Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[mezzopiano]

"Very inappropriate at work" -- our manager said about my Lakis, although in a kidding tone. Then she tried it on her shoulder, lol. It looked gorgeous of course, and I grinned.

Anyway, I decided to take it as a compliment.

 

[India]

Oh good grief! I'm not important enough for anyone to care what I wear/carry! One of the nicest things about growing older is that one loses any sense of self-importance - no more worrying about what to wear to parties/out to dinner etc - no one notices or cares unless you're the mother of the bride/groom!

I don't have a Birkin but do have two Kelly's and one Picotin and my Kelly's have only been noticed by three people in my town (in over 3 1/2 years) - my hairdresser (who is a very well-traveled, wealthy married man), the Russian emigre parent of one of my grandson's friends, and the Chinese lady at the laundromat who irons my sheets. She is thrilled to have touched one!

Do I carry it to Target? Of course I do!!! When I'm doing errands, I'm certainly not going to choose my bag based on the priceline of the store I'm visiting. I rarely shop in expensive stores so I'd rarely carry my bags if I limited them to such.

As for 6-star hotels - well, I'm a Red Roof Inn gal myself. Most of the time when I travel and stay in a hotel/motel, it's by car and I have my dog with me and tons of stuff in my car. I like the RRI as their rooms open directly to the parking lot - a LOT easier to walk the dog and load/unload the car.

As a previous poster said - "It's just a bag". Enjoy it or sell it.

 

[Bornsocialite26]

Total nonsense as far as I am concerned! Enjoy your Birkin, carry it with pride and who cares...it only matters what you think. I have gone to Target and Walmart with my Birkin and you know what, so what?! I've carried it coming from the gym in sweat clothes...it's a great purse that can look as fancy and as casual as you want it to. I have combined my Birkins with inexpensive clothes, with really expensive clothes and with everything in between. It's about your own personal style.

Don't let a purse dictate who you are and what you want.

Moral of the story: your Birkin needs to conform to your life and you don't need to conform to your Birkin.

Amen to that^ well said, I wear everything w/ my birkin as well, again it's just a bag.

 

[balthus]

I had an terrible experience once. Was out to dinner with 4 couples a few years ago and one of the woman shrieked "is that bag real" (my B) to which i politely answered "yes, it is" to which she then said "wow, you spent $10,000 on a bag".

I felt myself shrinking under the table and really felt terrible for my DH as this was a group of his co-workers and spouses.

I told her the bag was a few years old at the time and that when I bought it, it didn't cost me anything near that amount (which was true) and that it was something I wanted very much and used part of my bonus that year (during the good years) to treat myself.

This coming from no less from a woman who does not work (no slam on woman who not work just germane to my situation) whose daughter married a kabillionaire and spends her summers in the Hamptons every year clearly surrounded by women carrying B's & K's but probably would never say anything in front of her daughter.

Suffice it to say, we are no longer friends and she and my husband don't work together anymore but I was mortified.

It did make me very nervous about wearing my B & K bags out and I stopped wearing them unless I was going somewhere where I knew I would not feel conspicuous. I never feel that way about wearing my scarves. I don't think anyone notices them.

I find it ironic that where I live you see many $2-3K bags &/or LV/Gucci and no one thinks anything of it but B's in particular always seem to garner stares and attention.

But I decided recently that this is silly. I spent a lot of money on these bags, albeit over 10 years ago, and if I am nit going to wear them I should sell them. But then I decided that would be giving in to the herd mentality which I always fight against.

So they are going to SF boutique to the spa and when I get them back I am going to start wearing them again as I really am not the kind of person who cares what people of think too much and 99% of the time say what I think.

Thanks for all the positive posts.

 

[julian.f]

I had an terrible experience once. Was out to dinner with 4 couples a few years ago and one of the woman shrieked "is that bag real" (my B) to which i politely answered "yes, it is" to which she then said "wow, you spent $10,000 on a bag".

I felt myself shrinking under the table and really felt terrible for my DH as this was a group of his co-workers and spouses.

I told her the bag was a few years old at the time and that when I bought it, it didn't cost me anything near that amount (which was true) and that it was something I wanted very much and used part of my bonus that year (during the good years) to treat myself.

This coming from no less from a woman who does not work (no slam on woman who not work just germane to my situation) whose daughter married a kabillionaire and spends her summers in the Hamptons every year clearly surrounded by women carrying B's & K's but probably would never say anything in front of her daughter.

Suffice it to say, we are no longer friends and she and my husband don't work together anymore but I was mortified.

It did make me very nervous about wearing my B & K bags out and I stopped wearing them unless I was going somewhere where I knew I would not feel conspicuous. I never feel that way about wearing my scarves. I don't think anyone notices them.

I find it ironic that where I live you see many $2-3K bags &/or LV/Gucci and no one thinks anything of it but B's in particular always seem to garner stares and attention.

But I decided recently that this is silly. I spent a lot of money on these bags, albeit over 10 years ago, and if I am nit going to wear them I should sell them. But then I decided that would be giving in to the herd mentality which I always fight against.

So they are going to SF boutique to the spa and when I get them back I am going to start wearing them again as I really am not the kind of person who cares what people of think too much and 99% of the time say what I think.

Thanks for all the positive posts.

To this I can only say: OMG. What business is it of anyone (except yourself) how much you spend on a bag? This woman, by saying that, is just simply TACKY. There is no other word for it - low and tacky. Pathetic.

What makes me sad is that you felt you needed to "explain" yourself. It makes me sad because I see myself doing that sometimes - minimizing things like "it wasn't THAT expensive"...or rationalizing that. Is that a woman thing? Because I can tell you boys LOVE to show off their toys and you never hear them minimizing their achievements.

Maybe you spend 10K on a purse and live in a hovel...maybe you have the money to buy 10 10K purses and live in a palace. Your life is your own and the great thing about earning or having your own money is that it is entirely your own business how you spend it. We're all different. We all have different priorities.

Yes, we judge people. I know I do. It's not right but it's a human flaw. Still, unless someone is spending MY money on something, it is not my business what they do with theirs. And thank goodness some of us have the good breeding not to actually say what that woman said out loud. It's called having a filter between the brains and your mouth.

So good for you for refreshing your beauties. Get them out there, they deserve to be enjoyed for the lovely things that they are. Cheers! (I wish I had a martini smiley, it'd be more appropriate!)

 

[Mindi B]

To this I can only say: OMG. What business is it of anyone (except yourself) how much you spend on a bag? This woman, by saying that, is just simply TACKY. There is no other word for it - low and tacky. Pathetic.

What makes me sad is that you felt you needed to "explain" yourself. It makes me sad because I see myself doing that sometimes - minimizing things like "it wasn't THAT expensive"...or rationalizing that. Is that a woman thing? Because I can tell you boys LOVE to show off their toys and you never hear them minimizing their achievements.

Maybe you spend 10K on a purse and live in a hovel...maybe you have the money to buy 10 10K purses and live in a palace. Your life is your own and the great thing about earning or having your own money is that it is entirely your own business how you spend it. We're all different. We all have different priorities.

Yes, we judge people. I know I do. It's not right but it's a human flaw. Still, unless someone is spending MY money on something, it is not my business what they do with theirs. And thank goodness some of us have the good breeding not to actually say what that woman said out loud. It's called having a filter between the brains and your mouth.

So good for you for refreshing your beauties. Get them out there, they deserve to be enjoyed for the lovely things that they are. Cheers! (I wish I had a martini smiley, it'd be more appropriate!)

Beautifully said.

 

[balthus]

To this I can only say: OMG. What business is it of anyone (except yourself) how much you spend on a bag? This woman, by saying that, is just simply TACKY. There is no other word for it - low and tacky. Pathetic.

What makes me sad is that you felt you needed to "explain" yourself. It makes me sad because I see myself doing that sometimes - minimizing things like "it wasn't THAT expensive"...or rationalizing that. Is that a woman thing? Because I can tell you boys LOVE to show off their toys and you never hear them minimizing their achievements.

Maybe you spend 10K on a purse and live in a hovel...maybe you have the money to buy 10 10K purses and live in a palace. Your life is your own and the great thing about earning or having your own money is that it is entirely your own business how you spend it. We're all different. We all have different priorities.

Yes, we judge people. I know I do. It's not right but it's a human flaw. Still, unless someone is spending MY money on something, it is not my business what they do with theirs. And thank goodness some of us have the good breeding not to actually say what that woman said out loud. It's called having a filter between the brains and your mouth.

So good for you for refreshing your beauties. Get them out there, they deserve to be enjoyed for the lovely things that they are. Cheers! (I wish I had a martini smiley, it'd be more appropriate!)

Thank you & if it wasn't 9AM where I am I'd be right with you on that martini!

 

[pursecrzy]

To this I can only say: OMG. What business is it of anyone (except yourself) how much you spend on a bag? This woman, by saying that, is just simply TACKY. There is no other word for it - low and tacky. Pathetic.

What makes me sad is that you felt you needed to "explain" yourself. It makes me sad because I see myself doing that sometimes - minimizing things like "it wasn't THAT expensive"...or rationalizing that. Is that a woman thing? Because I can tell you boys LOVE to show off their toys and you never hear them minimizing their achievements.

Maybe you spend 10K on a purse and live in a hovel...maybe you have the money to buy 10 10K purses and live in a palace. Your life is your own and the great thing about earning or having your own money is that it is entirely your own business how you spend it. We're all different. We all have different priorities.

Yes, we judge people. I know I do. It's not right but it's a human flaw. Still, unless someone is spending MY money on something, it is not my business what they do with theirs. And thank goodness some of us have the good breeding not to actually say what that woman said out loud. It's called having a filter between the brains and your mouth.

So good for you for refreshing your beauties. Get them out there, they deserve to be enjoyed for the lovely things that they are. Cheers! (I wish I had a martini smiley, it'd be more appropriate!)

Here's one!

 

[julian.f]

Thanks, Pursecrzy (I missed it)!

to us all - now get out there and wear your H with pride!!!

 

[good life]

I don't know if people out there who make snide rude comments are miserable, unhappy people or just JEALOUS. I even have a good friend who has a lot of H, but says she will never buy a purse because she thinks the price is ridiculous (she owns lots of chanel, LV, and YSL). When I wear my birkins, she'll make a rude comments like I have them because of the attention I get from people... I think she can't get one because her husband would totally get on her case, he already does about her shopping habit.
She sometimes gets catty because she works hard and I'm a stay home mom who has a wonderful DH who spoils me. I just laugh it off or give her the "aren't I the lucky one" smirk when she makes comments, in one ear, out the other. I know what I like and don't care what people say or think.

 

[costa]

I don't know if people out there who make snide rude comments are miserable, unhappy people or just JEALOUS. I even have a good friend who has a lot of H, but says she will never buy a purse because she thinks the price is ridiculous (she owns lots of chanel, LV, and YSL). When I wear my birkins, she'll make a rude comments like I have them because of the attention I get from people... I think she can't get one because her husband would totally get on her case, he already does about her shopping habit.
She sometimes gets catty because she works hard and I'm a stay home mom who has a wonderful DH who spoils me. I just laugh it off or give her the "aren't I the lucky one" smirk when she makes comments, in one ear, out the other. I know what I like and don't care what people say or think.

I love this!!

 

[lovely64]

I don't know if people out there who make snide rude comments are miserable, unhappy people or just JEALOUS. I even have a good friend who has a lot of H, but says she will never buy a purse because she thinks the price is ridiculous (she owns lots of chanel, LV, and YSL). When I wear my birkins, she'll make a rude comments like I have them because of the attention I get from people... I think she can't get one because her husband would totally get on her case, he already does about her shopping habit.
She sometimes gets catty because she works hard and I'm a stay home mom who has a wonderful DH who spoils me. I just laugh it off or give her the "aren't I the lucky one" smirk when she makes comments, in one ear, out the other. I know what I like and don't care what people say or think.

It doesn´t sound as if she´s a very nice friend.

 

[S'Mom]

Oh good grief! I'm not important enough for anyone to care what I wear/carry! One of the nicest things about growing older is that one loses any sense of self-importance - no more worrying about what to wear to parties/out to dinner etc - no one notices or cares unless you're the mother of the bride/groom!

I don't have a Birkin but do have two Kelly's and one Picotin and my Kelly's have only been noticed by three people in my town (in over 3 1/2 years) - my hairdresser (who is a very well-traveled, wealthy married man), the Russian emigre parent of one of my grandson's friends, and the Chinese lady at the laundromat who irons my sheets. She is thrilled to have touched one!

Do I carry it to Target? Of course I do!!! When I'm doing errands, I'm certainly not going to choose my bag based on the priceline of the store I'm visiting. I rarely shop in expensive stores so I'd rarely carry my bags if I limited them to such.

As for 6-star hotels - well, I'm a Red Roof Inn gal myself. Most of the time when I travel and stay in a hotel/motel, it's by car and I have my dog with me and tons of stuff in my car. I like the RRI as their rooms open directly to the parking lot - a LOT easier to walk the dog and load/unload the car.

As a previous poster said - "It's just a bag". Enjoy it or sell it.

LOL!!!!!!! I adore you, INDIA..........

SO true about age......I'm am SO over what anyone could possibly say or think about my choices in all things. I don't have time to worry about what other people think or say....I'm too buys living my life! LOL!!!!!!

 

[chicinthecity777]

I don't know if people out there who make snide rude comments are miserable, unhappy people or just JEALOUS. I even have a good friend who has a lot of H, but says she will never buy a purse because she thinks the price is ridiculous (she owns lots of chanel, LV, and YSL). When I wear my birkins, she'll make a rude comments like I have them because of the attention I get from people... I think she can't get one because her husband would totally get on her case, he already does about her shopping habit.
She sometimes gets catty because she works hard and I'm a stay home mom who has a wonderful DH who spoils me. I just laugh it off or give her the "aren't I the lucky one" smirk when she makes comments, in one ear, out the other. I know what I like and don't care what people say or think.

good life, you are a saint! I couldn't stay friends with people like that. Well done you!

 

[skyqueen]

I've enjoyed reading this thread and reading everyone's posts!
Firstly...way to go, Laney! Perfect comeback for the insensitive slugs of the world!
Secondly, to OP...good luck with your health and enjoy your lovely bag!
My story is a nice one. I have a very dear friend who has a big job with Chanel. Talk about bags, shoes, suits and jewelry...this gal could start her own store. A couple years ago a group of us went out for dinner. I decided to bring my Birkin along. I live in a place that caters to Coach, maybe a few LVs. As soon as I walked in, my dear friend said "let me see your bag". I handed it over and all she did was smell it. The other gals just looked at her, as did I. She finally said "this is the most luxurious bag in the world...I had to smell the leather"! I knew what she meant but the other gals just looked at her in disbelief. It made me feel good to know someone else appreciated a work of art...especially a Chanel gal!
No one else said another word...and then we ordered drinks. LOL!