Family and Friends give you grief over your Handbag addiction?
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I use and wear my stuff but don’t discuss in front of friends or family. some bags end up permanent residents of either my mom, mil, or other family members closets though 
does this mean they borrow your stuff?I use and wear my stuff but don’t discuss in front of friends or family. some bags end up permanent residents of either my mom, mil, or other family members closets though
@label.hoe either they borrow and end up keeping, or I end up gifting. . . at least it prevents landfill 
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my mm tends to be hard on her bags. So, sometimes it’s for the best!
. my mm tends to be hard on her bags. So, sometimes it’s for the best!
I fully agree with this. When I started to buy luxury goods, I was too afraid people will judge me. The first time I took my Chanel bag out I was so terrified but I was totally disappointed because no one noticed. Then I learned to say "Thank you" to whatever comments they make. If any of the people I know are being nasty, rude, jealous, you-name-it, then I don't want to know them. Being afraid to be judged IMO classify as "bad feeling" so I got rid of it. Now I wear my expensive purses as they are $20 bags and I enjoy them. You should do the same - to enjoy having them and wearing them
I haven’t really dealt with any rude comments yet but for work there’s only certain times I would bring or carry.
Some of the junior sailors made comments but they are nice kids and I make more than they do with sea pay and being higher ranking. Most of the young female junior sailors just tell me I’m the most boujee female first class they know. I just laugh and say probably.
I bought my bags to wear/carry but I do think sometimes there’s a time or place for it.
Some of the junior sailors made comments but they are nice kids and I make more than they do with sea pay and being higher ranking. Most of the young female junior sailors just tell me I’m the most boujee female first class they know. I just laugh and say probably.
I bought my bags to wear/carry but I do think sometimes there’s a time or place for it.
As for family, I would try to “hide” stuff from one of my younger sisters. I love her more than anything but she’s a known thief and drug addict. I just don’t trust her around a lot of my things. I went as far as hiding/lying about medication because I was in pain and didn’t want it to go missing.
This is very educational. I do hide my bags. I slip every once in a while when going out with friends and forget to change out of my LV or YSL into a Longchamp or Coach. I get them staring at me. YOU can afford THAT? But you know what? Screw them. Even if I tell them I collect bags or I just love bags, they look at me sideways. They don't get it. I can't expect someone who collets Mickey Mouse crap to understand why spending 2K on a bag is normal for me. So you know what? I'm just going to use whatever bag I feel like. Thanks all! 
This is very educational. I do hide my bags. I slip every once in a while when going out with friends and forget to change out of my LV or YSL into a Longchamp or Coach. I get them staring at me. YOU can afford THAT? But you know what? Screw them. Even if I tell them I collect bags or I just love bags, they look at me sideways. They don't get it. I can't expect someone who collets Mickey Mouse crap to understand why spending 2K on a bag is normal for me. So you know what? I'm just going to use whatever bag I feel like. Thanks all!
I love this comment!! Well said! Lol at Mickey Mouse.
Interesting thread. My stuff is pretty under the radar, in shopping areas I will get the occasional compliment like, love your BV, that usually starts a conversation gushing about mutual bag love, I have a small scarf collection that has launched more than a few scarf love conversations. As far as the family goes no one really knows or cares what they are, they do compliment my bags and almost always pet them, I’m good with that I pet them too. The last place I worked many people had at least one really great bag. I feel if it’s something you love use it, if someone questions the price “I don’t remember” is my standard answer.
I get not wearing them at work or to volunteer, but other than that, wear your bags! You work hard. You are thrifty and buy pre-loved. Your family should know you well enough to not judge. Everyone who has two cents to rub together has things they like to spend on. Do any family members have new phones? Those can easily cost over $1000. Any into video games? Show me a new system the doesn’t cost $300-500 and uses games that cost less than $50 each. Who has an SUV with crap gas mileage that can seat 7 and it’s only 2-4 people in it? Or spend $40k on a new car? Would any of them get judged? No? Then it’s their problem, not yours so don’t make it yours.
if they say anything, don’t argue. Just smile and nod. If you don’t respond, they’ll stop.
if they say anything, don’t argue. Just smile and nod. If you don’t respond, they’ll stop.
I'm personally not a logo person. I used to wear stuff unapologetically and enjoyed my items. In the last 2-3 years I've preferred low profile designer items. I personally don't want my friends to know that my wallet was nearly $200. I will say me being a bag person made for an interesting chat when a friend flew in strutting a fake Vuitton on her arm. "How do you know it's fake?" Bright red glazing, plastic around the supposed leather.... I'll say like others did I'd rather show off my real stuff than be someone running around with a fake.
Hello all!! I am in my 20s and just started collecting preloved bags - so far Chanel, Hermes, Fendi, Chloe, Loewe and LV. I don’t really feel comfortable wearing clear branding around my friends and family, and especially friends from work who would be judgmental. I know they would strike up a conversation about my bag when I’m just trying to go about my day. People will even comment on my Longchamp bags. Everyone I know is very frugal, carry fakes or can’t afford designer. I don’t even talk about designer, and when they bring up designer bags I just try to act dumb lol.Does anyone else keep their collection “private”? I’m satisfied with using my bags when going out with my DH, but I would love to get more use out of them without fear of affecting my close relationships or coming off as a spoiled overspender.
Take a piece of advice from someone who is a "bit" older than you.
Use your bags.
That's why you bought them...to love and to use.
I really don't think you would come off as a "spoiled overspender" by using the bags you have and then, at least, you'll get the enjoyment you sought when you purchased them.
It would a darned shame to just let them sit and go unused.
Life is too short to let "judgmental people" spoil your pleasure.
If someone makes a comment, take it as a compliment to your good taste in bags.
Agreeing with all of the above! I have not talked about my bag collection with family or friends and they don't bring it up either. Pre-COVID, luxury brands didn't go to work, happy hour, or work dinners with me either. I'd take mid-tier brands instead so clients and co-workers wouldn't make assumptions that could affect the business at hand.
Today, my vintage Chanel (I purchased a few years ago) came up in the convo for the first time. Let's say I regret saying anything. She raised her a voice a bit and said she couldn't fathom spending any more than USD 50-75 on a bag. My parents were solidly working-class all my life, so I brought those values with me into adulthood, but maybe I won't mention any luxury bags again.
Around friends and running errands, I use my bags! Luxury bags should be enjoyed and if people feel sideways about them, then that's on them and not you.
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That someone judges you simply for a bag you are carrying says more about hem than it does you. She may not spend more than $75 for a bag, but I am sure there is some non-essential item/s she overspends on. For example, I would never spend more than $5-8 for eyeshadow or lipstick, but even women who have no money blow $40-50 on a “limited edition collab palette” or $30-40 for a Kylie “lip kit.” Or get regular mani/pedis at $50-60. What’s it to me? I will buy drugstore makeup, do my own nails and then can afford a pre-loved LV.Agreeing with all of the above! I have not talked about my bag collection with family or friends and they don't bring it up either. Pre-COVID, luxury brands didn't go to work, happy hour, or work dinners with me either. I'd take mid-tier brands instead so clients and co-workers wouldn't make assumptions that could affect the business at hand.
Today, my vintage Chanel (I purchased a few years ago) came up in the convo for the first time. Let's say I regret saying anything. She raised her a voice a bit and said she couldn't fathom spending any more than USD 50-75 on a bag. My parents were solidly working-class all my life, so I brought those values with me into adulthood, but maybe I won't mention any luxury bags again.
Around friends and running errands, I use my bags! They're there to enjoy and if people feel sideways about them, then that's on them and not you.