Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[Iwantaspybag]

Thought this description of the slippery slide down the orange slope was pretty funny so thought I would bump the post. Maybe some of the mean things said are just attempts not to go orange. Resistance is futile.

interesting thread

some of my 'friends' passage to h were ouch-inducing painful processes to observe...

• oh nice bag (genuine compliment) -

• omg is that another one (still genuine unconcerned enthusiam) -

• silence (friend shocked and confused by prices on ebay) -

• oh did you see such and such got a xxxx (start of cattiness trying to belittle peaceful contented h toter with someone else's bag) -

• oh they are so common i just prefer (name any brand) -

• more silence (friend disappears for a while secretly gossiping to anyone who will listen about how abcdxyandz (h toters) spend to fill emotional voids, h-toters husbands only pay for bags to compensate for lack of attention, h-toters are competing with each other etc etc) while in fact 'friend' is frantically hunting down targeted bag -

• 'friend' buys a herbag (that they don't like or want) but hides it from abcd-z -

• 'friend' buys a chanel jumbo or something that they do like and carries it openly while researching h colours and prices -

• friend orders and saves -

• when 'friend' gets the call or delivery of desired bag is imminent 'friend' not-announces it by seeing you with a bag and cheekily quips 'didya know that such and such (whatever she saw you with or worse still the only thing she thinks you don't have to test if yours are superfakes) costs such and such?' -

• you answer 'umm well yeah' or 'really.. umm no... mine was a present' -

• more intensely irritated silence -

• finally friend appears usually with a birkin, only very rarely a kelly and never ever a lindy or any other design

At the end of the painful process during which friendships have been sorely tested by gossip, claws have been unfurled and sharpened,

'friend' dh has complained bitterly to your dh, 'friend' dc's have innocently announced 'secret arrival',

i am just thinking wouldn't it just be easier to just 'like - order/search - save - buy - enjoy' ?

 

[Gixxer]

I've read through everything and it's pretty disappointing what people have had to go through. Personally, I am very selective about how and where I wear my H (or even non-H), family and friends included. I know its their problem and they are stepping out of line making things not their business theirs, but I just don't need to be exposed to somethings, and don't want to encounter situations which tarnish my enjoyment of using items I acquired through my hardwork.

This situation is a repost from the Wearing Scarfs thread when I didn't know this thread existed, but days later it is still bothering me. I was wearing for the first time, my new Soie au Fil du Carre I got last month, to work. I love this scarf. It looks and feels like nothing else (that at least isn't H).

I had to go to the bank and the teller there, young, well presented said "I love your scarf". Why thank you. "Is it Versace?". Um, no. I didn't want to volunteer where I got it from, and never do unless they ask me specifically.
She persisted: "Oh, then it's a Versace rip off". No. Words. Left. I can't imagine the look on my face, but I'm sure it wasn't good.

This bothers me on several levels; not that someone so ignorant makes such a mistake, but publically (and there were others in the bank including customers besides staff) embarass me, a customer, and suggest that I don't take intellectual property seriously.

I don't care how much money I have or don't, I will buy the best I can afford and not a shell of an imitation, pretending to be something that it's not. When I was a university student with no disposable money to speak of, I saved and bought a cashmere pashmina, because of the quality, not because of the brand. Which is the same reason why I now buy H. To me, they have the most beautiful accessories in the world and it makes me feel really good to use them.
So to accuse someone - who has actively avoided using goods that are blatantly and offensively copied - of theft, which is what in fact a rip-off is, (or supporting 'theft' through copying), is extremely offensive!

Forgive me for venting, but I'm still inordinately offended!

 

[km8282]

Sometimes when I carry my Birkin, I find that other women who also have Birkins or other Hermes items act like we are old girlfriends! Sometimes, it's rather nice!

However, on one occasion - a new "girlfriend" & I were chatting about the best way to keep our B's organized & preferred inserts started poking fun at other women's bags! So while I've not had any catty remarks made towards me, It has attracted some rather catty women!

Money can buy a Birkin, but certainly not class.

 

[joiseygirl]

I was at FedEx a few weeks ago shipping back a BJ 40 Birkin I bought from Yoogiscloset because I didn't like the feel of the leather. When the guy behind the counter asked what I was shipping because the declared value was $13,500 I said "an Hermes purse". The woman behind me said, "Who the hell buys a $14,000 purse? Are you selling it for someone?". When I told her I bought it but didn't like it she then looked at my purse on the counter (ebene and toile 35 Birkin) and said, "And how much was that? $20,000? Does your husband know you waste money on things all the time?". I politely told her that no, it wasn't $20,000, that I got a great buy for $8,000 and I was happy for her concern over a strangers spending habits, but I was quite capable of making my own decisions.

Now RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME she turns to the people behind her in line and says, "This shows that money doesn't equate to taste. That's the ugliest bag I've ever seen. Maybe she better start making better decisions". The other people tried to look away because they obviously realized this lady was a loon.

As I finished up and walked past her she sarcastically bowed to me. I had had enough and told her that she had no couth and I felt embarrassed for her. I saw a lot of smiles on the faces of the other patrons in line.

Ironically she was carrying a fake vuitton and had (I swear to God) Mercedes emblems with rhinestones hanging from her ears. Uhm yes... "I" have no taste!

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[LamborghiniGirl]

I was at FedEx a few weeks ago shipping back a BJ 40 Birkin I bought from Yoogiscloset because I didn't like the feel of the leather. When the guy behind the counter asked what I was shipping because the declared value was $13,500 I said "an Hermes purse". The woman behind me said, "Who the hell buys a $14,000 purse? Are you selling it for someone?". When I told her I bought it but didn't like it she then looked at my purse on the counter (ebene and toile 35 Birkin) and said, "And how much was that? $20,000? Does your husband know you waste money on things all the time?". I politely told her that no, it wasn't $20,000, that I got a great buy for $8,000 and I was happy for her concern over a strangers spending habits, but I was quite capable of making my own decisions.

Now RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME she turns to the people behind her in line and says, "This shows that money doesn't equate to taste. That's the ugliest bag I've ever seen. Maybe she better start making better decisions". The other people tried to look away because they obviously realized this lady was a loon.

As I finished up and walked past her she sarcastically bowed to me. I had had enough and told her that she had no couth and I felt embarrassed for her. I saw a lot of smiles on the faces of the other patrons in line.

Ironically she was carrying a fake vuitton and had (I swear to God) Mercedes emblems with rhinestones hanging from her ears. Uhm yes... "I" have no taste!

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This is a perfect example of why you should never engage and talk to strangers!!! In the future don't even respond. Just politely finish your business and leave quickly lol!

I am sorry you had to experience that.

 

[Gixxer]

I was at FedEx a few weeks ago shipping back a BJ 40 Birkin I bought from Yoogiscloset because I didn't like the feel of the leather. When the guy behind the counter asked what I was shipping because the declared value was $13,500 I said "an Hermes purse". The woman behind me said, "Who the hell buys a $14,000 purse? Are you selling it for someone?". When I told her I bought it but didn't like it she then looked at my purse on the counter (ebene and toile 35 Birkin) and said, "And how much was that? $20,000? Does your husband know you waste money on things all the time?". I politely told her that no, it wasn't $20,000, that I got a great buy for $8,000 and I was happy for her concern over a strangers spending habits, but I was quite capable of making my own decisions.

Now RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME she turns to the people behind her in line and says, "This shows that money doesn't equate to taste. That's the ugliest bag I've ever seen. Maybe she better start making better decisions". The other people tried to look away because they obviously realized this lady was a loon.

As I finished up and walked past her she sarcastically bowed to me. I had had enough and told her that she had no couth and I felt embarrassed for her. I saw a lot of smiles on the faces of the other patrons in line.

Ironically she was carrying a fake vuitton and had (I swear to God) Mercedes emblems with rhinestones hanging from her ears. Uhm yes... "I" have no taste!

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What a horrendous situation! That makes my story look like childs play (you've mad me feel better!). Good on you for telling her to stop embarassing herself; I think that is the only answer to such mortifying behaviour.

 

[joiseygirl]

Haha... I'm always a very friendly person and my fiancé comments on how women will start up conversations with each other in stores without knowing each other. But this was one situation where I should have seen CRAZY written on her face from the get go and pretended she didn't exist! Good thing she didn't get my Spanish up and see my nasty side lol!

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[loves]

how horrifying!

imho you handled the situation perfectly, with grace and dignity.

I was at FedEx a few weeks ago shipping back a BJ 40 Birkin I bought from Yoogiscloset because I didn't like the feel of the leather. When the guy behind the counter asked what I was shipping because the declared value was $13,500 I said "an Hermes purse". The woman behind me said, "Who the hell buys a $14,000 purse? Are you selling it for someone?". When I told her I bought it but didn't like it she then looked at my purse on the counter (ebene and toile 35 Birkin) and said, "And how much was that? $20,000? Does your husband know you waste money on things all the time?". I politely told her that no, it wasn't $20,000, that I got a great buy for $8,000 and I was happy for her concern over a strangers spending habits, but I was quite capable of making my own decisions.

Now RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME she turns to the people behind her in line and says, "This shows that money doesn't equate to taste. That's the ugliest bag I've ever seen. Maybe she better start making better decisions". The other people tried to look away because they obviously realized this lady was a loon.

As I finished up and walked past her she sarcastically bowed to me. I had had enough and told her that she had no couth and I felt embarrassed for her. I saw a lot of smiles on the faces of the other patrons in line.

Ironically she was carrying a fake vuitton and had (I swear to God) Mercedes emblems with rhinestones hanging from her ears. Uhm yes... "I" have no taste!

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[carlinha]

I was at FedEx a few weeks ago shipping back a BJ 40 Birkin I bought from Yoogiscloset because I didn't like the feel of the leather. When the guy behind the counter asked what I was shipping because the declared value was $13,500 I said "an Hermes purse". The woman behind me said, "Who the hell buys a $14,000 purse? Are you selling it for someone?". When I told her I bought it but didn't like it she then looked at my purse on the counter (ebene and toile 35 Birkin) and said, "And how much was that? $20,000? Does your husband know you waste money on things all the time?". I politely told her that no, it wasn't $20,000, that I got a great buy for $8,000 and I was happy for her concern over a strangers spending habits, but I was quite capable of making my own decisions.

Now RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME she turns to the people behind her in line and says, "This shows that money doesn't equate to taste. That's the ugliest bag I've ever seen. Maybe she better start making better decisions". The other people tried to look away because they obviously realized this lady was a loon.

As I finished up and walked past her she sarcastically bowed to me. I had had enough and told her that she had no couth and I felt embarrassed for her. I saw a lot of smiles on the faces of the other patrons in line.

Ironically she was carrying a fake vuitton and had (I swear to God) Mercedes emblems with rhinestones hanging from her ears. Uhm yes... "I" have no taste!

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wow joiseygirl that is absolutely crazy and totally uncalled for. i just don't get how people who don't live your life feel like they can judge you! i am so sorry you had to go through that you responded in a very classy way!

 

[Iwantaspybag]

Ironically she was carrying a fake vuitton and had (I swear to God) Mercedes emblems with rhinestones hanging from her ears. Uhm yes... "I" have no taste!

While I agree with Lamborghini Girl about talking to strangers, I love the way you handled this woman on the way out. Chris Christie would be proud of you. Must have been satisfying to see the rest of the line smiling.

 

[Iwantaspybag]

But this was one situation where I should have seen CRAZY written on her face from the get go and pretended she didn't exist!

Oh yeah. One of the wisest things I have ever heard is "when you see crazy coming, cross the street."

 

[Iwantaspybag]

So to accuse someone - who has actively avoided using goods that are blatantly and offensively copied - of theft, which is what in fact a rip-off is, (or supporting 'theft' through copying), is extremely offensive!

Forgive me for venting, but I'm still inordinately offended!

She probably has closets and drawers full of rip offs and no clue that she was accusing you of something offensive. From where she sat, it may have been a compliment --that you had a fake that she thought was real. (And even it she was insisting it was Versace, that is probably the best brand she knows).

Her behavior says much more about her than you.

 

[Gixxer]

She probably has closets and drawers full of rip offs and no clue that she was accusing you of something offensive. From where she sat, it may have been a compliment --that you had a fake that she thought was real. (And even it she was insisting it was Versace, that is probably the best brand she knows).

Her behavior says much more about her than you.

Thanks iwantaspybag, I think you are right and that thought did cross my mind at the time, which is why I didn't say anything. From what's happened on this thread only today I think I've gotten off pretty lightly, so I feel much better that you lovelies understand!

Amazing what other people on here have to go through.

 

[Cityfashionista]

I was at FedEx a few weeks ago shipping back a BJ 40 Birkin I bought from Yoogiscloset because I didn't like the feel of the leather. When the guy behind the counter asked what I was shipping because the declared value was $13,500 I said "an Hermes purse". The woman behind me said, "Who the hell buys a $14,000 purse? Are you selling it for someone?". When I told her I bought it but didn't like it she then looked at my purse on the counter (ebene and toile 35 Birkin) and said, "And how much was that? $20,000? Does your husband know you waste money on things all the time?". I politely told her that no, it wasn't $20,000, that I got a great buy for $8,000 and I was happy for her concern over a strangers spending habits, but I was quite capable of making my own decisions.

Now RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME she turns to the people behind her in line and says, "This shows that money doesn't equate to taste. That's the ugliest bag I've ever seen. Maybe she better start making better decisions". The other people tried to look away because they obviously realized this lady was a loon.

As I finished up and walked past her she sarcastically bowed to me. I had had enough and told her that she had no couth and I felt embarrassed for her. I saw a lot of smiles on the faces of the other patrons in line.

Ironically she was carrying a fake vuitton and had (I swear to God) Mercedes emblems with rhinestones hanging from her ears. Uhm yes... "I" have no taste!

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OMG. Unbelievable.

That kind of reaction to my bags would've woke up my inner ghetto girl. I try to remain composed but blatant disrespect just gets on my nerves!

You handled yourself well though.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Originally Posted by joiseygirl
I was at FedEx a few weeks ago shipping back a BJ 40 Birkin I bought from Yoogiscloset because I didn't like the feel of the leather. When the guy behind the counter asked what I was shipping because the declared value was $13,500 I said "an Hermes purse". The woman behind me said, "Who the hell buys a $14,000 purse? Are you selling it for someone?". When I told her I bought it but didn't like it she then looked at my purse on the counter (ebene and toile 35 Birkin) and said, "And how much was that? $20,000? Does your husband know you waste money on things all the time?". I politely told her that no, it wasn't $20,000, that I got a great buy for $8,000 and I was happy for her concern over a strangers spending habits, but I was quite capable of making my own decisions.

Now RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME she turns to the people behind her in line and says, "This shows that money doesn't equate to taste. That's the ugliest bag I've ever seen. Maybe she better start making better decisions". The other people tried to look away because they obviously realized this lady was a loon.

As I finished up and walked past her she sarcastically bowed to me. I had had enough and told her that she had no couth and I felt embarrassed for her. I saw a lot of smiles on the faces of the other patrons in line.

Ironically she was carrying a fake vuitton and had (I swear to God) Mercedes emblems with rhinestones hanging from her ears. Uhm yes... "I" have no taste!

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A couple of perfect comebacks to that one would be:

"Then it's fortunate that I have them and you don't"
or the old tried-and-true
"If you need to ask you can't afford it."