Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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You sound like an awesome person with a great attitude.
Well said
Ladies. Its kind of you to say how awesome I may be but I'm hated by many. Sometimes its jealously but other times its my strong personality that tends to grate on people. I'm a live & let live type of person & as long as I'm not hurting anyone with my love of material items or whatever else I'm doing I don't really care what anyone thinks.
I tend to not notice the hateful looks that i get from folks because if I did it may affect my mood on certain days. My husband however notices it & is a bit of a guard dog about it. I'm currently training him to play nice
We've been together 15 yrs though so the training only works but so much.
As much as the outside world may hate on us for our perceived wealth I also think in my experience some fashionistas take themselves too seriously.
My girl yorkie loves dog toys. She gets truly crazed whenever she gets a new one. She'll start shaking like she has mental problems because she so excited whenever she thinks anyone will come anywhere near it. Most of the time you aren't even thinking about it while its all shes thinking about.
I say this to say that as much as we are into fashion there are many who also really could care less. I'm not saying that there isn't hate & jealously when you supposedly look good & have a lot of high end material items, however at the same time when you are hyper sensitive to something you tend to notice it more. I think many of us on tpf have hardcore love for our labels. More than the average person & as a result we may carry ourselves like we are better than. I'm not judging that because like I said before I keep stink face expression on my face 99.9% of the time because I don't want to be approached. That combined with the labels often gives people the impression that I'm a stuck up bit*h. Most days that works for me tbh. I take the good with the bad. People judge & jump to unfair conclusions. It happens just as much the other way. I've had fashionistas SA & other people who appear to be well off come to me & make snide comments about people who are perceived to not be wealthy. They judge the way I look & the stuff I have & assume that I would be ok with looking down on others because they don't have a lot of material items. When they find out I'm not that way they tend not to like me either. I love my fashionistas & although I was a label junkie when I joined tpf I have no problem admitting you lovely ladies have elevated my fashion game & for that I'm truly thankful. However for as many nice ladies that I have encountered on tpf there are also the elitist snobs who engage in such juvenile practices as engaging in clicks & looking down on others which I personally find a bit mean spirited & troublesome especially when you may very well be better off than the ones you are judging & excluding. I'm not saying folks should be ashamed of what they have. Be proud of it. Lord knows I am but at the same time I think its sad to judge others or anyone else on their material items or lack of materials items.
Sorry for the ramble but I hope I made sense. I think you all are fabulous. Stay fabulous but IMO at the end of the day this stuff is just stuff. There are more important things in life.
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Sorry that happened.
I get that sometimes too but I tend to let folks know its my money & like you said if my husband is ok with it they need to be too.
Sorry that happened.
Aw, thanks...she said it in kind of a joking way - implying that I've lost my mind or something, but it still stung. I appreciate the support from people who understand the love
Its kind of you to say how awesome I may be but I'm hated by many. Sometimes its jealously but other times its my strong personality that tends to grate on people. I'm a live & let live type of person & as long as I'm not hurting anyone with my love of material items or whatever else I'm doing I don't really care what anyone thinks.
We've been together 15 yrs though so the training only works but so much.
As much as the outside world may hate on us for our perceived wealth I also think in my experience some fashionistas take themselves too seriously.
My girl yorkie loves dog toys. She gets truly crazed whenever she gets a new one. She'll start shaking like she has mental problems because she so excited whenever she thinks anyone will come anywhere near it. Most of the time you aren't even thinking about it while its all shes thinking about.
I say this to say that as much as we are into fashion there are many who also really could care less. I'm not saying that there isn't hate & jealously when you supposedly look good & have a lot of high end material items, however at the same time when you are hyper sensitive to something you tend to notice it more. I think many of us on tpf have hardcore love for our labels. More than the average person & as a result we may carry ourselves like we are better than. I'm not judging that because like I said before I keep stink face expression on my face 99.9% of the time because I don't want to be approached. That combined with the labels often gives people the impression that I'm a stuck up bit*h. Most days that works for me tbh. I take the good with the bad. People judge & jump to unfair conclusions. It happens just as much the other way. I've had fashionistas SA & other people who appear to be well off come to me & make snide comments about people who are perceived to not be wealthy. They judge the way I look & the stuff I have & assume that I would be ok with looking down on others because they don't have a lot of material items. When they find out I'm not that way they tend not to like me either. I love my fashionistas & although I was a label junkie when I joined tpf I have no problem admitting you lovely ladies have elevated my fashion game & for that I'm truly thankful. However for as many nice ladies that I have encountered on tpf there are also the elitist snobs who engage in such juvenile practices as engaging in clicks & looking down on others which I personally find a bit mean spirited & troublesome especially when you may very well be better off than the ones you are judging & excluding. I'm not saying folks should be ashamed of what they have. Be proud of it. Lord knows I am but at the same time I think its sad to judge others or anyone else on their material items or lack of materials items.
Sorry for the ramble but I hope I made sense. I think you all are fabulous. Stay fabulous but IMO at the end of the day this stuff is just stuff. There are more important things in life.
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I love the fact that we can come onto this site and everyone shares our passions and no-one judges.
I agree that other people often make snide remarks, it's usually strangers, and it does hurt your feelings - but in the main i rise above it and believe that it's each to their own .....
I work hard so i use my money the way i choose to, if they choose to spend theirs on alcohol, cigarettes, whatever - then that's prerogative and i tell them so !
They usually don't like it
I agree that other people often make snide remarks, it's usually strangers, and it does hurt your feelings - but in the main i rise above it and believe that it's each to their own .....
I work hard so i use my money the way i choose to, if they choose to spend theirs on alcohol, cigarettes, whatever - then that's prerogative and i tell them so !
They usually don't like it
Aw, thanks...she said it in kind of a joking way - implying that I've lost my mind or something, but it still stung. I appreciate the support from people who understand the love
Yeah I get that from folks too. I just don't understand when someone else life choices get to you in such a way especially if it isn't affecting you.
Some folks need to get a grip.
I have co-workers who have a whole fictional story in their head about me. They roll their eyes, purposely not speak & go out of their way to be nasty to me because of my material items. Proof of this is whenever they do speak to me there's always seems to be a underlining stink remark about my Louboutins Hermes or whatever.
What I get from this is my choices keep them up at night.
I find it hilarious yet sad. As long as they don't get out of hand with it or physical about it I'm good though.
I have no time to be that concerned on what others do. That fact that they do never ceases to amaze me. Some days I can barely keep track of my own life.
Maybe they're better multitaskers.
Thank you!!!
I completely know what you mean - after working endless hours and spending time with my two little ones, I don't have a lot of time to catalog people's purchases - or feel angry with them if they have nice things. I often don't have time to catalog my own purchases (!) and I frequently find things that I've bought and forgotten about.
AND, I actually like it when my friends are happy....
I'm much more cautious with this person now. It actually caused a considerable bump in our relationship road.
City, you're the best.
I completely know what you mean - after working endless hours and spending time with my two little ones, I don't have a lot of time to catalog people's purchases - or feel angry with them if they have nice things. I often don't have time to catalog my own purchases (!) and I frequently find things that I've bought and forgotten about.
AND, I actually like it when my friends are happy....
I'm much more cautious with this person now. It actually caused a considerable bump in our relationship road.
City, you're the best.
Yeah I get that from folks too. I just don't understand when someone else life choices get to you in such a way especially if it isn't affecting you.
Some folks need to get a grip.
I have co-workers who have a whole fictional story in their head about me. They roll their eyes, purposely not speak & go out of their way to be nasty to me because of my material items. Proof of this is whenever they do speak to me there's always seems to be a underlining stink remark about my Louboutins Hermes or whatever.
What I get from this is my choices keep them up at night.
As long as they don't get out of hand with it or physical about it I'm good though.
I have no time to be that concerned on what others do. That fact that they do never ceases to amaze me. Some days I can barely keep track of my own life.
Maybe they're better multitaskers.
Its kind of you to say how awesome I may be but I'm hated by many. Sometimes its jealously but other times its my strong personality that tends to grate on people. I'm a live & let live type of person & as long as I'm not hurting anyone with my love of material items or whatever else I'm doing I don't really care what anyone thinks.
We've been together 15 yrs though so the training only works but so much.
As much as the outside world may hate on us for our perceived wealth I also think in my experience some fashionistas take themselves too seriously.
My girl yorkie loves dog toys. She gets truly crazed whenever she gets a new one. She'll start shaking like she has mental problems because she so excited whenever she thinks anyone will come anywhere near it. Most of the time you aren't even thinking about it while its all shes thinking about.
I say this to say that as much as we are into fashion there are many who also really could care less. I'm not saying that there isn't hate & jealously when you supposedly look good & have a lot of high end material items, however at the same time when you are hyper sensitive to something you tend to notice it more. I think many of us on tpf have hardcore love for our labels. More than the average person & as a result we may carry ourselves like we are better than. I'm not judging that because like I said before I keep stink face expression on my face 99.9% of the time because I don't want to be approached. That combined with the labels often gives people the impression that I'm a stuck up bit*h. Most days that works for me tbh. I take the good with the bad. People judge & jump to unfair conclusions. It happens just as much the other way. I've had fashionistas SA & other people who appear to be well off come to me & make snide comments about people who are perceived to not be wealthy. They judge the way I look & the stuff I have & assume that I would be ok with looking down on others because they don't have a lot of material items. When they find out I'm not that way they tend not to like me either. I love my fashionistas & although I was a label junkie when I joined tpf I have no problem admitting you lovely ladies have elevated my fashion game & for that I'm truly thankful. However for as many nice ladies that I have encountered on tpf there are also the elitist snobs who engage in such juvenile practices as engaging in clicks & looking down on others which I personally find a bit mean spirited & troublesome especially when you may very well be better off than the ones you are judging & excluding. I'm not saying folks should be ashamed of what they have. Be proud of it. Lord knows I am but at the same time I think its sad to judge others or anyone else on their material items or lack of materials items.
Sorry for the ramble but I hope I made sense. I think you all are fabulous. Stay fabulous but IMO at the end of the day this stuff is just stuff. There are more important things in life.
Cityfashionista, I think I need a lesson in "stink face" from you! I am cursed with a wholesome, girl-next-door look which makes people think they can approach me. This is not H-related, but I recently met a friend for coffee and was carrying a large bag from Lord & Taylor since I didn't have time to stop at home and drop the bag off. A woman came up to me and said, "ooh, did you get something good at Lord and Taylor?" I just looked at her and said, "Well, that would be subjective, wouldn't it?" She laughed, but I think she got the point -- lady, I don't know you, it's none of your business what I bought!
Definitely need to work on the stink face!
It may not be anything you can do because unfortunately there are certain types of people who seem to be to immune "stink face"In my experience these are crazed pervs (who I unfortunately attract my fair share of) I could tell you stories. My most recent 2 were a few weeks ago. 1 guy felt the need to follow me on the street to which I finally had to start screaming like I was on fire.
Another guy tried to walk up to me while I was crossing the street in NYC & put his hand up my skirt.
I was arguing with my husband so I truly had stink face in full affect but this perv didn't care. Lucky my husband was walking behind me & caught him before he did his dirty deed. My husband is a big Irish guy how gets in touch with his crazy anytime he thinks I'm in danger. The pervert quickly changed his plans after he realize my husband & I were together.Then there are the street people. I also get my fair share of attention from them. One kept bothering me on the Subway about my spiked Louboutin boots. I kept giving him the death stare but it took a minute for him to respond to it.
Then there's the truly ghetto. I mean the type that only leave the hood to go to court. I grew up in the hood so I know its best to advert your eyes when you encounter these types.
Finally there's the straight up crazy, substance abusers or no class people who just don't care.
The common link is that these are all people who have nothing to lose by getting into an altercation with you or if they feel like they do have something to lose the payoff they get from harassing you is worth the risk to them.
Even though I no longer live in a rough part of town I grew up in a pretty rough part. The one lesson I've learned early is to never get into a fight with someone who has nothing to lose. You can't win against people like that because they are always willing to take it to places that you aren't willing to go.