Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#647
antschulina said:
Thank you! I feel a bit offended too :)
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Dont worry, many people here support you in your decision. If you have the money you should not behindered from purchasing your dream bag. Do not mind what other people are telling you. Hermes bags are made from the best quality of leathers, handmade to perfection by highly skilled craftsmen. It can be passed down to your daughter or grand daughter eventually.
If you really like the bag, go get it! It does not matter what people think as long as you are happy with your purchase!
Congrats on your graduation and give your self a treat :p
 
#648
sabrina85 said:
Well, it is true that birkin bag is linked to high status symbol. Just like when you drive a nice car, people will immediately have the impression that you come from money.
However, not all people buy birkin to show their status or to make themselves look wealthy. Some people like the design and some like the quality.
Thus, it is not fair to say that all those who buy expensive birkin bag want to show off their status.
She just graduated and she has been working hard and use her money. It is ultimately her decision. She can get whatever she wants as it is her money. I think she deserves a treat for working so hard
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Thank you! This was very supporting!
I also must say that I live in a country where people are considered "poor" when they earn less than 50k per year. Life is expensive here, but we consider here a major "middle class", and people considered rich, are usually super rich. To show their status they would owe a yacht, several houses, several bentley cars etc, but not necessarily Hermès.
IMHO an appartment is not a prerequisite to own a birkin.
 
#649
sabrina85 said:
Dont worry, many people here support you in your decision. If you have the money you should not behindered from purchasing your dream bag. Do not mind what other people are telling you. Hermes bags are made from the best quality of leathers, handmade to perfection by highly skilled craftsmen. It can be passed down to your daughter or grand daughter eventually.
If you really like the bag, go get it! It does not matter what people think as long as you are happy with your purchase!
Congrats on your graduation and give your self a treat :p
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Thank you Sabrina85! You are very right and supportive! I will get my bag :)
 
#650
India said:
I think you're kidding yourself when you say it's not to show your success/status. If not, why on earth would you talk about it to your mother's friends when you already know their opinion. If it were just about your taste, you would buy it and use it for times when you're not with your family and their friends. Hermes bags ARE enormously expensive! Do you own a car? An apartment? If not, you would be much better served by acquiring those before you start on Hermes.

When we acquire the trappings of the very rich and we're not, it will put a distance between us and friends and family. And what about boyfriends? Will you be seen by them as high-maintenance? I can promise you that it won't attract wealthy friends and boyfriends, but it can lose what you already have. When you get older and have achieved success in your field, you can do as you wish to some degree. But even then, one must be careful not to court envy in the work place.
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Extremely wise words, presumptous or not! I also dont find your comments the least bit offensive :flowers:.
Hermes bags are indeed very expensive (Who are we kidding on this forum?) and people have built successful empires starting on less than what an Hermes bag costs. In some places, its an awesome downpayment for a house.
Perhaps you should have included a great "retirement plan" as well as an apartment/house. :smile1:.
If I cant pay my phone bill, it doesnt matter if my phone is sitting in an Hermes bag. If I have no place to stay, I certainly cant live in an Hermes bag.

It becomes a natural progression for ones accomplishments at a certain point, to be able to splurge on anything one chooses.
When one is completely secure, I find that negative comments from family or friends is practically non-existent. (At least, in my part of the world).
But then...I dont discuss my purchases with my family or friends. They can see my purchases but it is not open for discussion whether I can or cannot afford anything.

However, there's no telling with boorish strangers.;)
 
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#651
antschulina said:
Hello, I would like to add my own experience to this discussion too!

In my family, we fit into the "middle class" status, and logically we are not used to attend rich and big parties, neither to excessively consume expensive cars or to afford designer clothes / bags. I am 27 and graduated three months ago. I have been always working hard, and earning money during my studies, and also after my graduation. Recently I wished to owe a Birkin bag, and I found that it was possible to afford it if I saved my money during the waiting period.

Anyone wants to add his own opinion to this?
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I think it's great that you have saved up enough money to afford for your bag as a reward for graduation. Congrats!

The only opinion I have on this, is to be careful about bringing it on future job interviews you will be going on post graduation. There are a few threads on TPF about it. Before I started my job search, I didn't understand why I couldn't bring it (and I'm much older than you), but the truth is, just as you've seen with your mom and her friends people pre judge and it could impact you negatively :) just my two cents.

Congrats again. :)
 
#653
In determining rich vs. not rich, a good rule I once read said:
If you can comfortably live on the income of your income without having to work, you are rich.
If you have to work for your living, you are not rich.

Regarding car ownership, I don't think it's necessary to own a car in order to own Hermes bags, statement jewelry or designer clothes. I don't own a car (I rent one when I need one.) Many people don't have cars because they don't want to be bothered with the maintenance or because they live in big cities and don't need a car.
 
#654
km8282 said:
I think it's great that you have saved up enough money to afford for your bag as a reward for graduation. Congrats!

The only opinion I have on this, is to be careful about bringing it on future job interviews you will be going on post graduation. There are a few threads on TPF about it. Before I started my job search, I didn't understand why I couldn't bring it (and I'm much older than you), but the truth is, just as you've seen with your mom and her friends people pre judge and it could impact you negatively :) just my two cents.

Congrats again. :)
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Thank you for your advice! Indeed, everyone should be careful with their jobs!
 
#655
antschulina said:
Thank you Sabrina85! You are very right and supportive! I will get my bag :)
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martiniandlace said:
Extremely wise words, presumptous or not! I also dont find your comments the least bit offensive :flowers:.
Hermes bags are indeed very expensive (Who are we kidding on this forum?) and people have built successful empires starting on less than what an Hermes bag costs. In some places, its an awesome downpayment for a house.
Perhaps you should have included a great "retirement plan" as well as an apartment/house. :smile1:.
If I cant pay my phone bill, it doesnt matter if my phone is sitting in an Hermes bag. If I have no place to stay, I certainly cant live in an Hermes bag.

It becomes a natural progression for ones accomplishments at a certain point, to be able to splurge on anything one chooses.
When one is completely secure, I find that negative comments from family or friends is practically non-existent. (At least, in my part of the world).
But then...I dont discuss my purchases with my family or friends. They can see my purchases but it is not open for discussion whether I can or cannot afford anything.

However, there's no telling with boorish strangers.;)
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km8282 said:
I think it's great that you have saved up enough money to afford for your bag as a reward for graduation. Congrats!

The only opinion I have on this, is to be careful about bringing it on future job interviews you will be going on post graduation. There are a few threads on TPF about it. Before I started my job search, I didn't understand why I couldn't bring it (and I'm much older than you), but the truth is, just as you've seen with your mom and her friends people pre judge and it could impact you negatively :) just my two cents.

Congrats again. :)
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kittenslingerie said:
So far no rude comments, only very sweet remarks. A lot excitement from some people. I discucss purchases with hubby, pf sometimes, and best friend (she can afford Birkins so its fun to share enjoyment).
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Madam Bijoux said:
In determining rich vs. not rich, a good rule I once read said:
If you can comfortably live on the income of your income without having to work, you are rich.
If you have to work for your living, you are not rich.

Regarding car ownership, I don't think it's necessary to own a car in order to own Hermes bags, statement jewelry or designer clothes. I don't own a car (I rent one when I need one.) Many people don't have cars because they don't want to be bothered with the maintenance or because they live in big cities and don't need a car.
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antschulina said:
Thank you for your advice! Indeed, everyone should be careful with their jobs!
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This thread has gone WAY off track. There are other threads about people who save for their bags, whether the bags are worth it, and the opinions of friends and family on said expensive purchases.

Please get back to topic now. And please also remember that because you may disagree with someone, you do not have the right to be rude to them in this thread or any other. If you see a post you feel crosses the line, please report it - do not confront the poster in the thread or call names.

Thanks.
 
#656
mistikat said:
This thread has gone WAY off track. There are other threads about people who save for their bags, whether the bags are worth it, and the opinions of friends and family on said expensive purchases.

Please get back to topic now. And please also remember that because you may disagree with someone, you do not have the right to be rude to them in this thread or any other. If you see a post you feel crosses the line, please report it - do not confront the poster in the thread or call names.

Thanks.
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:tup:
 
#657
I've never had any negative comments on my Hermes items-thankfully. But, I know that I would if I discussed cost, etc with my family or one of two of my friends. My parents nor the majority of my friends live within the means that I do and I do not feel comfortable calling them up and jumping for joy about a new designer item when they're working hard to pay for living expenses. I enjoy my luxury items quietly and smile politely when I'm complimented. The only time I discuss items or cost is with my DB who often accompanies me on my shopping adventures. Thank goodness for TPF and the lovely ladies & gentlemen on here who can share my excitement with me! :-)
 
#658
Yes! My first rude comment in a long time. I went out with the girls for drinks and a new friend said I looked Frou Frou with my scarf and scarf ring. I laughed and she was serious. Oh well! LOL.

Same girl was also in a Hermes boutique with me , I won't say shopping with me because she was rude there too. I bought an enamel and she said I was insane . She then read me and judged me over some drinks about my shopping. O well.
 
#659
I just wanted to add that I am rereading a book called ; The Four Agreements and one is to not take anything personally. It is hard but true. When that new friend said I looked too Frou Frou, (whatever that even means? ) I was hurt and then I realized this person is so unhappy she always tries to bring me down in some way and my scarf was just a tool in that.
Second thing I learned is do not bring new friends shopping with you, wait them out and see who they really are. Now I can only have fun with a small amount of people when I shop and most of them I met on TPF! :)
 
#660
GenieBottle26 said:
I've never had any negative comments on my Hermes items-thankfully. But, I know that I would if I discussed cost, etc with my family or one of two of my friends. My parents nor the majority of my friends live within the means that I do and I do not feel comfortable calling them up and jumping for joy about a new designer item when they're working hard to pay for living expenses. I enjoy my luxury items quietly and smile politely when I'm complimented. The only time I discuss items or cost is with my DB who often accompanies me on my shopping adventures. Thank goodness for TPF and the lovely ladies & gentlemen on here who can share my excitement with me! :-)
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Well-said. My DH can celebrate my H purchases with me, and to some degree my DM (though I do NOT get into prices with her), but otherwise what I spend on H would be an affront to less-affluent or less luxury-minded friends and family, so I just don't bring it up. I haven't heard any negative remarks and just respond "thank you" to compliments.
 
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