How do you afford your bags and how many per year? Credit debt or millionare lover?

TPF may earn a commission from merchant affiliate
links, including eBay, Amazon, and others

#1,621
starshar said:
You cant help it because its not your own money. You dont feel the pain and satisfaction that come with the purchase. I feel sad for your parents that result in your upbringing, even if they are loaded.
Click to expand...

This .... Wow I cannot even fathom my kids doing that - they know that our money is my money we have the whole "we have money, you all are broke and earn the privilege to live here" attitude for this same reason, I would never want them to feel it is ever ok to take anything that doesn't belong to them.

My 13 yr old bought some music on iTunes without permission after receiving a warning about it and he lost his iPhone and had extra chores for a month.
 
#1,622
ujili said:
Awww its ok...im still 17 so i am not working yet but i will work after i finish college. My parents just laugh when they find out because they think it's hilarious. My mom was the one that got me into designer bags the first place when she bought me my first LV bag when i was 13 and everyone in my family uses designer goods so i guess its fine.
Click to expand...

Um no, it's not fine, if it was fine they would say, hey take the card. My 4 yr old has designer bags, one LV pochette and some juicy and coach bags and if she ever said she thinks its ok to steal from me because I got her into expensive stuff - she would have a one way ticket to boarding school. Your parents won't be laughing when they are bailing you out at 42 because you never got it together.
 
#1,624
Hi all

I'm 33, mom to 3 kiddos (1,4 and 13). I was born and raised in Mexico and went to school in the states and then went into the military.

Fast forward a few years and I have graduated with a BS in paralegal studies and have done some MBA and law school, but I had to detour when I got pregnant. I work as a project manager for a fantastic company and my DH has a very good job and attends school for his MBA at an Ivy League school so I am on a ban now. However when I do buy I normally buy pre loved and sell my stuff to fund new things... For example I find a bag for $120 and sell it for $450 and that would go into my bag fund. So normally that is how I fund my bags except for my first LV which DH bought for me at the LV boutique for my bday.
 
#1,625
26 yrs old. Graduated university. Got a stable job at a private company. Waited for several more years. Work hard. Earn money. Spend at the end of the year as a gift for myself for working hard for 12 months :) . Its that simple.
 
#1,626
My mom fueled my bag addiction while I was in school. I now am working my first job which allows me to purchase nice things so I do the buying now (besides my bv Christmas present hehe) .. and am getting my mom nice presents to show my appreciation!
 
#1,627
ujili said:
Awww its ok...im still 17 so i am not working yet but i will work after i finish college. My parents just laugh when they find out because they think it's hilarious. My mom was the one that got me into designer bags the first place when she bought me my first LV bag when i was 13 and everyone in my family uses designer goods so i guess its fine.
Click to expand...

Well, if this is the reaction that you are getting from your parents, then your spending is getting reinforced, so no wonder you buy what you like.

I don't want to deviate from the topic or make anyone feel bad, but can we all just abandon this as a discussion point and get back to the question at hand? If ujili's parents were that concerned, I can't imagine that they wouldn't have taken some action by now to rectify the situation. Everyone's circumstances are different, and frankly people are getting a little judge-y.

As for me, I tend to splurge on a bag for myself, then feel like I need to get rid of one to make up for it - but I'm breaking out of that cycle this year! :) (well, 2013, but you know)
 
#1,628
unfurling said:
Well, if this is the reaction that you are getting from your parents, then your spending is getting reinforced, so no wonder you buy what you like.

I don't want to deviate from the topic or make anyone feel bad, but can we all just abandon this as a discussion point and get back to the question at hand? If ujili's parents were that concerned, I can't imagine that they wouldn't have taken some action by now to rectify the situation. Everyone's circumstances are different, and frankly people are getting a little judge-y.

As for me, I tend to splurge on a bag for myself, then feel like I need to get rid of one to make up for it - but I'm breaking out of that cycle this year! :) (well, 2013, but you know)
Click to expand...

Yeah, I totally agree! And you should try and make ur bag collection stable!:smile1:
 
#1,629
gottaluvmybags said:
Um no, it's not fine, if it was fine they would say, hey take the card. My 4 yr old has designer bags, one LV pochette and some juicy and coach bags and if she ever said she thinks its ok to steal from me because I got her into expensive stuff - she would have a one way ticket to boarding school. Your parents won't be laughing when they are bailing you out at 42 because you never got it together.
Click to expand...

Uhh..who said I was stealing? My parents gave me the card and trust me, they lecture me about the value of money and its not like i buy a bag every month or something. 1 or 2 bags a year. And trust me, they won't be bailing me out when im 42. What you do with your kids is your problem but don't try to enforce on others because i am 17 and not a 4 year old and frankly, my parents are ok with it so yeah.
 
#1,630
ujili said:
Uhh..who said I was stealing? My parents gave me the card and trust me, they lecture me about the value of money and its not like i buy a bag every month or something. 1 or 2 bags a year. And trust me, they won't be bailing me out when im 42. What you do with your kids is your problem but don't try to enforce on others because i am 17 and not a 4 year old and frankly, my parents are ok with it so yeah.
Click to expand...

You did...
ujili said:
Well technically I use my parent's money but they don't know i use it because I just swipe the credit card and they only find out when i am using it but they don't really say much except stop buying more bags because I have too many bags according to alot of people but I can't help it...IT'S ADDICTING~!
Click to expand...

Whatever, if you don't want people's opinion don't post about "swiping" aka stealing from someone to buy your stuff - I don't want to hijack this otherwise fun thread.
 
#1,631
gottaluvmybags said:
This .... Wow I cannot even fathom my kids doing that - they know that our money is my money we have the whole "we have money, you all are broke and earn the privilege to live here" attitude for this same reason, I would never want them to feel it is ever ok to take anything that doesn't belong to them.

My 13 yr old bought some music on iTunes without permission after receiving a warning about it and he lost his iPhone and had extra chores for a month.
Click to expand...

I'm impressed with your parenting skills! Im a 15 year old and I work and save for my designer goods. It's more rewarding than getting things given to kids for nothing. I adore designer purses and I'm not expecting my parents to buy them
for me.

-And tbh, I am quite spoiled princess but not a brat-
 
#1,632
gottaluvmybags said:
You did...

Whatever, if you don't want people's opinion don't post about "swiping" aka stealing from someone to buy your stuff - I don't want to hijack this otherwise fun thread.
Click to expand...

Perhaps ujili meant "swiping" as physically running the card thru the cc machine and nothing more? Just offering an alternative explanation, not taking sides here.
 
#1,633
MauiWowie said:
I'm impressed with your parenting skills! Im a 15 year old and I work and save for my designer goods. It's more rewarding than getting things given to kids for nothing. I adore designer purses and I'm not expecting my parents to buy them
for me.

-And tbh, I am quite spoiled princess but not a brat-
Click to expand...

You are so sweet :). I think there is a HUGE difference between being spoiled and being brats. My kids are great kids and they earn great things by doing what they are supposed to do - chores and being good at school and taking care of their siblings (meaning be kind and loving not babysitting), but when they are bad we deal with it immediately to discourage the behavior.

Keep up the good work, you sound like an outstanding young lady - your parents must be proud of you.
 
#1,635
Hi everyone,

It's my first post here! :smile1: This is such a fun thread. I've enjoyed reading everyone's response.

25 yrs old, doing my PhD (only 1.5 yrs to go if things go according to plan). I receive stipend for living expenses from teaching undergrad classes so I can use it to buy whatever I want after paying my bills. DH has an ok job and he does buy me bags or whatever I want for special occasions. We have a budget for my presents and I pick out something I want. The rest of things I want are paid for by my own money. I don't spend much on other things (have no car, I take the bus, don't eat out or drink much, insurance is paid for by the school).

I've always loved to shop (makeup, clothes, shoes, bags ...) so it's a struggle for me to resist temptations (esp when there is a sale. I never buy anything full price) but I have no CC debts and would like to keep it that way. My stuff is all mid-end, nothing super extravagant but still more than an average person would spend. I don't see myself buying super high-end stuff even when I have a real job, unless we are millionaires lol We have so many other things to spend money on and I would like to travel more than to buy a single bag. But we'll see :cool:
 
Last edited:
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top