I have a buyer who contacted me, saying that her item arrived damaged. She was willing to keep it and attempt to fix it if I gave her a partial refund. I offered an amount that she accepted. All of this is through messages. She didn't open a return request. It appears that there is no way to issue the partial through ebay since she didn't open a return request. Is this true? If I issue the partial through paypal, it seems I won't get back any of my FVF fees unless I call ebay. I'm worried that after I give the refund, she will decide she can't fix it and open the return request anyway. I realize that if she had opened a return request, and I had offered the partial through that, then if she accepted it, she would have no more recourse. It seems a bit odd to request that my buyer open the case now so we can issue the refund formally, but should I do that?
ETA: also, will I get a defect if she opens a return request not as described?
ETA2: I ended up calling ebay. They told me to tell her to open the return request. I won't get a defect as long as it doesn't get escalated. Once she accepts the refund, the case is closed so she can't open another one. She can still open a paypal case. This way I'll get a refund of FVF fees.