Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#211
Nicely put lilach:-) I manage to stay quiet and act "gracefully" most of the time (I hope;)). One thing I don´t suffer lightly are fools and stupid, narrow minded people. I simply cannot shut up when I come across nastyness!

hair-mess thanks for the essay;)...love your writing:-)
 
#212
Experiences range greatly here...

Like the OP, I too live in Brooklyn (recently moved from the city). I am considering my first Birkin but feel that I may be too opinionated to always be graceful when I encounter comments, which I'm sure I will at some point! Usually confident in most other areas of life, I must admit that I feel quite hesitant to carry a Birkin, especially in this economy. I'm very easy-going but I do wear very expensive jewelry for every occasion and am wondering if carrying a Birkin is worth the added time trying to intentionally scale back on what I wear in other areas?

As easy going as my attitude is, I still get stares quite often. I feel that a handbag should not generate so much fury, and even though it takes a confident lady to carry a Birkin among circles sure to recognize it as such, isn't a part of this confidence decreased when the bag generates such uncomfortable stares? It seems to be quite a toss-up for me. The cost for most jewelry and clothes can easily be hidden, or left up to the imagination, but such a recognizable bag...is a different story.

However, it is refreshing to hear that some of you have never had negative comments! In any regard, we have to understand when our choices generate negative feelings in others. After all, there are significantly more important things in life than owning such expensive materials, even though we decide what's important to us.
 
#213
ardneish said:
Thankyou lovely and cow princess

I think I am pretty safe here with five great hounds with Huge teeth:greengrin:
and the ability for just one of them to pull a Red stag to the ground
:shocked: My neighbour who is the size of the Russian heavy weight x champion.

A stihl chainsaw behind the front door,and more frightening than any of that
Me in my PJ,S with a gas powered air rifle dam I scare myself:roflmfao::roflmfao::roflmfao:

Do you think thats why I don't get any snide remarks in real life??:graucho::roflmfao:
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Does all that fit into your Birkin? :graucho:
 
#216
KurlyChild said:
Experiences range greatly here...

Like the OP, I too live in Brooklyn (recently moved from the city). I am considering my first Birkin but feel that I may be too opinionated to always be graceful when I encounter comments, which I'm sure I will at some point! Usually confident in most other areas of life, I must admit that I feel quite hesitant to carry a Birkin, especially in this economy. I'm very easy-going but I do wear very expensive jewelry for every occasion and am wondering if carrying a Birkin is worth the added time trying to intentionally scale back on what I wear in other areas?

As easy going as my attitude is, I still get stares quite often. I feel that a handbag should not generate so much fury, and even though it takes a confident lady to carry a Birkin among circles sure to recognize it as such, isn't a part of this confidence decreased when the bag generates such uncomfortable stares? It seems to be quite a toss-up for me. The cost for most jewelry and clothes can easily be hidden, or left up to the imagination, but such a recognizable bag...is a different story.

However, it is refreshing to hear that some of you have never had negative comments! In any regard, we have to understand when our choices generate negative feelings in others. After all, there are significantly more important things in life than owning such expensive materials, even though we decide what's important to us.
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Kurly is that you in the Avator because if it is ,your so pretty and to be honest people would look at you if you had a Birkin or a woolworth carrier bag.:smile1:

Personally I carry my birkin when on the tube or the bus in London and I turn it around so only the back can be seen. I don't think everyone bothers much to look really people are just so busy going about there daily lives
 
#217
hair-mess said:
I do wear my hermès, whenever I feel like it and also when it fits the situation. Guess it’s about the overall look – I try not to look too „high maintenance“ (f. e. delicate designer clothes, perfect nails, perfect hairdo) when just going to a barbecue at friends house, when I know everybody is running around in jeans. Would feel akward and uncomfortable and of course it wouldn’t surprise me to get „looks“.

But when DH and I hit the city for some shopping and good food at nice restaurants I dress up more, of course. So I guess adapting to the surroundings is always a good choice, even if it can’t totally prevent us from jealous feelings or mean remarks.

And last, but definitly not least: For me it is all about manners and general behaviour, rather than looks. You can’t help what people think of you on the street, but sporting good manners and warmth (charme) towards people you meet IRL and virtual, always works - even if they don’t share your taste. :flowers:
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I totally get what you mean, hair-mess, but unfortunately I am just not a jeans-and-top kind of girl. I feel terribly uncomfortable in jeans, or dressed casually. I love dresses and skirts year-round (especially with tall flat boots in the winter, espadrilles or sandals in the summer), and that is my look, whether on a play-date or running errands. In the summer, it's easier for me to dress "casual", but still if I am wearing pants they are usually white, with a nautical look on top.

I agree that it's the manners and personality that makes the difference and I am pretty approachable and warm :smile1:, which (I think!) helps. Fortunately no negative comments, yet.

As far as discussions - and this happened recently speaking with my SIL's friend and her DH - I always stress that the H-items are commodities, which is a really good way to explain it to men. They understand intrinsic value. They understand resale value. They understand supply and demand. When I check eBay and my DH walks in, I show him how much the items go for, and he knows that many of them are not brand new. It certainly changes the tone of the conversation. :graucho:
 
#218
BBC said:
I totally get what you mean, hair-mess, but unfortunately I am just not a jeans-and-top kind of girl. I feel terribly uncomfortable in jeans, or dressed casually. I love dresses and skirts year-round (especially with tall flat boots in the winter, espadrilles or sandals in the summer), and that is my look, whether on a play-date or running errands. In the summer, it's easier for me to dress "casual", but still if I am wearing pants they are usually white, with a nautical look on top.

I agree that it's the manners and personality that makes the difference and I am pretty approachable and warm :smile1:, which (I think!) helps. Fortunately no negative comments, yet.

As far as discussions - and this happened recently speaking with my SIL's friend and her DH - I always stress that the H-items are commodities, which is a really good way to explain it to men. They understand intrinsic value. They understand resale value. They understand supply and demand. When I check eBay and my DH walks in, I show him how much the items go for, and he knows that many of them are not brand new. It certainly changes the tone of the conversation. :graucho:
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Understood. Lucky me, DH has no problem with "the orange" (as we call it) - he was the one, who "made" me go there, getting sick of buying too many "other" bags. Don't care too much about people I don't know (it's my money and style after all), but try to be considerate of people I do. ;)
 
#219
I live in NYC and carry my Birkins everywhere. It makes me uncomfortable when others assume that my H is fake just because I'm Asian. Not sure if I'm paranoid but my husband thinks that there is a stigma since many of the fakes are sold in Chinatown on Canal Street. The funny thing is that my DH often jokes about the costs of my H bags but he gets super sensitive when I comment on his watches. He has a vast collection and most of the pieces are over $25k each. Our family and friends often inquire about the cost of our bags / watches but most of the time we just smile politely and change topics. One of the parents at DS's schoolasked me to donate a bag for a charity auction. I was in shock and almost threw up. The mother made a rude remark about us not caring about the school and said loudly that we had "too much money".
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Though I'm somewhere else now, I lived in Manhattan for 20 years. I've been away for so long that I feel very out of touch, and read many of the NYC-based "chick-lit" novels with a curious sort of fascination. I have seriously wondered if some of these kinds of ridiculous characters I read about are actually based on real life people. With this story, my mouth is kind of agape. This woman sounds like she's right out of a Plum Sykes novel - scary!
 
#220
I'm from NY too and I cannot imagine strangers making rude comments. (Well maybe my mom snorting, or choking if she knew the price) but not strangers. I do have another story - somewhat ot - apologies - but I wanted to share - maybe 15 years ago, a friend from law school was getting married in Philadephia in the summer. They had checked the reception venue the autumn before and it was lovely with adequate parking nearby. What they didn;t realize was that in the summer it was adjacent to a very popular public swimming pool/ recreational center convenient to public housing. I was wearing a backless dolce and gabbana dress with hand painted bamboo fronds (okay possibly inappropriate, but I was wearing a shawl to cover the back) and my DH was like, let me drop you off in front - and I was like, don;t be silly - I can just walk. . . So we were almost there when a large and aggressive woman with a bunch of guys around her started pointing to me and yelling pretty loudly, Hey, you, hey. . . So I turned, and she said in a loud gruff voice, I like your dress.

I think if they don;t know, they will just assume its fake (there are a lot of both real and fake H in NY)
 
#223
I am so pleased because whilst it may have been a scarey experience, it was also really nice that she wanted to coment

Thankyou I just thought it might jazz my new boots a bit there not H boots
 
#224
ardneish said:
Kurly is that you in the Avator because if it is ,your so pretty and to be honest people would look at you if you had a Birkin or a woolworth carrier bag.:smile1:

Personally I carry my birkin when on the tube or the bus in London and I turn it around so only the back can be seen. I don't think everyone bothers much to look really people are just so busy going about there daily lives
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Ardneish, you're so very sweet!

Hopefully I will get much of the same reaction you've had in London, here in NY!
 
#225
880 said:
I'm from NY too and I cannot imagine strangers making rude comments. (Well maybe my mom snorting, or choking if she knew the price) but not strangers. I do have another story - somewhat ot - apologies - but I wanted to share - maybe 15 years ago, a friend from law school was getting married in Philadephia in the summer. They had checked the reception venue the autumn before and it was lovely with adequate parking nearby. What they didn;t realize was that in the summer it was adjacent to a very popular public swimming pool/ recreational center convenient to public housing. I was wearing a backless dolce and gabbana dress with hand painted bamboo fronds (okay possibly inappropriate, but I was wearing a shawl to cover the back) and my DH was like, let me drop you off in front - and I was like, don;t be silly - I can just walk. . . So we were almost there when a large and aggressive woman with a bunch of guys around her started pointing to me and yelling pretty loudly, Hey, you, hey. . . So I turned, and she said in a loud gruff voice, I like your dress.

I think if they don;t know, they will just assume its fake (there are a lot of both real and fake H in NY)
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880, I do agree that here in NY, most people are more likely to assume they're fake, which doesn't bother me a bit since I guess I've grown quite accustomed to that perception.

And that experience, that must have been scary! I'm still wondering if she was trying to poke fun or if she really liked your dress; the words "large and aggressive" may play a part in my believing that she wouldn't be commenting on a pretty dress! Hope you're not offended, because I'm sure your dress was absolutely gorgeous but we can never get accustomed to being yelled at like that about our appearance. I hope nothing similar to that has happened to you since!
 
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