Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#421
xiangxiang0731 said:
Please tell me you are kidding by saying this! So If I wear a H bag, I deserve nasty comments from my friends/colleagues/strangers because I provoked them by wearing the said bag???

For your information, I've never received any rude/nasty comments about my H or other expensive bags from friends or strangers. I have no experience with this but I found your logic hard to understand.
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I must stay on topic on the thread, because if I respond here the moderators will interfere - my opinions do seem unusual for here. You can PM me, and I will respond.
Do, I never said that you deserve nasty remarks. Nobody deserves nasty remarks. That's my response in short.
 
#422
What would be nice is if some could simply credit the possibility--i.e., believe it when people say it--that many H customers buy for their private enjoyment, no matter that they use the products in public. For many, the experience is one of virtual anonymity of H in many contexts. Same thing I read on a luxury watch forum I participate in: people there find that nobody notices that special and costly watch on one's wrist. Things are inflated in media and in market analysis textbooks, but not so much in everyday life for many of us.

Why this is impossible for some posters to swallow seems to me a reverse form of snobbery.
 
#423
eggpudding said:
^Exactly.. and how is someone insinuating that a H bag owner is insane, not negative when they say "a sane person wouldn't spend that much on a bag etc"? :rolleyes:
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Not all people think that doing something "insane" is negative. They genuinely believe that this is simply insane. Neutral, it is not good, not bad, it is insane they mean, and not in a medical sense of course.
I am not one of those people- I have never commented in public on any clothes/cars, except making compliments.
I have certianly done some insane things is my life, and I would not mind if someone comments on this, unless, of course, they deliberately try to insult.
 
#424
jellyv said:
What would be nice is if some could simply credit the possibility--i.e., believe it when people say it--that many H customers buy for their private enjoyment, no matter that they use the products in public. For many, the experience is one of virtual anonymity of H in many contexts. Same thing I read on a luxury watch forum I participate in: people there find that nobody notices that special and costly watch on one's wrist. Things are inflated in media and in market analysis textbooks, but not so much in everyday life for many of us.

Why this is impossible for some posters to swallow seems to me a reverse form of snobbery.
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If a fairy came and magically changed the "hermes" logo on a birkin to a similarly discreet "Target value, made in China", I can assure you that the majority of current h. lovers would not such a bag for £5000, despite it staying as authentic as before the fairy intervention.
So, no, I do not believe that it is only for private enjoyment those "special" things are bought. Take the brand identity and the aura of "special" out, leave only the quality - and many people will stop being so fascinated.
Market books are right - the best of them are written by the very people who helped create those "special" brands.
 
#426
Folks, this is a last reminder to stay on track in this thread. The subject is not about whether people should spend money on Hermes products, whether they are too expensive, or whether or not their marketing practices are fair. It is about whether members have received comments they found offensive when carrying Hermes items. Not the motives of people carrying said items or those making those comments.

Please do not attack or call out other members - it won't be tolerated.

Thank you.

 
#427
xiangxiang0731 said:
Please tell me you are kidding by saying this! So If I wear a H bag, I deserve nasty comments from my friends/colleagues/strangers because I provoked them by wearing the said bag???

For your information, I've never received any rude/nasty comments about my H or other expensive bags from friends or strangers. I have no experience with this but I found your logic hard to understand.
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^^^And to respond to OP's question: Fortunately, the reception is all good and friendly combined by a smile:smile1:. So far.
 
#428
Here is an article I found - while idling googling birkin - in a UK daily newspaper (readership aimed predominately at middle class women in daily tabloid format). The reader is openly invited to pour scorn on Ms Kardashian - not for her achievements (or some might unkindly say lack thereof) but purely on the basis of her choice of bag (and how she chooses to use it). Furthermore the author of the piece feels that s/he is in step with the zeitgeist:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbi...sive-iconic-15-000-Hermes-Birkin-gym-bag.html

This begs the question, is there anyone who owns a birkin unaware of how others, rightly or wrongly, perceive it?

My personal approach, living in a metropolis where it is readily recognised, is to choose when and where I carry (not wear) my birkins, and when to opt for something a little less eye catching. I'd no more carry a birkin to suburban school gates than wear a cocktail dress - it would draw unwelcomed attention, as I have witnessed for others who have chosen not to self edit (i.e. leave it in the car!) PS This is at prep schools where the majority of the parents could afford but choose not to own or ‘wear’ one!

Shopping, lunching in Mayfair/Knightsbridge = birkin

Mummy duty = anything but!

Although we cannot hold ourselves responsible for others reactions, we can manage the situations as best we can - and on the way home from the store clutching that orange box, prepare responses for any eventuality! :p
 
#429
korzinka said:
If a fairy came and magically changed the "hermes" logo on a birkin to a similarly discreet "Target value, made in China", I can assure you that the majority of current h. lovers would not such a bag for £5000, despite it staying as authentic as before the fairy intervention.
So, no, I do not believe that it is only for private enjoyment those "special" things are bought. Take the brand identity and the aura of "special" out, leave only the quality - and many people will stop being so fascinated.
Market books are right - the best of them are written by the very people who helped create those "special" brands.
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I agree 100%. :yes:
 
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#431
korzinka said:
Some of the negative comments received by H. owners, that are told about on this thread, are not actually negative as such . Many of those comments are simply true and have no negativity in them . "i would never spend that much money on a bag" is not a negative comment, it is simply a true opinion of a person expressed. "It is not much better than a fake" - this is also partially just true (especially for a person who is not an expert in little indentations on the inner zip pullers) "How can a sane person spend so much as a luxury car on a bag"... - this is also not a negative comment , but it is an opinion that exposes a craze of bag obsession and status symbols game. Some of those people who comment might have negative undertones in how and when they say it, but sometimes the comments carry a genuine eye-opening intention.
Unfortunately , many comments of this kind are immediately taken as an insult. "if you do not have to say anything nice, do not say anything". Why?
If one does not want to hear anything less than nice from friends, colleagues and passers-by, they can choose to not wear and display a bag , which, by nature of it's price and distribution politics, evokes less than nice associations in many good, nice people in this world.
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this is interesting. i dont own one, but i do ask questions that could be viewed as rude, like "why would you pay so much for it?" I like to see the details, the leather, etc. I'd ask the same thing about art or a car...
 
#432
agalarowicz said:
i do ask questions that could be viewed as rude, like "why would you pay so much for it?" I like to see the details, the leather, etc. I'd ask the same thing about art or a car...
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You wouldn't like it done to you, would you?

If anyone wants to learn about the qualities of something, it can be done with a lot more finesse and kindness than implying "you've got a hole in your head." If one feels free to express frank hostility to someone else's purchases, it isn't the object that is the problem, and don't be surprised if it's not well received.
 
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