Family and Friends give you grief over your Handbag addiction?
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I think I’ve worked long and hard enough in my life to reward myself with my collection of luxury bags, however…I don’t like bringing attention to myself when I wear them among some family and friends. Even my husband freaked out and couldn’t believe I spent $300 while we were on vacation for a little LV key pouch. If he only knew. He doesn’t notice the bags I wear, so I do wear them around him. If we are out with friends, I usually won’t wear them because the other spouses will notice and say something. I say, my money, my choice, but keeping it on the down low.
As you say it’s your money which you’ve worked hard for.
It’s nobody’s business what you spend on bags.
My family don’t Know but I think they have an idea-I bought my first Chanel bag aged 19!
But I doubt they’ll recognise my real crocodile navy Birkin due next week, paid for by me…..xxxx
I have been surprised…my family has generally been ok with my bag collection. I definitely do not come from money, but the only obewho judges me is my sister. And she has a closet full (and I mean full- like 30+) of Dooneys. I have come to believe it is honestly because she is competitive and jealous. The rest if my family either laughs and rolls their eyes (sees it as a quirk) at worst to thinks it’s pretty cool. I didn’t start collecting until age 48 and do not wear lots of labels otherwise, so I think that makes a difference. They know I buy what/when I can and I buy secondhand, so I am sensible about it. If i was going into debt to do it, I would get grief, as I would if I went into debt for anything that was not necessary.
Have the same problem with my sister-who carries a rucksack although she’s a housewife with a rich husband
All I can say is that she’s a great mum, my niece is adorable
But my sister is poison
She told me not to buy her family Xmas presents so that she wouldn’t have to get me one!
Knowing that my mum is so ill that my dad won’t think about presents
Last Xmas I had covid and had lost my voice, this year I think it’ll just be me and the cats.posting on every thread lol!
Please don’t throw me off!
My sister will invite my parents around m if my mum is still going, but not me-I’ve given up caring..
I’ve bought her several rucksacks for her next birthday but doubt she’ll get me anything I’d like, just something to gift…
Yes, most definitely. I don't want to hear it. It's not like they're paying for it.
Nope, not at all. Tbh, only my mother is not fond of me wearing luxury in public because she thinks it's a way to show off or flash money. (And I do not wear things plastered with logos)
She is very conservative and traditional. But she's also a little different in the sense that she thinks someone is going to cut off my hand to steal my Cartier love bracelet....maybe in a different country/place but not where I live, haha.
It's funny because rest of my extended family is far wealthier than I, a little older, and wear luxury as well. They actually do not really care about who wears what
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My friends also don't care. Half of them, again are far wealthier than I, and the other half just know that's my thing and aren't bothered by it in any way (probably because they're not interested in luxury lol)
She is very conservative and traditional. But she's also a little different in the sense that she thinks someone is going to cut off my hand to steal my Cartier love bracelet....maybe in a different country/place but not where I live, haha.
It's funny because rest of my extended family is far wealthier than I, a little older, and wear luxury as well. They actually do not really care about who wears what
.My friends also don't care. Half of them, again are far wealthier than I, and the other half just know that's my thing and aren't bothered by it in any way (probably because they're not interested in luxury lol)
My family know I collect bags, have no idea how much I spend, but think I have over 50 bags…I don’t!
But I love exotics so I could easily have done…
But I love exotics so I could easily have done…
Friends and family know I have luxury purses but they don’t see it all at the same time. If they see my purse they see it. Less than a handful have been to the space I keep my collection. Most can wonder but will never know. The purses are for me to use and enjoy not for them to…
In my situation , it depends on which group of friends or family.
Family:
My mom and sometimes sisters do share about what we love or concerns about certain bags.. from time to time, i do share with them to let them give it a go if they would love a certain model or brand. My sister sometimes thinks i buy too much, but to be fair, she keeps her bag-drobe to a minimal and if there are any "digs" at me , its comes from myself.
We are pretty open and talk about everything .
My In-laws are however, on a very different basis. The MIL will ask how much my things are, while the first SIL constantly side eyes my items while nudging her husband. I don't really like to wear my more expensive clothes or bags due to the shade I am sometimes thrown. The second SIL, however, has the exact same taste and love for things and totally gets me so she does appreciate them and we share tips but have to keep it to a minimal as the first SIL tends to get jealous when we get along. As for the youngest yet to be SIL, its been a downward spiral as she is constantly asking what brand , how much etc about all my things ( even my wedding band , dress etc) .
Friend:
I have gfs who like similar things and ask me if they should get something etc. We do show appreciation for each others collection from time to time so I dont hide it from them since we do enjoy it.
I do however, have a gf who say I like brands and make it sound like I only purchase things with brands, which honestly isn't the case. I have fast fashion items too.. She does it with negative connotation and also buys luxury ( mostly whats in trend or popular and doesn't consider her own preferences) through demands to her husband, and would ask my opinion about an item only not to bother..
I'd say it depends the group of friends or family... some get it but some don't.
Family:
My mom and sometimes sisters do share about what we love or concerns about certain bags.. from time to time, i do share with them to let them give it a go if they would love a certain model or brand. My sister sometimes thinks i buy too much, but to be fair, she keeps her bag-drobe to a minimal and if there are any "digs" at me , its comes from myself.
We are pretty open and talk about everything .My In-laws are however, on a very different basis. The MIL will ask how much my things are, while the first SIL constantly side eyes my items while nudging her husband. I don't really like to wear my more expensive clothes or bags due to the shade I am sometimes thrown. The second SIL, however, has the exact same taste and love for things and totally gets me so she does appreciate them and we share tips but have to keep it to a minimal as the first SIL tends to get jealous when we get along. As for the youngest yet to be SIL, its been a downward spiral as she is constantly asking what brand , how much etc about all my things ( even my wedding band , dress etc) .
Friend:
I have gfs who like similar things and ask me if they should get something etc. We do show appreciation for each others collection from time to time so I dont hide it from them since we do enjoy it.
I do however, have a gf who say I like brands and make it sound like I only purchase things with brands, which honestly isn't the case. I have fast fashion items too.. She does it with negative connotation and also buys luxury ( mostly whats in trend or popular and doesn't consider her own preferences) through demands to her husband, and would ask my opinion about an item only not to bother..
I'd say it depends the group of friends or family... some get it but some don't.
If my mum knew how much some of my pieces were (and it's a really small, "entry level" collection), she would have a fit.
She's obsessed with saving money and getting bargains. I'm not huge on travel and I don't go out, so I buy luxury stuff instead.
She doesn't seem to get it. I always make up a low price when she asks.
She's obsessed with saving money and getting bargains. I'm not huge on travel and I don't go out, so I buy luxury stuff instead.
She doesn't seem to get it. I always make up a low price when she asks.
in some way yes. i don't carry my Chanel flap when there's a big family gathering. (actually i carry my Hermes which are the more "low-key" ones. Either you know or you don't on that brand/model).
At office, the logo of my bag faces the wall of my work desk.
At office, the logo of my bag faces the wall of my work desk.
Gosh, this topic hit home. I faced some criticism from my partner about my bag purchases. That hurt. Quite frankly in all honesty I deserve them because I am a gem of a girlfriend lol. I like to think that I am not without a shred of sensibility in that I have sold quite a bit that I knew wasn't really fitting my style, and if they are sitting in the closet and not worn, it would be a waste of money. Some I have acquired because I always wanted them. I have contemporary bags for the times when it wouldn't be appropriate to sport a luxury bag.
People will judge. I would be careful of the work environment. You are not your real self at work. Your image is professional and you are displaying this professional self to fit into your work environment. I learned a lesson during my younger years. Wore a Diane Gilman silk outfit I proudly saved up my pennies to purchase. Worked at a conservative investment bank at the time. Some woman, who I wasn't on a speaking terms, came up behind me and flipped my collar behind my neck, to read the label on my shirt. My only regret is I didn't send her to heck, I was too shy. Not to mention flabbergasted. But, hindsight being 20/20, I should have toned things down a bit. (Only at work).
I am 48 now. Old, and honestly "ornery". So if a person comments on my bag, or look, or anything else, my Virgo sarcasm gets the better of me. I only converse about bags with other people who are fans like me.
My personal favorite moment, a woman at the grocery store gave me the old "look up and down", then crossed her hands like "who do YOU think you are?" Going to hell here, but I just busted out laughing.
Have you ever! Imagine causing outrage with your purchase! I Love the old 48 and b*tchy me lol. Tons more fun!
Friends and family...heck with it....off with their heads.
People will judge. I would be careful of the work environment. You are not your real self at work. Your image is professional and you are displaying this professional self to fit into your work environment. I learned a lesson during my younger years. Wore a Diane Gilman silk outfit I proudly saved up my pennies to purchase. Worked at a conservative investment bank at the time. Some woman, who I wasn't on a speaking terms, came up behind me and flipped my collar behind my neck, to read the label on my shirt. My only regret is I didn't send her to heck, I was too shy. Not to mention flabbergasted. But, hindsight being 20/20, I should have toned things down a bit. (Only at work).
I am 48 now. Old, and honestly "ornery". So if a person comments on my bag, or look, or anything else, my Virgo sarcasm gets the better of me. I only converse about bags with other people who are fans like me.
My personal favorite moment, a woman at the grocery store gave me the old "look up and down", then crossed her hands like "who do YOU think you are?" Going to hell here, but I just busted out laughing.
Have you ever! Imagine causing outrage with your purchase! I Love the old 48 and b*tchy me lol. Tons more fun!
Friends and family...heck with it....off with their heads.
I personally don't keep anything hidden. I wear what I want when I want, which is probably why I could never work for someone. I can't be bothered to keep up appearances and if I feel like wearing a bright yellow bag with a cobalt blue coat well that's just what I'll do.
People know that designer is my thing and they usually just joke about it and even if they make negative comments that's simply on them.
People know that designer is my thing and they usually just joke about it and even if they make negative comments that's simply on them.