who don't know me have given me looks of disapproval for years. I'm used to it. I get labelled as being stuck up based on the way i look & the labels i wear. I also keep permanent "stink face" on to prevent strangers from talking to me on the train.

once people get to know me they realize although i love fashion it doesn't define me. I really don't take myself or the labels i wear all that seriously. Bottom line its just stuff. Albeit very nice stuff but just stuff.

I've have the means to buy nice things which i'm grateful for however i've also been on the other side & i know unforeseen circumstances can bring me there again so i try not to attach my self worth to my material possessions.

That being said i do sometimes get the digs from people i know. I get called names like "hollywood" or runway model by some folks which are digs. I also get accused of never eating. However my husband knows that i tend to not put a ton of thought into what i wear. I take less than 10 minutes to get dressed most days & will fight a subway rat for a velvet cupcake.

I often let these friendly digs go thinking its really their problem & not mine however when folks go too far they know i have no problem putting folks in their place.

opinions are fine but i will not allow myself to be made to feel bad regarding my choices as long as i'm not hurting anyone.

I used to be the type of person that would really let folks take advantage however getting older has taught me that life is too short to surround yourself with negative people. If someone is being overly catty with me with no valid reasons i let them know about it & we either fix it or the relationship gets terminated.

like!

 

[Iwantaspybag]

I've have the means to buy nice things which I'm grateful for however I've also been on the other side & I know unforeseen circumstances can bring me there again so I try not to attach my self worth to my material possessions.

That being said I do sometimes get the digs from people I know. I get called names like "Hollywood" or Runway model by some folks which are digs. I also get accused of never eating. However my husband knows that I tend to not put a ton of thought into what I wear. I take less than 10 minutes to get dressed most days & will fight a subway rat for a velvet cupcake.

I often let these friendly digs go thinking its really their problem & not mine however when folks go too far they know I have no problem putting folks in their place.

You sound like an awesome person with a great attitude.

 

[cewek]

Luckily, I've not had anyone have a dig at me or make snide/btichy/catty/snarky comments at me or my bags. Mostly they're admiring/lovely comments.

But even if they do make negative comments about my bags or me, well, it's their (jealousy) problem. I make my own money, make sure the bills/mortgage are paid first so any extra that I manage to save I can do whatever I like!

 

[Icemilo]

I often let these friendly digs go thinking its really their problem & not mine however when folks go too far they know I have no problem putting folks in their place.

Opinions are fine but I will not allow myself to be made to feel bad regarding my choices as long as I'm not hurting anyone.

I used to be the type of person that would really let folks take advantage however getting older has taught me that life is too short to surround yourself with negative people. If someone is being overly catty with me with no valid reasons I let them know about it & we either fix it or the relationship gets terminated.

Very well said!

 

[Deathspike]

This is a perfect example of why you should never engage and talk to strangers!!! In the future don't even respond. Just politely finish your business and leave quickly lol!

I am sorry you had to experience that.

This is how I was taught at least. I would have just ignored it and walked away.

Although with remarks like that, it is often harder than it seems. I hate it when people act like that.

 

[martiniandlace]

I never had a stranger make a rude comment about any bags I own, I only hear: "Your bag is beautiful!"
But my beloved Mother is a different story. She recently told me that my Kelly Ado Backpack is too small for me, and I look like a hippo with a coin purse, when carrying it! LOL
And my hubby said, it looks like I borrowed some kid's backpack.
My family are my toughest critics(((

Love it! Talk about putting you in your place... Sounds like my own family...

 

[threepwood]

Love it! Talk about putting you in your place... Sounds like my own family...

Yes, sounds like my family too!

 

[Luckydogmom]

I received a very odd/ funny comment just today.
I was shopping at my favorite produce market, 40 B in tow, when a nice looking 50ish man came up to me and said, "now that's the kind of purse you don't want to throw up in".
I honestly did not know how to respond. I kind of half laughed and moved on over to the yummy apricot display...thankful, I guess, that I wasn't going to throw up!

 

[CocoB]

Carlinha, thanks for your post - it makes me feel better (sadly).

My longest friend, who I've always considered my dearest, saw my second birkin recently while at our house. Her reaction to it - and me - was probably uncalled for (since I purchased the bag with my money and not hers) but it left me feeling really sad; essentially, like a parent would, she told me that my tastes were ridiculous, and that while she could almost see buying one two was completely over the top. I guess I'm left feeling like we don't have much in common, and at the end of the day like she thinks I'm stupid, wasteful, shallow...

In any event, I guess I'm not sure why people care so much. If my husband doesn't care (we share our finances), than why should a friend - someone who's supposed to love you no matter what.

i recently had an old college friend visit me. i hadn't seen her in over a year, and the last time we had dinner together, i was not into hermes yet. i guess we had a conversation where i said i couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag (i don't recall this by the way)...

anyway fast forward over a year later, things change and i clearly have begun to feel differently about hermes. i picked her up at the airport and i had one of my birkins with me. one of the first things she said when she saw me (and the bag) was "OMG i can't believe you have an hermes bag now!!! you told me you couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag a year ago!" and my response was "well, things change in a year"... that was not necessarily bad, but she stayed with me for 4 days and brought it up REPEATEDLY, incessantly, and in front of other people. moreover, she kept touching and playing around and holding my bags whenever possible!

she also made comments like "OMG this is too heavy, i can never carry a bag this heavy, just isn't for me!" to which I never responded to... but then she'd say "well, not like i can afford it anyway"... SO AWKWARD.

i definitely felt animosity and envy from her... it was very very uncomfortable and not something i had ever experienced or ever want to deal with again. i think i'd rather stick with friends who either know NOTHING about hermes... or just as into it and collecting as i am

 

[BirkinBrains]

I received a very odd/ funny comment just today.
I was shopping at my favorite produce market, 40 B in tow, when a nice looking 50ish man came up to me and said, "now that's the kind of purse you don't want to throw up in".
I honestly did not know how to respond. I kind of half laughed and moved on over to the yummy apricot display...thankful, I guess, that I wasn't going to throw up!

Hahahaha....

That's a new one!

 

[jomirod]

I occasionally get snide comments re: my Hermes "manbags" from friends. I usually respond with a self-depreciating quip, or well executed change-of-subject. The latter is most often the case, as it's simply not worth dwelling on.

 

[Iwantaspybag]

I occasionally get snide comments re: my Hermes "manbags" from friends. I usually respond with a self-depreciating quip, or well executed change-of-subject. The latter is most often the case, as it's simply not worth dwelling on.

I always admire your "it's not worth stressing over" attitude. Can you share an example of a quip? Do you have a fall-back change-of-subject that works in any situation?

 

[jomirod]

One that comes to mind is when a friend commented "Such a fancy man bag!" re: my Sac a Depeche that I was wearing with a suit when meeting for a movie after work. I replied back something like "Not as fancy as the one fancy sock I'm wearing, the one with the fancy hole at the heel. Leave me alone, it's laundry day".

The old "That reminds me, I've got something for you" approach is also a crowd-pleaser where the comment is more catty, especially when I reach into said bag and pull out the bird (by which mean my middle finger) for the commentator.

I find that humour is the best way to kill the topic, without giving me the headache of having to come up with responses that might legitimise what is being said, or prolong the topic.