Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#205
what is most vile that i have seen/heard till date - there are these ladies who know the price tags of my hermes bags, get the cheap pleasure of quoting me & my bags in their conversations with their partners/friends etc, at my expense of making me appear like i am soo ridiculous to carry such expensive bags/extreme materialistic etc....

one example of a conversation between one & her DH - 'her 1 birkin can buy me (insert quantity) of my (insert brand) bags, you shld count yourself lucky that i am not asking you to buy me a birkin, just this XXXX bag'....
 
#206
never had any real problems and even if i would i would just ignore them nowadays. i am old enough to know it is not a good idea to throw my good time into a conversation that most likely won´t have any outcome.
people makeing blatant statements about various topics never want to engage into a real informed conversation (otherwise they could easily research on the internet) they just want to stir things up.
since i am not existing to amuse or entertain them there never was is or will be any reaction .
it is the best way to handle such things in my opinion anything other just gives them what they want/need.
 
#207
lovely64 said:
Like I said earlier, I have not had any negative remarks (yet) and should I get any I can only hope that i will handle the situation gracefully.

I work full-time and study part-time, and if I want to endulge in a "little" luxury I will do so. Hopefully I am carrying myself in a non-offencive way, making people want to say nice things about my appearance and my personality rather than nasty things.
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ITA! - plus I must add, that I truly admire your ability to say in two sentences, what I need a page for. Nevertheless I'll post my little essay. :D

First of I want to say to Sambina, that I feel sorry you had this experience. Don’t know what I’d do, but since I’m not afraid to argue, I wouldn’t immediatly dump a friend, but try to share my side of view. If they keep making remarks or behave mean, then they’d go on my „the lame ones drop out“-list. But of course you did nothing wrong and your friend acted very rude.

So far I haven’t received any mean remarks. I’ve gotten lots of looks (some astonished, some jealous and also very few smiling ones) Sometimes the looks amuse me and DH (who used to keep count) and sometimes I don’t care about them at all, depending on my mood.

My family partly knows about my little orange habit, but aside from my dad and his wife, they don’t have a clue about prices and I prefer it to stay that way.

Same with my (few) friends – all of them know, that I’m really into handbags, but only few know about costs. And also here I don’t need them to know. The ones, that do know I shared my „arguments“ with and as far as I’m aware, they’re fine. All of them know they can depend on me, so I can only hope they don’t care what I like to spend my hard earned money on.

I do wear my hermès, whenever I feel like it and also when it fits the situation. Guess it’s about the overall look – I try not to look too „high maintenance“ (f. e. delicate designer clothes, perfect nails, perfect hairdo) when just going to a barbecue at friends house, when I know everybody is running around in jeans. Would feel akward and uncomfortable and of course it wouldn’t surprise me to get „looks“.

But when DH and I hit the city for some shopping and good food at nice restaurants I dress up more, of course. So I guess adapting to the surroundings is always a good choice, even if it can’t totally prevent us from jealous feelings or mean remarks.

And last, but definitly not least: For me it is all about manners and general behaviour, rather than looks. You can’t help what people think of you on the street, but sporting good manners and warmth (charme) towards people you meet IRL and virtual, always works - even if they don’t share your taste. :flowers:
 
#208
I used to know this lady whom I've got know from another dear friend of mine. At first we are interacting well enough up to something happened and I decided it is not worth it to have someone like her to call as a friend or even acquintance. She has an opportunity to travel often due to her husband work. While always boasting about their first or business class style travelling, she is telling us that if at their own account, they wont be able to do that, in which means the boasting is all paid by the sponsored company. I thought, if someone would like to boast on something. Dont bring another sentence to bring down your inital boasting materials. I can only laugh it off.

It comes even worst when it is a shopping topic. While she has no financial independent as everything that is expensive enough must gone through her controlling husband, she always hunting for sale and waiting as well for her next overseas trip for purchasing next H or other branded items at best possible price. She will have this long non-stop list of what she wanted and keep bragging about it non-stop with a tone like Im getting a better deal than all of you. Once she told us how she kept asking her husband for her first birkin for two years and her husband stated she is pretty much annoyingly begging for it. And he glad he has got it for her and its worth it. She is even once said if she is pregnant, her husband will get her another H bag that she wanted. How sickening is that? And guess what? She is pregnant and her husband did buy the next H bag that she wanted and as well the wallet.

My other friend and myself who have been purchasing our H and other branded items anytime we like when we see it, try it and loving it, with or without any bargain, will oftenly be commented by her as how much $ we wasted in comparison to her way of spending her $ by making sure what to catch on from her next travelling trips. We have never met any person with such narrow thinking. Has she ever think that, we have the power of spending better than her? With and without our husband, we are able to splurge ourself. She should look at herself before saying anymore to any of us really.

She still continues with her remarks on H to us even I myself has distanced far. From sarcastic remarks of comparing us to her lifestyle as she is trying so hard to make herself worthy with all her bargain H goodies to copying whatever H items we bought and she has it on the next list while from previous conversation she stated it doesnt suit her to making sure that we know which travelling destination she is going to for her next bargain. It is not we are jealous of her or anything. It is just such an annoying person, hypocrate in a way and not healthy. It is a big mistake to know her at the first place. I and my dear friend need to move on!!
 
#209
Madam Bijoux said:
I haven't had nasty comments about any of my bags (just dirty looks whenever I carry LV - who knows why?) but I have had nasty comments about my jewelry over the years. I have used these comebacks to nip that sort of behavior in the bud:

"You've obviously mistaken me for someone who cares what you think."

"To each his own."

"Then it's fortunate that I have it and you don't."
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:laugh::woohoo: I'm known to sport a little bit of attitude sometimes, but I can only wish I had yours (well, see signature... ;))
 
#210
lilach said:
never had any real problems and even if i would i would just ignore them nowadays. i am old enough to know it is not a good idea to throw my good time into a conversation that most likely won´t have any outcome.
people makeing blatant statements about various topics never want to engage into a real informed conversation (otherwise they could easily research on the internet) they just want to stir things up.
since i am not existing to amuse or entertain them there never was is or will be any reaction .
it is the best way to handle such things in my opinion anything other just gives them what they want/need.
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Your so elegant Lilach
 
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