Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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This isn't H related but by far the worst behaviour that I've ever personally witnessed took place almost a decade ago. And since we're venting, I need to unload. Mods, feel free to delete.
I was out to dinner w/ three other girlfriends. They're all SO's of my then fiance (now hubby's)'s friends.
During the dinner, the GF sitting to my left notices my nice watch and immediately makes a fuss. She demands to see it so I naively humor her by taking it off and letting her examine, etc (hey, I was SO young then
). After she's done inspecting it to the minutia, she then asks about the price.
I then tell her I don't know as it was a gift. And since I'm a horrible liar, she whines and says "c'mon, I know you know. You better tell me. And yes, I know I'm a materialistic b**** but I don't care, I want to know."
At this point, I was speechless and looked across the table to the other two GFs, pleading with my eyes for help. I can't for the life of me remember what happened afterward. But everything up to that point will remain engrained in my memory.
P.S. I am no longer friends with this materialistic ....
I was out to dinner w/ three other girlfriends. They're all SO's of my then fiance (now hubby's)'s friends.
During the dinner, the GF sitting to my left notices my nice watch and immediately makes a fuss. She demands to see it so I naively humor her by taking it off and letting her examine, etc (hey, I was SO young then
). After she's done inspecting it to the minutia, she then asks about the price. I then tell her I don't know as it was a gift. And since I'm a horrible liar, she whines and says "c'mon, I know you know. You better tell me. And yes, I know I'm a materialistic b**** but I don't care, I want to know."
At this point, I was speechless and looked across the table to the other two GFs, pleading with my eyes for help. I can't for the life of me remember what happened afterward. But everything up to that point will remain engrained in my memory.
P.S. I am no longer friends with this materialistic ....
I'm with Kalliegirl....I don't know why these threads were merged, they are two different topics. Okay, that said....
No, I don't worry about carrying my H bag around, it's so under the radar for this town I doubt anyone would even think twice about it. I take it to Target, the burrito place, the burger place, grocery store, etc.
But I cannot talk to any of my friends about it. Not because they would be catty, but because the idea of buying something like an H bag is so alien to them, they would think I had lost my mind. These are thoughtful, caring, intelligent women who would happily spend the equivalent amount on a family vacation or a new couch, but who would not spend that kind of money on something exclusively for themselves.
They would not see this as a sensible purchase FOR ANYONE, and I really don't care to get into a debate with them about that. Which is why I am so glad to have my tPF friends to talk to!
No, I don't worry about carrying my H bag around, it's so under the radar for this town I doubt anyone would even think twice about it. I take it to Target, the burrito place, the burger place, grocery store, etc.
But I cannot talk to any of my friends about it. Not because they would be catty, but because the idea of buying something like an H bag is so alien to them, they would think I had lost my mind. These are thoughtful, caring, intelligent women who would happily spend the equivalent amount on a family vacation or a new couch, but who would not spend that kind of money on something exclusively for themselves.
They would not see this as a sensible purchase FOR ANYONE, and I really don't care to get into a debate with them about that. Which is why I am so glad to have my tPF friends to talk to!
I don't think others around me even know I carry a Birkin and would be shocked at the price. They'd surely think it was extravagant and not worth it. I don't discuss my purchases and just enjoy them for myself. I love my Hermes and buy it for me anyway.
I honestly can't remember if I posted in this thread way back when, but regarding the new thread re being self conscious about carrying a Birkin in certain places...I am actually more self conscious about wearing my Hermes bags at "typical" Hermes wearing places like Neiman Marcus, Saks, etc. The SAs fawn over me only because of the bag, and they're not subtle about it. I use my Birkins as diaper/toddler bags, so they go everywhere. I'm not ashamed to say that my Hermes bags see the inside of McDonald's playgrounds more often than five star restaurants or hotels! I will admit that I purposely bought a preowned, well loved, well patinaed Barenia Birkin specifically for everyday use with my daughter, and I tend to leave my brand spankin' new box Birkin for nicer outings (i.e. probably not to the park!), only because it looks more formal; but if I feel like wearing my box Birkin just because I want to, then by all means, it goes to McD's and Petsmart, same as my other bags.
As for catty remarks, none that have been said within earshot at least
And if someone does say something nasty, well, not much I can do about it. But I get to go home with the Birkin and they don't, so I guess we're even
As for catty remarks, none that have been said within earshot at least
And if someone does say something nasty, well, not much I can do about it. But I get to go home with the Birkin and they don't, so I guess we're even
I agree with Clutchbag that most of my friends would be or are shocked that I would buy something so expensive, and yes, they are lovely people who would never say a thing to make me feel bad about my purses. So it IS a great relief to have a place like tpf to talk about frivolous things like uber expensive bags
I LOVE IT...A Birkin as a diaper bag!!! Can't say you're not practical, dearheart!I honestly can't remember if I posted in this thread way back when, but regarding the new thread re being self conscious about carrying a Birkin in certain places...I am actually more self conscious about wearing my Hermes bags at "typical" Hermes wearing places like Neiman Marcus, Saks, etc. The SAs fawn over me only because of the bag, and they're not subtle about it. I use my Birkins as diaper/toddler bags, so they go everywhere. I'm not ashamed to say that my Hermes bags see the inside of McDonald's playgrounds more often than five star restaurants or hotels! I will admit that I purposely bought a preowned, well loved, well patinaed Barenia Birkin specifically for everyday use with my daughter, and I tend to leave my brand spankin' new box Birkin for nicer outings (i.e. probably not to the park!), only because it looks more formal; but if I feel like wearing my box Birkin just because I want to, then by all means, it goes to McD's and Petsmart, same as my other bags.
As for catty remarks, none that have been said within earshot at least
What a cute story skyqueen. I love nice friends and well mannered people
Me, too!!!
As to my good friend who sometimes makes snide comments and thinks I'm insane because I've spent so much on my H bags, yeah, she's right, I am insane, INSANELY HAPPY!!
But that's what friendship is about. We don't always have to be on the same page (in fact, I hate that we have so many of the same chanel things). She can be sweet and generous and we have a lot of fun, and she can be a real BE-ATCH. She's human. As S'Mom said, "...I'm too busy living my own life", to worry about her attitude. That's her problem.
But that's what friendship is about. We don't always have to be on the same page (in fact, I hate that we have so many of the same chanel things). She can be sweet and generous and we have a lot of fun, and she can be a real BE-ATCH. She's human. As S'Mom said, "...I'm too busy living my own life", to worry about her attitude. That's her problem.
Most people I know (family and close friends) don't have a clue about my birkins, let alone Hermes. My sisters only know about LVs but have no clue about H. I've avoided replying when she asked me on several occasions how much my "LV" (birkin) cost.
Recently, while shopping at a dept store, this lady made a comment about my birkin (RG w/PHW). I was at the cosmetic counter making a purchase. These two ladies were shopping in the Coach dept when one of them said to the other that she doesn't want to spend that much on just a purse and would rather get something simple like that -- pointing to my birkin
. Of course, I just pretended not to hear a thing, but they started walking towards me (yep, close enough to the point where I felt like I have to guard my birkin) and the other lady politely asked me where I got my purse from. Before I could even answer her, the Coach SA turned around and said "that's my dream bag right there!" She looked at me and said, it's such a beautiful color and looks gorgeous on you." I smiled and said thank-you and left.
Recently, while shopping at a dept store, this lady made a comment about my birkin (RG w/PHW). I was at the cosmetic counter making a purchase. These two ladies were shopping in the Coach dept when one of them said to the other that she doesn't want to spend that much on just a purse and would rather get something simple like that -- pointing to my birkin
. Of course, I just pretended not to hear a thing, but they started walking towards me (yep, close enough to the point where I felt like I have to guard my birkin) and the other lady politely asked me where I got my purse from. Before I could even answer her, the Coach SA turned around and said "that's my dream bag right there!" She looked at me and said, it's such a beautiful color and looks gorgeous on you." I smiled and said thank-you and left. 
Bulleyes! that's what I got in my mind when I posted a thread titled 'self conscious' my using my Birkin! I got this feelings and ideas inside me when I am using B...and although I living in my husband's country which is not so bad but if i go back my own country for holiday..for those who know hermes, they would be eyeing on what brand of clothes i wearing..etc etc and so forth.
But my fellow TPFers replied..who cares what they think ..just use the B with confident! You TPFers are just GREAT!
I could feel for you and yeah thanks for the positive posts
I am usually not that lack of confident type of person..but once a while I need some boosting too
I was at an indoor shooting range one time and was watching my teenage son practice shooting from behind the glass when a young couple walked in and was awaiting their turn. I was then carrying my mykonos B. The young lady then turned to her companion and spoke in a loud voice saying that she does not understand what the big deal is about that bag. Well, there was no one else there but me and my daughter and she made it a point that I heard what she said. What did I do? I ignored her. She is not worth my time.
I'm with Kalliegirl....I don't know why these threads were merged, they are two different topics. Okay, that said....
No, I don't worry about carrying my H bag around, it's so under the radar for this town I doubt anyone would even think twice about it. I take it to Target, the burrito place, the burger place, grocery store, etc.
But I cannot talk to any of my friends about it. Not because they would be catty, but because the idea of buying something like an H bag is so alien to them, they would think I had lost my mind. These are thoughtful, caring, intelligent women who would happily spend the equivalent amount on a family vacation or a new couch, but who would not spend that kind of money on something exclusively for themselves.
They would not see this as a sensible purchase FOR ANYONE, and I really don't care to get into a debate with them about that. Which is why I am so glad to have my tPF friends to talk to!
Clutch, ITA. My situation is similar, apart from my DH, I dont talk about H bags to anyone, cuz no one would be able to see it as a sensible purchase and understand my love for this brand...thanks to TPF, we can share whats on our minds here...