Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[thyme]

Hi Ladies! I don't have a bag, but I have a few scarves. One of my friends(!) asked me if I thought I was better than them because my scarves were H. The next week, I wore a much lower end brand.

^^Gollygwhiz, please don't let your friend's comment deter you from wearing your beautiful Hermes scarves! Once a family member made a similar comment to me because I'm always "dressed up" when I see her. I told her I don't think I am better dressed than her or anyone else. I wear/carry what makes me happy and what makes me feel most comfortable. On the flip side, I know someone who thinks she's better than everyone because she doesn't wear expensive designer clothing.

Wear what makes you happy, Gollygwhiz -- enjoy your Hermes scarves!

totally agree with HermesNewbie! you should wear what you love Gollygwhiz...life is too short!

 

[CalpurniaPeach]

I didn't want to start a new thread, but I wanted to share a downright WEIRD experience I had today with my Birkin!

I was sitting at a cafe table in uptown, waiting for a friend to arrive before walking to a restaurant down the street. Wearing dark skinny jeans, flats, blazer, tank and my really subtle Gucci scarf - I was busy reading emails on my iPhone and had my togo black 35 GHW Birkin on the table in front of me.

This random stranger - an elderly man who either works at LA Fitness or goes there according to his lanyard who started talking effeminately - comes up to me and asked me: "Did your boyfriend buy you that bag?"

Me (surprised a stranger came up to me): "No...what...? Excuse me?"

Him: "Did your boyfriend buy you this bag? You should ask for a COACH! He'd buy you one!"

Me: "Wait...what???"

He then touches my bag (and I am not someone who minds - I do let my bag touch the floor - but I was concerned because my bag was open and my Chanel wallet was pretty easy to just grab...). He turns my bag towards him and says: "Ooooh yeah, you should get a COACH instead!"

At this point I am just confused, surprised, and still processing what the heck is going on. I bought my bag myself, am single, and DO NOT WANT A COACH BAG! I think I just said "Ok..." and dialed some random number and he left me.

I live in a city/state/region that doesn't have Hermes, and doesn't know what a Birkin is (unless you're inside NM or Nordstrom), but comparing my H to Coach...LOL.

 

[Silversun]

I didn't want to start a new thread, but I wanted to share a downright WEIRD experience I had today with my Birkin!

I was sitting at a cafe table in uptown, waiting for a friend to arrive before walking to a restaurant down the street. Wearing dark skinny jeans, flats, blazer, tank and my really subtle Gucci scarf - I was busy reading emails on my iPhone and had my togo black 35 GHW Birkin on the table in front of me.

This random stranger - an elderly man who either works at LA Fitness or goes there according to his lanyard who started talking effeminately - comes up to me and asked me: "Did your boyfriend buy you that bag?"

Me (surprised a stranger came up to me): "No...what...? Excuse me?"

Him: "Did your boyfriend buy you this bag? You should ask for a COACH! He'd buy you one!"

Me: "Wait...what???"

He then touches my bag (and I am not someone who minds - I do let my bag touch the floor - but I was concerned because my bag was open and my Chanel wallet was pretty easy to just grab...). He turns my bag towards him and says: "Ooooh yeah, you should get a COACH instead!"

At this point I am just confused, surprised, and still processing what the heck is going on. I bought my bag myself, am single, and DO NOT WANT A COACH BAG! I think I just said "Ok..." and dialed some random number and he left me.

I live in a city/state/region that doesn't have Hermes, and doesn't know what a Birkin is (unless you're inside NM or Nordstrom), but comparing my H to Coach...LOL.

What a hilarious story! Thanks for sharing!

 

[maria28]

^OMG your friend sounds like a nice piece of work. Lol! I'd rather have one birkin then 10coach/LV items but that is a matter for personal preference I guess. I haven't had anyone be openly rude about my H especially as 90% of the people I know have no idea how much one costs!!! My MIL found out a while ago and thought it was a waste of money..

Ita

 

[julietta_jolie]

I never had a stranger make a rude comment about any bags I own, I only hear: "Your bag is beautiful!"
But my beloved Mother is a different story. She recently told me that my Kelly Ado Backpack is too small for me, and I look like a hippo with a coin purse, when carrying it! LOL
And my hubby said, it looks like I borrowed some kid's backpack.
My family are my toughest critics(((

 

[carlinha]

i recently had an old college friend visit me. i hadn't seen her in over a year, and the last time we had dinner together, i was not into hermes yet. i guess we had a conversation where i said i couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag (i don't recall this by the way)...

anyway fast forward over a year later, things change and i clearly have begun to feel differently about hermes. i picked her up at the airport and i had one of my birkins with me. one of the first things she said when she saw me (and the bag) was "OMG i can't believe you have an hermes bag now!!! you told me you couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag a year ago!" and my response was "well, things change in a year"... that was not necessarily bad, but she stayed with me for 4 days and brought it up REPEATEDLY, incessantly, and in front of other people. moreover, she kept touching and playing around and holding my bags whenever possible!

she also made comments like "OMG this is too heavy, i can never carry a bag this heavy, just isn't for me!" to which I never responded to... but then she'd say "well, not like i can afford it anyway"... SO AWKWARD.

i definitely felt animosity and envy from her... it was very very uncomfortable and not something i had ever experienced or ever want to deal with again. i think i'd rather stick with friends who either know NOTHING about hermes... or just as into it and collecting as i am

 

[Mindi B]

i recently had an old college friend visit me. i hadn't seen her in over a year, and the last time we had dinner together, i was not into hermes yet. i guess we had a conversation where i said i couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag (i don't recall this by the way)...

anyway fast forward over a year later, things change and i clearly have begun to feel differently about hermes. i picked her up at the airport and i had one of my birkins with me. one of the first things she said when she saw me (and the bag) was "OMG i can't believe you have an hermes bag now!!! you told me you couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag a year ago!" and my response was "well, things change in a year"... that was not necessarily bad, but she stayed with me for 4 days and brought it up REPEATEDLY, incessantly, and in front of other people. moreover, she kept touching and playing around and holding my bags whenever possible!

she also made comments like "OMG this is too heavy, i can never carry a bag this heavy, just isn't for me!" to which I never responded to... but then she'd say "well, not like i can afford it anyway"... SO AWKWARD.

i definitely felt animosity and envy from her... it was very very uncomfortable and not something i had ever experienced or ever want to deal with again. i think i'd rather stick with friends who either know NOTHING about hermes... or just as into it and collecting as i am

Or (third possibility) just stick with friends who are truer--who know how to control their behavior so as not to make another person uncomfortable and self-conscious. I'm sorry this happened to you, but it wasn't you, it's her.

 

[roman_holiday]

i recently had an old college friend visit me. i hadn't seen her in over a year, and the last time we had dinner together, i was not into hermes yet. i guess we had a conversation where i said i couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag (i don't recall this by the way)...

anyway fast forward over a year later, things change and i clearly have begun to feel differently about hermes. i picked her up at the airport and i had one of my birkins with me. one of the first things she said when she saw me (and the bag) was "OMG i can't believe you have an hermes bag now!!! you told me you couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag a year ago!" and my response was "well, things change in a year"... that was not necessarily bad, but she stayed with me for 4 days and brought it up REPEATEDLY, incessantly, and in front of other people. moreover, she kept touching and playing around and holding my bags whenever possible!

she also made comments like "OMG this is too heavy, i can never carry a bag this heavy, just isn't for me!" to which I never responded to... but then she'd say "well, not like i can afford it anyway"... SO AWKWARD.

i definitely felt animosity and envy from her... it was very very uncomfortable and not something i had ever experienced or ever want to deal with again. i think i'd rather stick with friends who either know NOTHING about hermes... or just as into it and collecting as i am

So sorry this happened!! It sounds really awkward. I actually haven't used my H bags around some of my friends since I'm not sure how they would react...hopefully not like this

 

[BirkinBrains]

Hi all - well I am the proud new owner of a 40 black togo w ghw firkin which has been on 'the list' forever.

I have noticed that the reception the bag receives is different to what I normally get when carrying Chanels and LVs.

Rather than cute purse comments I seem to be getting a lot of resentment from my piers. I'm 22 and at uni, and have also noticed a couple of fakes have appeared in my social circle :/

Just wondering if anyone else had received similar?

Thanks xxx

That just makes you a trend setter!

Not that it makes the situation any better. While I understand why people react in these ways (in the psychoanalytical sense), I just don't get how someone could not be totally excited to see such a thing (unless they have some weird moral issue in relation). It's one thing if people don't care about such things...but I get happy to see awesome bags, cars, jewelry, etc. Whether or not I can afford it. Sure it sucks if there's something you really want that you can't get, but resentment surely won't help me get it. So what's the point?

And it's awesome that you're able to start your H collection so young. I could see how that could rifle feathers....people are either jealous of your early success, or if it was gifted to you, maybe people think you didn't have to work for it ("spoiled by parents"), but I don't see why one has to "suffer" to earn things just to make someone else feel better, if they have the opportunity....or how your success at all relates to theirs? Or even, how this is anyone's business. Gah, this totally resonates with me and I get really irritated when people itemize my life. Because the thing is, those people won't be happy with however you obtain the things they covet...as they are unhappy with themselves. Jealousy or envy are human emotions, and emotions can't be controlled, but resentment is an action and therefore a choice.

Keep rocking on! And congrats on your "firkin!"

 

[BirkinBrains]

Oops, sorry - I just read several pages in and saw that I wasn't supposed to comment on the stories; just list them. My bad!

 

[carlinha]

Or (third possibility) just stick with friends who are truer--who know how to control their behavior so as not to make another person uncomfortable and self-conscious. I'm sorry this happened to you, but it wasn't you, it's her.

thank you mindi, yes i totally agree with you about true friends! i think me and her have just grown our separate ways, it was quite obvious and uncomfortable.

So sorry this happened!! It sounds really awkward. I actually haven't used my H bags around some of my friends since I'm not sure how they would react...hopefully not like this

thanks roman_holiday! i never thought she would react like this, i was so unprepared! but you know, that's not going to stop me from doing what i want to do... i hope your friends can react better.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

When I showed my Bleu Electrique Kelly to a long time friend of mine who knows what I spend on bags and jewelry, he asked how much it cost. When I told him, he said "I think I'm going to throw up." I had the presence of mind to say "Not here, it will attract flies."

 

[catsinthebag]

When I showed my Bleu Electrique Kelly to a long time friend of mine who knows what I spend on bags and jewelry, he asked how much it cost. When I told him, he said "I think I'm going to throw up." I had the presence of mind to say "Not here, it will attract flies."

 

[purseinsanity]

When I showed my Bleu Electrique Kelly to a long time friend of mine who knows what I spend on bags and jewelry, he asked how much it cost. When I told him, he said "I think I'm going to throw up." I had the presence of mind to say "Not here, it will attract flies."

Good for you! I usually think of a wonderful response about 48 hours later!

 

[Elina0408]

i recently had an old college friend visit me. i hadn't seen her in over a year, and the last time we had dinner together, i was not into hermes yet. i guess we had a conversation where i said i couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag (i don't recall this by the way)...

anyway fast forward over a year later, things change and i clearly have begun to feel differently about hermes. i picked her up at the airport and i had one of my birkins with me. one of the first things she said when she saw me (and the bag) was "OMG i can't believe you have an hermes bag now!!! you told me you couldn't imagine paying that much for a bag a year ago!" and my response was "well, things change in a year"... that was not necessarily bad, but she stayed with me for 4 days and brought it up REPEATEDLY, incessantly, and in front of other people. moreover, she kept touching and playing around and holding my bags whenever possible!

she also made comments like "OMG this is too heavy, i can never carry a bag this heavy, just isn't for me!" to which I never responded to... but then she'd say "well, not like i can afford it anyway"... SO AWKWARD.

i definitely felt animosity and envy from her... it was very very uncomfortable and not something i had ever experienced or ever want to deal with again. i think i'd rather stick with friends who either know NOTHING about hermes... or just as into it and collecting as i am

Maybe your friend had a shock, yes a shock when she understood that you had "moved" so she couldn't manage her reactions! The good sign is that she told you the truth: she can't afford it, simple like that! I had a similar situation last year but unfortunately my relative-friend (I was only wearing a clic-clac and a scarf H though) didn't say I don't like your H things because I can't afford them and I am trying to find excuses not to like them!! I am afraid now what will happen when in my next trip will bring my B, but oh yes I will definetely bring her with me...